READER Q&As

Ask a Therapist: Desire Discrepancy Q&A with Casey Tanner

What are things you can do to increase sexual desire with a partner To begin, it’s helpful to understand what kind of desire you and your partner have. There are at least two kinds of desire that we know of: spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Those with spontaneous desire might have the experience of feeling…

LELO x Dr. Zhana: Self-Love Q&A

For our December Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Self-Love. What are the benefits of self-love? Self-love, more broadly, is about taking care of ourselves and appreciating ourselves. Very often, we use that term to talk about masturbation and self-pleasure, which are such important parts of our lives and come with a lot…

Ask a Therapist: Sex, Masturbation & Mental Health

Enjoy our Q&A with sex therapist, Casey Tanner. How can sex help our mental health? There is so much evidence that sex, masturbation, and orgasm can all have amazing benefits on your health and mental health. This is mainly because the same system that is responsible for sex and arousal is also connected to the…

SenSonic Technology Q&A: Dr. Zhana

For our October Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about the SenSonic technology.   What is SenSonic technology? The SenSonic technology is technology that sends sonic wave pulses that radiate from the mouth of the toy and penetrate deep inside the body and internal portions of the clitoris. It’s like standing in front of…

Ask Dr. Zhana: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Relationships (DADT)

For our September Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about DADT: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell types of relationships.  What’s DADT? Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is a type of relationship where the partners agree that they’re going to have other partners, but that they’re not going to talk about it. They don’t want to know…

Ask a Doctor: Filling the Pleasure Gap

We’re back with sex therapist Casey Tanner answering reader questions about the orgasm and pleasure gap. Are some people with vulvas not capable of having an orgasm from penetrative sex? One of the more pervasive narratives that we’re taught about sexuality and sex is that penetrative sex is the coup de grâce or peak experience…

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Mindful Sex: What, Why and How with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner

How is mindfulness really connected to our sex lives? When it comes to our sexualities, most of us were taught NOT to pay attention. Perhaps our parents avoided conversations about sex altogether, or maybe we had a really awkward experience in sex education class. Most of us were taught to refer to our genitals as…

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Using Sex Toys During Partnered Sex—Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner

Introducing anything new into the bedroom (or wherever you’re getting it on) can be nerve-racking as it is, especially when it comes to the stigmas so closely tied to sex toys. We’re here to clear the air and offer some tips for communicating new desires with a partner who may not recognize the potential to…

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Every Question You’ve Ever Had About Orgasms (Featuring Dr. Zhana)

Hey all! It’s Dr. Zhana and I’m back to answer all your questions about *drumroll please*… orgasms ! Your questions were so good and so different from the questions I usually get, so I’m really excited about this. Most of your questions were actually really specific and physiological that I had to recruit two people…

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Beach Sex, Underwater Sex, Sex in the Heat: Q&A with Dr. Zhana

Hi everyone! Dr. Zhana here for another monthly Q&A on LELO’s Instagram. Since it’s been hot lately, we’re gonna talk about self-pleasure in the heat, sex, vacation sex… and any seasonal sex-related things. Q: What is the difference between summer sex and other seasons? Excellent first question! The greatest difference, I think, is the fun…

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Sex and Love During Covid 19—A Q&A with Dr. Zhana

Hi everyone, this is Dr. Zhana, professor of human sexuality in New York University and it’s time to answer some questions about sex and love in this very strange time of the Coronavirus pandemic and the life-saving requirements to physically distance from people. It’s a challenging time for pretty much everyone. It’s challenging for single…

Blog Masturbation Tips READER Q&As Sexual Health  Female Pleasure FAQs with Psychologist Dr. Zhana

Female Pleasure FAQs with Psychologist Dr. Zhana

Female pleasure isn’t complicated, but it can be complex. Which is probably why there are so many Google searches about this topic. We reached out to one of our favorite psychologists, Dr. Zhana, to help us answer the most frequently asked questions surrounding female pleasure. What would you like to know about female pleasure? Hi…

Better Sex Blog READER Q&As Sex  Answering “What Is Sex” May Not Be As Straightforward As You Think

Answering “What Is Sex” May Not Be As Straightforward As You Think

You may have been told that sex is ‘something a man and woman do when they love each other very much,’ but we’re guessing that somewhere in your teens you discovered that definition definitely doesn’t cover the width and breadth of sensual activity.   Sex, for being such an (almost) universal experience, is something you’d…

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