The single biggest obstacle people face in the bedroom is being too much in their heads — because that’s what’s behind basically every other sexual issue. If you’re thinking or worrying during sex, this can lead to difficulty getting aroused, orgasming , and truly connecting with your partner. If this is an issue you’ve been…
I recently came across a kink known as somnophillia, or sleep kink. I’ve written extensively about all kinds of kinks in the past, there isn’t a lot left out there that shocks me. Or makes me feel uncomfortable. But this kink seemed different. Somnophillia is a kink for a sleeping partner, or for somebody having…
An increasing number of countries worldwide are under various states of lockdown and quarantine due to the COVID-19 virus, including all of the European Union and significant parts of the United States. But being in a state of lockdown is no reason to freak out – remember all those times you wished you had some…
For the past month, and for what is sure to be a few more, the world has been occupied with COVID-19 (coronavirus). From stocking absurd amounts of toilet paper to thinking up the best 20 second songs to wash your hands to, it has been an interesting mix of panic and amusement as we come…
For many of us introverts, the idea of ‘social distancing’ feels like a blessing in a very dangerous disguise. Our governments are advising us all to stay home, to avoid all unnecessary travel, and to keep a roughly two-meter gap between ourselves and others. That’s bad for our social lives, but what does that mean…
To the cynical among us, the common thinking around penises is that ‘if you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. But many owners of penises — men — know that every peen is different and unique in its own way: like snowflakes, with no two the same. Yes, the size and shape of a penis…
I’m 25 years old, and I grew up thinking there were two types of sexes: male and female. I didn’t learn about what being intersex was in high school, and I didn’t really learn about it in college either. At the time, I identified as a cisgendered woman (and still am) with a sexual preference…
It’s the time of year for runny noses, sniffles and coughs. If you’re feeling the effects of a cold or flu, you probably don’t feel much like getting intimate with a partner or practicing self-love while you’re in that state. However, if you’re like this author and believe that an orgasm a day keeps the…
Sex addiction comes with a plethora of negative connotations and preconceived notions. While essences of truth exist in stereotypes, the sex addict archetype of an international playboy with an ostentatious sports car and an icy aortic valve under his tailored suit is in the minority. We heard about sex addiction from a female perspective ,…
We’re midway through February, and you know what that means, right? National Condom Day, of course! What – did you think overpriced five-course meals and ugly heart-shaped jewelry were the only ways to celebrate February 14th? Not so, my amorous amigos and amigas. National Condom Day is a holiday that’s been alive and kicking since…
You’ll often find men and women cursing the opposite sex for one or other reason. “Men!” she may exclaim, after just having had her heart broken (and vice versa). And so, we continue to tell ourselves that men are from Mars and women are from Venus… two totally separate entities that are so indecipherable that…
If you hear ‘Sexual & Reproductive Health Day’ this February 12th and think ‘putting condoms on bananas’, then you might be exactly the people this holiday is for. While safer sex practices are absolutely something that needs to be covered before you start an active sex life, there are unique aspects of your sexual and…
The American novelist Erika Jong said this about porn: “After the first 10 minutes of a porno, I want to go home and screw. After the first 20 minutes, I never want to screw again.” That’s both a great witty little line, but it also describes our complex relationship with pornography. So it’s no wonder…
“What a cutie!” I commented when meeting my nephew for the first time. An adorable redhead who seemingly always smiled. “Poor child will probably get ripped to shreds when he starts school, though,” I said under my breath. “By the time this kid reaches school, being a redhead will probably be cool,” a family member…
There’s no doubt that some people suffer because of their sexual behaviour, and that they have sex in ways that are unhealthy and harmful to them or their friends and family (like spending all their income on sex workers, getting fired from their jobs for masturbating, or continually cheating on partners they promised monogamy to).…
It never fails to amaze me just how little we know about sex . I’ve written frequently about my frustration at the lack of empirical knowledge about the clitoris compared to the understanding of pretty much all of our other anatomy. Another thing we know little about is the difference, or similarity, between men and…
A recent survey showed that around two-thirds of women have faked an orgasm. I suspect the remaining third have faked an answer in a recent survey. That’s not fair, I’m kidding. But it’s safe to say the majority of women have faked an orgasm at some point in their life – or at least given…
