Banned in my therapy practice is the word ‘should’. So often I have conversations with people about what they think their sex lives ‘should’ look like, how often they ‘should’ be having sex, and the type of sex that they ‘should’ be having. But this isn’t unexpected when we think about the representations of sex…
Do you feel stagnant with your sexuality? Or unable to relate to the unrealistic representations of masturbation in pornography? I think it’s time you reconnected with your female energy. Pleasure can be meditative , and Freya Haley takes us on a journey of self-discovery and love. ACTIVATE Put your hands on your lower belly (otherwise…
Like everyone else these days, she sets aside special alone time for porn. Quality time spent buck naked, fueled with a snifter of cognac, dimmed lights and throbbing music to keep time with the rhythm of her slender fingers, tapping on the trackpad, navigating from image to image, or scrolling through a particularly long and…
Ok, let’s be honest, we all LOVE a good orgasm – it’s reducing stress, relieving pain, boosting confidence and even beating insomnia! Now, the equation is simple – the more orgasms you have, more relaxed and healthier you’ll be. That’s why you should consider trying to achieve more than one wave of pure joy and…
July is the best month of the year – it’s filled with sun, sea, cocktails, flings and romantic travels. But the best thing about this summer month is definitely its end, to be precise, 31st of July when we’re celebrating National Orgasm Day and with it female ability to enjoy climax many times over during…
Blowjobs and cunnilingus can get a little boring for the person performing it. That’s the ugly truth that not many of us would admit. After a long session, your mind can wander and your jaw can begin to ache, and no matter how much you love doing it, sometimes it can feel a chore. So…
Masturbation: already pretty good. So goes the bumper sticker that should definitely be available in truck stops worldwide. Why? Because it’s absolutely true. Jerking off is a reminder that someone up there likes us, because it’s the most fun you can have while still remaining on the right side of the law. But what if…
Fifty shades of hip hip hooray! It’s BDSM Day. And what exactly does BDSM actually stand for? Well, there are a few different variations, but here are the basics . B&D: bondage & discipline D/S: dominance/submission (and “switches” who engage in both roles) S&M: sadism & masochism A sadist is someone who receives pleasure by…
Personally, we think hand jobs are totally underrated and it seems like the Japanese agree with us. Today, we’re breaking down that stigma and elevating our pleasure game with a simple guideline that will get you through Hand Job Day with flying covers. I mean… colors. The word “onanii” means masturbation in Japanese, which is…
KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK! I turn on the doorbell camera and see it’s Katie. I run to the front door and open it to let her in. “Hey girlie, what are you doing here?” I ask both excited and confused to see her. “I know you hate bad weather and you’re home alone, so I thought…
LELO’s team of enthusiastic experts pulled together a short visual rundown of the most common (and the most ridiculous, obviously) euphemisms we use for sex and masturbation. Brace yourselves, it’s going to be a wild toss in the hay (also a euphemism). Lest we forget, Shakespeare wrote about making the beast with two backs way…
Julian picked up the box of Tampons I had bought. “Unscented”, he smirked, and then added, “Well not for long.” So very easy for him to press this white-hot button. And so typically callous. I was finally through with him. However, the holiday season gave me an excuse to invite him out for a forgiveness…
With a little historical research, we’ve discovered a timeline of sexual desires from notable royals from around the world. Although they existed throughout different eras, it’s clear that sex has been a pleasurable desire since the inception of time. It’s good to hear that our ancestors were just as frisky as we are. Queen Victoria…
To be honest, my parents never gave me the sex talk. One time (in my early twenties), my dad told me sex was like hitting a piece of metal with a hammer, and I’ve been all too curious about their, and everyone else’s, sex lives ever since… which is probably how I ended up writing…
In 1995, the British writer Christopher Hitchens wrote an essay called the Missionary Position. It was an absolutely searing tear-down of an unlikely victim: the Catholic nun, Mother Theresa. It’s a brilliant and brutal analysis of her life and deeds, and mostly, of the media’s reporting of her. But the fact that Hitchens chose this…
He had spent the previous 50 minutes focused intently on his 4:30 patient, the last of his day. She was a recently divorced local socialite, quite attractive in a far more made up way than he preferred. They had been working together for nearly a year to disentangle her from a miserable marriage that fortunately…
