The single biggest obstacle people face in the bedroom is being too much in their heads — because that’s what’s behind basically every other sexual issue. If you’re thinking or worrying during sex, this can lead to difficulty getting aroused, orgasming , and truly connecting with your partner. If this is an issue you’ve been…
Orgasm Faces. We all have them. We all see them. Most of us, unfortunately, are a bit embarrassed about them. Thanks to Hollywood – the orgasm face has been glamorized and sexualised through films like When Harry Met Sally and the infamous television series Sex in the City. Who could forget the infamous scene where…
Content warning: This article includes mentions of rape and sexual assault. Fantasies; those delicious little half-truths we whisper to ourselves which get our wheels turning and our sexual appetites whet. Perhaps calling them “half-truths” is a euphemistic stretch—but fantasies are never so bound to facts and figures as we tend to be. That is part…
The thing that everyone wants to know the answer to, is how to have great sex . Not just as a one off or occasionally, but consistently. Just type into your search bar ‘How to have a good sex life’ and Google tells me that it has “About 2,680,000,000 results (0.73 seconds)”. That means that…
My partner and I discovered naturism and the joys of naked camping completely by accident five years ago. We were on holiday in France, strolling along a beach on the Atlantic coast when we inadvertently walked across the threshold onto the naturist (nude) beach. We quickly discovered this was far more than just a beach.…
Sex addiction comes with a plethora of negative connotations and preconceived notions. While essences of truth exist in stereotypes, the sex addict archetype of an international playboy with an ostentatious sports car and an icy aortic valve under his tailored suit is in the minority. We heard about sex addiction from a female perspective ,…
Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity for adventurous players and couples to enjoy a mixture of romance and kink. And because there’s no such thing as one-size-fits-all when it comes to love and lust, it would be truly impossible to recommend one date idea or gift that will surely get one’s motor running. Fear not!…
Physical intimacy is one of the most fundamental pillars of a successful marriage. Not only is it essential for a healthy sex life, it also allow couples to remain sensual and connected with each other. However, despite the obvious benefits that are associated with regular physical intimacy and sex, the hectic demands of the 21st…
I’m 35 years old and I work in the creative industry. What I mean to say is that on any given day, I am usually the oldest person in the room; I share office space and work very closely with people 15 years my junior and it definitely makes me feel my age to hear…
If you’re a woman, you may very well have clicked on this article because you yourself have faked an orgasm and you’re curious as to why other women do it. Or perhaps you’re a gentleman reader who has had the sneaking suspicion that you’ve been ‘faked on’? It happens… kind of a lot! And there…
Isn’t technology great? Nowadays, not only can we be completely nude with people thousands of miles away (we’re talking about skype sex , of course), we can also send steamy messages to each other any time we want. According to our data, as many as 71% of women have taken part in the joys of…
The early stages of a new relationship are a fizzy, roiling broth of confusing feelings. One of them that commonly bubbles to the surface is doubt . Amongst the excitement, lust, longing, and all the other positive sensations of a burgeoning relationship, there’s also sometimes an expectation that we will be cheated on, and that…
Dating used to be really hard. REALLY hard. It involved, like, talking to people and networking. You either had to be so magnetically attractive that potential partners would just gravitate towards you, so charming that you could talk the beak off a duck, marry someone you went to school with, or someone you met through…
Did you know that the word ‘honeymoon’ actually holds a negative connotation? In short, the word represents the moon which is ever-changing. It basically suggests that newly weds will experience bliss after their wedding, but just like the moon, their relationship will inevitably change. And this is true of new relationships too. When you start…
It’s inevitable… the honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever. So, whether you’ve been dating for six months, or married for sixty years, those endorphin-fuelled romping sessions you enjoyed with your partner when you first started dating will never quite feel the same again. But that isn’t a bad thing! When you start feeling comfortable with your…
A whirlwind romance definitely comes with its perks. A no-strings-attached confidence boost that sends you springing down the street with a big, fat smile on your face? Yeah, that does sound like a treat, doesn’t it? But life doesn’t always go the way you planned… What happens when the whole ‘casual dating’ thing appears to…
Just a simple disclaimer before we get started here: this is not a list of the best blowjob techniques or nifty new sex positions to try (although if that’s what you want, you will definitely find what you’re looking for on this very blog). What we’re covering in today’s article is all the things that…
This first thing everyone wants to know is how I even got myself into this. So this is how the story goes. I was studying abroad and looking for some extra beer money. Stumbling into a late night job search online (after a few beers of course), I came across a posting that most matched…
First came phone sex ; then it was sexting , and then Skype sex . Now, sensual software is about as ubiquitous as the cell phones they are downloaded on to, with erotic apps now at the forefront of the sex meets tech movement. However, in your search for download-worthy sex applications, you’re sure to…
