This article was scientifically reviewed by Human Sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz. She is a professor, researcher, private practitioner and Fellow of the American Psychological Association. 1. It’s More Than Meets the Eye A 3D model of the clitoris is just starting to make its rounds in Sex Ed. Classes, and honestly it’s about time. Everyone…
The term “sexual wellness” gets thrown around a lot these days. We even use it often here at Lelo – and for good reason. We’re in the midst of a sexual revolution. People have more access to sexual education, resources, toys, and more than ever before. There are more honest conversations about what it means to…
What would you say if I told you that there are celibacy benefits that can improve your sex life? Yes, you’ve heard that right – not having sex can indeed make your sex life better! Celibacy doesn’t have the best reputation. And there is a good reason why people are hesitant about it. With it…
Have you ever considered how gratitude impacts your sexual satisfaction and relationship? Gratitude is a common mindfulness practice that focuses on finding good things in life and feeling grateful for them. What recent research has found is that feeling grateful about things in life not only improves overall happiness levels but can also greatly affect…
Does it seem like both you and your partner are living such busy, hectic lives, that you can’t remember the last time you talked about something other than picking up milk on your way home, or if they could please remember that the kids have to stay late at school for soccer practice? It happens.…
The amount of potential in every one of us is mindblowing, and our sexual energy is an integral part of that equation. With some minimal but consistent effort to boost our mojo we can dramatically increase our performance and overall satisfaction in bed. Let’s check some tips that will help you with that. Start With…
So, you want to know what your sex life will look like in 2023? Why guess when the stars can tell you! Of course, you have control to some degree, but it’s undeniable… each zodiac sign has very distinct characteristics. These special characteristics play a big part in who you are, your behaviours, thoughts, relationships,…
The way in which we see our bodies can hugely affect a number of areas in our lives—especially our sex lives. In fact, having a negative body image is one of the biggest disrupters of sexual enjoyment, and can be detrimental to feelings of sexual desire and arousal. Quite honestly however, it is more so…
Zodiac signs are often used to decipher the compatibility of friends and lovers, and it can be an incredible way to learn more about the world and find a way to understand it better. But how about zodiac signs and sex? Surely, our signs impact the way we have sex the same way it impacts…
If I had wanted to spend my Friday date night stoned out of my mind, craving junk food with a mad case of the munchies and lazily curled up on the couch with a movie, I could have spent 10 minutes inside any local, Los Angeles dispensary and walked away dazed and happy. But I…
If you’re always looking for ways to improve your relationship with your body and your sex life, then you may have heard of yoni massage before. It’s a practice that’s been around for a while but only started becoming mainstream a few years ago. And not without reason. Vaginal massages have many health benefits and…
For our December Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Self-Love. What are the benefits of self-love? Self-love, more broadly, is about taking care of ourselves and appreciating ourselves. Very often, we use that term to talk about masturbation and self-pleasure, which are such important parts of our lives and come with a lot…
So, you and your partner have heard of tantric sex and decided that it might be the time to experience it yourselves. That’s great news because tantric sex is one of the best ways to build intimacy and connect better with your partner (and yourself). Tantric sex can sound intimidating for people new to the…
Most of us have been there. You wake up, maybe a little dazed and confused, but also maybe a little turned on. What just happened? Did I really just? No wait, that was definitely a dream. Sexy dreams can catch you off guard, even if they were enjoyable. You might be thinking to yourself “I’m…
Imagine going to your favourite spa for a full body massage, perhaps a facial, a mani/pedi (if that’s something you’re into), a bit of time in the sauna… the works. For many, this is the ultimate form of self-care and well, luxury. But this kind of spa day is one that’s calming, peaceful, and non-erotic.…
While studies of every claim are still ongoing, CBD is appearing in more and more creams, ointments, and candies with claims of being able to treat an ever-growing list of symptoms related to anxiety, depression, high blood pressure, and many issues and ailments. This cure-all tincture we are talking about, more specifically, is cannabidiol: It…
Want to surrender control completely? Submission takes on a whole new level when hypnosis comes into play. Blending all the essentials of hypnosis and hypnotherapy, erotic hypnosis takes this well-studied world and repurposes it for a raunchy old time. Psychologist Dr. Pam Spurr puts it best when she says that erotic hypnosis is so successful…
You have probably heard the term tantric sex before. It probably evokes images such as multiple-hour lovemaking, multiple orgasms, and deepening connection with your partner. And while it’s true that tantric sex is mostly a partner-focused lovemaking practice, it can also be used as a way to enhance your solo sex play. This is where…
Through millennia of forced silence, the LGBTQ community has persisted – and with more of us holding positions of power now than at any other time in history, our communal voice is louder than ever. The history of pride is still in the making. Some people started it, for generations to come. These eight heroes…
LGBT. LGBTQ. LGBTQI. LGBTQIA+. As an out and proud member of the queer community, I relish each letter our little web of support brings to the table. Under such a big, welcoming archway of possibility, there are few things more beautiful than queers and our ability to meet one another exactly where we’re at. Most…