In may not be your birthday, but it’s time to put on your birthday suit. Today we’re celebrating National Nude Day by going bare and exploring new things about our bodies. Joining a nudist colony isn’t the only way you can appreciate getting naked. Knock your socks off, and everything else, this National Nude Day…
She put away her cell phone, feeling warmly towards her wonderful handsome husband as his concerned words echoed in her head. He knew her so well after ten years of marriage since they met and courted at college. It was a natural match between the quarterback of the football team and the head cheerleader, universally…
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This was never going to work. The wedding was just six months away and we hadn’t accomplished anything yet. Okay, I know that isn’t exactly true, but it still felt that way. And at the moment, feeling trumped logic. Sure, we set up our website. We registered for gifts. We sent out the invites. (Which were beautiful,…
Welcome to LELO’s Oral Sex Kitchen, a new show in which we try to make erotic recipes but usually end up having sex on the floor halfway through, everything gets burned, and we order pizza instead. It’s a bacchanalian miasma of genital delights. What do you want? Because it’s EVERYWHERE… Oral sex doesn’t really need…
Mr. Rungard was late. And he was the last parent-teacher conference meeting of Mrs. Mower’s marathon day. Bored tapping her nails on the desktop, she began to scrub off the equations, which were drying on the whiteboard. “Mrs. Mower?” Turning, she saw that the baritone voice came from a tall man wearing dark slacks, a startched…
Can you ever get too much of a good thing? As far as a sexual climax is concerned, we’d have to join the chorus in a resounding HECK NO. However when it comes to enjoying multiple orgasms in a single sexual session , it’s the fairer sex that has the cake and eats it. For…
There was a piece about BDSM on morning TV the other day. It was all like, ‘ooh try a blindfold,’ ‘ahh try a gentle spanking,’ and ‘maybe try tying her hands behind her back.’ *gasp* *giggle* *blush* That’s it. When the kinky things that we do behind closed doors, that help define us, appear as…
In late 2014, the UK’s government made a decision that highlighted the fact that lawmakers are sometimes not the best people in the world to regulate sexuality. They tightened the laws on what is, and is not, ‘obscene’ – and therefore, what is, and isn’t, legal in porn production and distribution. While 10 sex acts…
12:11 a.m. She awoke to her television casting gray pictures on the wall of her small bedroom. Before turning it off and rolling over, she sat up in her bed and glanced out of the window. An overhead light was on in the apartment across a deep alley and a floor down from hers. She…
Let’s be real… we come from the era of American Pie. If a dude can stick his fingers into a warm pie to replicate the feeling of fingering a woman , then heck, the world can use other kinds of fruits and vegetables to get off. If you have no idea what I am talking…
Sex writers often try to make the subject of anal sex more approachable by describing people who enjoy it with euphemisms like ‘backdoor aficionados’ and ‘booty hunters.’ But this does it a huge injustice – not to mention, it’s so yukkily saccharine it could give you a sugar-high. Even ‘buttstuff,’ which I sometimes say myself…
Goodbye high school, hello adulthood! Embarking on the college experience is both exhilarating and frightening at the same time. And if you’re brand new to the game, you’re in for one heck of a rollercoaster adventure (for the old-timers, you know what we’re talking about!). Whichever phase of college you’re in though, the following tips…
Among all the fetishes (and there are many!) in the world, a foot fetish is one of the most prevalent. In fact, it has been found to be the most fetishised part of the body, excluding the genitals. But having a foot fetish is far more intriguing and complex than you may have thought. And…
Let’s face it – we all kiss, and prefer to be kissed, in different ways. It’s an artform of personal preference. There are people who use a lot of tongue, there are people who prefer lip teasing, and there are people who seek admiration through a peck. International Kissing Day has been an iconic British…
Pride month is upon us and the rainbow flag adorning everything from cakes to London buses is proud and prominent for all to see. But we need pride every day, not on just a dedicated month. For all of the steps forward that have been made, there are still so many more that need to…
Surely this has happened to you: you’re coming to the end of a glorious masturbation session, you’ve got the video cued up to the exact moment and you can feel your orgasm coming on. Right as you feel your pelvic muscles contracting in climax, you drop your phone, tablet or laptop, perhaps even on your…
There’s something about drunk sex that makes me feel like a total porn star. I’m talking feelin’ myself, “yes, daddy!” and willing to try almost anything type of confidence . And from talking with my girlfriends, this is a pretty universal feeling. Drinking helps us meet new people, communicate our desires more openly, and be…
