Our sex life is a canary in the coal mine of our well-being, so when things in our life slip out of control, the price for that will be paid in bed. Good thing is the system works in both directions, so if we get our act together, it will inevitably lead to more sexual…
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7 Ways To Spice Things Up in Your Relationship This Spring
With spring just around the corner, you might be looking for new ways to spice things up in your relationship. It’s natural that with nature waking up from the winter slumber and days getting longer, you want to find new and exciting ways to connect with your partner. So, if you’ve been wondering how to…
What Do Men Really Think About During Sex?
It might surprise you that it’s not “Boobs. Boobs. BOOBS.” There are many things that are going through a man’s mind while he’s making love–and yes, there’s a good chance he’s fantasizing about someone or something else. And that’s okay, because you’re probably doing it too! What is he thinking during sex? While making love,…
Anal Edging: Pleasure Games to Blow Your Mind
Edging is the practice of stopping yourself just before you reach orgasm, when you are on the metaphorical “edge” of sexual climax. While originally invented as a treatment for premature ejaculation, edging can help people climax more easily, and enable us to develop control over when those orgasms happen (1). Not only that, it’s also…
Why People with Penises Should Embrace Strap-Ons
For many men and people with penises, it may never even occur to them to try strap-on sex. If one’s parts are functioning as expected they might not see no reason to experiment with such a thing. Society in general has deeply-rooted ideas about masculinity and penises that lead men to regard such playthings as…
What is a Happy Ending Massage? Your Guide on Giving One to Your Partner at Home
You’ve probably heard the term “happy ending” in the movies, social media, and even in magazines where people share their crazy stories from that time they went on vacation. And you’ve probably been curious what all the fuss is about. Is the happy ending common for every message? Is it only reserved for men alone,…
Creating Your Own Personalised Sex Bucket List: 110 Ideas for Passionate Adventures
Familiar with a bucket list? You know, a list of things you simply must do before you die? Maybe you want to visit Thailand. Perhaps you’d like to go swimming with dolphins or get a tattoo? The beauty of a bucket list is that it can be as personal and meaningful as you want it…
The More The Merrier: Sex Toy Bundles
Good things come in threes, and in this case… sometimes two’s. Who doesn’t want more *bang* for their buck? Sex toy bundles are the gift that keeps on giving. Whether they’re for yourself, or someone else. They’re also an awesome way to try out a range of sensations with products that were designed to work…
How To Use a Dual Vibrator for Solo and Partnered Play
Dual vibrators are one of the most popular sex toys on the market. And there is no surprise why. With the wide array of shapes and sizes that they come in, it’s a sex toy worth the attention for enhancing both, solo and partnered play. What Is a Double Vibrator? Double vibrators are sex toys…
The Evolution of Sex Toys: From Dried Camel Dung to AI Technology
When it comes to sex toys, human beings have always been inventive. Long before the emergence of climax machines like the famous ‘rabbit’ and smart luxury toys that can tell what you want before you want it, people had to make do with what nature had to offer. The oldest sex toy known to man…
How To Talk Dirty During Sex Even if You’re Shy
Sex columnist Dan Savage explained the art of talking dirty very simply: “Dirty talk for beginners: Tell ’em what you’re going to do, tell ’em what you’re doing, tell ’em what you did.” This formula sounds perfect, but what if you’re shy and struggle with articulating your thoughts? Not all people are comfortable with voicing…
Does SONA 2 Really Work? A Clinical Study by the University of Almería
