The notion itself: Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM), doesn’t exactly seem like anything special, does it? Picture a Sunday morning where a female partner is in her pyjamas and her male partner is naked. They’re just hanging out, chatting, making breakfast, or maybe he’s just about to hop into the shower. Now this would be…
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What is Outercourse?
Content Warning: This Article Discusses Sexual Trauma and Abuse. Please read with caution if this is a triggering topic for you. If you’re reading this, chances are you’re more than familiar with the term “intercourse”. Maybe it even gives you cringey flashbacks to conversations with your parents, healthcare provider, or sex-ed teacher. Based on…
Aftercare for Vanilla Sex: Why It’s Important and How To Do It Right
Anyone who had dabbled in some BDSM play knows the term “aftercare” well. It’s always repeated over and over again whenever you’re looking for tips on how to start with BDSM. Somehow, people often think that aftercare after vanilla sex, when no whips and chains were involved, is not needed. Like, if you’re having sex…
The Fun of Teasing and Denial
Sex is such a dang joy. When we’re deep in the moment with a partner and things round the corner from hot to sizzling, sometimes it can feel like we’re a deep sea diver, heading straight down, down, down to the final prize all the way at the bottom. In those moments, pleasure is a…
Orgasm Denial, a Sexual Build Up of Intense Pleasure
It may sound like a nightmare, but actually, engaging in orgasm denial (otherwise known as erotic sexual denial) is one of the sexiest ways to build and maintain arousal! And when one finally does climax, well… it’s definitely something you’ll continue to crave. It’s a practice that can be done solo or with a partner,…
Self-Pleasure Is the Key to a Better Partnered Sex
Being single usually has a fairly sad undertone for many people. Movies and media had shaped a certain image of how the life of single people looks like, with tons of Ben & Jerry’s ice cream or endless booze on Friday nights and questionable sex life. But in real life, being single doesn’t have to…
Everything You Need to Know About Caning
We could spend all day wondering what singular moment in our lives sparked our fantasies of rods and canes. Maybe it was the time we spent in Catholic school taught by nuns, or the way we played with the popular, mean girls as children. Whatever brought you to this moment, your interest in caning has…
Sex Talk #2: Megan Barton-Hanson x LELO
We followed up with Megan Barton-Hanson to see what she’s been up to since we last spoke. Here’s the update on her recent orbit around the sun, future adventures, and sex advice for anyone. First of all, happy belated 27th birthday! We’re happy to see Post Malone (even the cardboard version) made it to your…
Want to Boost Your Mood? Research Says Have Happy Sex
March 20th marks International Day of Happiness, and we’re dedicating the latest research to sex and happiness, that is, why sex makes us feel good and what we can do to have sex that makes us happy. What Does Sex Mean? We may ask ourselves, what does sex mean to a woman? What does sex…
The Best Femtech Sexual Wellness Products
What is Femtech? Femtech is a term used to describe products, services, and technologies that support women’s health. It was originally coined by the founder of the popular period-tracking app Clue, Ida Tin. Femtech is an industry full of opportunities that were previously overlooked. Femtech is commonly associated with the following things: Menstruation and period…
Sensual Sex vs. Erotic Sex: Do You Know the Difference?
Indeed, there are different ways to have sex. In fact, sex doesn’t even need to involve penetration at all. Sex can be anything you want it to be! And knowing this is a good thing. It takes one away from the notion that penetrative sex with climax is the end goal , which it really…
Making Waves: A Guide to Solo and Partnered Bathtub Sex
Bath time is such a sensual affair, whether it’s merely to get yourself all cleaned up, to induce feelings of relaxation and rejuvenation, or to experience a bit of cheeky sexy time with yourself or a partner. So, if you’re all about making waves, we’re sure you’re going to love the sound of bathtub sex…
Rewild Your Love Life with Paleo Sex
Rewilding is a sexy idea that gets sexier every day. If we apply the concept to our love life, it can help us have more natural, spontaneous and satisfying sex. What is Rewilding? In conservation biology, it represents a restoration of habitat to its natural state, which might actually be the only thing that can…
Get Cuffed Up! Incorporating Handcuffs in Your Sex Life
There’s just something about restraint that’s so damn sexy. It’s a tantalizing proposition; being presented with pleasures right in front of your face, and then being told no. Having to hold back until you’re about to burst with desire, then being set loose. The best way to toy with restraint is by including handcuffs into…
Using Sex Toys During Partnered Sex—Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
Introducing anything new into the bedroom (or wherever you’re getting it on) can be nerve-racking as it is, especially when it comes to the stigmas so closely tied to sex toys. We’re here to clear the air and offer some tips for communicating new desires with a partner who may not recognize the potential to…
What (and Why) are Cock Cages?
