The single biggest obstacle people face in the bedroom is being too much in their heads — because that’s what’s behind basically every other sexual issue. If you’re thinking or worrying during sex, this can lead to difficulty getting aroused, orgasming , and truly connecting with your partner. If this is an issue you’ve been…
Birthday sex—there’s just something about the way those two luscious words roll off the tip of your tongue that makes you immediately think, “Yes, please.” Maybe it brings to mind the image of a sexy bikini-clad gal emerging from an extra-large, heavily frosted birthday cake, or maybe you hear Jeremih’s 2009 hit song of the…
When it comes to masturbation, most people keep it confined to the privacy of their bedroom. But there are many fantastic reasons to be more adventurous with your vibrator if you consider changing things up. Nowadays, there are a great range of waterproof vibrators and couples’ toys that are perfect for stimulation in the shower…
You might’ve heard of different kinds of orgasms, like clitoral orgasms, G-spot orgasms, and prostate orgasms — but orgasms don’t actually even have to stem from genital touch. Some people actually report orgasming just from nipple play. The nipples are densely packed with nerve endings, and one study found that they’re connected to the same…
The time has come. You’ve just taken a lover back to your place after some cocktails. They’re so sexy, it’s like they’ve been yanked straight out of your wildest fantasies to be here, in your bed, with you. As the temperature climbs from hot to sizzling, you’re both scrambling towards that fever pitch. Your nerves…
Throughout the menstrual cycle, your hormones are undergoing lots of changes , so it makes sense that your sexual preferences and needs might shift as well. But rarely do we pay attention to the ways our menstrual cycles affect us in the bedroom. According to Alisa Vitti, functional nutritionist, creator of the MyFlo period-tracking app…
When it comes to sex toys, positions , ideas, and fantasies, it’s pretty hard to surprise me. But when I came across an episode of Slutever, a Vice original TV series that takes a look at sex in the modern world, I was introduced to a whole new concept of getting off. That is, the…
Happy International Women’s Day! This March 8th we celebrate female pleasure liberation! Did you know that according to Kinsey Institute , only 40–60% of women masturbate, compared to 95–99% of their male counterparts. Women’s bodies were designed for pleasure. We can experience orgasms up to 2 minutes long (compared to men’s 10 seconds!) and may…
We hear a lot about ‘spicing it up ’ and helping couples to keep the spark alive , particularly during the Hallmark holidays, but what perhaps is more important than focusing on making one day amazing, different or making a huge effort to show our partners that we love them; is to take that initiative…
Don’t be too quick to scoff at that friend you have who communicates every little thing through emojis: it’s very possible they’re having more sex than you. Unless you are that friend, in which case, STOP IT. You see, according to this 2019 scientific report into the relationship between emojis and dating success , there…
Having sex for the first time can mean a lot of different things to different people, but when it comes to doing the dirty there are still a few things to take into consideration going into it, from whether we’re really ready to have sex at that moment to which type of protection we want…
There are tons of guides and classes out there on giving blowjobs , but cunnilingus just doesn’t get the same amount of attention. This is unfortunate, because around three quarters of vulva owners need clitoral stimulation to consistently orgasm, and oral sex is one highly effective way to provide that. Some people are intimidated by…
On the face of it, your gag reflex is only trying to help out. The human body comes with a bunch of little fail safes and reactions that are aimed at keeping you alive. Your gag reflex in particular is meant to stop things from getting into your throat that are too big to swallow…
The cosplay subculture is one that’s definitely thriving. And it’s not rare to see cosplay enthusiasts going to all kinds of different lengths in order to immerse themselves into the cosplay world. Which is why the idea of cosplay sex isn’t actually that much of a shocker for some… But before we talk about the…
Asking for sex is a tricky art because it comes not just with the threat of a refusal, but an implicit criticism of your partner. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together, asking for sex is a loaded question for all of us, loaded with risks and pitfalls at every turn. So how do…
There are a zillion places in which one can give or receive oral sex. In the shower, in bed, on the kitchen counter, on the sofa… the list goes on and on. But when it comes to road head, there’s a certain element of danger, and thrill to it, making it even more enticing. Of…
Orgasming without any manual stimulation of your genitalia might seem like a mission impossible, but in reality, it is an attainable skill for all genders, and even if you don’t succeed, it can help you gain more control over your sexual energy. Let’s start by clearing one thing up – hands-free orgasm is not strictly…