The clinical trial was conducted by the University of Almería Center for Neuropsychological Evaluation and Rehabilitation (CERNEP) in correspondence with the bioethics committee. The device used was the SONA 2 clitoral massager by LELO, which uses patented SenSonic technology to stimulate more of the clitoris in comparison with traditional vibrators. Background Information Female pleasure has…
Frotting, An Erotic Rub-a-Dub-Dub
Frotting… a new term you haven’t heard of? Rest assured, you know what it is, you may just have never heard the actual term for it! For some, frotting can be like the male version of scissoring or tribbing. Light bulb moment? Let’s explain… What is Frotting? Frotting is when a penis-owner rubs their penis…
The Best Places To Have Sex at Home That Don’t Include Your Bedroom
Having sex in the bedroom is great. It offers comfort, coziness and it’s a safe space to enjoy yourself and your partner. But if you find yourself getting bored and looking for a way to spice things up, you don’t have to look far to find a solution. In fact, you only have to look…
Showing Your Moves: How To Give Your Partner a Lap Dance
To give your partner a smooth & sultry lap dance, you by no means need to be a professional dancer. Heck, you don’t even need to have a honed sense of rhythm. To perform a lap dance that they won’t soon forget, the main thing you need is a song that makes you want to…
The Female Gaze: The Thrill of Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM)
The notion itself: Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM), doesn’t exactly seem like anything special, does it? Picture a Sunday morning where a female partner is in her pyjamas and her male partner is naked. They’re just hanging out, chatting, making breakfast, or maybe he’s just about to hop into the shower. Now this would be…
What is Outercourse?
Content Warning: This Article Discusses Sexual Trauma and Abuse. Please read with caution if this is a triggering topic for you. If you’re reading this, chances are you’re more than familiar with the term “intercourse”. Maybe it even gives you cringey flashbacks to conversations with your parents, healthcare provider, or sex-ed teacher. Based on…
Aftercare for Vanilla Sex: Why It’s Important and How To Do It Right
Anyone who had dabbled in some BDSM play knows the term “aftercare” well. It’s always repeated over and over again whenever you’re looking for tips on how to start with BDSM. Somehow, people often think that aftercare after vanilla sex, when no whips and chains were involved, is not needed. Like, if you’re having sex…
The Fun of Teasing and Denial
Sex is such a dang joy. When we’re deep in the moment with a partner and things round the corner from hot to sizzling, sometimes it can feel like we’re a deep sea diver, heading straight down, down, down to the final prize all the way at the bottom. In those moments, pleasure is a…
Orgasm Denial, a Sexual Build Up of Intense Pleasure
It may sound like a nightmare, but actually, engaging in orgasm denial (otherwise known as erotic sexual denial) is one of the sexiest ways to build and maintain arousal! And when one finally does climax, well… it’s definitely something you’ll continue to crave. It’s a practice that can be done solo or with a partner,…
Self-Pleasure Is the Key to a Better Partnered Sex
Being single usually has a fairly sad undertone for many people. Movies and media had shaped a certain image of how the life of single people looks like, with tons of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream or endless booze on Friday nights and questionable sex life. But in real life, being single doesn’t have to…
Everything You Need to Know About Caning
We could spend all day wondering what singular moment in our lives sparked our fantasies of rods and canes. Maybe it was the time we spent in Catholic school taught by nuns, or the way we played with the popular, mean girls as children. Whatever brought you to this moment, your interest in caning has…

