Sleep, glorious sleep! The opportunity to replenish our energy, increase motivation, and to de-stress. And if you thought that having a pleasant dream was the cherry on the cake, you’re sorely mistaken. Sleep orgasms are very real and very very pleasurable. Talk about dreams coming true, am I right? What is a Sleep Orgasm? A…
Just as the sex industry, and sex in general, has changed so dramatically over the last decade or two, so have people evolved. The way in which we are meeting, interacting, having sex, and forming relationships is so different today, that we now have the opportunity to have a (sexual) partner without even having met…
Whether you’ve planned your NYE a month in advance or just exhausted from the anticipation of the holidays, you’re going to ring in the New Year, whether it be with a quick “woo” from your bed or a drunken makeout on the dancefloor of a club. Anyone who’s been around the block knows what a…
If you’re a woman, the chances that you’ve either made out, hooked up, or watched lesbian porn are very high. If you’re a man, well, the chances that you’ve ogled over two women making out or have watched lesbian porn are too, very high. And why is it that two (straight) ladies being sexual is…
They say it’s lonely at the top. When it comes to sex I’d disagree; it’s not lonely, but it can be dark. It can be complex, challenging and conflicted. There’s a lot of literature out there about the phenomenon known in BDSM circles as ‘subspace’, which is a kind of euphoric mental and physical state…
Let’s face it – just because it’s the holidays doesn’t mean that the super sweet carnal desire for some intimate one-on-one time with your partner (or, you know, the person from high school you only see once a year) suddenly goes by the wayside. In fact, with all the stress that the holidays bring, and…
Welcome to the wonderful world of threesomes… a sexual experience that is so incredibly diverse, and enjoyed by people of all walks of life. Whether you’re heterosexual, homosexual, trans, male, female, poly, black, white, or blue, a threesome can be a thrilling bout of pleasure comprised of a number of different positions, erotic acts, and…
Are you and your partner a pair of erotic auteurs? In this day and age, when we all have the equivalent of a hi-def camera in our pockets, there seems to be no better and easier time than now, no? With the right person — and ALWAYS with their knowledge and consent — making a…
Whether you’re getting it regularly, not at all – or hey, maybe too often – sex is still an often bewildering subject for many people. Sure, you may know the mechanics of it, not to mention the etiquette involved in sex, but chances are there is a thing or two that you’ve heard that might…
Whether you’re single AF , looking for a play partner, getting serious in a relationship, about to tie the knot, or happily married, you’ll find something interesting in this little research project we underwent here at LELO. This survey was done on a global scale in such a way that it shows how love evolves…
For thousands of years, people have searched for edible items to guarantee peak sexual performance and pleasure. Ancient Romans swore by hippo snouts, while even now, tiger penis is thought to be a libido booster in China. Luckily for you (and these animals), there are healthier and more palatable foods that give you longer-lasting results…
Enjoying a passionate tryst can be one of the most rewarding activities. Not only for the fun itself, but for the emotional, physical, and mental benefits during and thereafter. Achieving an orgasm has the ability to relieve stress , increase happiness, lower one’s blood pressure, as well as bring a sense of closeness between partners…
Ever heard the expression: ‘There’s a place and time for everything’? As cheesy as it may seem, it’s actually shockingly accurate… even when it comes to having sex! So, while you may appear to be more aroused on a Saturday night, or find yourself feeling frisky on a Monday afternoon, we’re here to shatter that…
Hi everyone, Dr. Zhana here! Let’s answer some questions! To start off with, “Is it healthy to masturbate?” The answer is: absolutely yes! There are so many benefits to masturbation and virtually no downsides! So go ahead and explore! Dildo or vibrator? That depends on what kind of stimulation you’re going for. If you just…
It wasn’t until recently that I realized what I was doing even had a name. That bringing myself close to orgasm—and then quickly pulling away at the very last moment—was a sexy technique commonly referred to as edging. How this game first made its way into my bedroom repertoire remains a mystery, but I do…
Everyone has their own comfort zone. And when it comes to BDSM, some believe it to be intimidating, rough, and perhaps even unpleasant. On the other hand, there are people who find the whole thing entirely intriguing or even extremely exciting. So, instead of offering hardcore BDSM tips that may make the more vanilla solo…
Being spiritual is a great excuse for having sex (if you ever needed one) but it is much more than that; a great way to deepen the connection with your partner, with nature, and, on the highest level, with the whole cosmic context of your existence. The question is, however, how do we get more…
