Learning to love yourself may be harder than learning to love someone else. And having a great sex life when you don’t love yourself – well that can be tricky. So here are some things to think about as we approach Valentine’s Day: Be your own best friend: When you start putting yourself down for…
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Attachment Theory in Love & Relationships
Attachment theory is the best way to understand love and romantic relationships. “Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950′s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: Anxious — people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partners ability to…
Sex in the Media: Explore or Ignore – “Fleischman is in Trouble”
If you haven’t caught this delightful FX-Hulu series yet, I highly recommend you do so. I’ve only seen the first episode, but I can’t wait to devour the rest of the season. “Fleischman is in Trouble” is based on the much-heralded 2019 book by Taffy Brodesser-Akner, and while I expected terrific performances by the likes…
You’re Hot and…You’re Not.
Why do we find particular people attractive? Is it merely pheromones? Is it about what’s normalized for us culturally? And what does science say about all of this? A 2019 study published in The Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America revealed that yes, we actually do have types.…
The Many Benefits of Kegels
It’s almost Springtime, and that means later sunsets, al fresco dining, and hammocks gentlyrocking in the breeze. And that got me thinking – as a women’s health specialist – about thehammocks that aren’t suspended by trees but the ones that naturally hang from our pelvicbones! Yes, indeed, Friends, our pelvic bones have muscles within the…
Suddenly, the World of Open Relationships is Much More… Open!
In the last few years, conversations around non-monogamy have become much more mainstream. From the Netflix series You, Me, Her to TikTok accounts like @OpenlyCommited – society is slowly becoming more open to the idea of being open. If you haven’t seen it, @Openlycommited is a TikTok account with upwards of 120K followers and nearly…
Hottest Gift of the Year? It’s Not What You Think
Tis this season, and as the 300 Hallmark holiday films (seriously – they’ve made 300 of them!) inevitably feature – it’s snowflakes and sugar cookies and lights all aglow. And it’s oh so romantic, lest we forget. What happens when daydreams turn from peppermint mocha everything to cuffing and cozying and curling up with your…
Unleash Your Sexual Tiger with Cold Water
Cold showers are traditionally considered a method for curbing your lust, but their actual impact on your performance and libido might be just the opposite. Of course, if you’re male and have an erection, a cold shower will definitely kill it, but your lust might not necessarily be impacted. The reason is simple – when…
How Intentional Celibacy Can Improve Your Sex Life
What would you say if I told you that there are celibacy benefits that can improve your sex life? Yes, you’ve heard that right – not having sex can indeed make your sex life better! Celibacy doesn’t have the best reputation. And there is a good reason why people are hesitant about it. With it…
The Role of Laughter in Sex and Attraction
Seeing an attractive woman with a below-average guy inevitably draws all sorts of conclusions (often unfair ones), such as: he’s probably rich, she might be insecure, he must be good in bed or especially well endowed below the waist… However, the truth might be much simpler than that – maybe he’s funny. Science increasingly shows…
Having a Veiny Penis: Normal or Nah?
Penises: there are so many different kinds. Some are straight, some are curved, some have a larger base with narrow glans, others have a smaller base with wider glans. Just like vulvas, they’re all unique. Having said that, it’s fair to assume that many people, regardless of their genitals, have wondered if theirs are “normal”…
Autism: Relationships, Sex & Sexuality
It’s true that autistic people face certain challenges when it comes to communicating, learning, behaving, and interacting in social interactions. Not just that, but there are challenges in sex and relationships. Regardless, this is not to say that an autistic person cannot have a fulfilling sex life. Autism, Sex & Sexuality The thing about autism…
What To Do With Our Sexual Vulnerabilities
Couple years ago, my wife and I were on a winter vacation staying in a remote and lovely cabin. Outside was pitch black winter night with icy rain freezing as soon as it hit the ground, but inside it was pleasantly warm, with the fire burning in the fireplace, painting the room orange with a…
9 Solutions To Ease Sexual Performance Anxiety
Chances are you’ve experienced sexual performance anxiety at some point in your life. Anxiety disorders are the most common health issue in the United States after all, and sex, as wonderful as it is, can be pretty nerve-wrecking, especially when you’re inexperienced or with a new partner. The idea that sex is a “performance” is…
Sex & UTIs: The Uncomfortable Truth
While sex is meant to be a pleasurable experience, there are some uncomfortable truths that need to be addressed. And while we won’t necessarily be touching on the subject of sex in all its amazing glory, but rather the tips on keeping safe and healthy, we want you to know one thing. That is, sex…
More and More Men Want Bigger Balls
There were bulges as far as the eye could see. It was my first time in Puerto Vallarta, a hedonistic hub of homosexuality in Mexico, where BeefDip, a week-long event for muscular, heavy-set men and their admirers was taking place. The beach was filled with buff bodies, mango margaritas, and unceasing chimes from Grindr emitting…
What They Should Have Taught You in Sex Ed
Many individuals’ early experiences with sex ed were laughably bad—we’re talking Mean Girls’ “Don’t have sex, because you will get pregnant and die” bad. And while these instances may be fun to giggle at in hindsight or when played up in a comedy, the lasting impact of poor sex education is no laughing matter. To…
It’s Time to Talk About the Dark Side of Sex
We like to celebrate sex in all its joyful glory. I rejoice at the very possibility that my articles might encourage someone to have better sex, but I’ll never claim that it’s a one-way road and that there isn’t a dark and sinister quality to sexuality. Sex is a risky game and some of its…
Men’s Biggest Sexual Insecurities
Men have been raised to be “strong” which, according to societal interpretation, means we should keep everything bottled up lest we communicate and be vulnerable. Since there is no physical act more vulnerable than sex, you can imagine how tight-lipped men become concerning their sexual insecurities. One of the many culprits for sexual insecurity is…
How Many Calories Does Having Sex Burn?
