Sex toys are one of the best ways to create more opportunities for pleasure, increase accessibility, and have more fun in and out of the bedroom! While they’re often thought of as a tool for masturbation, sex toys are a great option whether you’re having sex with yourself or someone else. For queer people, especially…
“It felt like someone shoved a corkscrew with spikes up my ass and mercilessly kept twisting,” River Mitchell, a 30-year-old OnlyFans creator from Texas, remembers of their agonizing 21 days with monkeypox. “The pain was excruciating, I’ll never forget it. There were days that I would just lay on the floor sobbing.” Mitchell suspects he…
Being a good teacher means knowing your speciality subject very well indeed. You must also know how to present a topic clearly to an individual or a group so that they understand and learn something new. My passion for teaching went far beyond the classroom; I also loved playing the teacher in an intimate role-playing…
“Do you want to go to a lesbian club tonight?” she asked me from the sofa as I was picking up my clothes that I had left on the living room floor the night before. I wondered if she had forgotten her promise to go down on me “as soon as we got home” after…
Those moments when you first wake up in the morning can be confusing. In a matter of seconds, you go from a dream-like state to analysing where you are, who you are with (sometimes) and above all, how you got to bed the night before. It was Saturday morning and when I woke up and…
There are days in your life that seem insignificant when you live them. It’s only with time that you come to understand their meaning. That’s how it was when I met her. It was a hot summer’s day in Madrid and I was working as an English teacher in a language academy. That day I…
For many men and people with penises, it may never even occur to them to try strap-on sex. If one’s parts are functioning as expected they might not see no reason to experiment with such a thing. Society in general has deeply-rooted ideas about masculinity and penises that lead men to regard such playthings as…
“Oh come on! Knock it off!” The words were followed by a low, breathless chuckle as a calloused hand shoved at his abdomen. He grinned, nuzzling at the nape of the neck under his nose as he tightened his hold on the man in his arms. “But it’s true! You’ve got the most beautiful laugh.”…
Sex toys are for everyone. From traditional ones to newer, innovative toys, these gadgets and devices give people the opportunity to explore and get creative with their pleasure. Many people want to use sex toys, but it can be frustrating or cause gender dysphoria when the toys you’re looking at aren’t represented by people who…
Enjoy our interview with certified sex therapist, Casey Tanner, who discusses readers’ questions about gender and sexual expansiveness. Q: Where can I find queer-positive, LGBTQ+ porn? It is certainly more difficult to find queer porn that doesn’t feel tokenizing or made for the male gaze. I find that the best, most ethical queer porn—or really…
As we as a society start to have a broadened understanding of gender identity and inclusivity, we’re noticing the ways our language can exclude or even harm certain people. Up until recently, the term “same-sex couple” was considered the default to refer to any romantic and/or sexual dynamic that isn’t heterosexual. Same-sex is taken from…
There’s a thing every bi+ person knows: nobody else believes in us. And out of everyone who falls under the pan/bi+ umbrella, nobody struggles with that invisibility more than bi+ men. Just look at some of our pop culture icons; you ask the average person on the street, and they’ll say David Bowie was straight…
Through millennia of forced silence, the LGBTQ community has persisted – and with more of us holding positions of power now than at any other time in history, our communal voice is louder than ever. The history of pride is still in the making. Some people started it, for generations to come. These eight heroes…
Hi everyone, it’s Dr. Zhana! It’s time to answer your questions about sexual orientation and LGBTQ-related topics for Pride Month. I got some really good questions and I’m really excited to answer them. Q: I know gender is not binary, but is sex binary? All right, let’s start with the basics. Gender is more about…
You’re probably wondering what a lesbian vibrator actually is. And rightly so! How does it differ from any other pleasure product for vulva-owners? Well, there are several different toys available that are perfect for lesbian partners and lovers. And we’re not just talking about strap-ons and double-ended dildos! Sure, those are quite a treat for…
Hatred is a virus, too. That’s why, despite being home this year, it’s still important to commemorate the strides taken for equality while acknowledging the serious work that still needs to be done. Here’s everything you need to know about International Day Against Homophobia and how we’re putting our LELO twist on it (with some…
As usual, in the lab the lights emanate from everywhere yet nowhere. However, this time he’s strapped face-down to the cold metal table, his legs spread; it doesn’t matter what he can or cannot see. He’s naked. His heart is pounding. The pain is coming. There is no stopping the pain from coming. “You’ll forget…