Our bodies are weird and wonderful things, aren’t they? As wondrous as they are though, we’ve still got some questions and they’re especially about the male body. For instance, what makes you guys scratch your balls so often? Also, what the hell is a foreskin even for in the first place? This leads us to…
We’re complex creatures. But we tend to become entirely enigmatic in issues of our sexualities. It seems to me that, even in a healthy relationship, our relationship is confused by a poor understanding and a lack of honesty about our sexualities. We lack awareness of our own sexualities, and that of our partners. We just…
You ever show up to work in a particularly good mood and one of your colleagues says, ‘someone got laid last night…’ Well, new evidence suggests that your sex life has a direct, positive influence on your work life. We all tend to bring our work home with us, so doesn’t it make sense that…
There are plenty of contraception options available for those who are able to become pregnant, but you know what they say about the best laid plans! Things rarely work 100% to plan when it comes to getting laid. Thankfully, whether your barrier contraception has failed or otherwise, there is emergency contraception available in many parts…
Fans and owners of vaginas alike (and those who fall into both categories) may argue about which slang terms for this part of this body are sexy vs offensive, but we are here to get technical. We want to take a deep dive (ha!) into the question ‘what is a vagina?’ and more specifically, is…
Have you ever felt just a little bit different when it comes to how you feel desire for other people? While gender, sexuality and desire will never feel exactly the same for any two people, some of the common cultural narratives we have exist because, well, they’re common. But, those ‘common’ experiences of love and…
While more than one straight male has lamented that they’re competing with ‘batteries’ when it comes to women they’re interested in. But, in a game of orgasms, are there really any losing sides? Still, it can get in our heads, and coupled with a lack of information about masturbation in general, plenty of sex toy…
December 1st marks World AIDS Day, and while many people don’t think they relate to this holiday, it’s a day we should all be celebrating– whether that be celebrating our friends living with AIDS or celebrating the long way science has come in educating us about this disease. A lot has changed, but that doesn’t…
Very soon after its publication in 2011, ’50 Shades’ became a dirty word in the adult and kink communities and industries. We quickly learned to hate it. Not necessarily the book, but the fact that we had all become Christian Grey’s submissives over night. We just couldn’t escape it. I was at an erotic poetry…
As we’ve covered so extensively here before, sex and pleasure are very beneficial to your mental as well as your physical wellbeing . Sex, with its rush of endorphins and other happy brain chemicals – not to mention the exercise you get – is a great way to relieve stress. And it’s true, sex can…
Has someone caught your eye? Or maybe your loins are burning with desire when it comes to that cute barrister that serves you your morning coffee? Sure, maybe it wasn’t love at first sight, but there is another way that you can capture the heart and private parts of the person you’re pining after… or…
Being a Psychosexual Therapist, or Sex Therapist is less scandalous than the title would indicate. In the way that I see it, it’s the art of having open conversations and solving challenges around sex. The reasons that people attend psychosexual therapy are as varied as we all are individual; and really it’s about anything to…
Casual sex already has a bad reputation. But could it be directly linked to depression and anxiety? It’s something a lot of young people worry about, and it’s a scary thought that something as good as sex might cause psychological problems. Academics, health professionals, and the media alike have all expressed concerns that hooking up…
The cum that comes before the cum – is pre-cum! Otherwise known as pre-ejaculate in more professional or formal parlance, you have no doubt encountered it before. The clear-ish fluid, which you’ll notice seeping out of the tip of his penis when he’s aroused, plays an important role in men’s reproductive responses. However there’s much…
Hi everyone, Dr. Zhana here! Let’s answer some questions! To start off with, “Is it healthy to masturbate?” The answer is: absolutely yes! There are so many benefits to masturbation and virtually no downsides! So go ahead and explore! Dildo or vibrator? That depends on what kind of stimulation you’re going for. If you just…
This first thing everyone wants to know is how I even got myself into this. So this is how the story goes. I was studying abroad and looking for some extra beer money. Stumbling into a late night job search online (after a few beers of course), I came across a posting that most matched…
