Sex is such a dang joy. When we’re deep in the moment with a partner and things round the corner from hot to sizzling, sometimes it can feel like we’re a deep sea diver, heading straight down, down, down to the final prize all the way at the bottom. In those moments, pleasure is a…
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How Do You have Underwater Sex?
If you’ve been wondering about how to enjoy an even wetter and wilder time with a partner, then surely you’ve thought about doing it underwater. The underwater realm is, after all, the wettest place imaginable. However (and this is a pretty big HOWEVER), before you go and get your snorkel, there’s something you’ve got to…
Everything You Need to Know About Gender, Sexuality and PRIDE—Dr. Zhana Q&A
Hi everyone, it’s Dr. Zhana! It’s time to answer your questions about sexual orientation and LGBTQ-related topics for Pride Month. I got some really good questions and I’m really excited to answer them. Q: I know gender is not binary, but is sex binary? All right, let’s start with the basics. Gender is more about…
What’s ‘Second Base’ These Days, Sexually Speaking?
Whether you’re a pinch hitter in middle school or a relief pitcher who’s been to the mound a few times, you’re probably like us and very, very confused by all the baseball terminology that pop culture has made so famous. We’re of course talking about the different bases correlating to different levels of intimacy with…
The Arousing and Life-Saving Benefits of A Breast Massage
Breasts… a versatile, life-giving part of the body! And while we often think only of women when it comes to nipples, men have nipples because they’re formed early on during the gestation period. This makes them an erogenous zone for the lads too! Not as much so as for women, however, but still a pleasure…
Try Slow Sex if You Want the Most Intense Orgasms of Your Life
Usually, when it’s time to get frisky, we tend to get so excited that we just rush through the whole experience and be done in less than ten minutes. Sometimes, the quick and dirty “Bham wham, thank you, ma’am” type of sex is hot and works wonders when you just want to release some tension. …
4 Reasons Why Hotel Sex Is So Much Better Than Sex at Home
If you’ve been looking for ways to spice up your sex life and bring in some fresh air into your bedroom, you might want to think about taking it outside your bedroom. To be more specific–you should think about trying hotel sex. Many people consider hotel sex to be so much hotter and better than…
Getting Started with Sex Chairs
To think of ‘sex furniture’ may bring to mind straps and swings hanging from the rafters of Christian Gray’s red room, however there’s so much more to them than that. Rather than just being kinky accoutrements (which they certainly can be), they are great erotic aides that open up more possibilities for people of all…
International Sex Guide: 5 LGBTQ+ Friendly & Sex-Positive Cities Around the World
So you’re looking for a few fun, flirty, and cheeky activities in a new location! Or maybe you’re just stumped finding something sexy to do in your city? Well, the world is actually your sensual aphrodisiac oyster! There are tons of thrilling things to do worldwide! And with our international sex guide, you’ll surely be…
3 Tips for Having a Successful Threesome
This article was written by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller. Having a threesome is the single most popular sexual fantasy. I surveyed more than 4,000 American adults about their most intimate thoughts for my book Tell Me What You Want and one of the key things I discovered when I looked at people’s biggest sexual…
Disabled Sex: How to Have Great Sex with Limited Mobility
This article was written by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller. Sex and disability is a topic that is not often discussed. It is rarely—if ever—addressed in sex education courses, and few doctors are comfortable talking about sexual issues with disabled patients. Part of the reason for this is because disabled persons are often stereotyped as…
How To Use Clit Sucker SILA with Your Partner
Below is your guide for incorporating sex toys, and clit suckers in particular, into partnered sex. Check out our product recommendations, sex positions, and some interesting stats! Having sex with toys Introducing sex toys into a relationship can be intimidating, especially towards male partners who can feel threatened by the idea. The truth is that…
Mastering the Art of Tantric Massage
Enhance your foreplay routine with a deeply spiritual and highly erotic form of massage. That is, a tantric massage. This sensual act is a meaningful way to connect with your partner, and to share and vibe off of each other’s sexual energies. And by engaging in this practice, you’ll not only heighten your state of…
How to Give Him the Best Double Blowjob
In a world that’s saturated with items, ideas, and activities that increase our pleasure, it’s only logical that two mouths on a dick are more pleasurable than one, right? Honestly, what are the chances of one saying, “Oh, no thank you! I’d prefer just one person giving me a blowie right now!” (Side note: I…
Sensual Sex vs. Erotic Sex: Do You Know the Difference?