Looking to add some more gay sex positions to your bedroom routine? Perhaps need a few foreplay ideas and tips to try something new? There’s always room to spice things up while getting intimate! So, whether you’re seeking a different kind of thrill, feel like experiencing different sensations, or just intrigued, this article will reveal…
Connor walked into the living room in black briefs and a sheer robe. He threw himself down on the ottoman and sighed dramatically. Lukas, seated snugly on the couch, glanced up from his laptop. His fingers flew over the keyboard as he reached out and nudged Connor’s calf with his foot. “What’s wrong with you?”…
It was silent apart from the gentle patter of raindrops. He could almost forget that he was pushing his way down a crowded sidewalk to get to the rideshare parking lot. Just as he did every weekday. However, instead of the usual sharp, pricking sensation along his skin caused by the bustle of a city…
Martin hated clubs. They played the music too loud and people jostled him. Yet, Martin found himself aglow in reddish-orange light, his fingers tapping on a wooden bar. Glitter dusted the dark floor and black stools. Martin blinked through a strobe as he looked over his shoulder at him. Martin hated to admit that he…
Could he stick out any more like a sore thumb? With the amount of people staring at him, he’d expected to look down and see a frilly pink dress stretched obscenely over his torso and hips with a pair of stiletto heels on his feet, but he was only wearing his usual pressed black slacks…
Their eyes met from across the room. He blushed as he looked away, and Nick realized that he had been staring at him. His shirt tightened and showed his muscles rippling beneath it as he tugged at it, clearly uncomfortable with the knowledge of Nick’s gaze. Nick shook himself. What was he doing? Spending a…
As an athlete, I learned early the importance of keeping your body tuned and maintained. The sports chiropractor and I were on a regular schedule to keep my body inline. Over the years, I continued looking for a regular massage therapist that would support my flexibility and my needs to be fit. I lamented losing…
“You know that’s not my thing, Phillip.” He said, shifting forward, hands planted either side of his thighs. “But thanks,” he chuckled. The towel over his lap folded forward, teasing exposure. He made no effort to adjust it. “I suppose other guys have asked you the same thing,” I said, returning the chuckle and covering…
My man pushes me against the wall in front of our condo entry door. His left hand grabs my jaw as he french kisses me passionately. His right hand is already unfastening my belt. The fever has overwhelmed us from the moment we stepped inside that taxi. We’re not the makeup sex type of couple,…
While bartending one evening, HE walks in. You know the type. The confident, intimidating alpha male that demands the room acknowledges his presence. His slate eyes indicate he is secretive, the way he dresses indicates discretion, but that smile, well that smile indicates he wants me, which makes me nervous. Nervous and hard with desire,…
The last of the boxes unpacked had Max officially moved into Henry’s condo. The two sat down on the couch together, Max passing him a cold beer, tapped the neck of his bottle to Henry’s, “Cheers! To officially moving in together.” “To us,” Henry replied before taking a sip. He let the cold lager slide…
It seemed like they were trying to save him, but Radical Zombie Saviors are tricky that way; one moment they’re saving you from an all-out attack, the next minute your asshole’s impaled. I wasn’t sure Finn wanted to be saved, still, I stayed in the safety of the alcove – in the shadows – and…
What better way to get your sexual juices flowing than by writing out your wildest fantasy? Well, that’s exactly what LELO wanted our readers to do. We hosted a gay erotica contest to showcase what’s been cooking in your minds while we’ve had so much time to ourselves, and boy, the entries did not disappoint.…
Tim kept his hands in his pockets as he sauntered down the hall. He’d worried that finding Jonathan’s office would take time. But, with all the floor-to-ceiling glass, he’d see his face before a name plaque. A few passing suits shot him odd looks, but no one stopped him. He smiled at the one woman…
The olive-toned skin glistened with a light sheen of sweat and was stretched taut over lean muscles. There was a light dusting of dark hair that covered the chest, arms and legs. Those perfectly sculpted limbs, in his opinion, quaked with anticipation. He hummed softly, the sound loud in the otherwise silent room. The body…
*This contest is open to everyone, however, the submissions must be gay male themed. After we wrapped up our Virtual Pride Month celebrations and our “Dear Younger Queer Self ” contest, we realized that our gay male erotica category should use some beefing up to better represent our diversity. That’s where you beefcakes come in!…
