This article was written by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller. Having a threesome is the single most popular sexual fantasy. I surveyed more than 4,000 American adults about their most intimate thoughts for my book Tell Me What You Want and one of the key things I discovered when I looked at people’s biggest sexual…
This article was written by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller. Sex and disability is a topic that is not often discussed. It is rarely—if ever—addressed in sex education courses, and few doctors are comfortable talking about sexual issues with disabled patients. Part of the reason for this is because disabled persons are often stereotyped as…
Below is your guide for incorporating sex toys, and clit suckers in particular, into partnered sex. Check out our product recommendations, sex positions, and some interesting stats! Having sex with toys Introducing sex toys into a relationship can be intimidating, especially towards male partners who can feel threatened by the idea. The truth is that…
Enhance your foreplay routine with a deeply spiritual and highly erotic form of massage. That is, a tantric massage. This sensual act is a meaningful way to connect with your partner, and to share and vibe off of each other’s sexual energies. And by engaging in this practice, you’ll not only heighten your state of…
Looking to add some more gay sex positions to your bedroom routine? Perhaps need a few foreplay ideas and tips to try something new? There’s always room to spice things up while getting intimate! So, whether you’re seeking a different kind of thrill, feel like experiencing different sensations, or just intrigued, this article will reveal…
In a world that’s saturated with items, ideas, and activities that increase our pleasure, it’s only logical that two mouths on a dick are more pleasurable than one, right? Honestly, what are the chances of one saying, “Oh, no thank you! I’d prefer just one person giving me a blowie right now!” (Side note: I…
Indeed, there are different ways to have sex. In fact, sex doesn’t even need to involve penetration at all. Sex can be anything you want it to be! And knowing this is a good thing. It takes one away from the notion that penetrative sex with climax is the end goal , which it really…
This article was scientifically fact-checked and written by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller. What’s the first image that comes to mind when you hear the term “attention deficit hyperactivity disorder” (ADHD)? Odds are, you’re probably imagining a kid who is hyperactive or has trouble focusing in school. However, ADHD isn’t just for kids—it affects adults,…
How is mindfulness really connected to our sex lives? When it comes to our sexualities, most of us were taught NOT to pay attention. Perhaps our parents avoided conversations about sex altogether, or maybe we had a really awkward experience in sex education class. Most of us were taught to refer to our genitals as…
If you think having sex once a week (or month, or year) is enough, think again. Forget treating the Big O like a rare occasion that calls for taking out your grandma’s china. Sex is something that should be on your menu as often as you dang well please – and if you’re holding back…
Rumor has it that Kegel balls are not only good for your pelvic health, but also good for foreplay and arousal. The best part is that’s in not a rumor at all. Building up your pelvic floor strength leads to better orgasms. Now imagine 24-karat gold balls sending kinetic energy into your pleasure system. LELO…
Being fit takes you a long way in terms of sexual performance, but not every exercise is the same. Some types will do a much better job preparing you for sexual mastery. Fit for Sex One of the most obvious signs that you need to improve your fitness is feeling shortness of breath. Also, you…
THE STORY SO FAR London, the mid-1970s. From the moment I set eyes on Justine, I just knew I had to have her (and I was far from alone in my pursuit of her). For months she resisted my advances, insisting she was saving herself for the right man. But in the end, she yielded…
You might think that people who are truly in love automatically know the answer to this question, with no doubt in their minds—and a lucky few do, but for many, this generally isn’t the case. People vary in the extent to which they know and can distinguish between their own emotions. This puts us in…
Bath time is such a sensual affair, whether it’s merely to get yourself all cleaned up, to induce feelings of relaxation and rejuvenation, or to experience a bit of cheeky sexy time with yourself or a partner. So, if you’re all about making waves, we’re sure you’re going to love the sound of bathtub sex…
Jules was finding it increasingly hard to concentrate. It was already 6:00p.m. The meeting had gone on non-stop since 9:00 that morning and the client showed no signs of bringing it to an end. Normally, she wouldn’t mind. It wasn’t unusual. When a client is being sued for a figure with lots of zeros on…
It’s a question for the ages, one that scholars and philosophers alike have scratched their heads over. Likely, one day in ancient Greece, even Socrates and Plato himself looked down in the shower and pondered ‘what the hell do I have these things for, anyways?’ Of course, ‘these things’ that he was wondering about are…