What is Femtech? Femtech is a term used to describe products, services, and technologies that support women’s health. It was originally coined by the founder of the popular period-tracking app Clue, Ida Tin. Femtech is an industry full of opportunities that were previously overlooked. Femtech is commonly associated with the following things: Menstruation and period…
The sense of smell shapes our world in a way we will never fully grasp – so do not overlook its ability to design a new and exciting setting for sex. Think about one thing – most other senses can be replicated to a degree in a virtual setting, but smells are so primal that…
Enhance your foreplay routine with a deeply spiritual and highly erotic form of massage. That is, a tantric massage. This sensual act is a meaningful way to connect with your partner, and to share and vibe off of each other’s sexual energies. And by engaging in this practice, you’ll not only heighten your state of…
Indeed, there are different ways to have sex. In fact, sex doesn’t even need to involve penetration at all. Sex can be anything you want it to be! And knowing this is a good thing. It takes one away from the notion that penetrative sex with climax is the end goal , which it really…
How is mindfulness really connected to our sex lives? When it comes to our sexualities, most of us were taught NOT to pay attention. Perhaps our parents avoided conversations about sex altogether, or maybe we had a really awkward experience in sex education class. Most of us were taught to refer to our genitals as…
Psychologists are genuinely divided over the function and meaning of dreaming. Some psychologists think that dreams are nothing more than the result of random brain activity that occurs while we are sleeping, while others accept the perspective of people such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung that dreams can reveal a person’s deepest unconscious wishes…
You know when you feel extremely close to your partner? Like after sex or whilst sharing a moment that enhances your bond and makes you feel even more in love or lust? Yeah, oxytocin plays a big role in facilitating that special bond. But its role doesn’t just stop there… What is Oxytocin? Oxytocin is…
If you’ve read one of my previous articles, you’ll know that a kink and a fetish are two different things . And today, we’ll be zoning in on the term: kink. First off… What Does ‘Kink’ Mean? A kink is something that someone finds arousing but that’s generally not considered mainstream sexual. It’s hard to…
There’s a lot that’s strange and confusing about sex. When you boil human sexuality down and examine its constituent parts, none of it makes any sense and it’s a miracle any of us manage to do it at all. That’s because we’re complex psychological animals who have to, for the first time in known history,…
While no two couples are the same, there are a few tips and tricks that can definitely make a difference when it comes to having a stronger relationship. And according to Gary Chapman, a doctor of philosophy, counselor, and author, the key to having a lasting relationship is to know, and make use of, the…
Pleasure and luxury go hand in hand at LELO. It’s difficult, then, trying to convince people that pleasure is itself not a luxury. It’s essential. It’s painful, then, to see the results of the Today show in July which said that 46% of American women consider themselves sexually unsatisfied. It should be no real surprise.…
Mindfulness is the state of being conscious or aware of something. It’s the ability to actively live in the present moment, being able to accept and acknowledge one’s own feelings, thoughts, and body in such a way that it induces relaxation and creates awareness without being overwhelmed. And while this therapeutic technique is self-focused, it…
We generally have consensual sex for three reasons. First is procreative, which is sex for the purposes of reproduction. Second is relational, in which sex is used to secure and maintain relationships like marriage. That’s about bonding and societal, structural stability. The third is recreational. Recreational sex is where society starts to get a bit…
Only this much is certain: demisexuality is not the adoration of Demi Lovato. If you love her, chase your bliss, but it’s not a sexuality. Demisexuality is something else entirely, and we’re going to take a quick look at it today. The language of sex, sexuality, and gender is becoming more varied and more nuanced…
There is no such thing as a normal sexual response. Everybody reacts differently, sexually speaking. There are as many different sexual responses as there are people on this big dumb planet. There is immeasurable variation in the way individual people enjoy and respond to sexual activity. Most sex that happens is, statistically, not very good.…
In a previous article, we talked in general terms about the act and experience of sexual meditation , which is a key element of sexual mindfulness. In this article, we look in more detail at exactly how to do it, because once it’s learned, it can’t be unlearned, and it could will represent the gateway…
When we describe our sexual fantasies, we tend to share the details and dynamics, focusing on specific parts of the fantasy and using those to define them. When we explain a dream to someone, we do the same thing: we tell them the individual details of the dream, although that’s not really how we process…
Recently, the U.S. Supreme Court clarified that people can’t be fired for being gay or transgender according to the 1964 Civil Rights Act. It ruled that LGBT+ people are protected from employment discrimination in the US. To most of us, it is the craziness that this happened as late as 2020. While I guess this…
Got a dirty mind? Got sex on the brain? Good for you, Einstein, because new research indicates that frequent sex, and the desire for it, can have a significant influence on our cognitive ability. Over the last decade, a growing body of research into human and animal behavior has been published indicating that the more…
In reality, letting go of resentment or working on reconciling a relationship should happen as soon as the thought pops into your head, but maybe Kiss & Make Up Day on August 25 is just the reminder you needed. We’re going to cover what resentment is, acceptance of what happened, and letting go of it…