Men have been raised to be “strong” which, according to societal interpretation, means we should keep everything bottled up lest we communicate and be vulnerable. Since there is no physical act more vulnerable than sex, you can imagine how tight-lipped men become concerning their sexual insecurities. One of the many culprits for sexual insecurity is…
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How Many Calories Does Having Sex Burn?
Exercise… for some it’s a form of therapy, a way in which to feel happy and confident, a release, or even just an excellent hobby. For others, it’s dreaded. The sweat, making time for it, the activity itself which may be mundane. But what about sex? Sex counts as exercise, right? We do burn calories…
Surprising, Lesser Known Facts About ADHD & Sex
ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, affects 6 million children and 366 adults in the United States (or that we know of so far, at least with an official medical diagnosis). Whether you know it or not, you’ve probably befriended or dated someone with this neurological condition, which is thought to affect the brain’s levels…
5 Remarkable Health Benefits of Hugging
For some, hugging is done out of habit. It’s a sign of affection, endearment, or even a greeting that’s easily practised without blinking an eye. For others, hugging can be quite intimidating. The feeling of two bodies pressing up against each other, after all, is quite an intimate act. To further prove this point, hugging,…
People’s Agonizing Experiences With Monkeypox
“It felt like someone shoved a corkscrew with spikes up my ass and mercilessly kept twisting,” River Mitchell, a 30-year-old OnlyFans creator from Texas, remembers of their agonizing 21 days with monkeypox. “The pain was excruciating, I’ll never forget it. There were days that I would just lay on the floor sobbing.” Mitchell suspects he…
Does Watching Porn Promote Sexism?
Before we dive in, allow us to give you a brief definition of the word ‘sexism’. Sexism is a kind of predjudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex. For example, sexism is the belief that women are inherently inferior to men, should be subordinate to men, and belong in the…
A How-To Guide on Doing a Breast Exam at Home
While many medical establishments advise that you should go for an annual mammogram from the age of 50, this doesn’t mean that there aren’t any risks involved for those who are younger than 50. And for that reason, at-home breast exams are an absolute must for women of nearly any age. In fact, it’s recommended…
Do You Have Post-Pandemic Libido Loss? You’re Not the Only One
Two years on, from the COVID-19 global pandemic, and so much of our lives have changed. Even the things that haven’t changed are charged—charged with feelings of danger, or the feeling that the veneer of ‘normal’ has been cracked (what even was normal, anyway?). As much as we pretend otherwise, things are definitely not the…
The Role of Social Media for LGBTQI+ Young Adults and Teens
Regardless of who is using it, social media can have positive and negative effects. The Internet itself gives us the power to do good, to connect, and to stay informed, but it also gives us the ability to bully, harm, harass, or worse. In other words, the way in which we use social media, the…
How To Become a Porn Star & Maintain Mental Health – Q&A with Lumi Ray
The sex industry is evolving rapidly thanks to the hardworking creatives that push the envelope while creating opportunities for more people. One of those creatives is Lumi Ray. An upcoming star in the porn industry, who we sat down with (virtually) to chat about how to take care of yourself mentally and physically as a…
How to Heal (And Have Sex With) Anal Scarring
There are many reasons somebody may experience a mishap when engaging in receptive anal intercourse, all of which stem from a lack of education. Was anyone even told anal sex was a possibility in school? This then leads us to seek education in other places, like porn, where we rarely witness proper protocol because porn…
Vasectomy as Birth Control Method: Should Your Man Get a Vasectomy?
“I’ll get a vasectomy if needed.” Those words stunned me to silence for a moment after my new sexual partner said it to me. We were having a conversation about which form of birth control we want to use when we have sex. I’ve never been on hormonal contraceptives, and the idea of getting an…
Techniques to Stay Hard During Sex
Societal expectations and gender roles have done a pretty effective job at destroying our sexual confidence. The most common query I get in my DMs are tips for maintaining an erection during sex. I can’t say I’m surprised, considering men are often portrayed as sex-starved neaderthals with perpetually hard cocks who will stop at nothing…
Why Do Some Trans People Decide to De-Transition?
If you’ve decided to read this article, the chances that you know what what the term ‘transgender’ is, are high. But just for good measure: Transgender is a general term that describes people whose gender identity (sense of themselves), or their internal sense of being male, female, or something else, does not match the sex…
Marijuana and Sex: Does It Enhance Your Sexual Experience?
Countries throughout the world are slowly but surely legalising weed, be it for personal or medical use. And what was once considered a huge taboo, a bad drug that shouldn’t be used, is now seen as somewhat of a marvel in a multitude of areas. And while we love the fact that we have the…
Performance Anxiety is Not Just for Men!
