They’re the generation that fully integrated gender inclusivity, the concept of active consent during sex, and everyday sex toy use into their lives, and yet Gen Z is done with hook-up culture. More accurately, they never bought into it in the first place, but not for the reasons you might assume. We poured over opinions…
Surviving cancer is a major feat. However, cancer treatments like surgery and chemotherapy often lead to physical and psychological changes that can have far-reaching and long-lasting effects on people’s lives, including their intimate lives. For example, it is common for survivors to experience body image issues, problems with sexual function, loss of libido, and other…
You might think that because condoms are a barrier material that their latex material is completely waterproof. That’s understandable, as it would make sense that they can withstand wet and wild scenarios. However, having sex in a water-based environment—for example, a pool, hot tub, or shower—could be pushing your condom to the limit. So, while…
This article was written by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist, researcher and award-winning educator. For more information: Website | Publications | Instagram Following trauma or surgery, it is common for people’s sexual confidence to take a hit. They may also find it difficult to relax during moments of intimacy, making it harder to access pleasure.…
It’s astounding the amount of individuals who are living with a negative body image. And often, when we think of this kind of issue, we may believe that the solution comes in the form of affirmations, exercise, eating better, or even therapy. And while those are good options, there’s one thing that may be overlooked……
There are many things, such as exercise or eating a well-balanced diet, that can contribute to an overall better mental health. But did you know that sexual satisfaction too plays a big role when it comes to our mental well being? In fact, there are many positive attributes associated with sexual wellness, be it solo…
This article was written by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist, researcher and award-winning educator. For more information: Website | Publications | Instagram Sexual dysfunction refers to any persistent sex problem that results in significant distress. Research finds that nearly half of women and one-third of men have experienced a sexual dysfunction in the past year…
People often think of their sexuality as a nice addition to the rest of their lives, but for most, it’s an integral part of being human. You’re wired for pleasure, pleasure helps you connect with yourself and others, improve your emotional health, and enhance your mental well-being. That’s why there are so many emotional benefits…
Whether it’s the prequel to sex or your main event, making out feels incredible. But besides it feeling great, “French kissing” is also good for your health (side note: did you know that there wasn’t a French word for “French kissing” until recently? More on that). Back to kissing being good for you – here…
Generational differences always pique interest and that has been even more true since millennials and Gen Z took the stage. These two generations that hardly (or not at all) know the analogue world, show how much, or little for that matter, has changed since the internet made its appearance. So, how much have the preferences…
If you’ve never used an arousal gel before, you’re probably wondering – how does arousal gel work, and what does it do? You can find arousal serums at every sexual wellness shop, and yet not many people consider arousal serums to be an essential part of their sexual routines. There is a lot of mystery…
Sex toys are having a moment. These days, it’s not uncommon to pluck one right off the shelf at your neighborhood drug store. But let’s face it: they’ve long been marketed to vulva owners…vulva owners who want to masturbate. Which begs the question, how do you incorporate a toy into partnered sex? And why would…
Sex allows us to connect with our bodies and partners, experience deep pleasure, and create more joy in life. For many people, however, sex is far from straightforward. Luckily, there’s an industry of sexual and mental health professionals who are dedicated to helping people overcome sexual obstacles and get back on the path to pleasure. …
Be honest, how emotionally safe do you feel in your relationship? Many people tend to focus on whether their partner fits their standards if they are compatible, share the same values, and other things along those lines. While shared values and being compatible do matter in the relationship, the latest research in neurobiology shows that…
In the ever-evolving landscape of sexual wellness, one product has hopped its way into the spotlight, carving out a niche that continues to grow in both popularity and acceptance – the rabbit vibrator. Once a hushed secret, these devices are now celebrated for their role in fostering sexual exploration and well-being. The Historical Hop: From…
Every generation attempts to reinvent sexuality, some by infusing it with more liberties, others by making it more modest. But the truth is, there’s very little space for innovation, all sorts of sex acts and arrangements have been explored numerous times throughout human history, and that includes even things that you might think have a…