So what kind do you make while having sex? Are you a moaner, a grunter or do you stay as quiet as a church mouse throughout the entire affair? Making noises during sex – as well as making no noises at all – is completely natural, and they happen for different reasons. Do you make…
Love, as we perceive it, is a chemical reaction. It’s a feeling, something that can be tangible in the form of a hug, a kiss , a smile, or the presence of sincerity in someone’s eyes. But who are we to judge what love personally means to an individual? How can we label one act…
One caveat before we start talking about multiple orgasms — there is actually very little scientific research on this topic. I hate giving people information that’s not based on good, solid research, but I’ll do my best. Honestly, we’re all a bit confused about this. We can’t even decide on a definition. Some experts define…
Come one, come all to celebrate one of my all time favorite holidays – INTERNATIONAL FISTING DAY! October 21, 2019 marks the ninth year of this beautiful holiday, originally brought to this Earth by queer porn performers and activists Jiz Lee and Courtney Trouble . International Fisting Day is an annual celebration that brings awareness…
We’re well into the 21st century and if you don’t have an electronic sex toy by now, you might want to check if you’re stuck in a time capsule. If we have speakers that do our grocery shopping, and cars that drive themselves, certainly there’s a sex toy that can level up your sex life.…
The average LELO lover is a well-heeled sort; a globetrotter who has traversed the continents and zigzagged the map with their wild wanderings. And because you’re reading this now, we can (rightly) assume that you yourself have felt the urge to turn that next corner or crest that next hill, if only to see what’s…
What do you need for mind blowing sex? Actually, just one thing – you need the right person, everything else is secondary to that fact. So, why not explore what happens if you deliberately remove the extras and take the most basic road towards intense sexual pleasure? We’ve already made the case for minimalist sex…
Not too long ago, we published an article entitled, What Makes a Good Submissive? Now, we’re flipping it on its head and asking the question: What makes a ‘good’ dom? In actuality, there is no real definition of what makes a dom or a sub ‘good’ or ‘bad’. It’s not as easy as being awarded…
Making bad sexual decisions is, I guess, an almost unavoidable part of growing up. But, just like unhealthy dietary choices, it is also a practice that should preferably be abandoned alongside the days of your youthful carelessness. It is not always clear what constitutes a healthy sex life and when your libido is making you…
Enter the world of a subculture that you perhaps know nothing about. That is, BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, Masochism). And for those who’re still learning about the practice of BDSM, here’s a quick cheat sheet. BDSM is a lifestyle that entails consentual erotic practices involving control, submission, discipline, giving or receiving pain for sexual pleasure,…
The amount of sex you have regularly declines with age, and for postmenopausal women , that decline accelerates. That’s not news. The results of our own Global Survey reflect that pattern, as do any other studies that examine the frequency of sex by age. What might be surprising, though, is the cause. It’s long been…
While the term “flirting” might conjure up thoughts of grade school playgrounds, the truth is, it’s a behavior that we never grow out of. Playful in nature but earnest in intent, a simple flirt can have positively profound, life-changing results. Flirting is an evolutionary tactic. Let’s review some essential pointers for pulling off a tease…
Warning: this article is about sexual consent and will, by its nature, discuss issues surrounding sexual assault and, in places, will use frank language to do so. Sometimes, to say ‘no’ to sex is to say ‘yes’ to yourself. I hold that to be true, but consent goes beyond saying yes or saying no. In…
Even in the 21st century, men and women worldwide are being told (and believe) that self-love (aka, masturbation) is wrong or even a sin. For religious, moral or other reasons, these individuals grow up and live with the notion that sexual activity is acceptable within the confinements of their marital bed. Now isn’t that the…
There are a few things that masturbation and music have in common – our favorite is the climax. Check out our favorite women singing about “getting off” below. Men have been singing about masturbation for decades, and we bow down to these ladies who had the “balls” to join them. Warning: may cause extreme arousal…
Hey you there, the guy scratching his head – trying to figure out what to gift your lady friend? We can relate. It’s hard to shop for the girl who has everything, so the guys here at the LELO office has chalked up a few unconventional ideas that we love from personal experience – so you…
