By definition, a narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest or admiration of themselves. It’s an extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them. Of course, all of us have the capacity to have certain narcissistic behavioural tendencies from time to time, but in…
After a stretch of time with the same partner (we can’t say how long of course, as it varies from person to person, couple to couple), we will of course forget a little of what made them so special in the first place. The initial shimmer they once brought into our lives may have dulled…
These days, opportunity and circumstance are taking us to farther flung-out places for education, employment, or what have you. Whatever the reason, there might come a time that you find yourself away from your partner for a stretch of time much longer than you’re comfortable with. Rather than letting the distance determine whether or not…
Will your sex life remain – or ever be – picture perfect? If the average answer was ‘yes,’ this sex advice blog – and likely the entirety of the sex toy business – wouldn’t need to exist. Sex is more complicated than we’d all like to admit, and the longer we stay in relationships, the…
The old times when you would meet the love of your life in the library or your local shop while doing your weekly grocery shopping are gone. Instead, the younger generation is taking dating online, with recent studies revealing that finding your significant other on the internet completely replaced all the other ways of meeting…
The de-stigmatizing and normalizing of all types of partner sex – from casual encounters to keeping the spark in monogamy – has led sex educators and sexuality writers into another conundrum. While we love to see all kinds of folks getting their unapologetic freak on, we’re now left to deal with an unintended consequence: the…
Today, there are more ‘names’ for the kinds of things people have been experiencing for decades and decades. And this is actually a good thing. Way back when, people would experience all kinds of abuse… not as overtly as physical, but mental, psychological, and emotional. And these kinds of abuse are just as harmful (sometimes…
Infidelity is infidelity, right? Well, technically! But in this day and age, who’s to say what cheating really is? Before the invention of the Internet—heck, even before the telephone—cheating meant catching a partner nestled up close to someone else. Just like the movies, two people checking into a motel or hotel, having a cheeky kiss…
Did you know that you have a mere seven seconds to make a first impression? And while eye contact does play a positive role in how people perceive you upon first interaction, locking eyes has the power to enhance all kinds of interactions—be it in friendships, relationships, work connections, and more. Let’s take a little…
The connection between social media and relationships has been the topic of conversations for years now. Multiple studies show that social media impacts our mental health and how we view ourselves, and our self-esteem. So it’s only natural to assume that it should also impact our romantic relationships, right? According to Pew Research Center, 45%…
Cold Netflix nights are played out. As nice as cozying up by the fire has been, you’re ready to do some adventuring – or at least step outside. The weather is warming up, the grass is looking lush and green, flowers are blooming, and love is in the air. After cozying up for the winter…
Everyone gives and receives love differently. This philosophy is the basis behind the Five Love Languages – a guidebook written by Dr. Gary Chapman over 30 years ago. Dr. Chapman used his background as a counselor to spread the knowledge of the love languages so that people could form meaningful and lasting relationships. If you’re…
There’s a lot to be said about double standards when it comes to sex and sexuality. You know, the whole ‘congratulating a man yet shaming a woman after sex’ thing? And with that, we know that there are many individuals who deem their or another’s virginity as a ‘prized possession’, with some even auctioning it…
San Diego is one of the biggest hot spots in the United States. This coastal city has it all – sunny weather, beautiful beaches, amazing food, and endless amounts of fun things to do and see. Whether you’re exploring San Diego for the first time, or you’ve lived here your whole life, this is a…
With spring just around the corner, you might be looking for new ways to spice things up in your relationship. It’s natural that with nature waking up from the winter slumber and days getting longer, you want to find new and exciting ways to connect with your partner. So, if you’ve been wondering how to…
It’s 2022 and in this day and age, people get to love who they want and however many people they want. They’ve broken the confines of what your stereotypical relationship should look like and have made their own rules. It seems like more and more people are leaning towards polyamory, or choosing to stay single…
There is no one gender that has a monopoly on not being in the moment during lovemaking. When it comes to a wandering mid-coitus mind, women are just as likely as anyone to be thinking of any number of things, other than what’s happening right there in front of them. IT should be no surprise…