This article was scientifically reviewed by Human Sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz. She is a professor, researcher, private practitioner and Fellow of the American Psychological Association. 1. It’s More Than Meets the Eye A 3D model of the clitoris is just starting to make its rounds in Sex Ed. Classes, and honestly it’s about time. Everyone…
The term “sexual wellness” gets thrown around a lot these days. We even use it often here at Lelo – and for good reason. We’re in the midst of a sexual revolution. People have more access to sexual education, resources, toys, and more than ever before. There are more honest conversations about what it means to…
What would you say if I told you that there are celibacy benefits that can improve your sex life? Yes, you’ve heard that right – not having sex can indeed make your sex life better! Celibacy doesn’t have the best reputation. And there is a good reason why people are hesitant about it. With it…
Have you ever considered how gratitude impacts your sexual satisfaction and relationship? Gratitude is a common mindfulness practice that focuses on finding good things in life and feeling grateful for them. What recent research has found is that feeling grateful about things in life not only improves overall happiness levels but can also greatly affect…
Does it seem like both you and your partner are living such busy, hectic lives, that you can’t remember the last time you talked about something other than picking up milk on your way home, or if they could please remember that the kids have to stay late at school for soccer practice? It happens.…
The amount of potential in every one of us is mindblowing, and our sexual energy is an integral part of that equation. With some minimal but consistent effort to boost our mojo we can dramatically increase our performance and overall satisfaction in bed. Let’s check some tips that will help you with that. Start With…
So, you want to know what your sex life will look like in 2023? Why guess when the stars can tell you! Of course, you have control to some degree, but it’s undeniable… each zodiac sign has very distinct characteristics. These special characteristics play a big part in who you are, your behaviours, thoughts, relationships,…
The way in which we see our bodies can hugely affect a number of areas in our lives—especially our sex lives. In fact, having a negative body image is one of the biggest disrupters of sexual enjoyment, and can be detrimental to feelings of sexual desire and arousal. Quite honestly however, it is more so…
Zodiac signs are often used to decipher the compatibility of friends and lovers, and it can be an incredible way to learn more about the world and find a way to understand it better. But how about zodiac signs and sex? Surely, our signs impact the way we have sex the same way it impacts…
If I had wanted to spend my Friday date night stoned out of my mind, craving junk food with a mad case of the munchies and lazily curled up on the couch with a movie, I could have spent 10 minutes inside any local, Los Angeles dispensary and walked away dazed and happy. But I…
If you’re always looking for ways to improve your relationship with your body and your sex life, then you may have heard of yoni massage before. It’s a practice that’s been around for a while but only started becoming mainstream a few years ago. And not without reason. Vaginal massages have many health benefits and…
For our December Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Self-Love. What are the benefits of self-love? Self-love, more broadly, is about taking care of ourselves and appreciating ourselves. Very often, we use that term to talk about masturbation and self-pleasure, which are such important parts of our lives and come with a lot…
So, you and your partner have heard of tantric sex and decided that it might be the time to experience it yourselves. That’s great news because tantric sex is one of the best ways to build intimacy and connect better with your partner (and yourself). Tantric sex can sound intimidating for people new to the…
Most of us have been there. You wake up, maybe a little dazed and confused, but also maybe a little turned on. What just happened? Did I really just? No wait, that was definitely a dream. Sexy dreams can catch you off guard, even if they were enjoyable. You might be thinking to yourself “I’m…
Imagine going to your favourite spa for a full body massage, perhaps a facial, a mani/pedi (if that’s something you’re into), a bit of time in the sauna… the works. For many, this is the ultimate form of self-care and well, luxury. But this kind of spa day is one that’s calming, peaceful, and non-erotic.…
While studies of every claim are still ongoing, CBD is appearing in more and more creams, ointments, and candies with claims of being able to treat an ever-growing list of symptoms related to anxiety, depression, high blood pressure, and many issues and ailments. This cure-all tincture we are talking about, more specifically, is cannabidiol: It…
Want to surrender control completely? Submission takes on a whole new level when hypnosis comes into play. Blending all the essentials of hypnosis and hypnotherapy, erotic hypnosis takes this well-studied world and repurposes it for a raunchy old time. Psychologist Dr. Pam Spurr puts it best when she says that erotic hypnosis is so successful…
