A question that LELO gets asked a LOT is this: If I use a sex toy before I have sex, am I still a virgin?
Yes you are. Go nuts. Happy fapping.
Have you lost your virginity if you’ve used a sex toy? No, you haven’t. But perhaps not for the reason you’re expecting. No, masturbating alone, with or without a sex toy, before you’ve had any sexual contact, doesn’t count as losing your virginity. Not by any conventional definition anyway, which usually includes penis-in-vagina penetration. But here’s the honest answer:
No, you haven’t lost your virginity, because virginity doesn’t exist.
We just… made it up. It’s something we constructed as a way to commodify or categorize ourselves sexually. And when I say ‘ourselves,’ I mostly mean ‘women.’
As a society, broken and twisted as we are, we value female virginity so highly that it’s nothing less than cruel. We use it as a measure of purity, and innocence, and any number of other creepy concepts that don’t truly have any intrinsic value.
The opposite is true of men. Virginity is something to discard as quickly as possible so that we can get on with the task of taking women’s virginity. The sexual scales are very much tipped in men’s favour. The relationship between the two binary sexes with regards to virginity is directly inverse: boys are under pressure to lose it, and girls are under pressure to keep it. It’s a wonder we ever have sex at all, with all this psychosexual nonsense we’ve invented for ourselves.
What a strange thing to judge each other by: whether or not we’ve had sex. In my humble opinion, that’s the stupidest, most meaningless way we could possibly categorize each other. It’s the lowest possible common denominator. It doesn’t make any sense: if you consider sex to be a physical activity done with a partner, then you may as well judge people by whether or not they’ve played tennis. There’s no pre- or post-tennis stigma. Why is it only sex?
It’s easy to prove that it’s a social fabrication: because it doesn’t exist anywhere else in nature. Our nearest cousins, the great apes like the chimpanzee, place no emphasis on virginity or abstinence. Nowhere else is a female shunned or ostracised because she’s had sex. This veil of purity that we’ve created for ourselves is a solely human thing. Biologically, perhaps, it encourages the impulse for monogamy . But socially, it’s an incredibly useful tool for men to manipulate women into sex.
To anyone worried about if you’re still a virgin if you masturbate, my advice is this: completely disabuse yourself of the idea that virginity has any kind of inherent value at all, because it doesn’t. Masturbation, with or without a sex toy, can actually help prepare you mentally and physically for sex, if you plan to have it at some point.
And if you find a partner who cares whether or not you’re a virgin, hand them your sex toy, and tell them to go fuck themselves.
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