When you hear the term ‘performance anxiety’ your mind may immediately go to the inability for men to get an erection. It may even ponder about the inability for men to climax. In fact, society has made it such a ‘thing’ that some men tend to feel embarrassed or ashamed when they’re unable to get…
Sex and Smell: Things that Can Affect Your vagina’s Scent
When you combine two (or more) sweatin’ and gruntin’ people doing sexual things to each other, there is bound to be some funky smells filling up the room. HOWEVER, much of that smell is emanating from your genitals, because – while we are not saying that they stink – they most certainly do give off…
How to Talk to Your Children About Porn
If you grew up in the early 80’s or before, you’ll know how difficult it was to obtain any kind of racy material. Looking at lingerie ads, finding Playboy magazines on the shelf of your local store, or even hidden somewhere in your home. But since the invention of the Internet, there’s been a brand…
Being Empowered During Menopause
For many, menopause is a period of time that’s daunting, dreaded, and seen in a negative light. We’re bombarded with messages that lead us to believe that it’s a horrible phase filled with hot flashes, vaginal dryness, mood and bodily changes, as well as sleepless nights. And while yes, there are some negative side effects…
Why Can’t I Orgasm?
A loaded question, and one to which the answer can vary greatly from person to person. But, by looking at the various causes as to why one can’t orgasm, it may give them insight. In this way, we hope to shed light on the different reasons why some find it difficult to orgasm, the reasons…
Finding Sexual Fulfilment While Living with Depression
Luckily, we’re living in a time where mental illness is being recognised and treated more humanely. In fact, the earliest written accounts of depression was in the second millennium, and meant that one was possessed by demons and evil spirits. The treatment? Being Beaten, physically restrained, and/or starved in an attempt to drive the demons…
Scent as a Sense of Sexual Attraction
Your sense of smell is a very powerful emotional trigger. Think of how, upon entering, the smells of your childhood home can immediately affect you and send you back to the emotional state you were in as a child–for better or worse. This is because scent is tied very closely to memory, and specifically tied…
Is It Normal To Be a Virgin in Your 20s?
Everyone’s doing it. On TV, on billboards, in the pages of magazines and books, on social media, everyone is having sex, and loads of it. According to Planned Parenthood, the average age when people lose their virginity, aka have sex for the first time, is 18 years old. For most people, it happens when they’re…
Does Our Parents’ Parenting Style Affect Our Sex Lives? Science Says Yes
You might not want to hear it, but your parents are responsible for the way you see and have sex. Well, at least partly. And there is so much more that comes to play than the dreaded sex talk we all had at one point or another. Before you go off gagging at two words,…
How the BDSM Kink Community on TikTok is Teaching People Consent
In popular culture, the lines between consensual and non-consensual sex are blurred. The general message is that silence is consent, and movies and even popular books like 50 Shades of Gray reiterate the message that someone doesn’t know how bad they want it until you coerce or force them into sexual activity. A survey conducted…
I Tried a CBD Sex Suppository, and it Was Nothing Like I Expected
If I had wanted to spend my Friday date night stoned out of my mind, craving junk food with a mad case of the munchies and lazily curled up on the couch with a movie, I could have spent 10 minutes inside any local, Los Angeles dispensary and walked away dazed and happy. But I…
Gyms are Getting Hot! Best Workouts to Improve Sexual Stamina and Flexibility
With spring just around the corner, it’s the perfect time to start working on spicing things up in the bedroom. And one of the best ways to do it is to improve your sexual stamina and flexibility with easy workouts you can do at the gym or home. Looking to increase penis stamina? LELO is…
Work Out & Get Off: What is a Coregasm?
Once upon a time, we revealed that the sexiest kind of exercise was of the kegel variety. You know, when you tighten your pelvic floor muscles (either manually or using Ben Wa Balls) in order to make them stronger, resulting in intense and more powerful orgasms? And while we still stand by this, coregasms are…
Penis Fracture Is Real And Surprisingly Common
How can you fracture something that has no bone? It may sound like a riddle, but we are here to explain just that. Penis is entirely made of soft tissue, yet it gets fractured more often than we’d like to admit. I won’t deny that broken dick has somewhat of a comedic quality to it,…
Vitamins for Better Erection Health
Erectile dysfunction is something that, at some point of their lives, will have to contend with. Even outside of erectile dysfunction, a man should also consider the overall health of his penis and the quality of the erections that it can achieve. The issue can be considered erectile dysfunction if you are either not able…
5 Things that Attract Us Others, According to Psychology
Whether you’ve got a fabulous bestie, are partnered up, happily married, enjoying a bit of fun with someone, or crushing on another person, what exactly is it that attracts you to them? Maybe you can name one or more reasons straight off the bat, or maybe you simply believe that they’re special and deserve some…
Did You Know? A Sexy Voice is a Powerful Aphrodisiac!
With the popularity of online dating, the chances of you speaking to someone on the phone or hearing a voice note from them before actually meeting, is high. And how about the growingly popular TV show, Love is Blind, in which contestants base their levels of attraction towards another using only their voice? It’s true!…
8 Natural Ways to Boost Testosterone
It’s a common concern for many men, especially as they age – as testosterone levels level off and begin to decrease, what can we do to keep them at their peak levels? The answers are actually easier than you think, so read on for the 8 ways to naturally maintain and even maybe increase your…
LELO Beads Plus: The Sexiest Kind of Exercise for Women
Exercise… What a drag, right? Yeah, it’s good for our health, keeps us fit and rewards us with a rush of feel-good hormones, but surely everyone has been in the position where they simply do not feel like getting their work out on. Today however, we’re going to introduce you to a new kind of…
Do You Have “Penis Envy?”