Lawyer? Porn star? Pilot? Accountant? Our sex hormones influence every facet of a life, and none more so than our career choices. Our sexualities direct affect the kind of occupations we eventually choose, according to psychologists. A study out of the psychology department at Penn State suggests that our interest in working with things, as…
There is real, solid science that shows the brain activity of young transgender people more closely resembles the brain patterns of the gender they believe they are than the gender they were assigned at birth. Transgenderism is the experience of, or identification with, a gender different from the one they were assigned at birth. Gender…
In the span of three to four decades, HIV/AIDS has swept the entire world, making it a pandemic affecting millions. And to think that at the beginning of the 1980’s, medical professionals believed that it was Kaposi’s Sarcoma, a fairly harmless cancer, while seeing cases of pneumonia rise considerably. By 1981, the first diagnosis of…
Right now, as you’re reading this, there are hundreds of thousands of people watching porn. Around one million years’ worth of porn was watched last year, and 20 porn videos were watched for every person on Earth. You know how it’s said that if everyone in America were to jump in the air and land…
Maybe you’re a committed health freak, or maybe you just like having sexy time. Either way, we’ve got good news for you. Displaying affection and doing the dirty with your partner leads to better emotional and physical well-being. The following list will convince you to never not have sex again. Let’s Start With Foreplay (Don’t…
As humans we automatically assign meaning to nearly everything… especially those who are prone to over analyzing. And for the most part, this is a fair way to live, as the way in which things are said, done, and shown can have different intentions. Take a hug, for example. It’s a universal symbol of comfort,…
Pansexuality is the sexual attraction to cooking equipment. That is not true. Pansexuality is an identity gaining more and more acceptance at the moment. It can be broadly defined as an attraction of one kind or another to other people regardless of their sexual or gender identity. The word was originally a psychological term with…
As we come out of the other side of this year’s Sexual Health Week, we reflect and consider what has been achieved in the step towards developing a more sex positive culture and society, and this year it was so needed; the theme being Relationships, Sex & Disability. There are so many misconceptions about sexuality…
I’d forgive you if you believed that spooning was the best sex position when you have a bad back. After all, spooning leads to forking, am I right? Am I right? I’ll see myself out. But a group of scientists recently studied the way the spine moves during sex to document which positions are best…
If you haven’t guessed by now, we are super sex-positive and all for you getting laid (if you want to, of course). Abstinence may be the way for some people, but we do know that those who want to have sex are probably going to have it. Sex can be really amazing, but it is…
Growing up in a heteronormative world can be super confusing for any of us. On top of that, bisexuality is this massive spectrum and while the logistics of that are a whole different topic on their own, a lot of people assume it’s simply a 50/50 attraction. Newsflash, nothing’s ever that simple. This Bisexuality Day,…
If you’re contemplating a new sex toy purchases – or even buying your very first sex toy – then there are a lot of considerations to make. Do you want a toy that’s primarily for solo use, or a sex toy to use during coupled play ? Which part of your anatomy are you looking…
These ten filthy sex memes will cause your boyfriend to either laugh or pop a boner. And there’s only one way to find out. Warning: You might even need to take a shower after these. View this post on Instagram (@tinderonians) A post shared by arielle egozi (@ladysavaj) on Sep 19, 2018 at 4:46am PDT…
By all rights, and by every metric, sex on a plane should be rubbish. There’s not enough room, you’re bending over a toilet that’s potentially been used by 40 strangers, and there’s probably a queue of increasingly uncomfortable people impatiently waiting for you to finish outside the 3 milimeter thick door. It shouldn’t be sexy,…
A big part of preventive healthcare is checking in annually to see if everything is being taken care of. On September 4th, we’re utilizing World Sexual Health Day to remember that sexual health is also part of our overall well being. The thought of a physical or getting an STI (sexually transmitted infection ) test…
What do you think of when you hear the term ‘women’s erotica’? Is it a Danielle Steel novel filled with romance? Or perhaps a short story rife with emotion and sexual tension? Well, both of these examples are, in fact, women’s erotica, but the true meaning is actually a lot broader than you may have…
Estimates vary from 3 to 7 inches, but vaginas are pretty tricky when it comes to nailing their size down exactly, simply because it changes so easily! Think of a vagina as an umbrella, rather than a tube. Normally ft it is folded in on itself, but has the ability to open up to accommodate…