Hi everyone, Dr. Zhana here! Let’s answer some questions! To start off with, “Is it healthy to masturbate?” The answer is: absolutely yes! There are so many benefits to masturbation and virtually no downsides! So go ahead and explore! Dildo or vibrator? That depends on what kind of stimulation you’re going for. If you just…
Back in my twenties, I’d been selected by an older woman, Evelyn, out of the half dozen young guys clustered around her in the pool at the club. The three young women at the other end of the pool, visibly pissed at being abandoned by their admirers, were understandably baffled at how a plump, grandmotherly,…
It wasn’t until recently that I realized what I was doing even had a name. That bringing myself close to orgasm—and then quickly pulling away at the very last moment—was a sexy technique commonly referred to as edging. How this game first made its way into my bedroom repertoire remains a mystery, but I do…
Just a simple disclaimer before we get started here: this is not a list of the best blowjob techniques or nifty new sex positions to try (although if that’s what you want, you will definitely find what you’re looking for on this very blog). What we’re covering in today’s article is all the things that…
‘When I was your age, sex was something that took place between two flesh and blood people!’ is something we will be saying to our grandkids. Even then, that situation might be assuming too much if the current advancements in sex toy tech keep moving forward at a breakneck pace: perhaps we’ll be saying it…
Everyone has their own comfort zone. And when it comes to BDSM, some believe it to be intimidating, rough, and perhaps even unpleasant. On the other hand, there are people who find the whole thing entirely intriguing or even extremely exciting. So, instead of offering hardcore BDSM tips that may make the more vanilla solo…
This first thing everyone wants to know is how I even got myself into this. So this is how the story goes. I was studying abroad and looking for some extra beer money. Stumbling into a late night job search online (after a few beers of course), I came across a posting that most matched…
You’ve heard about them for months and now they’re finally here: The LELO F1s SexTech devices! Currently available as the LELO F1s Developer’s Kit RED and the F1s Prototype , they’re finally popping up on review sites and the consensus is that they more than deliver their promised pleasures and that their potential for pushing…
The second generation SONA 2 Cruise sonic clitoral stimulator is taking the female sex toy world by storm. As if the original wasn’t amazing already, they adapted this product with more pleasure settings and a wider and deeper head to satisfy a larger array of female anatomy. Listen to what the girl gang below has…
Many people first learned about orgasms in the bath, when they realised how good water can feel on your clitoris. Once you’ve branched out into vibrators, then you might be curious about bringing sex toys into the shower with you. Firstly, if you’ve ever had the pleasure of sudsing down a partner while ‘saving water,’…
Being spiritual is a great excuse for having sex (if you ever needed one) but it is much more than that; a great way to deepen the connection with your partner, with nature, and, on the highest level, with the whole cosmic context of your existence. The question is, however, how do we get more…
Lawyer? Porn star? Pilot? Accountant? Our sex hormones influence every facet of a life, and none more so than our career choices. Our sexualities direct affect the kind of occupations we eventually choose, according to psychologists. A study out of the psychology department at Penn State suggests that our interest in working with things, as…
The “tribe” had all gone out to friends’ in town, so – revelling in the peace and quiet of the afternoon, I went downstairs to wade through the Sunday papers but with a fair chance of falling asleep after Rosie’s fantastic roast – my wife, mother, best friend, followed later after doing god-knows how many…
First came phone sex ; then it was sexting , and then Skype sex . Now, sensual software is about as ubiquitous as the cell phones they are downloaded on to, with erotic apps now at the forefront of the sex meets tech movement. However, in your search for download-worthy sex applications, you’re sure to…
Welcome to one of your new favorite holidays—and the perfect antidote to the early winter blues: Singles’ Day! What is Singles’ Day? Started in the early 90s, Singles’ Day began with Chinese university students deciding to celebrate their bachelorhood on 11/11, because the ones look like lonely people. (Hey, it makes about as much sense…
You can imagine what a beautifully crafted sex toy on the coffee table can do for conversation starters, but we know that that’s not for everyone. We’re not ashamed we masturbate, but sometimes we prefer to keep those intimate “self-love” sessions to ourselves. That’s why this International Sex Toy Day (November 4th) we’re going over…
