If you’re a “Sex and the City” fan, you’re familiar with the over-the-shoulder shot of our beloved Carrie Bradshaw sitting at her desk and typing those famous words “…and I couldn’t help but wonder…”. Well, please indulge my Carrie moment: as I contemplated writing this blog about sex toy talk anxiety, I couldn’t help but…
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“Love yourself first before getting into a relationship.” True?
We’ve all heard the expression you can’t love anyone else before you learn to love yourself. Is there actual truth to this? Is it meant to be literal, or is there any wiggle room? Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist John Kim rejects the idea at face value. He told Psychology Today magazine “Yes, if you…
Research Says 61% of Readers Use “Romantasy” Novels To Talk Desires
Dragons, dark lords, and doomed romances are leaving the pages of books and becoming a powerful catalyst for people’s intimate lives. With steamy “romantasy” sagas climbing bestseller lists, new research* from LELO—coninciding with the World Book Day on April 23rd—reveals how fantasy literature is fundamentally reshaping modern relationships, role-play, and desires. The LELO ‘Fantasy Flames’…
Building Trust and Intimacy After Unhealthy Relationships
Walking away from an unhealthy relationship can feel like stepping into unfamiliar territory. You may crave closeness but notice your body tensing, your mind second-guessing, or your heart hesitating. The desire for connection is still there, yet your experiences have taught you to be wary of getting close to others. Rebuilding trust and intimacy after…
How To Arouse a Man with Confidence
Seducing a man is about more than showing tits and ass. Seduction in many ways is a form of self-expression. What is it about you that makes you feel the most attractive? When you find a man attractive, this is what you put out into the universe. If he finds that part of you attractive…
A Guide To Seducing Women (Partners or Spontaneous Encounters)
Seduction is to sex what romance is to love. Seducing a woman is much, much more than getting her to sleep with you. Done right, seduction is about understanding the other person’s needs, feeling out her personal nuances, responding to what she’s putting out there. There’s a reason why they call seduction a dance –…
Which Is the Best Polyamorous Dating App? Our Top 8
Some people hop on dating apps trying to find “The One.” But for people with a polyamorous love life, navigating conventional dating apps can be tricky. This community already faces misconceptions and judgments in society about how fulfilling a polyamorous relationship can be, so finding an online community of like-minded poly people is more important…
Building Trust and Intimacy for Couples
Our sex lives are a direct reflection of our relationships. Trust and intimacy, which are the foundations of any romantic relationship, play out in the ways we approach our partners in the bedroom. It’s how we’re hardwired as human beings – when you feel close to your partner, you trust them to explore your body…
How To Choose Toys for Long-Distance Relationships
We live in a world where travel is increasingly part of our reality. Whether it’s for study or for work experience, being away from home, often very far away, is no longer an exception. But luckily, modern technologies that allow us to talk and see each other at practically zero cost have shortened distances and…
The Best Sex Toys for Romantic Special Occasions
If you find yourself in a long-term relationship, you’ve probably experienced it: the routine of being together can be as threatening as it is great. The habits which comfort us also undermine our sense of adventure. This is especially true when it comes to intimacy and sometimes you want to discover something new. Couple sex…
Control Your Partner’s Sex Toy Using LELO’s Love Bridge App Feature
LELO recently launched a new feature in their app – the ability to connect devices into a private chatroom and have partners control them. Whether you’re away from your lover or want to play safely with a stranger, Love Bridge supports better connections that spice up your sex life. The Love Bridge feature is available…
Demisexual Dating – Everything You Need To Know
Dating always has its quirks, but there’s even more of them if you’re a demisexual – or dating one. We’re here to tell you everything you need to know about dating a demisexual, but first, let’s cover the basics. What is demisexuality? Demisexuality is the idea that the connection between two (or more) people is…
Here’s What People Find Attractive in Potential Partners
There are over 37 million single households in the United States, the highest number in history, and of those, Pew Research Center found that single Americans are split 50/50 between “looking” and “not looking” for a committed relationship. Some choose not to seek out romantic relationships whatsoever, while others are willing to stay single until they…
The Top Niche Dating Apps for Your Needs
Technology has revolutionized the way we interact with each other – especially when it comes to dating. Dating apps have allowed people to connect with potential sexual or romantic partners from the comfort of their couch. Convenience has been one of the main selling points of dating apps. The ability to meet someone despite your…
The Dangers of “Love Bombing”
We all want to connect with others, and for many, that means exploring different romantic and sexual relationships, but meeting someone that you have a connection with can be easier said than done. That’s why it can be so exhilarating when you feel like you’re finally getting a hot dose of romance. Most of us…
How Do You Tell Someone You’re Not Interested in Them?
