We like to celebrate sex in all its joyful glory. I rejoice at the very possibility that my articles might encourage someone to have better sex, but I’ll never claim that it’s a one-way road and that there isn’t a dark and sinister quality to sexuality. Sex is a risky game and some of its…
Aren’t butterflies fantastical? In the literal sense of the word, sure, but figuratively… like when you see someone that makes you all giddy. That experience of joy, excitement, but also nervousness… wow! It truly can make you feel alive! So, imagine this scenario: you see someone you’re attracted to, or you look at your partner.…
Relationships are hard. There’s just no denying it. And anyone who is or has been in a long term relationship will surely tell you the same. Even so, while there are days that are dismal, annoying, and somewhat unbearable, relationships should have a fundamental feeling of contentment and happiness. So when is it that enough…
Did you know that there’s an actual term for on-again, off-again relationships? It’s called ‘relationship cycling’, and encompasses people who have broken up and gotten back together with their romantic partner one or more times. This kind of relationship behaviour however, does run the risk of bringing on psychological distress for both partners, such as…
It’s easy to go on a first date somewhere neutral… a place where someone can be the person that they want to be. Just like many of us only reveal the best parts of ourselves on social media, the same could be said for a first date. But when things get serious, or you decide…
Hold up that sex-positive train for just a minute, folks! While you absolutely deserve all the orgasms in the world, there are some exceptions to the otherwise awesome thread of sexual self-realization happening right now. Prioritizing your own pleasure, whether that means shamelessly enjoying your favorite vibrator while alone or during sex, or asking for…
Did Millennials kill the so-called ‘institute of marriage?’ Millennials have the lowest rate of marriage compared to our parents and grandparent’s generations. We’re doing things differently than the folks who came before us, like moving in with our partners and focusing on shared happiness over jumping into a wedding dress and tuxedo and immediately popping…
Sure, sex is amazing, incredible, wonderful, and sometimes firework-inducing. But there are things that you should and shouldn’t be doing afterwards. Don’t let this put you off however, it’s merely a way in which to always keep safe, and to feel your best as you bathe in your post-orgasmic bliss. Now’s the time to live…
Sex, nay, amazing sex, is something we all deserve. And if you’ve ever been in a relationship, you can probably attest to the fact that the first few months are pure bliss. That honeymoon phase where you just can’t keep your hands off of each other, and life is but a dream. But if said-relationship…
When it comes to men and what turns them on, there are a million blog posts and women’s magazine articles that will tell you how to flirt, what to say, what to wear, and how much eye contact to use. To be very honest, it can be very easy to turn a man on and…
The internet and dating apps are the most popular places to find love for the younger generations. And we have to admit – scrolling left and right looking for your Prince (or Princess) Charming while lounging comfortably on your sofa is convenient. But saying “we met on Tinder” when someone asks where you met your…
When you first start dating someone, there are many questions to ask your partner. What their favorite food is, how they grew up, where they see themselves in five years… You want to know it all. One thing most new couples avoid is having honest conversations about sex and asking questions about each other’s sexuality…
When you hear the term ‘performance anxiety’ your mind may immediately go to the inability for men to get an erection. It may even ponder about the inability for men to climax. In fact, society has made it such a ‘thing’ that some men tend to feel embarrassed or ashamed when they’re unable to get…
If you scroll long enough on TikTok, you’ll eventually stumble upon a friendly photographer offering free boudoir photography tips. Sending nudes has become controversial and understandably so. Nobody wants to receive an unsolicited dick pic (which is illegal in some countries!) or be forced into sending their nude pictures in a desperate try to keep a…
By definition, a narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest or admiration of themselves. It’s an extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them. Of course, all of us have the capacity to have certain narcissistic behavioural tendencies from time to time, but in…
What info should I tell someone about myself on a first date? So many people that I talk to believe that they have to go into the first date and give their entire personal resume – maybe including all of their exes, their STI status, when they got out of their last break up, all…
After a stretch of time with the same partner (we can’t say how long of course, as it varies from person to person, couple to couple), we will of course forget a little of what made them so special in the first place. The initial shimmer they once brought into our lives may have dulled…
