You may or may not have heard of the term ‘demisexual’. For reference, demisexual is when a person only experiences sexual attraction to another when they have a close emotional bond with them. This bond need not be romantic in nature however—it could even be a platonic friendship. Regardless, demisexuality isn’t actually about being sexually…
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High Protocol, You Either Love it or You Don’t!
Are you a stickler for the rules? And when someone of authority commands something of you, what’s your reaction? Well, the answer to these two questions will essentially indicate whether you’re a fan of high protocol or not. Lost? Don’t be… it’ll all become clear in a minute! What Does High Protocol Mean in the…
How To Talk Dirty During Sex Even if You’re Shy
Sex columnist Dan Savage explained the art of talking dirty very simply: “Dirty talk for beginners: Tell ’em what you’re going to do, tell ’em what you’re doing, tell ’em what you did.” This formula sounds perfect, but what if you’re shy and struggle with articulating your thoughts? Not all people are comfortable with voicing…
Among the Stars – A Gay Erotic Story
“Oh come on! Knock it off!” The words were followed by a low, breathless chuckle as a calloused hand shoved at his abdomen. He grinned, nuzzling at the nape of the neck under his nose as he tightened his hold on the man in his arms. “But it’s true! You’ve got the most beautiful laugh.”…
Does SONA 2 Really Work? A Clinical Study by the University of Almería
The clinical trial was conducted by the University of Almería Center for Neuropsychological Evaluation and Rehabilitation (CERNEP) in correspondence with the bioethics committee. The device used was the SONA 2 clitoral massager by LELO, which uses patented SenSonic technology to stimulate more of the clitoris in comparison with traditional vibrators. Background Information Female pleasure has…
The World of Smart Sperm
Growing technical advances and societal views have made it possible for many people to reproduce, who might not have been able to otherwise. Although there are certainly financial barriers that keep people from accessing reproductive technologies like in-vitro fertilization (IVF) and intrauterine insemination (IUI), it certainly does level the playing field a bit. With more…
Succumbing to the Lifestyle of Total Power Exchange (TPE)
For some, giving up all control sounds like a nightmare. For others, it’s the ultimate form of freedom. So when two people in the BDSM community pair together, each holding one of these notions, the basic premise for a total power exchange (TPE) relationship has the potential to blossom. What is Total Power Exchange (TPE)?…
Ask Dr. Zhana: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Relationships (DADT)
For our September Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about DADT: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell types of relationships. What’s DADT? Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is a type of relationship where the partners agree that they’re going to have other partners, but that they’re not going to talk about it. They don’t want to know…
The Best Sex Positions That Help Burn Calories
Healthcare specialists advise that adults need 150 minutes of physical activity each week to maintain a healthy body. That roughly translates into 30 minutes 5 times a week, and what better way to get in some physical activity than with sex? If you’re looking to get the best results out of using sex as your…
How To Use INA Wave 2 and Why It’s the Best Choice Rabbit Vibrator
Rabbit vibrators have been the go-to sex toy for many women since the 90s’ when the vibrator first appeared on Sex and the City. While, for the most part, the design of this iconic toy has stayed fairly unchanged throughout the years, the functionality of this sex toy has improved tremendously. Our new Ina Wave…
Train – An Erotic Story
Sitting in the observation car on the Winnipeg-Churchill train, Derrick watched the stunted coniferous trees and muskeg quickly pass by as the train headed north through Canada. He relaxed, lounging in his seat, arms behind his head. A vent below his seat blew warm air against his feet and a steaming cup of almond-flavored coffee…
LELO Podcast: Sex Education in the 21st Century