We all have our preferences in the dating world, right? Whether it’s in the realm of appearance, personality, or other, the majority of us have some kind of boxes we’d like ticked when it comes to finding a partner or merely someone to spend the night with. In some cases, a potential partner may have…
Authentic- The Word of the Year
Bet you couldn’t avoid “Best Of” lists last month as the year came to a close. Professional critics, influencers, and amateur bloggers alike love to get in on it, giving their seals of approval to a wide swath of items such as books, movies, sports highlights, gifts for hard-to-please Aunt Edna, sex toys (maybe Aunt…
New Dating App for Single Parents
Sure, there are a handful of mainstream dating apps that are loaded with singles, but are those apps really geared towards single parents? By all means, there’s nothing wrong with using dating apps such as Tinder or Bumble! But, wouldn’t it be great to have a dating app that was specifically made for single parents?…
Sex in the Media: Explore or Ignore – “Naked Attraction”
You might think this British series is a spoof on other titles with similar names, but you would be wrong. “Naked Attraction ” is actually as literal as literal gets. Here’s the premise: a person looking for love (dressed – at least at first) gives the once-over to six fully nude people, each of whom…
Reduce Stress and Have Sex This Holiday Season
Let’s get right down to what you already know: the holiday season is upon us and that usually means a lot of added stress. The big headline? Stress and sex rarely mix. So, with all the travel and traffic and meal prep and gift lists and décor pressure and family pressure, etc., who can possibly…
How To Determine Your Relationship Attachment Style
Whether you are aware of your relationship attachment style or not, it plays an important role in your everyday life. It influences how you fall in love (and whether you do at all), how close you feel to people in your life, and how easy or hard it is for you to be vulnerable with…
The Psychology Behind Ghosting on Dating Apps
Getting rejected by a potential romantic partner always hurts, but if you were rejected by the act of “ghosting,” the rejection might hurt even more. With more people turning to dating apps to find their significant other, ghosting is on the rise. A 2019 study found that 29% of participants have ghosted someone, and 25%…
Why Do You Always End Up in Toxic Relationships?
Does this sound familiar? You’re in a relationship with someone who you feel connected to. They’re seemingly the perfect partner for you, and you love spending time with them. At the back of your mind though, you know that you have to walk on eggshells when you’re around them. If you utter one word or…
9 Romantic and Fun Introvert Date Ideas
Are you an introvert who’s looking for new romantic and fun introvert date ideas? Or, maybe your partner is an introvert and you want to surprise them with a date night they will absolutely love? Introverts make up between 20%–40% of the world’s population and they’re known as the quiet ones. It’s common knowledge that…
Research Shows We’re Most Likely to Meet Partners Through Friends
How we meet our sexual and romantic partners has changed drastically throughout generations. Recent studies show that more and more people turn to online dating to meet potential partners. These findings make sense when you take the rise of social media into account, with 76% of people spending more hours scrolling on their phones. We…
Creative Prompt Ideas for Hinge & Other Dating Apps
We’re busy bees these days trying to balance work, friends, family, and for many people – dating. Meeting people the old-fashioned way can be difficult, especially when you have a lot on your plate or tend to be on the shyer side. That’s where dating apps come in handy. Dating apps are simply a tool.…
Why You Should Stop Looking for “The One”
Blame it on Disney fantasies, early 2000s magazines, and every rom-com ever made, but there is some interesting messaging out there when it comes to dating. One of the biggest narratives we’re fed around dating and relationships is that there’s this magical unicorn of a human that was made just for you – “the one”.…
Suddenly, the World of Open Relationships is Much More… Open!
In the last few years, conversations around non-monogamy have become much more mainstream. From the Netflix series You, Me, Her to TikTok accounts like @OpenlyCommited – society is slowly becoming more open to the idea of being open. If you haven’t seen it, @Openlycommited is a TikTok account with upwards of 120K followers and nearly…
7 Tips For Using Dating Apps While Traveling
Picture it. You’ve been frolicking in the sea all day. Salty, sweaty, sun-kissed bodies come together in harmony while the sun goes down just beyond your hotel room’s balcony. Or maybe you’re on a solo ski vacation and you find a hunk to cozy up by the fire and warm up with after a long…
7 Things To Look for During Casual Dating and Sex To Find a Life Partner
When I moved to Copenhagen last year, my opinion of casual dating changed drastically. You see, here, casual dating (and sex) is the name of the game. And sometimes, people might ask your name only after you already had sex. Back in December, I was invited to a traditional Christmas lunch (called Julefrokost) and one…
The Benefits of Dating Someone Without Social Media
It’s admittedly (almost) impossible to live without at least one source of social media today, especially for folks looking to network, job search, or maintain an online portfolio of their work. Social media keeps us all connected to our career worlds and opens doors to new opportunities. But there are no rules for how to…
9 Romantic Date Ideas That Don’t Require You To Leave Home
Are you looking for last-minute romantic date ideas for a date night with your partner, but you don’t want to leave the comfort of your home? Listen, we get it! Sometimes, life gets in the way, and there is not enough time to plan a perfect date out and about with your partner. On days…
How To Get Over Your Ex, This Time for Good
Sometimes, it might be hard to get over your ex. Some people take a few months, while others require years. And if we look at the movie “Love in the Time of Cholera,” sometimes people might spend their whole life hung up on a long-lost lover. You can find a gazillion advice pieces online, from…