Tiktok is one of the largest social media platforms with over 1 billion monthly users. The app’s popularity can be widely attributed to its unique algorithm that quickly picks up on what the users like and want to see on their For You pages. Due to TikTok’s algorithm being so accurate, it’s very easy for…
What’s your first reaction when someone says they “waited for marriage” or when someone mentions the concept of virginity? Do you cringe? Are you ambivalent? Does it resonate with you? Does it bring up some family and cultural baggage? Is it outside of your normal life but you’re curious? All or none of the above?…
What’s that I hear? Are those wedding bells ringing in my ear? So you’ve decided to take the plunge and tie the knot. A big congratulations to you! This is one of the most important and exciting points in your life. So exciting, that you may be at a loss for words. Language is one…
You’d think that sex, love, and romance would be the most natural things for humans, but that’s not always the case. Many of us are often left floundering when it comes to these vital parts of life. Sex ed in school often leaves people more confused than before, your parents may not have the best…
Love at first sight is so often romanticised. In movies, films, and even in real life. And while the thought of it does sound appealing, there is the flip side of it all. In other words, is love at first sight actually quite shallow? Does it mean that one can be filled with feelings of…
Being in a relationship is hard–especially when they’re long term. For some, they form their identity around their partner, making it hard to spot things that they perhaps once believed to be a deal breaker. Not just that, but seeing those waving red flags are even harder when you’re so invested in another human. And…
If your satisfaction with your sex life has been lackluster, instead of finding a new partner or blaming it on both of you being incompatible in bed, it might be a good idea to learn how to be a better lover instead. Bad sex doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you or your partner.…
If you’re looking for a way to surprise your partner, lingam massage might be a great option. It’s a practice that’s created with all the penis owners in mind. It guarantees a good time and a great way to connect with your partner. What Is Lingam Massage? Lingam massage is one of the tantric sex…
While polygamy is rife in many societies, monogamy still seems like the most mainstream way in which to have a relationship. We’re often bombarded with images, influences, and expectations to get married, have that white picket fence, three children, and a dog, then live happily ever after. But because we’re more open-minded today in exploring…
What are things you can do to increase sexual desire with a partner To begin, it’s helpful to understand what kind of desire you and your partner have. There are at least two kinds of desire that we know of: spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Those with spontaneous desire might have the experience of feeling…
We’re lucky enough to live in a time where sex toys are rife! Every day, sex toy companies are working hard with designers, sexual wellness experts, and other professionals to outbeat themselves and their competition, only to bring you even more pleasure! Well, not just you… you and your partner! You see, while there are…
For our November Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Spicing Things Up. How would you define sex? What can sex include to be more interesting? I define sex quite broadly. It can include anything – masturbation, partnered sex of different kinds (oral, anal, mutual masturbation, using toys on each other), different kinds of…
We’re just sliding into that late autumn/early winter colder months – you know the time: the air is crisp, the sleeves are long and the lattes are pumpkin spiced. But now that the sun is setting earlier and there’s enough of a nip in the air to make an excuse to skip after-work drinks, have…
There may be a good reason grandma and grandpa haven’t returned your phone call. A survey looked at how the sex habits of 2,000 people aged 50 and older changed and found that more than three-quarters have noticed significant changes to their sex life now compared to when they were younger (77%), with 45% saying…
You may or may not have heard of the term ‘demisexual’. For reference, demisexual is when a person only experiences sexual attraction to another when they have a close emotional bond with them. This bond need not be romantic in nature however—it could even be a platonic friendship. Regardless, demisexuality isn’t actually about being sexually…
Sex columnist Dan Savage explained the art of talking dirty very simply: “Dirty talk for beginners: Tell ’em what you’re going to do, tell ’em what you’re doing, tell ’em what you did.” This formula sounds perfect, but what if you’re shy and struggle with articulating your thoughts? Not all people are comfortable with voicing…
For our September Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about DADT: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell types of relationships. What’s DADT? Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is a type of relationship where the partners agree that they’re going to have other partners, but that they’re not going to talk about it. They don’t want to know…