Sex Talk #2: Megan Barton-Hanson x LELO
We followed up with Megan Barton-Hanson to see what she’s been up to since we last spoke. Here’s the update on her recent orbit around the sun, future adventures, and sex advice for anyone. First of all, happy belated 27th birthday! We’re happy to see Post Malone (even the cardboard version) made it to your…

Want to Boost Your Mood? Research Says Have Happy Sex
March 20th marks International Day of Happiness, and we’re dedicating the latest research to sex and happiness, that is, why sex makes us feel good and what we can do to have sex that makes us happy. What Does Sex Mean? We may ask ourselves, what does sex mean to a woman? What does sex…

The Best Femtech Sexual Wellness Products
What is Femtech? Femtech is a term used to describe products, services, and technologies that support women’s health. It was originally coined by the founder of the popular period-tracking app Clue, Ida Tin. Femtech is an industry full of opportunities that were previously overlooked. Femtech is commonly associated with the following things: Menstruation and period…

Sensual Sex vs. Erotic Sex: Do You Know the Difference?
Indeed, there are different ways to have sex. In fact, sex doesn’t even need to involve penetration at all. Sex can be anything you want it to be! And knowing this is a good thing. It takes one away from the notion that penetrative sex with climax is the end goal , which it really…

Making Waves: A Guide to Solo and Partnered Bathtub Sex
Bath time is such a sensual affair, whether it’s merely to get yourself all cleaned up, to induce feelings of relaxation and rejuvenation, or to experience a bit of cheeky sexy time with yourself or a partner. So, if you’re all about making waves, we’re sure you’re going to love the sound of bathtub sex…

Rewild Your Love Life with Paleo Sex
Rewilding is a sexy idea that gets sexier every day. If we apply the concept to our love life, it can help us have more natural, spontaneous and satisfying sex. What is Rewilding? In conservation biology, it represents a restoration of habitat to its natural state, which might actually be the only thing that can…

Get Cuffed Up! Incorporating Handcuffs in Your Sex Life
There’s just something about restraint that’s so damn sexy. It’s a tantalizing proposition; being presented with pleasures right in front of your face, and then being told no. Having to hold back until you’re about to burst with desire, then being set loose. The best way to toy with restraint is by including handcuffs into…

Using Sex Toys During Partnered Sex—Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
Introducing anything new into the bedroom (or wherever you’re getting it on) can be nerve-racking as it is, especially when it comes to the stigmas so closely tied to sex toys. We’re here to clear the air and offer some tips for communicating new desires with a partner who may not recognize the potential to…

What (and Why) are Cock Cages?
Male chastity—the act of men avoiding or inhibiting their sexual desires—is a huge turn-on for guys seeking submission or building up to a much more explosive release later on. If you’re thinking of something like ‘No Fap November ’, in which males don’t masturbate (or at least try not to) for the entire month, you’re…

Meet the Only Clit Suckers You’ll Ever Need
FACT: Clitoral stimulation is the secret to orgasms for a large majority of those with vulvas and vaginas. Also FACT: Most vibrators stimulate only the tip of the clitoris. SenSonic technology was designed by LELO to stimulate 75% more of the clitoris, and these following toys are so-called “clit suckers” with a twist! Instead of…

The Ultimate Guide to Clitoral and G-Spot Sex Toy Combinations
As if sex toys weren’t already taboo, the thought of using more than one at the same time may have never crossed your mind. Truth is, using a combination of toys can elevate your pleasure and help you discover arousal you haven’t explored before. Combination orgasms account for 27% of women’s orgasms and are a…

Did You Know? Pillow Talk Promotes Sexual and Relationship Satisfaction
For some people, sex and intimacy is a way in which to get rid of any dating jitters or awkwardness. And while it may seem kind of like putting the cart before the horse, the act of sex and engaging in pillow talk could actually create a meaningful emotional bond between two people. This is…

Nipple Play: The Gateway to Increased Arousal!
Oftentimes we look to a woman’s breasts as a sexual part of the body, forgetting that the nipples are too a source of nourishment for offspring. Big, full breasts and hard nipples have the ability to drive people wild, while some women can even climax from nipple stimulation alone. Basically, a woman’s nipples are wondrous…

Four Ways to Maintain a Healthy Sex Life as a Parent
Becoming a parent can add a lot of joy, love, and excitement to your life, but it’s not without some personal costs and challenges. As parents begin to shift their time and attention away from each other and toward their children, they often find it difficult to maintain a healthy intimate life. Indeed, research has…

All About Rabbit Vibes with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
We’ll skip the fluff. Sex therapist Casey Tanner joined us to answer the most frequently asked questions about rabbit vibrators. Discover how they work and if they’d be a great fit for you. Q: What are they, and how do they work? Rabbit vibrators get their name from their shape, as they typically have two…

Is a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) Right for You?
Every single relationship is unique – that’s what makes love so fantastic. Power dynamics, our little shared quirks, the way we approach our love – no two couples are identical when we slice apart how they function. Some love a balance in power, others like when the scales tip in one direction or the other…