As a term, Penis Envy is quite well-known, and as a concept, it’s an easy-to-grasp one, as it’s right there on the tin: being envious of a penis, as in a penis that is not yours. Among men and penis-having individuals, this is simple enough to understand, as who hasn’t at least wondered about the…
Understanding Your Sexual Desire Response Type with Emily Nagoski
Sexual desire (or sex drive, or libido – however you want to call it) is a rather misunderstood concept to this day. And not without reason. Due to the lack of sexual education in the majority of the world and mixed signals regarding sex in media, it’s natural that people are confused. The good news…
Why We Absolutely Love Comfort Sex!
So often, when we read literature online or self-help books on the topic of sex, we find ourselves talking about experimenting, trying new things in the bedroom, and different way to avoid boredom in between the sheets. But what if the narrative changed? What if, instead of going for a one night stand or partnering…
Sexual Health Q&A with Dr. Zhana
For our January Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Sexual Health. How much sex is necessary to keep a balanced, healthy sexual relationship? This is a remarkably common question that I get. There’s no one right answer. How often you and your partner should have sex really depends on how often the two…
Why Am I So Horny? The Science Behind High Libido and How to Manage It
“Why am I so horny recently?” You might be asking yourself that if it’s been five days in a row of having sex with your partner, and yet, on the sixth day, you still wake up ready for another round. Different people have different sex drives, and they can vary depending on various things happening…
What is the Meaning of Your Sexy Dream?
So you’ve woken up all flustered, perhaps a little sweaty and well, aroused! Or it could have been the complete opposite—freaked out, overwhelmed, and possibly even disgusted. Sexy dreams happen to the best of us, and we don’t always get to choose who we have these lustful dreams about (cue lucid dreaming). But whether you’re…
Ask a Therapist: Desire Discrepancy Q&A with Casey Tanner
What are things you can do to increase sexual desire with a partner To begin, it’s helpful to understand what kind of desire you and your partner have. There are at least two kinds of desire that we know of: spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Those with spontaneous desire might have the experience of feeling…
Play Safe: Here’s Why High Quality Sex Toys are Way Better for Your Health!
While there are too many different sex toys out there to count, you’ll really notice the difference when you decide to prioritise high quality sex toys. Sure, you could buy a super affordable pleasure product you’ve spotted. And sure, it’ll probably bring you all kinds of sexy sensations. But once you decide to invest in…
LELO x Dr. Zhana: Self-Love Q&A
For our December Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Self-Love. What are the benefits of self-love? Self-love, more broadly, is about taking care of ourselves and appreciating ourselves. Very often, we use that term to talk about masturbation and self-pleasure, which are such important parts of our lives and come with a lot…
How Your Penis Changes with Age
Time waits for no man. The same goes for his penis. As we all march forward into old age (yes, that’s ALL of us. Even you), you’re going to notice changes all over the place, including below your waistline. While you’re maybe worried about wrinkles appearing on your face and grey hairs on your head,…
The Link Between Endometriosis & Painful Sex, and How to Ease Discomfort
Perhaps you’ve been diagnosed with endometriosis and you’re living with some the dreaded effects, aka painful sex. Or maybe you’ve yet to visit your healthcare provider, but are having some difficulty during intimacy, creating some anxiety and discomfort. Unfortunately, there are many women who have endometriosis, and may not even know it. If you identify…
Sex During End of Year Stress | Q&A with Casey Tanner
Like in most cases, stress can have a direct impact on your emotional well-being and intimacy. We opened the floor for users to ask sex therapist Casey Tanner all their dwelling questions about holiday stress and sex. How can I tell my partner I’m not into sex when I’m feeling stressed? You are, of course,…
Sexual Guilty Pleasures: So Bad, Yet Oh So Good!
Guilty pleasures… we all have them! Maybe you enjoy singing Westlife in the shower, or perhaps your favourite TV show is 90 Day Fiancé. We don’t judge! But! We do see why these things could be considered a guilty pleasure. And when it comes to sexual guilty pleasures, the notion is essentially the same…. What…
How Does Your Vagina Change with Age?
As we worry about the ways that time changes our appearance in terms of crow’s feet and laugh lines, do we ever consider what kind of effect it’s having on our privates? Just like everything else about our bodies, our genitals will also bear some of the signs of aging, for good and for ill.…
Is The Term ‘NSFW’ Actually Quite Toxic?
My initial research led me to a meme that read, “If you work in a sex shop, is it still NSFW?” Well played, meme, well played! But actually, the term ‘NSFW’ has been flung around for a good few years now. And if you haven’t seen it yet (or searched to find out its meaning),…
The Anatomy of the Vagina: It’s Not Even the Half of It!
If a spade is a spade, let’s just call it a spade? By that I mean, the majority of you reading this article right now probably are or have been sexually active. At the very least, it’s safe to assume that you’ve experimented with masturbation (or are ready to). And because we’re sexual beings, we…