Male chastity—the act of men avoiding or inhibiting their sexual desires—is a huge turn-on for guys seeking submission or building up to a much more explosive release later on. If you’re thinking of something like ‘No Fap November ’, in which males don’t masturbate (or at least try not to) for the entire month, you’re…
Meet the Only Clit Suckers You’ll Ever Need
FACT: Clitoral stimulation is the secret to orgasms for a large majority of those with vulvas and vaginas. Also FACT: Most vibrators stimulate only the tip of the clitoris. SenSonic technology was designed by LELO to stimulate 75% more of the clitoris, and these following toys are so-called “clit suckers” with a twist! Instead of…
The Ultimate Guide to Clitoral and G-Spot Sex Toy Combinations
As if sex toys weren’t already taboo, the thought of using more than one at the same time may have never crossed your mind. Truth is, using a combination of toys can elevate your pleasure and help you discover arousal you haven’t explored before. Combination orgasms account for 27% of women’s orgasms and are a…
Did You Know? Pillow Talk Promotes Sexual and Relationship Satisfaction
For some people, sex and intimacy is a way in which to get rid of any dating jitters or awkwardness. And while it may seem kind of like putting the cart before the horse, the act of sex and engaging in pillow talk could actually create a meaningful emotional bond between two people. This is…
Nipple Play: The Gateway to Increased Arousal!
Oftentimes we look to a woman’s breasts as a sexual part of the body, forgetting that the nipples are too a source of nourishment for offspring. Big, full breasts and hard nipples have the ability to drive people wild, while some women can even climax from nipple stimulation alone. Basically, a woman’s nipples are wondrous…
Four Ways to Maintain a Healthy Sex Life as a Parent
Becoming a parent can add a lot of joy, love, and excitement to your life, but it’s not without some personal costs and challenges. As parents begin to shift their time and attention away from each other and toward their children, they often find it difficult to maintain a healthy intimate life. Indeed, research has…
All About Rabbit Vibes with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
We’ll skip the fluff. Sex therapist Casey Tanner joined us to answer the most frequently asked questions about rabbit vibrators. Discover how they work and if they’d be a great fit for you. Q: What are they, and how do they work? Rabbit vibrators get their name from their shape, as they typically have two…
Is a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) Right for You?