Whether you choose to call it Galentine’s Day, Palentine’s Day or Singles Awareness Day (Gore Vidalentine’s Day, anyone?), Valentine’s Day is a holiday that’s tailor-made for making someone special smile. And what better way to do so than with a present guaranteed to make them grin. And singledom bashing? Let’s be real, nothing says screw…
Humankind won some kind of lottery when we discovered the blowjob. Like seriously, what is better than one? Sure, we can give you so many tips on how to make blowjobs better , but are they really upping the pleasures all that much? After you’ve gone through all of the ways to give a mind-blowing…
Coming from someone who has been working in the massage business for years, let’s first get one thing straight: any good massage therapist has one thing on top of his or her list of professional ethics, and that is to avoid any exchange of sexual energy with their clients. So, if you go to a…
Are you the type of person who dares to be bold? Who would rather rock bright pink hair, look up at the stars at night as opposed to watching Netflix , or spell out your favourite words on your lover’s arm using the tip of your finger? Yes! We love all things not-so-mainstream and using…
While we all love the return of warmer weather to our own city, the real excitement of the summer season is the endless possibility for travel. New sights, new sounds, exotic foods and cultures…and of course, the opportunity for a sexy summer fling. We’ve put together a list of amazing locations around the world for…
Sleep, glorious sleep! The opportunity to replenish our energy, increase motivation, and to de-stress. And if you thought that having a pleasant dream was the cherry on the cake, you’re sorely mistaken. Sleep orgasms are very real and very very pleasurable. Talk about dreams coming true, am I right? What is a Sleep Orgasm? A…
Just as the sex industry, and sex in general, has changed so dramatically over the last decade or two, so have people evolved. The way in which we are meeting, interacting, having sex, and forming relationships is so different today, that we now have the opportunity to have a (sexual) partner without even having met…
Whether you’ve planned your NYE a month in advance or just exhausted from the anticipation of the holidays, you’re going to ring in the New Year, whether it be with a quick “woo” from your bed or a drunken makeout on the dancefloor of a club. Anyone who’s been around the block knows what a…
If you’re a woman, the chances that you’ve either made out, hooked up, or watched lesbian porn are very high. If you’re a man, well, the chances that you’ve ogled over two women making out or have watched lesbian porn are too, very high. And why is it that two (straight) ladies being sexual is…
They say it’s lonely at the top. When it comes to sex I’d disagree; it’s not lonely, but it can be dark. It can be complex, challenging and conflicted. There’s a lot of literature out there about the phenomenon known in BDSM circles as ‘subspace’, which is a kind of euphoric mental and physical state…
Let’s face it – just because it’s the holidays doesn’t mean that the super sweet carnal desire for some intimate one-on-one time with your partner (or, you know, the person from high school you only see once a year) suddenly goes by the wayside. In fact, with all the stress that the holidays bring, and…
Welcome to the wonderful world of threesomes… a sexual experience that is so incredibly diverse, and enjoyed by people of all walks of life. Whether you’re heterosexual, homosexual, trans, male, female, poly, black, white, or blue, a threesome can be a thrilling bout of pleasure comprised of a number of different positions, erotic acts, and…
Are you and your partner a pair of erotic auteurs? In this day and age, when we all have the equivalent of a hi-def camera in our pockets, there seems to be no better and easier time than now, no? With the right person — and ALWAYS with their knowledge and consent — making a…
Whether you’re getting it regularly, not at all – or hey, maybe too often – sex is still an often bewildering subject for many people. Sure, you may know the mechanics of it, not to mention the etiquette involved in sex, but chances are there is a thing or two that you’ve heard that might…
Whether you’re single AF , looking for a play partner, getting serious in a relationship, about to tie the knot, or happily married, you’ll find something interesting in this little research project we underwent here at LELO. This survey was done on a global scale in such a way that it shows how love evolves…
For thousands of years, people have searched for edible items to guarantee peak sexual performance and pleasure. Ancient Romans swore by hippo snouts, while even now, tiger penis is thought to be a libido booster in China. Luckily for you (and these animals), there are healthier and more palatable foods that give you longer-lasting results…