Smaller than a tangerine, the LILY 2 and SIRI 2 clitoral vibrators are perfect for those looking for big pleasure packed into discreet packages. Did you know that the clitoris is solely built for your pleasure? It does a pretty successful job of it, too. Clitoral Pleasure If you haven’t heard by now, an overwhelming…
Connor walked into the living room in black briefs and a sheer robe. He threw himself down on the ottoman and sighed dramatically. Lukas, seated snugly on the couch, glanced up from his laptop. His fingers flew over the keyboard as he reached out and nudged Connor’s calf with his foot. “What’s wrong with you?”…
The recent popularity of prostate stimulation is no sex fad, it’s a legitimate source of pleasure. Check out the comparisons and differences between LELO’s best-sellers, LOKI Wave vs. HUGO . The Joys of Prostate Pleasure While the male prostate is an organ about the size of a walnut, it plays a big role in reproduction…
It was silent apart from the gentle patter of raindrops. He could almost forget that he was pushing his way down a crowded sidewalk to get to the rideshare parking lot. Just as he did every weekday. However, instead of the usual sharp, pricking sensation along his skin caused by the bustle of a city…
From vajazzling (applying crystal ornaments on the shaved mons pubis) to tattoos, there’s basically enough freedom to decorate your lady bits however you fancy. What a time to be alive, am I right? You see, vagina tattoos are not a new concept. For as long as tattooing has been around, there have certainly been those…
You pick up your phone in the morning, only to be surprised by an unsolicited, sexually explicit photo in your inbox. Unprepared for the visual, it takes you a minute to recognize the return address as someone you recently met on an online dating site, who has shamelessly sent you the photo using their own…
This article was scientifically fact-checked and written by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller. People have a tendency to look at orgasm as the ultimate goal of sex, an idea that sex therapists refer to as the orgasmic imperative. From this perspective, sex isn’t really sex unless an orgasm happens, which leads people to approach sex…
Rewilding is a sexy idea that gets sexier every day. If we apply the concept to our love life, it can help us have more natural, spontaneous and satisfying sex. What is Rewilding? In conservation biology, it represents a restoration of habitat to its natural state, which might actually be the only thing that can…
Opening the box will leave you speechless. The feeling of 24-karat gold against your skin will leave you speechless. And the most luxurious orgasm you’ll ever receive… you can’t exactly put into words. The YVA is both a vibrator and a jewel that’s crafted for perfect solo or partnered play. It’s ergonomic design allows it…
Interestingly, just this week one of my girlfriends admitted that she was able to orgasm without touching herself whilst reading erotica . Green with envy, I was made even more aware of just how powerful the mind really is. “What great timing,” I thought, just in time to write this article. You see, I was…
When is National Hugging Day? National Hugging Day falls on January 21 and is dedicated to encourage people to hug (with consent as not to breach their personal space). Why Do People Hug? Hugs can be a powerful tool to express support and comfort. Not only do they have mental benefits, but can improve physical…
This isn’t a vibrator to keep up with the Joneses, it’s a vibrator for the Joneses. If you’re looking to step up your sex toy game to the highest of luxuries, the INEZ 24K Gold G-Spot Vibrator is as decadent as pleasure gets. It’s design features a curved shaft with a thicker handles and userface…
Sunlight peaks in around the window ledge, streaming through the shear curtains and warming my hand. I slowly waken, struggling to open my eyes. Something feels different. These are not my sheets, these are not my pillow. As the room comes into focus, details from the previous night come rushing back. I yawn as I…
These beautifully-crafted pleasure makers may look almost identical, but there are a few differences to note when choosing the best one for you. GIGI 2 and LIV 2 are mid-sized massagers that have really been shown to strike a chord with our customers, whether they be used internally, externally, or a combination of both. How…
Maybe you’ve seen deep throating it in videos and want to try it for yourself, or perhaps you’re looking to blow a partner’s mind (among other things) with a new trick in your sexual arsenal. No matter what your motivation is for deep-throating, it’s not something you can just jump into—it takes a bit of…
It was a sweltering day in late May. The humidity in the air was thick and heavy. Sarah had just finished at the gym and was riding her bike home. She passed down Main Street which was congested and busy. All of the coffee shops and bistros were brimming with activity, with many kids now…
