The second episode of our pleasure podcasts takes around the globe to discuss the effects of the ongoing pandemic of human relationships. How has the prolonged time spent together influenced couples? How has the dating scene changed? Or how to deal with the psychological impacts of lockdown? These and many more questions form the basis…
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A Starter Guide: What is a BDSM Scene?
So you’re on a journey, learning the BDSM lingo and educating yourself about the different aspects of BDSM life. How fun! We love teaching and empowering our gorgeous readers so that they can live their best and most authentic sex life. And today’s little sex ed lesson is all about BDSM scenes! You may be…
All About International Kinky Day and the Praise Kink
International Kinky Day comes once a year (September 21), but keeps you coming all year round. It’s a day where all kinky-minded people come together to share and act out their desires for 24-hours. This year, we’re dedicating it to the praise kink and answering all your questions about incorporating some non-traditional sex acts into…
How Sex Toys Can Help You in Birth
People don’t often associate birth with sensuality or sex, but the majority of the time – that’s how the person became pregnant in the first place. Many of the sensations and hormones that help aid with arousal, also support people during birth. Believe it or not, sex toys can actually be used during labor! So…
Breathing Down Someone’s Neck… in a Good Way! The Neck Fetish, Explained
There are a number of different things that can float one’s boat. We may not always find it arousing ourselves, but as long as it’s safe, sane, and consensual, hey… you do you! And so, we present to you: the neck fetish. A seemingly innocent part of the body that can really get one’s motor…
Stamina Training with LELO’s F1 V2
LELO’s F1S V2 is your new excuse to spend more time pleasuring yourself. And with good reason! Did you know that masturbation can actually help improve your capacity for longer sex sessions? Yes, that’s right. By pleasuring yourself more, you can do the same to others too. This article goes over the basics of stamina…
The INA Wave 2 Vibrator Will Make You Come Back for More
The recent launch of LELO’s newest WaveMotion technology INA Wave 2 vibrator summons the perfect storm for multiple orgasms. How does it work? Let’s find out. What is WaveMotion technology? The best way to describe WaveMotion technology is picturing a finger making a “come hither” motion. The INA Wave 2 is designed with a feature…
Getting Started with Penis Vibrators and Other Sex Toys for Men
When it comes to shopping around for vibrators, it’s easy to be a little envious of the ladies, who have literally a billion different kinds of vibe to choose from. For every pleasure imaginable, there’s a female sex toy to serve that need–and for curious women, there are a ton of buyer’s guides out there…
Greek Sex: Just an Exotic Euphamism!
Perhaps everything sounds a bit more exotic when you think of Greece. Envision a picturesque island, spending time with friends, lovers, or even yourself, sipping cocktails and having some incredible Greek cuisine. And, well, the same goes for greek sex… it’s kind of just an exotic term for something you already know… What is Greek…
Ask a Doctor: Filling the Pleasure Gap
We’re back with sex therapist Casey Tanner answering reader questions about the orgasm and pleasure gap. Are some people with vulvas not capable of having an orgasm from penetrative sex? One of the more pervasive narratives that we’re taught about sexuality and sex is that penetrative sex is the coup de grâce or peak experience…
University Alumni Reunion – An Erotic Story
“Spread your legs.” His shoulder nudged mine, and I couldn’t hold a smile back. But I obeyed, unclenching my knees and letting my college crush kneel by my chair so he could remove one of my over-the-knee stockings for this silly game. His fingers were gentle as he slowly rolled it down my tanned leg,…
7 Benefits of Using Male Sex Toys
There was a time when sex toys designed for those with a penis were nowhere near as available as the collection of vibrators and dildos associated with clitoral and vaginal play. Gone are the days when cock-rings were considered to be adventurous. With the rise of male masturbators, like F1S V2, there are now many…
LELO Podcast with Dr. Zhana and JJ: Love and All its Forms
In our very first episode, we talk about non-monogamy and the different forms that it can take. The norm and the ideal in our Western societies is this monogamous, life-long romantic relationship. Some find that to be exactly the right thing for them, but some prefer to make their own rules. We are sure you’ve…
Welcome to Volonté, a PLEASURE PODCAST by LELO!