These days, opportunity and circumstance are taking us to farther flung-out places for education, employment, or what have you. Whatever the reason, there might come a time that you find yourself away from your partner for a stretch of time much longer than you’re comfortable with. Rather than letting the distance determine whether or not…
Will your sex life remain – or ever be – picture perfect? If the average answer was ‘yes,’ this sex advice blog – and likely the entirety of the sex toy business – wouldn’t need to exist. Sex is more complicated than we’d all like to admit, and the longer we stay in relationships, the…
The old times when you would meet the love of your life in the library or your local shop while doing your weekly grocery shopping are gone. Instead, the younger generation is taking dating online, with recent studies revealing that finding your significant other on the internet completely replaced all the other ways of meeting…
The de-stigmatizing and normalizing of all types of partner sex – from casual encounters to keeping the spark in monogamy – has led sex educators and sexuality writers into another conundrum. While we love to see all kinds of folks getting their unapologetic freak on, we’re now left to deal with an unintended consequence: the…
Today, there are more ‘names’ for the kinds of things people have been experiencing for decades and decades. And this is actually a good thing. Way back when, people would experience all kinds of abuse… not as overtly as physical, but mental, psychological, and emotional. And these kinds of abuse are just as harmful (sometimes…
Infidelity is infidelity, right? Well, technically! But in this day and age, who’s to say what cheating really is? Before the invention of the Internet—heck, even before the telephone—cheating meant catching a partner nestled up close to someone else. Just like the movies, two people checking into a motel or hotel, having a cheeky kiss…
Did you know that you have a mere seven seconds to make a first impression? And while eye contact does play a positive role in how people perceive you upon first interaction, locking eyes has the power to enhance all kinds of interactions—be it in friendships, relationships, work connections, and more. Let’s take a little…
The connection between social media and relationships has been the topic of conversations for years now. Multiple studies show that social media impacts our mental health and how we view ourselves, and our self-esteem. So it’s only natural to assume that it should also impact our romantic relationships, right? According to Pew Research Center, 45%…
Everyone craves human connection. We’re hardwired for it. Our relationships, no matter how serious they are, give us the opportunity to reflect, to learn about ourselves and life, to experience pleasure, and to enjoy life! Dating apps are one of the most revolutionary tools out there when it comes to love, sex, and romance. They…
There’s a lot to be said about double standards when it comes to sex and sexuality. You know, the whole ‘congratulating a man yet shaming a woman after sex’ thing? And with that, we know that there are many individuals who deem their or another’s virginity as a ‘prized possession’, with some even auctioning it…
San Diego is one of the biggest hot spots in the United States. This coastal city has it all – sunny weather, beautiful beaches, amazing food, and endless amounts of fun things to do and see. Whether you’re exploring San Diego for the first time, or you’ve lived here your whole life, this is a…
With spring just around the corner, you might be looking for new ways to spice things up in your relationship. It’s natural that with nature waking up from the winter slumber and days getting longer, you want to find new and exciting ways to connect with your partner. So, if you’ve been wondering how to…
It’s 2022 and in this day and age, people get to love who they want and however many people they want. They’ve broken the confines of what your stereotypical relationship should look like and have made their own rules. It seems like more and more people are leaning towards polyamory, or choosing to stay single…
There is no one gender that has a monopoly on not being in the moment during lovemaking. When it comes to a wandering mid-coitus mind, women are just as likely as anyone to be thinking of any number of things, other than what’s happening right there in front of them. IT should be no surprise…
In literal terms, a cat fish is a diverse ray-finned fish that has distinguishable barbels that look like a cat’s whiskers. But in the figurative world, a catfish is something completely different… and chances are, you’ve heard of this term before. Regardless of your views on the matter, being a catfish is devastatingly immoral, cruel,…
Tiktok is one of the largest social media platforms with over 1 billion monthly users. The app’s popularity can be widely attributed to its unique algorithm that quickly picks up on what the users like and want to see on their For You pages. Due to TikTok’s algorithm being so accurate, it’s very easy for…
