It wasn’t until recently that I realized what I was doing even had a name. That bringing myself close to orgasm—and then quickly pulling away at the very last moment—was a sexy technique commonly referred to as edging. How this game first made its way into my bedroom repertoire remains a mystery, but I do…
Everyone has their own comfort zone. And when it comes to BDSM, some believe it to be intimidating, rough, and perhaps even unpleasant. On the other hand, there are people who find the whole thing entirely intriguing or even extremely exciting. So, instead of offering hardcore BDSM tips that may make the more vanilla solo…
Being spiritual is a great excuse for having sex (if you ever needed one) but it is much more than that; a great way to deepen the connection with your partner, with nature, and, on the highest level, with the whole cosmic context of your existence. The question is, however, how do we get more…
So what kind do you make while having sex? Are you a moaner, a grunter or do you stay as quiet as a church mouse throughout the entire affair? Making noises during sex – as well as making no noises at all – is completely natural, and they happen for different reasons. Do you make…
Love, as we perceive it, is a chemical reaction. It’s a feeling, something that can be tangible in the form of a hug, a kiss , a smile, or the presence of sincerity in someone’s eyes. But who are we to judge what love personally means to an individual? How can we label one act…
One caveat before we start talking about multiple orgasms — there is actually very little scientific research on this topic. I hate giving people information that’s not based on good, solid research, but I’ll do my best. Honestly, we’re all a bit confused about this. We can’t even decide on a definition. Some experts define…
Come one, come all to celebrate one of my all time favorite holidays – INTERNATIONAL FISTING DAY! October 21, 2019 marks the ninth year of this beautiful holiday, originally brought to this Earth by queer porn performers and activists Jiz Lee and Courtney Trouble . International Fisting Day is an annual celebration that brings awareness…
We’re well into the 21st century and if you don’t have an electronic sex toy by now, you might want to check if you’re stuck in a time capsule. If we have speakers that do our grocery shopping, and cars that drive themselves, certainly there’s a sex toy that can level up your sex life.…
The average LELO lover is a well-heeled sort; a globetrotter who has traversed the continents and zigzagged the map with their wild wanderings. And because you’re reading this now, we can (rightly) assume that you yourself have felt the urge to turn that next corner or crest that next hill, if only to see what’s…
What do you need for mind blowing sex? Actually, just one thing – you need the right person, everything else is secondary to that fact. So, why not explore what happens if you deliberately remove the extras and take the most basic road towards intense sexual pleasure? We’ve already made the case for minimalist sex…
Not too long ago, we published an article entitled, What Makes a Good Submissive? Now, we’re flipping it on its head and asking the question: What makes a ‘good’ dom? In actuality, there is no real definition of what makes a dom or a sub ‘good’ or ‘bad’. It’s not as easy as being awarded…
Making bad sexual decisions is, I guess, an almost unavoidable part of growing up. But, just like unhealthy dietary choices, it is also a practice that should preferably be abandoned alongside the days of your youthful carelessness. It is not always clear what constitutes a healthy sex life and when your libido is making you…
Enter the world of a subculture that you perhaps know nothing about. That is, BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, Masochism). And for those who’re still learning about the practice of BDSM, here’s a quick cheat sheet. BDSM is a lifestyle that entails consentual erotic practices involving control, submission, discipline, giving or receiving pain for sexual pleasure,…
The amount of sex you have regularly declines with age, and for postmenopausal women , that decline accelerates. That’s not news. The results of our own Global Survey reflect that pattern, as do any other studies that examine the frequency of sex by age. What might be surprising, though, is the cause. It’s long been…
While the term “flirting” might conjure up thoughts of grade school playgrounds, the truth is, it’s a behavior that we never grow out of. Playful in nature but earnest in intent, a simple flirt can have positively profound, life-changing results. Flirting is an evolutionary tactic. Let’s review some essential pointers for pulling off a tease…
Warning: this article is about sexual consent and will, by its nature, discuss issues surrounding sexual assault and, in places, will use frank language to do so. Sometimes, to say ‘no’ to sex is to say ‘yes’ to yourself. I hold that to be true, but consent goes beyond saying yes or saying no. In…
Even in the 21st century, men and women worldwide are being told (and believe) that self-love (aka, masturbation) is wrong or even a sin. For religious, moral or other reasons, these individuals grow up and live with the notion that sexual activity is acceptable within the confinements of their marital bed. Now isn’t that the…