Exercise… for some it’s a form of therapy, a way in which to feel happy and confident, a release, or even just an excellent hobby. For others, it’s dreaded. The sweat, making time for it, the activity itself which may be mundane. But what about sex? Sex counts as exercise, right? We do burn calories…
Surprising, Lesser Known Facts About ADHD & Sex
ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, affects 6 million children and 366 adults in the United States (or that we know of so far, at least with an official medical diagnosis). Whether you know it or not, you’ve probably befriended or dated someone with this neurological condition, which is thought to affect the brain’s levels…
5 Remarkable Health Benefits of Hugging
For some, hugging is done out of habit. It’s a sign of affection, endearment, or even a greeting that’s easily practised without blinking an eye. For others, hugging can be quite intimidating. The feeling of two bodies pressing up against each other, after all, is quite an intimate act. To further prove this point, hugging,…
People’s Agonizing Experiences With Monkeypox
“It felt like someone shoved a corkscrew with spikes up my ass and mercilessly kept twisting,” River Mitchell, a 30-year-old OnlyFans creator from Texas, remembers of their agonizing 21 days with monkeypox. “The pain was excruciating, I’ll never forget it. There were days that I would just lay on the floor sobbing.” Mitchell suspects he…
Does Watching Porn Promote Sexism?
Before we dive in, allow us to give you a brief definition of the word ‘sexism’. Sexism is a kind of predjudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex. For example, sexism is the belief that women are inherently inferior to men, should be subordinate to men, and belong in the…
A How-To Guide on Doing a Breast Exam at Home
While many medical establishments advise that you should go for an annual mammogram from the age of 50, this doesn’t mean that there aren’t any risks involved for those who are younger than 50. And for that reason, at-home breast exams are an absolute must for women of nearly any age. In fact, it’s recommended…
Do You Have Post-Pandemic Libido Loss? You’re Not the Only One
Two years on, from the COVID-19 global pandemic, and so much of our lives have changed. Even the things that haven’t changed are charged—charged with feelings of danger, or the feeling that the veneer of ‘normal’ has been cracked (what even was normal, anyway?). As much as we pretend otherwise, things are definitely not the…
The Role of Social Media for LGBTQI+ Young Adults and Teens
Regardless of who is using it, social media can have positive and negative effects. The Internet itself gives us the power to do good, to connect, and to stay informed, but it also gives us the ability to bully, harm, harass, or worse. In other words, the way in which we use social media, the…
How To Become a Porn Star & Maintain Mental Health – Q&A with Lumi Ray
The sex industry is evolving rapidly thanks to the hardworking creatives that push the envelope while creating opportunities for more people. One of those creatives is Lumi Ray. An upcoming star in the porn industry, who we sat down with (virtually) to chat about how to take care of yourself mentally and physically as a…
How to Heal (And Have Sex With) Anal Scarring
There are many reasons somebody may experience a mishap when engaging in receptive anal intercourse, all of which stem from a lack of education. Was anyone even told anal sex was a possibility in school? This then leads us to seek education in other places, like porn, where we rarely witness proper protocol because porn…
Vasectomy as Birth Control Method: Should Your Man Get a Vasectomy?
“I’ll get a vasectomy if needed.” Those words stunned me to silence for a moment after my new sexual partner said it to me. We were having a conversation about which form of birth control we want to use when we have sex. I’ve never been on hormonal contraceptives, and the idea of getting an…
Techniques to Stay Hard During Sex
Societal expectations and gender roles have done a pretty effective job at destroying our sexual confidence. The most common query I get in my DMs are tips for maintaining an erection during sex. I can’t say I’m surprised, considering men are often portrayed as sex-starved neaderthals with perpetually hard cocks who will stop at nothing…
Why Do Some Trans People Decide to De-Transition?
If you’ve decided to read this article, the chances that you know what what the term ‘transgender’ is, are high. But just for good measure: Transgender is a general term that describes people whose gender identity (sense of themselves), or their internal sense of being male, female, or something else, does not match the sex…
Marijuana and Sex: Does It Enhance Your Sexual Experience?
Countries throughout the world are slowly but surely legalising weed, be it for personal or medical use. And what was once considered a huge taboo, a bad drug that shouldn’t be used, is now seen as somewhat of a marvel in a multitude of areas. And while we love the fact that we have the…
Performance Anxiety is Not Just for Men!