You have probably heard the term tantric sex before. It probably evokes images such as multiple-hour lovemaking, multiple orgasms, and deepening connection with your partner. And while it’s true that tantric sex is mostly a partner-focused lovemaking practice, it can also be used as a way to enhance your solo sex play. This is where…
Through millennia of forced silence, the LGBTQ community has persisted – and with more of us holding positions of power now than at any other time in history, our communal voice is louder than ever. The history of pride is still in the making. Some people started it, for generations to come. These eight heroes…
LGBT. LGBTQ. LGBTQI. LGBTQIA+. As an out and proud member of the queer community, I relish each letter our little web of support brings to the table. Under such a big, welcoming archway of possibility, there are few things more beautiful than queers and our ability to meet one another exactly where we’re at. Most…
What is Femtech? Femtech is a term used to describe products, services, and technologies that support women’s health. It was originally coined by the founder of the popular period-tracking app Clue, Ida Tin. Femtech is an industry full of opportunities that were previously overlooked. Femtech is commonly associated with the following things: Menstruation and period…
The sense of smell shapes our world in a way we will never fully grasp – so do not overlook its ability to design a new and exciting setting for sex. Think about one thing – most other senses can be replicated to a degree in a virtual setting, but smells are so primal that…
Enhance your foreplay routine with a deeply spiritual and highly erotic form of massage. That is, a tantric massage. This sensual act is a meaningful way to connect with your partner, and to share and vibe off of each other’s sexual energies. And by engaging in this practice, you’ll not only heighten your state of…
Indeed, there are different ways to have sex. In fact, sex doesn’t even need to involve penetration at all. Sex can be anything you want it to be! And knowing this is a good thing. It takes one away from the notion that penetrative sex with climax is the end goal , which it really…
How is mindfulness really connected to our sex lives? When it comes to our sexualities, most of us were taught NOT to pay attention. Perhaps our parents avoided conversations about sex altogether, or maybe we had a really awkward experience in sex education class. Most of us were taught to refer to our genitals as…
Psychologists are genuinely divided over the function and meaning of dreaming. Some psychologists think that dreams are nothing more than the result of random brain activity that occurs while we are sleeping, while others accept the perspective of people such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung that dreams can reveal a person’s deepest unconscious wishes…
You know when you feel extremely close to your partner? Like after sex or whilst sharing a moment that enhances your bond and makes you feel even more in love or lust? Yeah, oxytocin plays a big role in facilitating that special bond. But its role doesn’t just stop there… What is Oxytocin? Oxytocin is…
If you’ve read one of my previous articles, you’ll know that a kink and a fetish are two different things . And today, we’ll be zoning in on the term: kink. First off… What Does ‘Kink’ Mean? A kink is something that someone finds arousing but that’s generally not considered mainstream sexual. It’s hard to…
There’s a lot that’s strange and confusing about sex. When you boil human sexuality down and examine its constituent parts, none of it makes any sense and it’s a miracle any of us manage to do it at all. That’s because we’re complex psychological animals who have to, for the first time in known history,…
While no two couples are the same, there are a few tips and tricks that can definitely make a difference when it comes to having a stronger relationship. And according to Gary Chapman, a doctor of philosophy, counselor, and author, the key to having a lasting relationship is to know, and make use of, the…
Pleasure and luxury go hand in hand at LELO. It’s difficult, then, trying to convince people that pleasure is itself not a luxury. It’s essential. It’s painful, then, to see the results of the Today show in July which said that 46% of American women consider themselves sexually unsatisfied. It should be no real surprise.…
Mindfulness is the state of being conscious or aware of something. It’s the ability to actively live in the present moment, being able to accept and acknowledge one’s own feelings, thoughts, and body in such a way that it induces relaxation and creates awareness without being overwhelmed. And while this therapeutic technique is self-focused, it…
We generally have consensual sex for three reasons. First is procreative, which is sex for the purposes of reproduction. Second is relational, in which sex is used to secure and maintain relationships like marriage. That’s about bonding and societal, structural stability. The third is recreational. Recreational sex is where society starts to get a bit…
Only this much is certain: demisexuality is not the adoration of Demi Lovato. If you love her, chase your bliss, but it’s not a sexuality. Demisexuality is something else entirely, and we’re going to take a quick look at it today. The language of sex, sexuality, and gender is becoming more varied and more nuanced…