What’s your first reaction when someone says they “waited for marriage” or when someone mentions the concept of virginity? Do you cringe? Are you ambivalent? Does it resonate with you? Does it bring up some family and cultural baggage? Is it outside of your normal life but you’re curious? All or none of the above?…
What’s that I hear? Are those wedding bells ringing in my ear? So you’ve decided to take the plunge and tie the knot. A big congratulations to you! This is one of the most important and exciting points in your life. So exciting, that you may be at a loss for words. Language is one…
With the popularity of online dating, the chances of you speaking to someone on the phone or hearing a voice note from them before actually meeting, is high. And how about the growingly popular TV show, Love is Blind, in which contestants base their levels of attraction towards another using only their voice? It’s true!…
So you’re getting ready for a first date. How exhilarating! Is your tummy filled with butterflies, creating a slew of anxiety, intrigue, and excitement? Are you preparing to look and feel your best, to make a great impression, and hopefully get whatever it is you want out of this date? Maybe you’re looking for a…
You’d think that sex, love, and romance would be the most natural things for humans, but that’s not always the case. Many of us are often left floundering when it comes to these vital parts of life. Sex ed in school often leaves people more confused than before, your parents may not have the best…
Question: how did you meet your current partner? And what about the last person you dated? Chances are, you’ve gone on a number of dates with people you’ve met on one or more online dating sites. And while these apps are mostly a pain, they can actually work. Think about it: at this very moment…
Love at first sight is so often romanticised. In movies, films, and even in real life. And while the thought of it does sound appealing, there is the flip side of it all. In other words, is love at first sight actually quite shallow? Does it mean that one can be filled with feelings of…
There’s a well-known expression that goes, “birds of a feather, flock together”. So we were curious to find out whether this expression was applicable when it comes to sex and dating. Well, more so about whether vegetarians and vegans were more likely to date other vegetarians and vegans (spoiler alert? They are!), and if being…
Being in a relationship is hard–especially when they’re long term. For some, they form their identity around their partner, making it hard to spot things that they perhaps once believed to be a deal breaker. Not just that, but seeing those waving red flags are even harder when you’re so invested in another human. And…
If your satisfaction with your sex life has been lackluster, instead of finding a new partner or blaming it on both of you being incompatible in bed, it might be a good idea to learn how to be a better lover instead. Bad sex doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you or your partner.…
So often, when we read literature online or self-help books on the topic of sex, we find ourselves talking about experimenting, trying new things in the bedroom, and different way to avoid boredom in between the sheets. But what if the narrative changed? What if, instead of going for a one night stand or partnering…
If you’re looking for a way to surprise your partner, lingam massage might be a great option. It’s a practice that’s created with all the penis owners in mind. It guarantees a good time and a great way to connect with your partner. What Is Lingam Massage? Lingam massage is one of the tantric sex…
While polygamy is rife in many societies, monogamy still seems like the most mainstream way in which to have a relationship. We’re often bombarded with images, influences, and expectations to get married, have that white picket fence, three children, and a dog, then live happily ever after. But because we’re more open-minded today in exploring…
You know how people often associate romance with a warm, gooey feeling? Like butterflies in one’s stomach that flutter and twirl so uncontrollably that it feels as though they’re going to burst from excitement, love, or lust? Turns out, not everyone feels that way about romance! Indeed, there are individuals who consider their romantic orientation…
We’re just sliding into that late autumn/early winter colder months – you know the time: the air is crisp, the sleeves are long and the lattes are pumpkin spiced. But now that the sun is setting earlier and there’s enough of a nip in the air to make an excuse to skip after-work drinks, have…
You may or may not have heard of the term ‘demisexual’. For reference, demisexual is when a person only experiences sexual attraction to another when they have a close emotional bond with them. This bond need not be romantic in nature however—it could even be a platonic friendship. Regardless, demisexuality isn’t actually about being sexually…
For our September Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about DADT: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell types of relationships. What’s DADT? Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is a type of relationship where the partners agree that they’re going to have other partners, but that they’re not going to talk about it. They don’t want to know…