There is real, solid science that shows the brain activity of young transgender people more closely resembles the brain patterns of the gender they believe they are than the gender they were assigned at birth. Transgenderism is the experience of, or identification with, a gender different from the one they were assigned at birth. Gender…
In the span of three to four decades, HIV/AIDS has swept the entire world, making it a pandemic affecting millions. And to think that at the beginning of the 1980’s, medical professionals believed that it was Kaposi’s Sarcoma, a fairly harmless cancer, while seeing cases of pneumonia rise considerably. By 1981, the first diagnosis of…
Right now, as you’re reading this, there are hundreds of thousands of people watching porn. Around one million years’ worth of porn was watched last year, and 20 porn videos were watched for every person on Earth. You know how it’s said that if everyone in America were to jump in the air and land…
Whether you’ve been dating for five weeks or going steady for five years, doubt within a relationship (and life in general) is normal. There are a number of different reasons as to why you’re feeling doubtful. Sometimes it’s absolutely called for, and other times it may just be completely irrational. There’s a fine line between…
So what kind do you make while having sex? Are you a moaner, a grunter or do you stay as quiet as a church mouse throughout the entire affair? Making noises during sex – as well as making no noises at all – is completely natural, and they happen for different reasons. Do you make…
Please tell me you also pictured the famous clay spinning scene from “Ghost” with “Unchained Melody” playing in the background? Or maybe you’ve heard about the woman who claims to have had sex with more than 15 ghosts and is currently trying to have kids with one? Not joking. What is Spectrophilia? Spectrophilia is the…
We’re not tricking you this Halloween, these comical sex stories are a real treat (and yes, they’re real!). Could You Fuck an Aristocrat? This guy seemed perfect. An academic painter, and to me, that was more than enough. I’ve always had a soft spot for artists with gentle souls. We went for a couple of…
I want him. I want him so much. He’s absolutely gorgeous. From the second I first laid eyes on him, I have fantasized about him. Imagined what his kiss would feel like, the sensation of his hand cupping my chin as he lowers his face to mine and presses his lips to my mouth. Imagined…
My life had changed. I had changed. I was now a used wife. My husband had shared me with two other men. I was now a slut, and both my husband I wanted it. That naughty boy was living his fantasies. My boss had used me in his office, a stranger in a bar had…
While being newly single can feel like a weight it lifted off your shoulders, it’s also terrifying, especially if you’ve invested years into a long-term relationship. Putting yourself out there is not easy, and there’s no guide on how to do it, when to do it, or whom to do it with. If only. The…
Love, as we perceive it, is a chemical reaction. It’s a feeling, something that can be tangible in the form of a hug, a kiss , a smile, or the presence of sincerity in someone’s eyes. But who are we to judge what love personally means to an individual? How can we label one act…
One caveat before we start talking about multiple orgasms — there is actually very little scientific research on this topic. I hate giving people information that’s not based on good, solid research, but I’ll do my best. Honestly, we’re all a bit confused about this. We can’t even decide on a definition. Some experts define…
The Sona was invented to maximize female pleasure and help you hone in on your deepest sensations while heightening your most elevated arousal. We think we did a pretty damn good job with that with the original SONA , but there’s always room for improvement, right? Right! We took your feedback and refined the ways…
Now, I could sit here and bore you with every other little detail. How I got where I’m at in my 45 years of life. How I’m a rather tall guy with handsome features. I could also tell you about all my failed relationships but all of this would take forever. I could also tell…
Come one, come all to celebrate one of my all time favorite holidays – INTERNATIONAL FISTING DAY! October 21, 2019 marks the ninth year of this beautiful holiday, originally brought to this Earth by queer porn performers and activists Jiz Lee and Courtney Trouble . International Fisting Day is an annual celebration that brings awareness…
Maybe you’re a committed health freak, or maybe you just like having sexy time. Either way, we’ve got good news for you. Displaying affection and doing the dirty with your partner leads to better emotional and physical well-being. The following list will convince you to never not have sex again. Let’s Start With Foreplay (Don’t…
I had just been fucked by a stranger in the men’s room in a bar after being fucked up the arse by my boss at the office and agreeing to be the Company slut, available for use by all the Partners of the law firm where Steve and I both worked. He was a Partner.…