Dearest Krisi, Images of Madonna filled your mind as you jerked it in high school, but you sincerely had no idea that you were a lesbian. Lesbian—it couldn’t possibly refer to you. Lesbian conjured images of unattractive women that looked nothing like me. Growing up in the 1980s, you assumed you were straight. You dated…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Firstly, let me assure you that you will be okay. You have a bumpy journey ahead, but you will reach a place of peace and contentment and pride. So, hang on in there. I want you to know that there is no shame in desire. Whether that is desire for the…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Oh my darling, darling stubborn girl! Thank you for standing up for yourself even when you had doubts. For standing up for how you felt and for refusing to feel shame about it. Yes. Bisexual is absolutely a real thing. Yes. You are attracted THAT way to other girls and to…
Dear Younger Queer Self, I am sorry. You were but a child, praying to be seen, and yet you had to hide behind a mask of “normalcy”, a poorly painted smile on the outside, rough cuts around the eyes, thorns on the inside. I am sorry I convinced you it was dangerous to tell your…
Hey girl. First off, slow the fuck down on the partying! You don’t need to do all your living before you hit 20! Also, I know about the cigarettes. Give them up while you still can! You’ll thank me later. Now let’s talk about you. We both know you’re not one to indulge in sentimentality.…
Dear Younger Queer Self, The world has lied to you all these years. They’ve coiled up the truth and twisted it into a mess of lies that makes it near impossible to find the start of it all. Let alone the truth. It’s a lie built on fear and misunderstanding. Much like many things in…
You do not have to choose a side; this is not a game of badminton, even though hiding who you are feels like a sport right now. You have been stressed out lately and feeling like an outsider. Here’s a surprise, there are more people like you than you could ever imagine. With that being…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Your queerness will not look like it does on television shows. A group of giggly and charismatic celebrities are not about to arrive at your door and turn you into the person you long to be. You have to be your own Antoni. You have to cook yourself a nourishing meal.…
Dear Younger Queer Self, The ideals of what you considered an inconsequential youth will not be lost on this world. You will be celebrated for the beautiful and intelligent woman that you have always strived to be. You will not have to sacrifice your femininity and frailty or dignity and integrity to be accepted and…
There’s no how-to guide, no roadmap, no detailed manual. Everyone’s journey through discovering their sexuality looks a little bit different, but sharing our knowledge can help those who are starting their journey, especially when it comes to coming out (to themselves and their loved ones). To commemorate the power of community despite not being able…
As an openly gay therapist who specializes at the intersection of couples and sex therapy, a large number of the clients I see are also gay. And one of the dynamics I often bump up against with these clients in particular is the gap between sexual and relational compatibility . Meaning that while a person…
There are a lot of questions that arise before thinking about coming out (a metaphor used by the LGBTQ+ community referring to revealing your sexual identity) to your friends, family, workplace, etc. How do I tell them? When? What will they say? Is it even worth it? It’s important to weigh the pros and cons…
By now you’ve realized that most mainstream lesbian erotic films are quite literally in the business of producing fantasy, not reality. Thus, many women who are interested in exploring same-sex attraction, may feel ill-prepared to actually pursue another woman for fear of ‘not knowing what to do’ in bed. Below, we take a look at…
We get a lot of feedback from our wonderful readers, and as June is Pride month, we are going to be tackling some of the questions we’ve received from our LELO fans in the LGBTQ community. Q: Dear LELO, I’ve been a big fan of your products and blog for a few years, but I…
Sexual relationships and intimacy are complicated. And when identity and sexual politics gets thrown into the mix, this can create an even more complex situation. Being communicative about a range of issues including sexual limits, identity politics, your STI and HIV status, and more can help create a safer and better sexual experience for all…
Remember in school, when your trigonometry teacher would threaten you with, “Pay attention! You’re going to need this one day…”? Most of us never ended up dreading the day in our adult lives when trigonometry would pop out from behind some tree that was perfectly perpendicular to the ground. In fact, the only knowledge from…
Funny how you never think of her until you’re alone. Funny how your best friend is just your best friend until it’s two a.m. and you can’t sleep for the third night in a row; heat pools in your belly and you’ve never wanted her more. Funny how you used to think you just liked…