Do You Believe in Soulmates? Well, Here’s Why You Shouldn’t
Do you believe in soulmates? You’re not alone if you answered “yes” to that question. According to the Marist poll, even 73% of Americans believe in soulmates. That’s a lot of people who believe in true love, yet the divorce rates are fairly high in developed countries around the world. Doesn’t make much sense now,…
6 Tips for Dating During the Holiday Season
It’s that time of year again! Festive events, office parties, gatherings, Christmas Eve, Christmas, and New Year celebrations. And let’s not forget about the Northern Hemisphere—those who are cold and looking for a cuffing partner. All in all, dating over the holidays is hard. Especially when it’s a first date or the beginning of a…
Hygge Season Is Here! How to “Hygge” Your Sex Life This Winter
Finally, the hygge season is back! With the days becoming shorter and the weather turning colder each day, it’s time to cuddle up and spend some good quality time inside with your partner. Now, staying home wrapped in sweaters doesn’t have to be boring. Sweater weather is the perfect time for cuddles and some uninterrupted…
FYI: Butterflies Aren’t the Same as Being in Love
Aren’t butterflies fantastical? In the literal sense of the word, sure, but figuratively… like when you see someone that makes you all giddy. That experience of joy, excitement, but also nervousness… wow! It truly can make you feel alive! So, imagine this scenario: you see someone you’re attracted to, or you look at your partner.…
First Time at Your Partner’s Home? This is What Their Place Says About Them
It’s easy to go on a first date somewhere neutral… a place where someone can be the person that they want to be. Just like many of us only reveal the best parts of ourselves on social media, the same could be said for a first date. But when things get serious, or you decide…
Is “Hooking Up” the New Dating?
It’s fairly obvious… dating today is nothing like it was 20-some years ago. Today, dating is predominantly done via technology, aka using dating apps. And even though there are a slew of Hollywood films that lead us to believe that online dating is an actual revenue in which to find love and companionship (think “You’ve…
Relationship Ideals That Millennials (And Everyone Else) Need to Ditch Now
Did Millennials kill the so-called ‘institute of marriage?’ Millennials have the lowest rate of marriage compared to our parents and grandparent’s generations. We’re doing things differently than the folks who came before us, like moving in with our partners and focusing on shared happiness over jumping into a wedding dress and tuxedo and immediately popping…
Male Turn-Offs You Definitely Didn’t Know About
When it comes to men and what turns them on, there are a million blog posts and women’s magazine articles that will tell you how to flirt, what to say, what to wear, and how much eye contact to use. To be very honest, it can be very easy to turn a man on and…
Unexpected Places To Find Love This Summer
The internet and dating apps are the most popular places to find love for the younger generations. And we have to admit – scrolling left and right looking for your Prince (or Princess) Charming while lounging comfortably on your sofa is convenient. But saying “we met on Tinder” when someone asks where you met your…
Here are 10 Sex-Related Questions to Ask Your Partner
When you first start dating someone, there are many questions to ask your partner. What their favorite food is, how they grew up, where they see themselves in five years… You want to know it all. One thing most new couples avoid is having honest conversations about sex and asking questions about each other’s sexuality…
Sexy Date Ideas for Long Summer Nights (and Days)
If you’re looking for sexy and fun summer date ideas to help you and your partner get out of the rut, then look no further. There is no better time to slow down and find new ways to enjoy each other’s company than during long, hot summer days (and nights). And we have enough date…
The True Cost of Loving a Narcissist
By definition, a narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest or admiration of themselves. It’s an extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them. Of course, all of us have the capacity to have certain narcissistic behavioural tendencies from time to time, but in…
5 Hard Relationship Truths When it Comes to Sex
Will your sex life remain – or ever be – picture perfect? If the average answer was ‘yes,’ this sex advice blog – and likely the entirety of the sex toy business – wouldn’t need to exist. Sex is more complicated than we’d all like to admit, and the longer we stay in relationships, the…
Online Gaming Relationships: Can You Find Love While Gaming?
The old times when you would meet the love of your life in the library or your local shop while doing your weekly grocery shopping are gone. Instead, the younger generation is taking dating online, with recent studies revealing that finding your significant other on the internet completely replaced all the other ways of meeting…
What is Gaslighting? Are You a Victim of it?
Today, there are more ‘names’ for the kinds of things people have been experiencing for decades and decades. And this is actually a good thing. Way back when, people would experience all kinds of abuse… not as overtly as physical, but mental, psychological, and emotional. And these kinds of abuse are just as harmful (sometimes…
The Intimate Power of Eye Contact
Did you know that you have a mere seven seconds to make a first impression? And while eye contact does play a positive role in how people perceive you upon first interaction, locking eyes has the power to enhance all kinds of interactions—be it in friendships, relationships, work connections, and more. Let’s take a little…
Does Social Media Help Your Relationship or Ruin It?
The connection between social media and relationships has been the topic of conversations for years now. Multiple studies show that social media impacts our mental health and how we view ourselves, and our self-esteem. So it’s only natural to assume that it should also impact our romantic relationships, right? According to Pew Research Center, 45%…