Pros: An enjoyably long pleasure session that reaches places I didn’t know possible. Cons: It’s not silent, but definitely quieter than other clit suckers. Broken down below! If you’re anything like most people with vulvas, once you found what worked for you in terms of reaching orgasm, you stuck with the routine and practiced it…
A lot of what we have learned about how our brain controls our sex lives comes from research done on animals, typically rodents and small mammals. Although the use of animal models is obviously limited given the significant differences between animal and human sexuality, there is a relationship between the particular brain regions implicated in…
If you’ve already owned a regular vibrator and are looking to up your game to something more versatile, the SORAYA Wave and INA Wave are LELO’s most popular rabbit vibrators with a special twist! Their unique selling proposition lies in something called wave technology that will have you rolling out orgasm after orgasm. How Wave…
There’s just something about restraint that’s so damn sexy. It’s a tantalizing proposition; being presented with pleasures right in front of your face, and then being told no. Having to hold back until you’re about to burst with desire, then being set loose. The best way to toy with restraint is by including handcuffs into…
Oh hey there mama’s-to-be or friends and family of a soon-to-be mom! Today we’re going to be talking about using a vibrator during pregnancy… in the ins and outs, is it safe, is it encouraged, or is it a big no-no? Of course, we’re looking at giving you sound advice that includes satisfying any carnal…
Introducing anything new into the bedroom (or wherever you’re getting it on) can be nerve-racking as it is, especially when it comes to the stigmas so closely tied to sex toys. We’re here to clear the air and offer some tips for communicating new desires with a partner who may not recognize the potential to…
Do you or your partner have a vulva ? Perfect! Because we’re about to turn your entire world sideways… or, the very least, your body! Confused? It’ll all make sense in just a few seconds… What is the Kivin Method? In the simplest of answers, the kivin method is when a person gives someone with…
Romantic love has often been considered a type of addiction or even sickness. There is no doubt that love involves constant thinking about, and activities with, one’s beloved. But is such persistent preoccupation with one person always detrimental? Should it be regarded as a type of addiction, or might it actually be beneficial to the…
This article was scientifically fact-checked by Social Psychologist Dr. Justin Lehmiller. In women, the G-spot is an area that, when stimulated, often leads to very intense orgasms. Much has been said and written about the G-spot, and there’s still some debate about what exactly it is, but research suggests that, rather than being a distinct…
Be it in the bedroom or just out in the world, the start of a new year is a great time to take stock and examine our trajectories to figure out if what we find is affirming – or in need of some adjustment. So what follows is a list of romance-related resolutions for the…
While there are a ton of anal pleasure myths to be debunked, one thing’s for certain, our lack of knowledge and the mystery surrounding it is part of its appeal. Why Anal Stimulation? The anus is a natural erogenous zone due to its high concentration of nerve endings, similar to that of the clitoris or…
Variety is the spice of life… or so they say! And sure, you may have a drawer, box or suitcase full of lustful sex toys, but trust us, there’s always room for something new (and free!). Vulva owners, did you know that your shower head could actually be your little secret sex weapon? And what’s…
When it comes to sex and mating, what do you find attractive? As Daniel Conroy-Beam puts it, “All humans have a psychology of short-term and long-term of mating,” and some researchers in the field of evolutionary psychology study this issue in a variety of creative ways. Attraction is an incredibly personal issue. Even though there…
The holiday season is here and it’s time to talk about self-love during the holidays! I got some really interesting questions. Let’s start at the beginning: What is self-love? What is self love and how to express that? I define self-love as virtually any act that you do for yourself, to show to yourself that…
Ah the cold, cozy winter evenings. You know the ones we’re talking about, when all you want to do is wrap yourself in huge blanket, relax in front of the fire – and have sex. That’s at least according to a number of U.S. studies regarding seasonal effects on sensuality; winter is when we all…
There’s more to reality TV star Megan Barton Hanson than meets the eye! We reached out to her to discuss what she’s learned through sex work, where her journey is taking her next, and how living in the intense public eye offers her a platform to discuss taboo topics that won’t go unsilenced. We also…
While we are the first ones to get tired of the same 40 or so Christmas songs that flood the radio waves in late November, we won’t deny wishing for some seasonally appropriate sexy music to set the mood during the holiday season. Below, we’ve listed 10 of the sexiest Christmas songs for everything from…