After years of fighting for the right to speak openly and plainly about human sexuality, Swedish sexual wellness brand LELO decided to take a different approach and create its discussion platform. And the best part is – everyone’s invited to join! And what better way to do it than by starting their own video podcast. …
Virtual BDSM: A Guide for Beginners
The BDSM scene has been growing for a number of years. Thanks to the internet, there are now so many more resources and articles out there can help direct people through new possibilities and experiences for their sex or masturbation. But there are ways to explore BDSM without even leaving your bedroom; thanks to the…
One Time in Rome – An Erotic Story
The last time I’ve seen her so happy was ten years ago, right in this restaurant, laughing with her eyes closed. But last time, I was the one sitting with her at the table, making her laugh and not the other man. I clenched my rocks glass harder the longer I’ve glared at them from…
A Lil’ Bit of TLC: What is Sensual Domination?
Forget everything you may believe about domination and BDSM in the context of humiliation, discipline and pain. Sensual domination is nothing of the sort. What it is however, is something that’s so erotically delightful that pleasure is amplified for both the dominant and the submissive. What is Sensual Domination? Sensual domination is a kind of…
Holiday in Sicily – An Erotic Story
Two hours of Googling, three hours of driving, and then one hour of hiking in the 40 degrees Celsius weather. All of it to find this secret beach. And there she was, sitting in the very middle of the beach, her long tanned legs spread in front of her as she leaned on her hands…
Frotting, An Erotic Rub-a-Dub-Dub
Frotting… a new term you haven’t heard of? Rest assured, you know what it is, you may just have never heard the actual term for it! For some, frotting can be like the male version of scissoring or tribbing. Light bulb moment? Let’s explain… What is Frotting? Frotting is when a penis-owner rubs their penis…
Sexual Boundaries and Saying “No:” What You Need to Know
In a culture that applauds people for being as easygoing as possible, it can feel hard to speak up and state our boundaries. Even in the wake of the “Me Too” movement and a shifting dialogue about what consent actually is, putting that boundary talk into practice is a whole other issue that many folks…
The Best Places To Have Sex at Home That Don’t Include Your Bedroom
Having sex in the bedroom is great. It offers comfort, coziness and it’s a safe space to enjoy yourself and your partner. But if you find yourself getting bored and looking for a way to spice things up, you don’t have to look far to find a solution. In fact, you only have to look…
Showing Your Moves: How To Give Your Partner a Lap Dance
To give your partner a smooth & sultry lap dance, you by no means need to be a professional dancer. Heck, you don’t even need to have a honed sense of rhythm. To perform a lap dance that they won’t soon forget, the main thing you need is a song that makes you want to…
The Female Gaze: The Thrill of Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM)
The notion itself: Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM), doesn’t exactly seem like anything special, does it? Picture a Sunday morning where a female partner is in her pyjamas and her male partner is naked. They’re just hanging out, chatting, making breakfast, or maybe he’s just about to hop into the shower. Now this would be…
Should You Shave Your Pubic Hair, or Should You Embrace the Full Bush?
It has become a norm in our day and age to shave your pubic hair. Most people consider pubic hair removal to be one of their regular beauty rituals, but the pandemic had changed things quite a bit when many places were closed, and people had to turn to other ways of removing unwanted hair. …
Ask a Doctor: Gender & Sexual Expansiveness
Enjoy our interview with certified sex therapist, Casey Tanner, who discusses readers’ questions about gender and sexual expansiveness. Q: Where can I find queer-positive, LGBTQ+ porn? It is certainly more difficult to find queer porn that doesn’t feel tokenizing or made for the male gaze. I find that the best, most ethical queer porn—or really…
What is Trauma-Informed Sex?