Every single relationship is unique – that’s what makes love so fantastic. Power dynamics, our little shared quirks, the way we approach our love – no two couples are identical when we slice apart how they function. Some love a balance in power, others like when the scales tip in one direction or the other…
LELO SORAYA Wave Rabbit Vibrator: First Impression Review
PROS: Delivers otherworldly G-spot orgasms CONS: Not suitable for living with parents What makes it unique: Wave technology offers direct combination stimulation of clitoris and G-spot Details below! PROS This goes down in personal history for top 3 orgasms of all time. I was unfamiliar with the wave (pinching) technology of this toy and discovered…
How to Navigate Sex with Anxiety—Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
The impact of anxiety on sexuality, and vice versa, is by far the most prevalent concern amongst my clients. Anxiety about sex is an experience that pervades individuals and relationships regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, or body type. Ironically, the relationship between stress and sexuality is a catch-22; research shows anxiety often interferes with…
Beach Sex, Underwater Sex, Sex in the Heat: Q&A with Dr. Zhana
Hi everyone! Dr. Zhana here for another monthly Q&A on LELO’s Instagram. Since it’s been hot lately, we’re gonna talk about self-pleasure in the heat, sex, vacation sex… and any seasonal sex-related things. Q: What is the difference between summer sex and other seasons? Excellent first question! The greatest difference, I think, is the fun…
The Scientific Effects of Weed on Sex
In 2020, the majority of Americans had to learn to live with a new reality… cannabis being legalised across the nation in waves. At the time of writing, in July 2020, it’s completely legal in 11 states and the District of Columbia, and legal for medical use in 28 more states. It seems pretty likely…
Pleasure Is Not A Luxury
Pleasure and luxury go hand in hand at LELO. It’s difficult, then, trying to convince people that pleasure is itself not a luxury. It’s essential. It’s painful, then, to see the results of the Today show in July which said that 46% of American women consider themselves sexually unsatisfied. It should be no real surprise.…
Using Mindfulness to Strengthen Your Relationship
Mindfulness is the state of being conscious or aware of something. It’s the ability to actively live in the present moment, being able to accept and acknowledge one’s own feelings, thoughts, and body in such a way that it induces relaxation and creates awareness without being overwhelmed. And while this therapeutic technique is self-focused, it…
Here’s Everything Your Need to Know About LELO Beads (Classic, Mini, Noir)
You may have been a bit confused the first time you saw an image of LELO Beads, but kegel balls and Ben Wa Balls have been used for centuries. Here are LELO’s favorites, all comfortable, effective and made for better sex. The Benefits of Beads There are two primary reasons why people use beads; 1.…
What Do You Want from Volonte? Help Us, Help You
So many amazing, challenging and sometimes funny questions roll through our inbox each week, and whenever we pick up on a pattern, we know it’s time to write an article covering the recurring topic. Volonte was created in 2011 with the sole purpose of offering sexual wellness advice based on the interest of our readers.…
Painful Penetration – What You Need To Know
Surrendering to the call of our innermost desires is the collective pulse of our humanity. Those moments when we lose ourselves in time with our partner’s tempo transports us beyond ourselves. But when penetration hurts, the transcendent potential of sex eludes you. In those moments, the body is a betrayal. Everyone else seems to lap…
Sex Between Women: How do Lesbians Have Sex?
By now you’ve realized that most mainstream lesbian erotic films are quite literally in the business of producing fantasy, not reality. Thus, many women who are interested in exploring same-sex attraction, may feel ill-prepared to actually pursue another woman for fear of ‘not knowing what to do’ in bed. Below, we take a look at…
Bachelor Party Gift Ideas for Him that are Sexy AF
You are either about to become “someone’s penis forever” or just locked down one of your own, congrats! Now it’s time to gather the boys and show them you care about their pleasure, too. Check out the sexiest bachelor party gift ideas that will be sure to make your future husband or groomsmem blush on…
How to Get Out of Your Head During Sex
The single biggest obstacle people face in the bedroom is being too much in their heads — because that’s what’s behind basically every other sexual issue. If you’re thinking or worrying during sex, this can lead to difficulty getting aroused, orgasming , and truly connecting with your partner. If this is an issue you’ve been…
Birthday Sex Ideas That Are More Delicious Than Cake
Birthday sex—there’s just something about the way those two luscious words roll off the tip of your tongue that makes you immediately think, “Yes, please.” Maybe it brings to mind the image of a sexy bikini-clad gal emerging from an extra-large, heavily frosted birthday cake, or maybe you hear Jeremih’s 2009 hit song of the…
7 Reasons to Stimulate Your Clit in the Shower or Bath
When it comes to masturbation, most people keep it confined to the privacy of their bedroom. But there are many fantastic reasons to be more adventurous with your vibrator if you consider changing things up. Nowadays, there are a great range of waterproof vibrators and couples’ toys that are perfect for stimulation in the shower…
Nipple Orgasms: Are They Real?