In this episode, we are taking you back to school, particularly to the classroom of sexual education! As important as this topic is, it seems as though many countries are still lagging in implementing a nationwide SexEd curriculum. What are the reasons behind this? Is SexEd even a teachable science? At would age should we…
Let’s Have a SenSonic Celebration: How SenSonic Technology Works
SONA may have pioneered LELO’s patented SenSonic technology, but now there’s a whole range of diverse sex toys that offer this amazing feature AND they’re on sale for a limited time. What is SenSonic technology? SenSonic technology works on the concept of waves that are sent deep into the body. These sex toys contain small…
“Yes, Mistress!” The Mistress-Slave Relationship, Explained
The majority of us have grown up in a world with imposed rules and regulations. And by following said-rules, we’re being respectful towards authoritative figures, institutions, and each other. The term ‘Mistress’ in the BDSM community is oddly similar… but in the intimate relationship that exists between a dominant and a submissive or a Master/Mistress…
Exploring Platonic Romance
We put a lot of emphasis on our romantic relationships, and for good reason. Romance lights us up, inspires us, and helps us feel that fiery rush of what it means to be alive. Romance, however, isn’t always easy to find, especially amidst a pandemic with off-and-on lockdowns. Even dating apps can be a tricky…
A Closer Look at Shibari, or Japanese Rope Bondage
As a reader of this blog and someone who is obviously curious about the world of sex beyond just what is presented to them in mass media, you’re no doubt familiar with Shibari, even if you don’t know it by name. Shibari, which simply enough means ‘tying’ in Japanese, is a contemporary style of rope…
Is My Penis Normal?
Lads, when was the last time you looked down in the shower? In those first few minutes of the day as your mental modem starts pinging to life and a more dreamlike state affects all you see and perceive, your eyes may just travel all the way down to alight on your dick. Your dick.…
That Time in a Sex Shop – An Erotic Story
I was looking for a way to spice things up in the bedroom when I walked into that sex shop. But I never expected to find what I did. Her plush rosy lips curled into a smile, long blond hair falling down her arched back as she turned her head to me and asked, “How…
A Friend Indeed – A Gay Erotic Story
Spence had worked for A Friend Indeed for nearly three years and, as he was now the employee with the most seniority, he was offered the new clients first. “What do you think?” Gretchen, his boss, asked. “You want this one?” Spence thought it over. “Yeah, I’ll take it, help get it all set up.”…
Frottage Core: Your Guide to Dry Humping
From gardening to baking to knitting, cottage core has been all the rage in recent years. Just ask Pinterest. As lovely as all those things are, we’re not here to talk about cottage core, we’re to talk about frottage core. Say what?! According to the Oxford Dictionary, frottage is “the practice of touching or rubbing…
Sex Toys For Trans-Masc People
Sex toys are for everyone. From traditional ones to newer, innovative toys, these gadgets and devices give people the opportunity to explore and get creative with their pleasure. Many people want to use sex toys, but it can be frustrating or cause gender dysphoria when the toys you’re looking at aren’t represented by people who…
Home Delivery – An Erotic Story
The Friday night drinks party at work was over. I’d been standing around for hours and my new three-inch heels were killing me. I just wanted to go home, treat myself to a nightcap and something to eat, before pulling on one of the old T-shirts my ex had left behind when he had taken…
Private & Professional BDSM Dungeons for Limitless Lust
You’re picturing the ‘Red Room’ from 50 Shades of Grey, aren’t you? And essentially, that is what a BDSM dungeon is… But of course, this book/film series fails to really get into the nitty gritty of what a BDSM dungeon actually is, what to expect in one, do’s and don’ts, and so on. Which is…
LELO Podcast: Love Revolution During the Pandemic
The second episode of our pleasure podcasts takes around the globe to discuss the effects of the ongoing pandemic of human relationships. How has the prolonged time spent together influenced couples? How has the dating scene changed? Or how to deal with the psychological impacts of lockdown? These and many more questions form the basis…
A Starter Guide: What is a BDSM Scene?