We’re well into the 21st century and if you don’t have an electronic sex toy by now, you might want to check if you’re stuck in a time capsule. If we have speakers that do our grocery shopping, and cars that drive themselves, certainly there’s a sex toy that can level up your sex life.…
For those of us who are well-versed with the original Sona, it’s difficult to describe to a newbie the intensity of pleasure this little thing can do. If you’ve ever felt like a climax could be bigger, bolder, and filled with more impulsive toe-curling, we’ve got a new treat for you. We’ve gathered your feedback…
As humans we automatically assign meaning to nearly everything… especially those who are prone to over analyzing. And for the most part, this is a fair way to live, as the way in which things are said, done, and shown can have different intentions. Take a hug, for example. It’s a universal symbol of comfort,…
There are some people who need no prompting in order to ramp up their sexual desires, who either want sex or are receptive to it at all times. Then, there are others who take a little more coaxing or warming up before they get in the mood. Sometimes – read: more often than you think…
Pansexuality is the sexual attraction to cooking equipment. That is not true. Pansexuality is an identity gaining more and more acceptance at the moment. It can be broadly defined as an attraction of one kind or another to other people regardless of their sexual or gender identity. The word was originally a psychological term with…
Isn’t it funny that, so often, people tend to harbor intense negative feelings towards an ex? Even though at one point they may have seen them as the centre of their universe? A person that you perhaps once thought was ‘the one’ is now someone that you simply cannot stand. But as they say, time…
For centuries, Japan was deliberately closed off to the rest of the world, which helped create a firmly traditional, male dominant and morally strict society, quite oppressive to women and the lower class. Surprisingly enough, that did not necessarily imply they were sexually repressed, so behind the thin walls of their bedrooms they often led…
For ever and a day, we’ve been socialised to believe that true happiness comes when it’s shared… with a romantic partner. All romantic comedies and fairytale storybooks say so, so it has to be true, right? But all jokes aside, our bodies are even built in such a way to support and encourage finding a…
If I had a dollar for every man who ‘confessed’ his sex addiction to me, I’d be very popular at the strip club. “I’m a sex addict.” If that is not a line us ladies have heard at least once by some guy in a bar, have we really played the field as extensively as…
Today, October 11th, marks the 31st Anniversary of National Coming Out Day. How amazing is it to say that in our lifetime? The LGBTQ community has overcome heaps of obstacles, and even though there are more to go, I’m happy to witness and participate in this progress as an ally. While coming out is an…
Last week, an interracial couple were refused a wedding by an events company in a Southern US state. This comes on the back of increasing recent coverage featuring gay and queer couples who have been turned away for everything from hotels to birthday and wedding cakes by business owners claiming that their faith, or their…
The average LELO lover is a well-heeled sort; a globetrotter who has traversed the continents and zigzagged the map with their wild wanderings. And because you’re reading this now, we can (rightly) assume that you yourself have felt the urge to turn that next corner or crest that next hill, if only to see what’s…
What do you need for mind blowing sex? Actually, just one thing – you need the right person, everything else is secondary to that fact. So, why not explore what happens if you deliberately remove the extras and take the most basic road towards intense sexual pleasure? We’ve already made the case for minimalist sex…
Not too long ago, we published an article entitled, What Makes a Good Submissive? Now, we’re flipping it on its head and asking the question: What makes a ‘good’ dom? In actuality, there is no real definition of what makes a dom or a sub ‘good’ or ‘bad’. It’s not as easy as being awarded…
You’re here because either you’re intrigued by the notion of bondage, or BDSM in general, or you’re looking for a few bits and pieces to spice up your bedroom fun. Either way, you’re in for quite a treat! For starters, bondage isn’t just about using a rope or handcuffs to restrain your partner (or yourself,…
Making bad sexual decisions is, I guess, an almost unavoidable part of growing up. But, just like unhealthy dietary choices, it is also a practice that should preferably be abandoned alongside the days of your youthful carelessness. It is not always clear what constitutes a healthy sex life and when your libido is making you…
Enter the world of a subculture that you perhaps know nothing about. That is, BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, Masochism). And for those who’re still learning about the practice of BDSM, here’s a quick cheat sheet. BDSM is a lifestyle that entails consentual erotic practices involving control, submission, discipline, giving or receiving pain for sexual pleasure,…