When you hear the term ‘performance anxiety’ your mind may immediately go to the inability for men to get an erection. It may even ponder about the inability for men to climax. In fact, society has made it such a ‘thing’ that some men tend to feel embarrassed or ashamed when they’re unable to get…
Sex and Smell: Things that Can Affect Your vagina’s Scent
When you combine two (or more) sweatin’ and gruntin’ people doing sexual things to each other, there is bound to be some funky smells filling up the room. HOWEVER, much of that smell is emanating from your genitals, because – while we are not saying that they stink – they most certainly do give off…
How to Talk to Your Children About Porn
If you grew up in the early 80’s or before, you’ll know how difficult it was to obtain any kind of racy material. Looking at lingerie ads, finding Playboy magazines on the shelf of your local store, or even hidden somewhere in your home. But since the invention of the Internet, there’s been a brand…
Being Empowered During Menopause
For many, menopause is a period of time that’s daunting, dreaded, and seen in a negative light. We’re bombarded with messages that lead us to believe that it’s a horrible phase filled with hot flashes, vaginal dryness, mood and bodily changes, as well as sleepless nights. And while yes, there are some negative side effects…
Why Can’t I Orgasm?
A loaded question, and one to which the answer can vary greatly from person to person. But, by looking at the various causes as to why one can’t orgasm, it may give them insight. In this way, we hope to shed light on the different reasons why some find it difficult to orgasm, the reasons…
Finding Sexual Fulfilment While Living with Depression
Luckily, we’re living in a time where mental illness is being recognised and treated more humanely. In fact, the earliest written accounts of depression was in the second millennium, and meant that one was possessed by demons and evil spirits. The treatment? Being Beaten, physically restrained, and/or starved in an attempt to drive the demons…
Scent as a Sense of Sexual Attraction
Your sense of smell is a very powerful emotional trigger. Think of how, upon entering, the smells of your childhood home can immediately affect you and send you back to the emotional state you were in as a child–for better or worse. This is because scent is tied very closely to memory, and specifically tied…
Is It Normal To Be a Virgin in Your 20s?
Everyone’s doing it. On TV, on billboards, in the pages of magazines and books, on social media, everyone is having sex, and loads of it. According to Planned Parenthood, the average age when people lose their virginity, aka have sex for the first time, is 18 years old. For most people, it happens when they’re…
Does Our Parents’ Parenting Style Affect Our Sex Lives? Science Says Yes
You might not want to hear it, but your parents are responsible for the way you see and have sex. Well, at least partly. And there is so much more that comes to play than the dreaded sex talk we all had at one point or another. Before you go off gagging at two words,…
How the BDSM Kink Community on TikTok is Teaching People Consent
In popular culture, the lines between consensual and non-consensual sex are blurred. The general message is that silence is consent, and movies and even popular books like 50 Shades of Gray reiterate the message that someone doesn’t know how bad they want it until you coerce or force them into sexual activity. A survey conducted…
I Tried a CBD Sex Suppository, and it Was Nothing Like I Expected
If I had wanted to spend my Friday date night stoned out of my mind, craving junk food with a mad case of the munchies and lazily curled up on the couch with a movie, I could have spent 10 minutes inside any local, Los Angeles dispensary and walked away dazed and happy. But I…
Gyms are Getting Hot! Best Workouts to Improve Sexual Stamina and Flexibility
With spring just around the corner, it’s the perfect time to start working on spicing things up in the bedroom. And one of the best ways to do it is to improve your sexual stamina and flexibility with easy workouts you can do at the gym or home. Looking to increase penis stamina? LELO is…
Work Out & Get Off: What is a Coregasm?
Once upon a time, we revealed that the sexiest kind of exercise was of the kegel variety. You know, when you tighten your pelvic floor muscles (either manually or using Ben Wa Balls) in order to make them stronger, resulting in intense and more powerful orgasms? And while we still stand by this, coregasms are…
Penis Fracture Is Real And Surprisingly Common
How can you fracture something that has no bone? It may sound like a riddle, but we are here to explain just that. Penis is entirely made of soft tissue, yet it gets fractured more often than we’d like to admit. I won’t deny that broken dick has somewhat of a comedic quality to it,…
Vitamins for Better Erection Health
Erectile dysfunction is something that, at some point of their lives, will have to contend with. Even outside of erectile dysfunction, a man should also consider the overall health of his penis and the quality of the erections that it can achieve. The issue can be considered erectile dysfunction if you are either not able…
5 Things that Attract Us Others, According to Psychology
Whether you’ve got a fabulous bestie, are partnered up, happily married, enjoying a bit of fun with someone, or crushing on another person, what exactly is it that attracts you to them? Maybe you can name one or more reasons straight off the bat, or maybe you simply believe that they’re special and deserve some…
Did You Know? A Sexy Voice is a Powerful Aphrodisiac!
With the popularity of online dating, the chances of you speaking to someone on the phone or hearing a voice note from them before actually meeting, is high. And how about the growingly popular TV show, Love is Blind, in which contestants base their levels of attraction towards another using only their voice? It’s true!…