Enjoying a passionate tryst can be one of the most rewarding activities. Not only for the fun itself, but for the emotional, physical, and mental benefits during and thereafter. Achieving an orgasm has the ability to relieve stress , increase happiness, lower one’s blood pressure, as well as bring a sense of closeness between partners…
Ever heard the expression: ‘There’s a place and time for everything’? As cheesy as it may seem, it’s actually shockingly accurate… even when it comes to having sex! So, while you may appear to be more aroused on a Saturday night, or find yourself feeling frisky on a Monday afternoon, we’re here to shatter that…
Hi everyone, Dr. Zhana here! Let’s answer some questions! To start off with, “Is it healthy to masturbate?” The answer is: absolutely yes! There are so many benefits to masturbation and virtually no downsides! So go ahead and explore! Dildo or vibrator? That depends on what kind of stimulation you’re going for. If you just…
It wasn’t until recently that I realized what I was doing even had a name. That bringing myself close to orgasm—and then quickly pulling away at the very last moment—was a sexy technique commonly referred to as edging. How this game first made its way into my bedroom repertoire remains a mystery, but I do…
Everyone has their own comfort zone. And when it comes to BDSM, some believe it to be intimidating, rough, and perhaps even unpleasant. On the other hand, there are people who find the whole thing entirely intriguing or even extremely exciting. So, instead of offering hardcore BDSM tips that may make the more vanilla solo…
Being spiritual is a great excuse for having sex (if you ever needed one) but it is much more than that; a great way to deepen the connection with your partner, with nature, and, on the highest level, with the whole cosmic context of your existence. The question is, however, how do we get more…
So what kind do you make while having sex? Are you a moaner, a grunter or do you stay as quiet as a church mouse throughout the entire affair? Making noises during sex – as well as making no noises at all – is completely natural, and they happen for different reasons. Do you make…
Love, as we perceive it, is a chemical reaction. It’s a feeling, something that can be tangible in the form of a hug, a kiss , a smile, or the presence of sincerity in someone’s eyes. But who are we to judge what love personally means to an individual? How can we label one act…
One caveat before we start talking about multiple orgasms — there is actually very little scientific research on this topic. I hate giving people information that’s not based on good, solid research, but I’ll do my best. Honestly, we’re all a bit confused about this. We can’t even decide on a definition. Some experts define…
Come one, come all to celebrate one of my all time favorite holidays – INTERNATIONAL FISTING DAY! October 21, 2019 marks the ninth year of this beautiful holiday, originally brought to this Earth by queer porn performers and activists Jiz Lee and Courtney Trouble . International Fisting Day is an annual celebration that brings awareness…
We’re well into the 21st century and if you don’t have an electronic sex toy by now, you might want to check if you’re stuck in a time capsule. If we have speakers that do our grocery shopping, and cars that drive themselves, certainly there’s a sex toy that can level up your sex life.…
The average LELO lover is a well-heeled sort; a globetrotter who has traversed the continents and zigzagged the map with their wild wanderings. And because you’re reading this now, we can (rightly) assume that you yourself have felt the urge to turn that next corner or crest that next hill, if only to see what’s…
What do you need for mind blowing sex? Actually, just one thing – you need the right person, everything else is secondary to that fact. So, why not explore what happens if you deliberately remove the extras and take the most basic road towards intense sexual pleasure? We’ve already made the case for minimalist sex…
Not too long ago, we published an article entitled, What Makes a Good Submissive? Now, we’re flipping it on its head and asking the question: What makes a ‘good’ dom? In actuality, there is no real definition of what makes a dom or a sub ‘good’ or ‘bad’. It’s not as easy as being awarded…
Making bad sexual decisions is, I guess, an almost unavoidable part of growing up. But, just like unhealthy dietary choices, it is also a practice that should preferably be abandoned alongside the days of your youthful carelessness. It is not always clear what constitutes a healthy sex life and when your libido is making you…
Enter the world of a subculture that you perhaps know nothing about. That is, BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, Masochism). And for those who’re still learning about the practice of BDSM, here’s a quick cheat sheet. BDSM is a lifestyle that entails consentual erotic practices involving control, submission, discipline, giving or receiving pain for sexual pleasure,…
The amount of sex you have regularly declines with age, and for postmenopausal women , that decline accelerates. That’s not news. The results of our own Global Survey reflect that pattern, as do any other studies that examine the frequency of sex by age. What might be surprising, though, is the cause. It’s long been…