Indeed, there are different ways to have sex. In fact, sex doesn’t even need to involve penetration at all. Sex can be anything you want it to be! And knowing this is a good thing. It takes one away from the notion that penetrative sex with climax is the end goal , which it really…
Using Sex Toys During Partnered Sex—Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
Introducing anything new into the bedroom (or wherever you’re getting it on) can be nerve-racking as it is, especially when it comes to the stigmas so closely tied to sex toys. We’re here to clear the air and offer some tips for communicating new desires with a partner who may not recognize the potential to…
The Ultimate Guide to Clitoral and G-Spot Sex Toy Combinations
As if sex toys weren’t already taboo, the thought of using more than one at the same time may have never crossed your mind. Truth is, using a combination of toys can elevate your pleasure and help you discover arousal you haven’t explored before. Combination orgasms account for 27% of women’s orgasms and are a…
Four Ways to Maintain a Healthy Sex Life as a Parent
Becoming a parent can add a lot of joy, love, and excitement to your life, but it’s not without some personal costs and challenges. As parents begin to shift their time and attention away from each other and toward their children, they often find it difficult to maintain a healthy intimate life. Indeed, research has…
Instagram Live “Communication and Sex” Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
Queer sex therapist Casey Tanner took over LELO’s Instagram live to offer some amazing feedback on all sorts of topics—communication, boundary setting, PTSD, fetishes and more. Check out what she had to say about your questions! How do our bodies’ physical responses to sex encourage and/or limit our verbal communication? Our bodies are constantly communicating…
How to Have a FMF Threesome as a Feminist
Ok, so you’ve decided to have a threesome. Cool. The first thing I’m going to say is this: your sex life does not define you. It says absolutely nothing about what kind of woman you are or about your values and beliefs. It took me a long time to really understand this, and when my…
With Consent, of Course, Here’s How to Initiate Sex
Let’s get straight to it… you should be enjoying (more) sex! Whether it’s for all of the added mental and physical health benefits , pleasure, or even to strengthen your relationship. But for couples who don’t instinctively ‘hop to it’ like rabbits every hour on the hour, (do these people even exist?!) intiating sex can…
Birthday Sex Ideas That Are More Delicious Than Cake
Birthday sex—there’s just something about the way those two luscious words roll off the tip of your tongue that makes you immediately think, “Yes, please.” Maybe it brings to mind the image of a sexy bikini-clad gal emerging from an extra-large, heavily frosted birthday cake, or maybe you hear Jeremih’s 2009 hit song of the…
Here’s Everything You Should Know Before You Have Sex For The First Time
Having sex for the first time can mean a lot of different things to different people, but when it comes to doing the dirty there are still a few things to take into consideration going into it, from whether we’re really ready to have sex at that moment to which type of protection we want…
Things I’d Tell a Younger Me About Sex & Romance
I’m 35 years old and I work in the creative industry. What I mean to say is that on any given day, I am usually the oldest person in the room; I share office space and work very closely with people 15 years my junior and it definitely makes me feel my age to hear…
Does a High Sex Drive Equal a Sex Addiction?
There’s no doubt that some people suffer because of their sexual behaviour, and that they have sex in ways that are unhealthy and harmful to them or their friends and family (like spending all their income on sex workers, getting fired from their jobs for masturbating, or continually cheating on partners they promised monogamy to).…
LELO Tips: How to Make a Sex Tape
Are you and your partner a pair of erotic auteurs? In this day and age, when we all have the equivalent of a hi-def camera in our pockets, there seems to be no better and easier time than now, no? With the right person — and ALWAYS with their knowledge and consent — making a…
Get in the Mood! 6 Ways to Reignite the Fire in Your Sex Life
It’s inevitable… the honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever. So, whether you’ve been dating for six months, or married for sixty years, those endorphin-fuelled romping sessions you enjoyed with your partner when you first started dating will never quite feel the same again. But that isn’t a bad thing! When you start feeling comfortable with your…
How Edging Helped Me Learn to Have Better Orgasms
It wasn’t until recently that I realized what I was doing even had a name. That bringing myself close to orgasm—and then quickly pulling away at the very last moment—was a sexy technique commonly referred to as edging. How this game first made its way into my bedroom repertoire remains a mystery, but I do…
Give a Hand for International Fisting Day!
Come one, come all to celebrate one of my all time favorite holidays – INTERNATIONAL FISTING DAY! October 21, 2019 marks the ninth year of this beautiful holiday, originally brought to this Earth by queer porn performers and activists Jiz Lee and Courtney Trouble . International Fisting Day is an annual celebration that brings awareness…
It’s National Hand Job Day in Japan
Personally, we think hand jobs are totally underrated and it seems like the Japanese agree with us. Today, we’re breaking down that stigma and elevating our pleasure game with a simple guideline that will get you through Hand Job Day with flying covers. I mean… colors. The word “onanii” means masturbation in Japanese, which is…
Your Guide to a Sexy, Safe & Guilt-Free College Sex Experience
Goodbye high school, hello adulthood! Embarking on the college experience is both exhilarating and frightening at the same time. And if you’re brand new to the game, you’re in for one heck of a rollercoaster adventure (for the old-timers, you know what we’re talking about!). Whichever phase of college you’re in though, the following tips…
No More Tiptoeing: The Foot Fetish, Explained
Among all the fetishes (and there are many!) in the world, a foot fetish is one of the most prevalent. In fact, it has been found to be the most fetishised part of the body, excluding the genitals. But having a foot fetish is far more intriguing and complex than you may have thought. And…
Post sexual-rejuvenation practices
Sex is a fulfilling activity, but also an energy drain. Depending on your age, physical fitness, and the preferred frequency and intensity of your sex sessions, you might want to consider finding ways to replenish your juices and strength afterwards. Here are some tips that will help you stay fresh and ready for new action.…
The Definitive Guide To Fingering
It seems that fingering is underestimated and is considered at best an optional element of foreplay. But in fact, it is a full-fledged sexual practice, which can give a completely new idea about sex. Fingering techniques often spread like wildfire. They are exchanged between partners, they are invented from scratch by couples, and they are…
The Definitive Guide To Cunnilingus
Studies say that most women find it easier to reach orgasm if sex involves cunnilingus. Cunnilingus helps to relax, focus on yourself and your feelings – perhaps more subtle and diverse than with vaginal sex. It can last from five minutes to an hour. It may lead to orgasm it can be just a part…
The Definitive Guide To Fingering
It seems that fingering is underestimated and is considered at best an optional element of foreplay. But in fact, it is a full-fledged sexual practice, which can give a completely new idea about sex. Fingering techniques often spread like wildfire. They are exchanged between partners, they are invented from scratch by couples, and they are…
The Definitive Guide To Cunnilingus
Studies say that most women find it easier to reach orgasm if sex involves cunnilingus. Cunnilingus helps to relax, focus on yourself and your feelings – perhaps more subtle and diverse than with vaginal sex. It can last from five minutes to an hour. It may lead to orgasm it can be just a part…