There are a few things that masturbation and music have in common – our favorite is the climax. Check out our favorite women singing about “getting off” below. Men have been singing about masturbation for decades, and we bow down to these ladies who had the “balls” to join them. Warning: may cause extreme arousal…
Hey you there, the guy scratching his head – trying to figure out what to gift your lady friend? We can relate. It’s hard to shop for the girl who has everything, so the guys here at the LELO office has chalked up a few unconventional ideas that we love from personal experience – so you…
The time has finally come – You are ready to make moves and attend your first ever play party. Congratulations! That is a huge step in feeling yourself and your sexuality. But now that you know what you want (what you want is to attend an event wherein a group of people engage in consensual…
When we refer to sex, the most common assumption is that we are talking about penis in vagina penetration. With the much-needed progression of sex positivity we are starting to widen both our definition and our perspective, about what it means to be sexual. Now what we are experiencing in our current environment is a…
What is extreme sex? Well, extreme sex is…the truth is, we can’t really say. Or rather, what we think is extreme might not be extreme for other people. (And, conversely, a lot of what we consider ‘just another day at the office’ might be extreme for other people.) When it comes down to it, if people…
Ejaculation and male orgasming are so closely connected that most people don’t think about them as separate things. But they are, and learning how to master the control over your ejaculation can open the door to sexual mastery that will provide the world of pleasure for you and your partner(s). What is the alternative to…
When you were a teen and perusing the copies of Cosmo and Marie Claire at the grocery store tills, you might have scoffed at the blurbs about dealing with low libido. Sex was awesome! You couldn’t ever picture not being horny 24/7, and you would never find yourself in such a situation, right? Well, you…
*me, on the phone* Yeah hang on mom, yeah, look I’ll have to call you back, I need to write an article on whether or not there’s a penis bone. No it’s very urgent. Ok speak to you later. *hangs up* It’s a question that occasions the mind of many young boys at one point…
You may be familiar with the term ‘bondage’ and other acts that belong to the BDSM lifestyle , and you may well love the idea of practicing some of these erotic acts. But finding a play partner, or being with someone who is as open-minded and intrigued as you are, may be difficult. Fear not,…
Aren’t beds sex furniture? Technically, anywhere you can go to pound-town on is sex furniture, but what we’re talking about is equipment physically designed to support your body in optimal pleasure positions. Sounds pretty awesome, right? Just don’t think anything on this list is dirt cheap. Sex furniture is an investment (with a guaranteed ROI).…
With the discovery of the telephone, people have been cashing in (and forking out) on phone sex for simple pleasures. Surely you’re familiar with those sexually explicit ads in the newspaper way back when? Or perhaps enticing posters in phone booths? And even though we’ve come a long way in terms of sex and technology…
Can we please start a petition to make everyday Female Orgasm Day? We should really take this day to 1. orgasm, and 2. talk to our girlfriends about orgasming. Why? You’d be pretty surprised how many women don’t know if they’ve ever orgasmed or not. And I think many of us can agree, when you…
What religious people call ‘spiritual,’ skeptics call ‘awe.’ It’s the same feeling, we just use different language for it, and since time immemorial, sex has appealed to both groups as spiritual and awesome respectively. I’ve certainly experienced sex as what tantric practitioners would call ‘spiritual,’ so tantra has long held some outside interest for me,…
Do you feel stagnant with your sexuality? Or unable to relate to the unrealistic representations of masturbation in pornography? I think it’s time you reconnected with your female energy. Pleasure can be meditative , and Freya Haley takes us on a journey of self-discovery and love. ACTIVATE Put your hands on your lower belly (otherwise…
Blowjobs and cunnilingus can get a little boring for the person performing it. That’s the ugly truth that not many of us would admit. After a long session, your mind can wander and your jaw can begin to ache, and no matter how much you love doing it, sometimes it can feel a chore. So…
Masturbation: already pretty good. So goes the bumper sticker that should definitely be available in truck stops worldwide. Why? Because it’s absolutely true. Jerking off is a reminder that someone up there likes us, because it’s the most fun you can have while still remaining on the right side of the law. But what if…