That’s right ladies, this position is for us. Since most women require clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, riding is an ideal sex position to do so. This position requires the man to lay on his back while the woman straddles him. The cowgirl has become a staple of almost every sex position guide and…
Two days had passed since Cece arrived on the boat. Bruce had been able to read her body and feel her needs without even knowing her. For the two days that Captain Bruce explored her from head to toe, she had let herself go into a trance like state. Anything outside of the pleasure that…
Think back to the days of your youth… did your teenage years involve parties and games that were all about kissing? Was your first kiss with the cute guy or gal that you had your eye on in a game of Seven Minutes in Heaven? Well, whether you experienced the blissful activity of kissing-on-demand or…
Unbeknownst to many, games are not solely for kids. In fact, there are several games that adults find equally as thrilling. They could be as innocent as the girl next door, you know, like Twister or Monopoly. Or, they could have an element of naughtiness to them. But did you know that if you throw…
Rise and shine! Although some mornings it’s more ‘rise’ than ‘shine’, am I right or what? For the fellas clicking into this article, you’re no doubt familiar with the situation: your eyelids creak open to a slanted ray of sunlight coming through your window blinds. Birds outside are chirping as you yawn and pull away…
The Kama Sutra, written in Sansrift by Indian philosopher, Mallanga Vatsyayana, is not only one of the oldest texts surrounding erotica, but also one that encourages the celebration of sex and spirituality , and educates its readers on how to live a well-balanced, successful, and harmonized life in a meaningful way. And it’s come a…
Curious about anal play? Great! Because there are plenty of resources on trying anal sex for the first time , the very best anal sex positions , and how to enjoy anal sex day (which is on April, 18th FYI). Today however, we’re going to cover other ways to stimulate the anus for both men…
What are they? No, it’s not the female equivalent of a circle-jerk. Otherwise known as pillow talk or pleasure parties, and maybe even the secret thing they used to call “tupperware parties,” sex toy parties are fun and informative gatherings to learn about the latest and greatest personal companions that can do just about everything…
She always dallied provocatively to tease him while she was half-dressed, a flirty game to encourage him to ogle her scantily clad figure and feed her need for his unflagging adoration. Often it devolved into removing just enough of the lacy lingerie to indulge themselves one last time before leaving the house for a social…
‘Home James, and don’t spare the arses.’ James – Dave, her husband – knew the routine. It was their game. One they both loved to play. Get into the car, drive round the block, back into the house, that’s how it started. Every time they got into the car ‘It’s Yesterday Once More’ began to…
Sex is a fulfilling activity, but also an energy drain. Depending on your age, physical fitness, and the preferred frequency and intensity of your sex sessions, you might want to consider finding ways to replenish your juices and strength afterwards. Here are some tips that will help you stay fresh and ready for new action.…
For many, the word ‘ejaculation’ is often associated with men. We know that when a man achieves orgasm, he releases semen (ejaculates). But when it comes to female ejaculation , things become a bit more controversial. You see, many people doubt that it’s a real thing. And even those who do believe in the ability…
Every period of life brings its own challenges but it also opens up the opportunity for joyful and healthy sexlife. Understanding your body, sexual identity, and your ever changing needs in each stage of life paves the way towards a sexual fulfillment and harmonious relationship with your partner(s). The sexual spring of late childhood and…
If you’re reading this article right now, especially if you sought it out specifically, then you already know some of the commonly held beliefs around circumcised and uncircumcised penises. Cut (circumcised) guys claim theirs are cleaner, uncut (uncircumcised) fellas swear that they feel more fully the pleasures of sex. In fact, this same question is…
A sensual massage – whether it leads to more one on one action or not – is an amazing way to connect with your partner, as you are showing that you are completely devoted to their needs in that moment. We have a tip or two on how to give the perfect sensual massage ,…
For many, being naked is something strictly for the bedroom, or when they’re alone in the shower. And sure, it’s definitely not kosher to roam the streets sans clothing. But when it comes to skinny dipping, different rules apply. And that’s a good thing! Why? Well, not only is it a bit of fun, but…