The time has finally come – You are ready to make moves and attend your first ever play party. Congratulations! That is a huge step in feeling yourself and your sexuality. But now that you know what you want (what you want is to attend an event wherein a group of people engage in consensual…
When we refer to sex, the most common assumption is that we are talking about penis in vagina penetration. With the much-needed progression of sex positivity we are starting to widen both our definition and our perspective, about what it means to be sexual. Now what we are experiencing in our current environment is a…
What is extreme sex? Well, extreme sex is…the truth is, we can’t really say. Or rather, what we think is extreme might not be extreme for other people. (And, conversely, a lot of what we consider ‘just another day at the office’ might be extreme for other people.) When it comes down to it, if people…
Ejaculation and male orgasming are so closely connected that most people don’t think about them as separate things. But they are, and learning how to master the control over your ejaculation can open the door to sexual mastery that will provide the world of pleasure for you and your partner(s). What is the alternative to…
When you were a teen and perusing the copies of Cosmo and Marie Claire at the grocery store tills, you might have scoffed at the blurbs about dealing with low libido. Sex was awesome! You couldn’t ever picture not being horny 24/7, and you would never find yourself in such a situation, right? Well, you…
*me, on the phone* Yeah hang on mom, yeah, look I’ll have to call you back, I need to write an article on whether or not there’s a penis bone. No it’s very urgent. Ok speak to you later. *hangs up* It’s a question that occasions the mind of many young boys at one point…
You may be familiar with the term ‘bondage’ and other acts that belong to the BDSM lifestyle , and you may well love the idea of practicing some of these erotic acts. But finding a play partner, or being with someone who is as open-minded and intrigued as you are, may be difficult. Fear not,…
Aren’t beds sex furniture? Technically, anywhere you can go to pound-town on is sex furniture, but what we’re talking about is equipment physically designed to support your body in optimal pleasure positions. Sounds pretty awesome, right? Just don’t think anything on this list is dirt cheap. Sex furniture is an investment (with a guaranteed ROI).…
With the discovery of the telephone, people have been cashing in (and forking out) on phone sex for simple pleasures. Surely you’re familiar with those sexually explicit ads in the newspaper way back when? Or perhaps enticing posters in phone booths? And even though we’ve come a long way in terms of sex and technology…
Can we please start a petition to make everyday Female Orgasm Day? We should really take this day to 1. orgasm, and 2. talk to our girlfriends about orgasming. Why? You’d be pretty surprised how many women don’t know if they’ve ever orgasmed or not. And I think many of us can agree, when you…
What religious people call ‘spiritual,’ skeptics call ‘awe.’ It’s the same feeling, we just use different language for it, and since time immemorial, sex has appealed to both groups as spiritual and awesome respectively. I’ve certainly experienced sex as what tantric practitioners would call ‘spiritual,’ so tantra has long held some outside interest for me,…
Do you feel stagnant with your sexuality? Or unable to relate to the unrealistic representations of masturbation in pornography? I think it’s time you reconnected with your female energy. Pleasure can be meditative , and Freya Haley takes us on a journey of self-discovery and love. ACTIVATE Put your hands on your lower belly (otherwise…
Blowjobs and cunnilingus can get a little boring for the person performing it. That’s the ugly truth that not many of us would admit. After a long session, your mind can wander and your jaw can begin to ache, and no matter how much you love doing it, sometimes it can feel a chore. So…
Masturbation: already pretty good. So goes the bumper sticker that should definitely be available in truck stops worldwide. Why? Because it’s absolutely true. Jerking off is a reminder that someone up there likes us, because it’s the most fun you can have while still remaining on the right side of the law. But what if…
To be honest, my parents never gave me the sex talk. One time (in my early twenties), my dad told me sex was like hitting a piece of metal with a hammer, and I’ve been all too curious about their, and everyone else’s, sex lives ever since… which is probably how I ended up writing…
In 1995, the British writer Christopher Hitchens wrote an essay called the Missionary Position. It was an absolutely searing tear-down of an unlikely victim: the Catholic nun, Mother Theresa. It’s a brilliant and brutal analysis of her life and deeds, and mostly, of the media’s reporting of her. But the fact that Hitchens chose this…
In may not be your birthday, but it’s time to put on your birthday suit. Today we’re celebrating National Nude Day by going bare and exploring new things about our bodies. Joining a nudist colony isn’t the only way you can appreciate getting naked. Knock your socks off, and everything else, this National Nude Day…