You might’ve heard of different kinds of orgasms, like clitoral orgasms, G-spot orgasms, and prostate orgasms — but orgasms don’t actually even have to stem from genital touch. Some people actually report orgasming just from nipple play. The nipples are densely packed with nerve endings, and one study found that they’re connected to the same…
Answering “What Is Sex” May Not Be As Straightforward As You Think
You may have been told that sex is ‘something a man and woman do when they love each other very much,’ but we’re guessing that somewhere in your teens you discovered that definition definitely doesn’t cover the width and breadth of sensual activity. Sex, for being such an (almost) universal experience, is something you’d…
How to Optimize Your Sex Life Based on Your Menstrual Cycle
Throughout the menstrual cycle, your hormones are undergoing lots of changes , so it makes sense that your sexual preferences and needs might shift as well. But rarely do we pay attention to the ways our menstrual cycles affect us in the bedroom. According to Alisa Vitti, functional nutritionist, creator of the MyFlo period-tracking app…
Why Everyone Should Try A Nude Camping Holiday
My partner and I discovered naturism and the joys of naked camping completely by accident five years ago. We were on holiday in France, strolling along a beach on the Atlantic coast when we inadvertently walked across the threshold onto the naturist (nude) beach. We quickly discovered this was far more than just a beach.…
Spring Forward By Taking a Step Back and Appreciating Your Partner
We hear a lot about ‘spicing it up ’ and helping couples to keep the spark alive , particularly during the Hallmark holidays, but what perhaps is more important than focusing on making one day amazing, different or making a huge effort to show our partners that we love them; is to take that initiative…
Sneaky Tips For Having Sex During The Holidays
Let’s face it – just because it’s the holidays doesn’t mean that the super sweet carnal desire for some intimate one-on-one time with your partner (or, you know, the person from high school you only see once a year) suddenly goes by the wayside. In fact, with all the stress that the holidays bring, and…
Recipes for Better Sex: An Aphrodisiac Meal Plan
For thousands of years, people have searched for edible items to guarantee peak sexual performance and pleasure. Ancient Romans swore by hippo snouts, while even now, tiger penis is thought to be a libido booster in China. Luckily for you (and these animals), there are healthier and more palatable foods that give you longer-lasting results…
How Edging Helped Me Learn to Have Better Orgasms
It wasn’t until recently that I realized what I was doing even had a name. That bringing myself close to orgasm—and then quickly pulling away at the very last moment—was a sexy technique commonly referred to as edging. How this game first made its way into my bedroom repertoire remains a mystery, but I do…
Sex Mistakes You’re Probably Making (And How to Avoid Them)
Just a simple disclaimer before we get started here: this is not a list of the best blowjob techniques or nifty new sex positions to try (although if that’s what you want, you will definitely find what you’re looking for on this very blog). What we’re covering in today’s article is all the things that…
The Science of Sex Sounds
So what kind do you make while having sex? Are you a moaner, a grunter or do you stay as quiet as a church mouse throughout the entire affair? Making noises during sex – as well as making no noises at all – is completely natural, and they happen for different reasons. Do you make…
Electronic Sex Toys: Hall Of Flame 🔥
We’re well into the 21st century and if you don’t have an electronic sex toy by now, you might want to check if you’re stuck in a time capsule. If we have speakers that do our grocery shopping, and cars that drive themselves, certainly there’s a sex toy that can level up your sex life.…
Dream Places to Have Sex (And Their Alternatives)
The average LELO lover is a well-heeled sort; a globetrotter who has traversed the continents and zigzagged the map with their wild wanderings. And because you’re reading this now, we can (rightly) assume that you yourself have felt the urge to turn that next corner or crest that next hill, if only to see what’s…
Top Sex Tips Ever
There are many sources of advice today to make our sex lives more exciting. Friends, magazines, movies and the Internet are just a few. The physical intimacy that sex provides cannot be trivialised. Below are some tips from experts providing guidance for a healthier sex life. Lucy SniderPsychosexual, Relationship & Sexual Health Therapist www.bcsexualwellness.com…