The second episode of our pleasure podcasts takes around the globe to discuss the effects of the ongoing pandemic of human relationships. How has the prolonged time spent together influenced couples? How has the dating scene changed? Or how to deal with the psychological impacts of lockdown? These and many more questions form the basis…
In our very first episode, we talk about non-monogamy and the different forms that it can take. The norm and the ideal in our Western societies is this monogamous, life-long romantic relationship. Some find that to be exactly the right thing for them, but some prefer to make their own rules. We are sure you’ve…
Having sex in the bedroom is great. It offers comfort, coziness and it’s a safe space to enjoy yourself and your partner. But if you find yourself getting bored and looking for a way to spice things up, you don’t have to look far to find a solution. In fact, you only have to look…
Many couples suffer from having less sex after having kids. One of the latest Netflix shows, Sex/life, explores the life of a woman who had lost part of herself after getting married and having children and whose husband doesn’t seem to see her as a sexual being anymore. Our heroine, Billie, used to lead a…
Polyamory has as many perks as a garden’s got roses, and smells just as sweet. All that community, camaraderie, and abundant communication, plus a whole spate of sweet humans in your life who love you – and not to mention that ever-evolving sex life. Is there anything better? Looking at it from the outside, opening…
Anyone who had dabbled in some BDSM play knows the term “aftercare” well. It’s always repeated over and over again whenever you’re looking for tips on how to start with BDSM. Somehow, people often think that aftercare after vanilla sex, when no whips and chains were involved, is not needed. Like, if you’re having sex…
Almost half of couples have dealt with or experienced infidelity in marriage. In the US, infidelity is the second leading cause of many divorces. What’s also interesting is that the majority of people, even those who cheat on their significant others, tend to believe that infidelity is wrong. Yet people don’t seem to be having…
When Dr. Gary Chapman wrote his book The Five Love Languages over 30 years ago, he probably didn’t think it will become an essential part of every couple’s life. Truly, learning your and your partner’s love languages is the best way to find common ground and communicate your needs within the relationship. Gary Chapman described…
Sexual compatibility is one of the most important aspects of every relationship. Whenever we meet a new partner, we’re always eager to find out whether we’re compatible in the sheets. We’re looking for that spark, that instant attraction to another person, where you can’t seem to get enough of each other and where you don’t…
Unconditional love is hard to explain. Applying it to ourselves is sometimes even more difficult. That’s why this Global Love Day is inspired by the phrase “Love begins with me.” Our self-love is often buried beneath layers of trauma, guilt and pain, which makes it easy to overlook the fact that love is always present.…
This article was written by Dr. Justin Lehmiller. Penises don’t always work the way we want them to. Over the course of a man’s life, he will occasionally experience erections at inconvenient or undesirable times, and he will occasionally be unable to get an erection when he wants one. This is all perfectly normal. However,…
LGBT. LGBTQ. LGBTQI. LGBTQIA+. As an out and proud member of the queer community, I relish each letter our little web of support brings to the table. Under such a big, welcoming archway of possibility, there are few things more beautiful than queers and our ability to meet one another exactly where we’re at. Most…
March 20th marks International Day of Happiness, and we’re dedicating the latest research to sex and happiness, that is, why sex makes us feel good and what we can do to have sex that makes us happy. What Does Sex Mean? We may ask ourselves, what does sex mean to a woman? What does sex…
Is your partner’s love language verbal affirmation? If so, you should definitely take advantage of World Compliment Day to show them some love. Words are one of the most powerful tools of communication and making your crush, girlfriend, wife, or life partner feel butterflies can start with a simple text. What is World Compliment Day…
Below is your guide for incorporating sex toys, and clit suckers in particular, into partnered sex. Check out our product recommendations, sex positions, and some interesting stats! Having sex with toys Introducing sex toys into a relationship can be intimidating, especially towards male partners who can feel threatened by the idea. The truth is that…
You might think that people who are truly in love automatically know the answer to this question, with no doubt in their minds—and a lucky few do, but for many, this generally isn’t the case. People vary in the extent to which they know and can distinguish between their own emotions. This puts us in…