Whether you’ve been dating for five weeks or going steady for five years, doubt within a relationship (and life in general) is normal. There are a number of different reasons as to why you’re feeling doubtful. Sometimes it’s absolutely called for, and other times it may just be completely irrational. There’s a fine line between…
While being newly single can feel like a weight it lifted off your shoulders, it’s also terrifying, especially if you’ve invested years into a long-term relationship. Putting yourself out there is not easy, and there’s no guide on how to do it, when to do it, or whom to do it with. If only. The…
As humans we automatically assign meaning to nearly everything… especially those who are prone to over analyzing. And for the most part, this is a fair way to live, as the way in which things are said, done, and shown can have different intentions. Take a hug, for example. It’s a universal symbol of comfort,…
Isn’t it funny that, so often, people tend to harbor intense negative feelings towards an ex? Even though at one point they may have seen them as the centre of their universe? A person that you perhaps once thought was ‘the one’ is now someone that you simply cannot stand. But as they say, time…
For ever and a day, we’ve been socialised to believe that true happiness comes when it’s shared… with a romantic partner. All romantic comedies and fairytale storybooks say so, so it has to be true, right? But all jokes aside, our bodies are even built in such a way to support and encourage finding a…
If I had a dollar for every man who ‘confessed’ his sex addiction to me, I’d be very popular at the strip club. “I’m a sex addict.” If that is not a line us ladies have heard at least once by some guy in a bar, have we really played the field as extensively as…
Last week, an interracial couple were refused a wedding by an events company in a Southern US state. This comes on the back of increasing recent coverage featuring gay and queer couples who have been turned away for everything from hotels to birthday and wedding cakes by business owners claiming that their faith, or their…
Congratulations! You’re in love! Or, well, maybe just in like, or almost in like. Regardless of the depth of the connection, you’ve found yourself in the throes of a magical love affair with another person who is no doubt complex and mysterious in ways you can only begin to imagine. One of the best parts…
Finding love in the 21st century is as confusing as ever. As if it wasn’t daunting enough, navigating sex and dating requires deciphering a whole clusterfuck of modern vocab. There’s a lot about dating that’s the same as it ever was, but with these handy terms in your back pocket, you won’t have to nod…
There are gifts that your woman will love, and then there are gifts that your woman will want to make love to, along with you. While a bouquet of roses or a bottle of rose are a nice gesture, the following gifts have some serious potential in adding some heat into the bedroom. We share…
I’ll never forget the time that my bestie and I first admitted to each other that we masturbated. It was after a girlscouts meeting and we were 16. Since then, it’s been nothing but swapping strategies and buying matching vibrators. Now THAT’S next level friendship. View this post on Instagram Poor Sarah suffers from internalized…
Men are simple creatures. That’s what makes us so complicated. We have a strained relationship with sex, us penis-havers. Growing up, I had a friend who could only get off by shutting his dick in the fridge door. He’s married now. Somehow. To a real human woman and everything, not to an Indesit upright refrigerator.…
We’re taking the pain out of shopping for your man and turning it into pleasure. We asked for suggestions from the ladies right here at LELO HQ, who shared their ideas of some special ways to give a gift that keeps on giving. Give Him a Show – Alma, Product Designer ‘I switch it up…
There’s something about going through a particularly brutal breakup that makes you feel utterly and completely human. But also totally dead inside. What a combo, huh? My last breakup was—to put it lightly—a doozy (okay, who am I kidding, all of them have been absolute emotional nightmares). I’m great at falling in love, and terrible at…
Dirty pick up lines – you know, clever phrases that are meant to make a prospective partner drape their arms over the back of your neck and yell ‘TAKE ME NOW!’ into the night air? Surely you know one or two just off the top of your head, but have you ever actually used one?…
Sex writers often try to make the subject of anal sex more approachable by describing people who enjoy it with euphemisms like ‘backdoor aficionados’ and ‘booty hunters.’ But this does it a huge injustice – not to mention, it’s so yukkily saccharine it could give you a sugar-high. Even ‘buttstuff,’ which I sometimes say myself…
Think back to the days of your youth… did your teenage years involve parties and games that were all about kissing? Was your first kiss with the cute guy or gal that you had your eye on in a game of Seven Minutes in Heaven? Well, whether you experienced the blissful activity of kissing-on-demand or…
For many, being naked is something strictly for the bedroom, or when they’re alone in the shower. And sure, it’s definitely not kosher to roam the streets sans clothing. But when it comes to skinny dipping, different rules apply. And that’s a good thing! Why? Well, not only is it a bit of fun, but…
Some things in life are more easy than others. Take 1 + 1 for example. The answer is 2. You just can’t argue with that. But when it comes to matters of the heart, things become a whole lot trickier. And this isn’t news. You’re not the only one who has endured sleepless nights-on-end wondering,…