Content Warning: This Article Discusses Sexual Trauma and Abuse. Please read with caution if this is a triggering topic for you. Sometimes things happen in our lives that create pain, shame, or blame. When these events alter our perception of the world in a way that disconnects us or keeps us from feeling safe…
What’s Wrong with The Term “Same-Sex Couples”?
As we as a society start to have a broadened understanding of gender identity and inclusivity, we’re noticing the ways our language can exclude or even harm certain people. Up until recently, the term “same-sex couple” was considered the default to refer to any romantic and/or sexual dynamic that isn’t heterosexual. Same-sex is taken from…
What is Outercourse?
Content Warning: This Article Discusses Sexual Trauma and Abuse. Please read with caution if this is a triggering topic for you. If you’re reading this, chances are you’re more than familiar with the term “intercourse”. Maybe it even gives you cringey flashbacks to conversations with your parents, healthcare provider, or sex-ed teacher. Based on…
Sex After Kids: How To Rekindle the Flame in the Bedroom After Kids
Many couples suffer from having less sex after having kids. One of the latest Netflix shows, Sex/life, explores the life of a woman who had lost part of herself after getting married and having children and whose husband doesn’t seem to see her as a sexual being anymore. Our heroine, Billie, used to lead a…
Compersion: The #1 Way to Succeed in Polyamory
Polyamory has as many perks as a garden’s got roses, and smells just as sweet. All that community, camaraderie, and abundant communication, plus a whole spate of sweet humans in your life who love you – and not to mention that ever-evolving sex life. Is there anything better? Looking at it from the outside, opening…
Audio Erotica Will Change the Way You Masturbate
Have you ever enhanced your pleasure with audio content? Allow yourself to be taken on a wave of gradual climax through the sounds of sex! Audio erotica is sexually explicit content that comes in the form of a narrative, usually weaving in the sexy moans and groans that accompany real-life intercourse. If you’re someone that…
The Stigma Surrounding Bi+ Men
There’s a thing every bi+ person knows: nobody else believes in us. And out of everyone who falls under the pan/bi+ umbrella, nobody struggles with that invisibility more than bi+ men. Just look at some of our pop culture icons; you ask the average person on the street, and they’ll say David Bowie was straight…
Have You tried Forced Masturbation without Even Knowing it?
Most of us don’t particularly like to be forced into doing things. But when it comes to forced masturbation, there’s actually a kinky appeal to it. It’s kind of like the exception to the rule. For those who enjoy it, that is. So whether the idea intrigues you or not, you know you simply cannot…
Aftercare for Vanilla Sex: Why It’s Important and How To Do It Right
Anyone who had dabbled in some BDSM play knows the term “aftercare” well. It’s always repeated over and over again whenever you’re looking for tips on how to start with BDSM. Somehow, people often think that aftercare after vanilla sex, when no whips and chains were involved, is not needed. Like, if you’re having sex…
What is a Brat in the BDSM Community?
We’re all familiar with the term ‘brat’, right? And often it comes with negative connotations. But in a twist, there’s actually a world where being a brat is a desirable trait… that is, in the BDSM community. Well, this is not to say that all those who live the BDSM lifestyle find a brat appealing!…
The Science Behind Infidelity and Why People Cheat
Almost half of couples have dealt with or experienced infidelity in marriage. In the US, infidelity is the second leading cause of many divorces. What’s also interesting is that the majority of people, even those who cheat on their significant others, tend to believe that infidelity is wrong. Yet people don’t seem to be having…
Bow Down to the Cuckqueen!
Perhaps the sassiest queen there is, being a cuckqueen can be entirely erotic… for those who get a thrill out of seeing their partner with someone else. You see, in a world where societal norms dictate how we’re ‘supposed’ to live our lives (you know, get married, have babies, work a boring office job, etc.…
Understanding The Difference Between Sex and Gender
We’re seeing a growing awareness and conversation around gender, how it comes into play in various aspects of our lives, and the importance of inclusivity when discussing gender. With new conversations comes some confusion. Breaking down questions about sex and gender is one of the ways we can create a more inclusive world. Understanding starts…
Post-Orgasm Torture, the Gateway to Even More Sexual Bliss?