So you’re on a journey, learning the BDSM lingo and educating yourself about the different aspects of BDSM life. How fun! We love teaching and empowering our gorgeous readers so that they can live their best and most authentic sex life. And today’s little sex ed lesson is all about BDSM scenes! You may be…
All About International Kinky Day and the Praise Kink
International Kinky Day comes once a year (September 21), but keeps you coming all year round. It’s a day where all kinky-minded people come together to share and act out their desires for 24-hours. This year, we’re dedicating it to the praise kink and answering all your questions about incorporating some non-traditional sex acts into…
How Sex Toys Can Help You in Birth
People don’t often associate birth with sensuality or sex, but the majority of the time – that’s how the person became pregnant in the first place. Many of the sensations and hormones that help aid with arousal, also support people during birth. Believe it or not, sex toys can actually be used during labor! So…
Breathing Down Someone’s Neck… in a Good Way! The Neck Fetish, Explained
There are a number of different things that can float one’s boat. We may not always find it arousing ourselves, but as long as it’s safe, sane, and consensual, hey… you do you! And so, we present to you: the neck fetish. A seemingly innocent part of the body that can really get one’s motor…
Stamina Training with LELO’s F1 V2
LELO’s F1S V2 is your new excuse to spend more time pleasuring yourself. And with good reason! Did you know that masturbation can actually help improve your capacity for longer sex sessions? Yes, that’s right. By pleasuring yourself more, you can do the same to others too. This article goes over the basics of stamina…
The INA Wave 2 Vibrator Will Make You Come Back for More
The recent launch of LELO’s newest WaveMotion technology INA Wave 2 vibrator summons the perfect storm for multiple orgasms. How does it work? Let’s find out. What is WaveMotion technology? The best way to describe WaveMotion technology is picturing a finger making a “come hither” motion. The INA Wave 2 is designed with a feature…
Getting Started with Penis Vibrators and Other Sex Toys for Men
When it comes to shopping around for vibrators, it’s easy to be a little envious of the ladies, who have literally a billion different kinds of vibe to choose from. For every pleasure imaginable, there’s a female sex toy to serve that need–and for curious women, there are a ton of buyer’s guides out there…
Greek Sex: Just an Exotic Euphamism!
Perhaps everything sounds a bit more exotic when you think of Greece. Envision a picturesque island, spending time with friends, lovers, or even yourself, sipping cocktails and having some incredible Greek cuisine. And, well, the same goes for greek sex… it’s kind of just an exotic term for something you already know… What is Greek…
Ask a Doctor: Filling the Pleasure Gap
We’re back with sex therapist Casey Tanner answering reader questions about the orgasm and pleasure gap. Are some people with vulvas not capable of having an orgasm from penetrative sex? One of the more pervasive narratives that we’re taught about sexuality and sex is that penetrative sex is the coup de grâce or peak experience…
University Alumni Reunion – An Erotic Story
“Spread your legs.” His shoulder nudged mine, and I couldn’t hold a smile back. But I obeyed, unclenching my knees and letting my college crush kneel by my chair so he could remove one of my over-the-knee stockings for this silly game. His fingers were gentle as he slowly rolled it down my tanned leg,…
7 Benefits of Using Male Sex Toys
There was a time when sex toys designed for those with a penis were nowhere near as available as the collection of vibrators and dildos associated with clitoral and vaginal play. Gone are the days when cock-rings were considered to be adventurous. With the rise of male masturbators, like F1S V2, there are now many…
LELO Podcast with Dr. Zhana and JJ: Love and All its Forms
In our very first episode, we talk about non-monogamy and the different forms that it can take. The norm and the ideal in our Western societies is this monogamous, life-long romantic relationship. Some find that to be exactly the right thing for them, but some prefer to make their own rules. We are sure you’ve…
Welcome to Volonté, a PLEASURE PODCAST by LELO!