LELO SORAYA Wave Rabbit Vibrator: First Impression Review
PROS: Delivers otherworldly G-spot orgasms CONS: Not suitable for living with parents What makes it unique: Wave technology offers direct combination stimulation of clitoris and G-spot Details below! PROS This goes down in personal history for top 3 orgasms of all time. I was unfamiliar with the wave (pinching) technology of this toy and discovered…

How to Navigate Sex with Anxiety—Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
The impact of anxiety on sexuality, and vice versa, is by far the most prevalent concern amongst my clients. Anxiety about sex is an experience that pervades individuals and relationships regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, or body type. Ironically, the relationship between stress and sexuality is a catch-22; research shows anxiety often interferes with…

Beach Sex, Underwater Sex, Sex in the Heat: Q&A with Dr. Zhana
Hi everyone! Dr. Zhana here for another monthly Q&A on LELO’s Instagram. Since it’s been hot lately, we’re gonna talk about self-pleasure in the heat, sex, vacation sex… and any seasonal sex-related things. Q: What is the difference between summer sex and other seasons? Excellent first question! The greatest difference, I think, is the fun…

The Scientific Effects of Weed on Sex
In 2020, the majority of Americans had to learn to live with a new reality… cannabis being legalised across the nation in waves. At the time of writing, in July 2020, it’s completely legal in 11 states and the District of Columbia, and legal for medical use in 28 more states. It seems pretty likely…

Pleasure Is Not A Luxury
Pleasure and luxury go hand in hand at LELO. It’s difficult, then, trying to convince people that pleasure is itself not a luxury. It’s essential. It’s painful, then, to see the results of the Today show in July which said that 46% of American women consider themselves sexually unsatisfied. It should be no real surprise.…

Using Mindfulness to Strengthen Your Relationship
Mindfulness is the state of being conscious or aware of something. It’s the ability to actively live in the present moment, being able to accept and acknowledge one’s own feelings, thoughts, and body in such a way that it induces relaxation and creates awareness without being overwhelmed. And while this therapeutic technique is self-focused, it…

Here’s Everything Your Need to Know About LELO Beads (Classic, Mini, Noir)
You may have been a bit confused the first time you saw an image of LELO Beads, but kegel balls and Ben Wa Balls have been used for centuries. Here are LELO’s favorites, all comfortable, effective and made for better sex. The Benefits of Beads There are two primary reasons why people use beads; 1.…

What Do You Want from Volonte? Help Us, Help You
So many amazing, challenging and sometimes funny questions roll through our inbox each week, and whenever we pick up on a pattern, we know it’s time to write an article covering the recurring topic. Volonte was created in 2011 with the sole purpose of offering sexual wellness advice based on the interest of our readers.…

Painful Penetration – What You Need To Know
Surrendering to the call of our innermost desires is the collective pulse of our humanity. Those moments when we lose ourselves in time with our partner’s tempo transports us beyond ourselves. But when penetration hurts, the transcendent potential of sex eludes you. In those moments, the body is a betrayal. Everyone else seems to lap…

Sex Between Women: How do Lesbians Have Sex?
By now you’ve realized that most mainstream lesbian erotic films are quite literally in the business of producing fantasy, not reality. Thus, many women who are interested in exploring same-sex attraction, may feel ill-prepared to actually pursue another woman for fear of ‘not knowing what to do’ in bed. Below, we take a look at…

Bachelor Party Gift Ideas for Him that are Sexy AF
You are either about to become “someone’s penis forever” or just locked down one of your own, congrats! Now it’s time to gather the boys and show them you care about their pleasure, too. Check out the sexiest bachelor party gift ideas that will be sure to make your future husband or groomsmem blush on…

How to Get Out of Your Head During Sex
The single biggest obstacle people face in the bedroom is being too much in their heads — because that’s what’s behind basically every other sexual issue. If you’re thinking or worrying during sex, this can lead to difficulty getting aroused, orgasming , and truly connecting with your partner. If this is an issue you’ve been…