Sure, the word ‘torture’ doesn’t really seem all that appealing, especially for those who aren’t in the BDSM community. But don’t let that turn you off! You see, the practice of post-orgasm torture is not only something enjoyed between two consenting adults who trust and respect one another, but it’s also something that’s arousing and…
Playing Student/Teacher at the Office – An Erotic Story
It was time to show him the side of me I’ve hidden for years, I told myself as I lifted a hand to knock on the door of my husband’s office. I’ve denied myself long enough. “Come in,” his voice came from behind the closed door and as I entered his office, I found him…
Faith and Masturbation: Interview with an Ex-Pastor-Turned-Stripper
Hi Nikole. Thank you so much for joining us! Can you start by giving us a quick overview of your background in faith? Hi! I’m so happy to be here! Yes, my story’s gone viral as the Pastor-turned-stripper, and it’s true. I grew up in the church, loved the church, and became a leader in…
This Intimina X LELO Combo is *Chef’s Kiss* for Orgasm Day
Orgasms are good for you. Period. And we’re not just talking about pain relief. Orgasms come with massive benefits, and while period sex might not be for everyone, don’t diss it ‘till you’ve tried it with Ziggy Cup. To warm yourself to the idea of getting freaking during your period, try masturbating. Your vulva will…
Everything You Wanted to Know about Cervix Orgasms
Vaginas are truly amazing, hiding many different pleasure spots inside them. And yes, I mean more than the infamous G-spot that people still debate on to this day. There are up to seven (according to some experts) different orgasms vagina owners can have. But today, we’re going to focus on one spot in particular —…
The Fun of Teasing and Denial
Sex is such a dang joy. When we’re deep in the moment with a partner and things round the corner from hot to sizzling, sometimes it can feel like we’re a deep sea diver, heading straight down, down, down to the final prize all the way at the bottom. In those moments, pleasure is a…
Orgasm Denial, a Sexual Build Up of Intense Pleasure
It may sound like a nightmare, but actually, engaging in orgasm denial (otherwise known as erotic sexual denial) is one of the sexiest ways to build and maintain arousal! And when one finally does climax, well… it’s definitely something you’ll continue to crave. It’s a practice that can be done solo or with a partner,…
Self-Pleasure Is the Key to a Better Partnered Sex
Being single usually has a fairly sad undertone for many people. Movies and media had shaped a certain image of how the life of single people looks like, with tons of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream or endless booze on Friday nights and questionable sex life. But in real life, being single doesn’t have to…
What’s a Masochist, and Am I One?
In sex and in life, there are those who seek pain or self-denial as a means for pleasure. On the sexual side of things, masochism can be healthy when explored via BDSM play. However when this spills over into your day to day life things can become complicated. Today we are going to contrast the…
Nirvana – The Most Underestimated Sex Pose
All acrobatic sex poses have the same thing in common – you will try them only once. The best sex poses are comfortable, simple and well supported, which is why the vast majority of everyone’s sex life consists of either missionary variants, cowgirl variants or common doggy style. Everything else is fun only for a…
The Beginner’s Guide to Shibari, Japanese Bondage Practice
If you’re familiar with the world of BDSM, then you’ve probably seen the community of BDSM practitioners who love to tie each other with elaborate rope knots and hang in the air. This BDSM practice is called shibari, and it originated in Japan and has been growing in popularity throughout the years in the western…
Everything You Need to Know About Caning
We could spend all day wondering what singular moment in our lives sparked our fantasies of rods and canes. Maybe it was the time we spent in Catholic school taught by nuns, or the way we played with the popular, mean girls as children. Whatever brought you to this moment, your interest in caning has…