To be honest, my parents never gave me the sex talk. One time (in my early twenties), my dad told me sex was like hitting a piece of metal with a hammer, and I’ve been all too curious about their, and everyone else’s, sex lives ever since… which is probably how I ended up writing…
In 1995, the British writer Christopher Hitchens wrote an essay called the Missionary Position. It was an absolutely searing tear-down of an unlikely victim: the Catholic nun, Mother Theresa. It’s a brilliant and brutal analysis of her life and deeds, and mostly, of the media’s reporting of her. But the fact that Hitchens chose this…
In may not be your birthday, but it’s time to put on your birthday suit. Today we’re celebrating National Nude Day by going bare and exploring new things about our bodies. Joining a nudist colony isn’t the only way you can appreciate getting naked. Knock your socks off, and everything else, this National Nude Day…
Welcome to LELO’s Oral Sex Kitchen, a new show in which we try to make erotic recipes but usually end up having sex on the floor halfway through, everything gets burned, and we order pizza instead. It’s a bacchanalian miasma of genital delights. What do you want? Because it’s EVERYWHERE… Oral sex doesn’t really need…
There was a piece about BDSM on morning TV the other day. It was all like, ‘ooh try a blindfold,’ ‘ahh try a gentle spanking,’ and ‘maybe try tying her hands behind her back.’ *gasp* *giggle* *blush* That’s it. When the kinky things that we do behind closed doors, that help define us, appear as…
Let’s be real… we come from the era of American Pie. If a dude can stick his fingers into a warm pie to replicate the feeling of fingering a woman , then heck, the world can use other kinds of fruits and vegetables to get off. If you have no idea what I am talking…
Goodbye high school, hello adulthood! Embarking on the college experience is both exhilarating and frightening at the same time. And if you’re brand new to the game, you’re in for one heck of a rollercoaster adventure (for the old-timers, you know what we’re talking about!). Whichever phase of college you’re in though, the following tips…
Among all the fetishes (and there are many!) in the world, a foot fetish is one of the most prevalent. In fact, it has been found to be the most fetishised part of the body, excluding the genitals. But having a foot fetish is far more intriguing and complex than you may have thought. And…
Surely this has happened to you: you’re coming to the end of a glorious masturbation session, you’ve got the video cued up to the exact moment and you can feel your orgasm coming on. Right as you feel your pelvic muscles contracting in climax, you drop your phone, tablet or laptop, perhaps even on your…
There’s something about drunk sex that makes me feel like a total porn star. I’m talking feelin’ myself, “yes, daddy!” and willing to try almost anything type of confidence . And from talking with my girlfriends, this is a pretty universal feeling. Drinking helps us meet new people, communicate our desires more openly, and be…
Unbeknownst to many, games are not solely for kids. In fact, there are several games that adults find equally as thrilling. They could be as innocent as the girl next door, you know, like Twister or Monopoly. Or, they could have an element of naughtiness to them. But did you know that if you throw…
Rise and shine! Although some mornings it’s more ‘rise’ than ‘shine’, am I right or what? For the fellas clicking into this article, you’re no doubt familiar with the situation: your eyelids creak open to a slanted ray of sunlight coming through your window blinds. Birds outside are chirping as you yawn and pull away…
The Kama Sutra, written in Sansrift by Indian philosopher, Mallanga Vatsyayana, is not only one of the oldest texts surrounding erotica, but also one that encourages the celebration of sex and spirituality , and educates its readers on how to live a well-balanced, successful, and harmonized life in a meaningful way. And it’s come a…
Curious about anal play? Great! Because there are plenty of resources on trying anal sex for the first time , the very best anal sex positions , and how to enjoy anal sex day (which is on April, 18th FYI). Today however, we’re going to cover other ways to stimulate the anus for both men…
What are they? No, it’s not the female equivalent of a circle-jerk. Otherwise known as pillow talk or pleasure parties, and maybe even the secret thing they used to call “tupperware parties,” sex toy parties are fun and informative gatherings to learn about the latest and greatest personal companions that can do just about everything…
Sex is a fulfilling activity, but also an energy drain. Depending on your age, physical fitness, and the preferred frequency and intensity of your sex sessions, you might want to consider finding ways to replenish your juices and strength afterwards. Here are some tips that will help you stay fresh and ready for new action.…
For many, the word ‘ejaculation’ is often associated with men. We know that when a man achieves orgasm, he releases semen (ejaculates). But when it comes to female ejaculation , things become a bit more controversial. You see, many people doubt that it’s a real thing. And even those who do believe in the ability…