After years of fighting for the right to speak openly and plainly about human sexuality, Swedish sexual wellness brand LELO decided to take a different approach and create its discussion platform. And the best part is – everyone’s invited to join! And what better way to do it than by starting their own video podcast. …
Virtual BDSM: A Guide for Beginners
The BDSM scene has been growing for a number of years. Thanks to the internet, there are now so many more resources and articles out there can help direct people through new possibilities and experiences for their sex or masturbation. But there are ways to explore BDSM without even leaving your bedroom; thanks to the…
One Time in Rome – An Erotic Story
The last time I’ve seen her so happy was ten years ago, right in this restaurant, laughing with her eyes closed. But last time, I was the one sitting with her at the table, making her laugh and not the other man. I clenched my rocks glass harder the longer I’ve glared at them from…
A Lil’ Bit of TLC: What is Sensual Domination?
Forget everything you may believe about domination and BDSM in the context of humiliation, discipline and pain. Sensual domination is nothing of the sort. What it is however, is something that’s so erotically delightful that pleasure is amplified for both the dominant and the submissive. What is Sensual Domination? Sensual domination is a kind of…
Holiday in Sicily – An Erotic Story
Two hours of Googling, three hours of driving, and then one hour of hiking in the 40 degrees Celsius weather. All of it to find this secret beach. And there she was, sitting in the very middle of the beach, her long tanned legs spread in front of her as she leaned on her hands…
Frotting, An Erotic Rub-a-Dub-Dub
Frotting… a new term you haven’t heard of? Rest assured, you know what it is, you may just have never heard the actual term for it! For some, frotting can be like the male version of scissoring or tribbing. Light bulb moment? Let’s explain… What is Frotting? Frotting is when a penis-owner rubs their penis…
Sexual Boundaries and Saying “No:” What You Need to Know
In a culture that applauds people for being as easygoing as possible, it can feel hard to speak up and state our boundaries. Even in the wake of the “Me Too” movement and a shifting dialogue about what consent actually is, putting that boundary talk into practice is a whole other issue that many folks…
The Best Places To Have Sex at Home That Don’t Include Your Bedroom
Having sex in the bedroom is great. It offers comfort, coziness and it’s a safe space to enjoy yourself and your partner. But if you find yourself getting bored and looking for a way to spice things up, you don’t have to look far to find a solution. In fact, you only have to look…
Showing Your Moves: How To Give Your Partner a Lap Dance
To give your partner a smooth & sultry lap dance, you by no means need to be a professional dancer. Heck, you don’t even need to have a honed sense of rhythm. To perform a lap dance that they won’t soon forget, the main thing you need is a song that makes you want to…
The Female Gaze: The Thrill of Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM)
The notion itself: Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM), doesn’t exactly seem like anything special, does it? Picture a Sunday morning where a female partner is in her pyjamas and her male partner is naked. They’re just hanging out, chatting, making breakfast, or maybe he’s just about to hop into the shower. Now this would be…
Should You Shave Your Pubic Hair, or Should You Embrace the Full Bush?
It has become a norm in our day and age to shave your pubic hair. Most people consider pubic hair removal to be one of their regular beauty rituals, but the pandemic had changed things quite a bit when many places were closed, and people had to turn to other ways of removing unwanted hair. …
Ask a Doctor: Gender & Sexual Expansiveness
Enjoy our interview with certified sex therapist, Casey Tanner, who discusses readers’ questions about gender and sexual expansiveness. Q: Where can I find queer-positive, LGBTQ+ porn? It is certainly more difficult to find queer porn that doesn’t feel tokenizing or made for the male gaze. I find that the best, most ethical queer porn—or really…
What is Trauma-Informed Sex?
Content Warning: This Article Discusses Sexual Trauma and Abuse. Please read with caution if this is a triggering topic for you. Sometimes things happen in our lives that create pain, shame, or blame. When these events alter our perception of the world in a way that disconnects us or keeps us from feeling safe…
What’s Wrong with The Term “Same-Sex Couples”?
As we as a society start to have a broadened understanding of gender identity and inclusivity, we’re noticing the ways our language can exclude or even harm certain people. Up until recently, the term “same-sex couple” was considered the default to refer to any romantic and/or sexual dynamic that isn’t heterosexual. Same-sex is taken from…