Reader: “I’d love to see a list in the future of lelo toys that are specifically good with tdicks (enlarged clits), or heck maybe even toys designed with them in mind, a lot of toys made for clits seem like a good idea then turn out to be too small or too intense in the…
Have you ever wondered how much sex there is in the world? Well, scientists actually did and they gave their best to figure it out, along with other stuff that might have never crossed your mind. Among the craziest concepts I found while researching for this article is that of “sexual distance”, which is a…
The sex industry is evolving rapidly thanks to the hardworking creatives that push the envelope while creating opportunities for more people. One of those creatives is Lumi Ray. An upcoming star in the porn industry, who we sat down with (virtually) to chat about how to take care of yourself mentally and physically as a…
What info should I tell someone about myself on a first date? So many people that I talk to believe that they have to go into the first date and give their entire personal resume – maybe including all of their exes, their STI status, when they got out of their last break up, all…
For our April Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Office Romance. Is it possible to pursue a relationship in the business environment? Absolutely and a lot of people do. A recent (2022) survey of American workers found that a third have had or are currently having an office romance, a half have had…
For our March Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Women’s Sexual Empowerment. What does it mean to be sexually empowered? Being sexually empowered means owning your sexuality, being strong and powerful and confident in the desires that you have, in the kinds of stimulations that you like to have in your body, and…
For our January Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Sexual Health. How much sex is necessary to keep a balanced, healthy sexual relationship? This is a remarkably common question that I get. There’s no one right answer. How often you and your partner should have sex really depends on how often the two…
What are things you can do to increase sexual desire with a partner To begin, it’s helpful to understand what kind of desire you and your partner have. There are at least two kinds of desire that we know of: spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Those with spontaneous desire might have the experience of feeling…
For our December Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Self-Love. What are the benefits of self-love? Self-love, more broadly, is about taking care of ourselves and appreciating ourselves. Very often, we use that term to talk about masturbation and self-pleasure, which are such important parts of our lives and come with a lot…
For our November Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Spicing Things Up. How would you define sex? What can sex include to be more interesting? I define sex quite broadly. It can include anything – masturbation, partnered sex of different kinds (oral, anal, mutual masturbation, using toys on each other), different kinds of…
Enjoy our Q&A with sex therapist, Casey Tanner. How can sex help our mental health? There is so much evidence that sex, masturbation, and orgasm can all have amazing benefits on your health and mental health. This is mainly because the same system that is responsible for sex and arousal is also connected to the…
For our October Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about the SenSonic technology. What is SenSonic technology? The SenSonic technology is technology that sends sonic wave pulses that radiate from the mouth of the toy and penetrate deep inside the body and internal portions of the clitoris. It’s like standing in front of…
For our September Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about DADT: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell types of relationships. What’s DADT? Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is a type of relationship where the partners agree that they’re going to have other partners, but that they’re not going to talk about it. They don’t want to know…
We’re back with sex therapist Casey Tanner answering reader questions about the orgasm and pleasure gap. Are some people with vulvas not capable of having an orgasm from penetrative sex? One of the more pervasive narratives that we’re taught about sexuality and sex is that penetrative sex is the coup de grâce or peak experience…
Hi Nikole. Thank you so much for joining us! Can you start by giving us a quick overview of your background in faith? Hi! I’m so happy to be here! Yes, my story’s gone viral as the Pastor-turned-stripper, and it’s true. I grew up in the church, loved the church, and became a leader in…
Hi everyone, this is Dr. Zhana and it’s time to talk about kinks! I got some really good questions from you that I can’t wait to answer them! What is the shortest explanation for ‘kink’? It’s always good to start with definitions! And the shortest one I can give you for kink is “an unusual…
How is mindfulness really connected to our sex lives? When it comes to our sexualities, most of us were taught NOT to pay attention. Perhaps our parents avoided conversations about sex altogether, or maybe we had a really awkward experience in sex education class. Most of us were taught to refer to our genitals as…
Introducing anything new into the bedroom (or wherever you’re getting it on) can be nerve-racking as it is, especially when it comes to the stigmas so closely tied to sex toys. We’re here to clear the air and offer some tips for communicating new desires with a partner who may not recognize the potential to…
Hey all! It’s Dr. Zhana and I’m back to answer all your questions about *drumroll please*… orgasms ! Your questions were so good and so different from the questions I usually get, so I’m really excited about this. Most of your questions were actually really specific and physiological that I had to recruit two people…
Hi everyone! Dr. Zhana here for another monthly Q&A on LELO’s Instagram. Since it’s been hot lately, we’re gonna talk about self-pleasure in the heat, sex, vacation sex… and any seasonal sex-related things. Q: What is the difference between summer sex and other seasons? Excellent first question! The greatest difference, I think, is the fun…
Hi everyone, this is Dr. Zhana, professor of human sexuality in New York University and it’s time to answer some questions about sex and love in this very strange time of the Coronavirus pandemic and the life-saving requirements to physically distance from people. It’s a challenging time for pretty much everyone. It’s challenging for single…
Female pleasure isn’t complicated, but it can be complex. Which is probably why there are so many Google searches about this topic. We reached out to one of our favorite psychologists, Dr. Zhana, to help us answer the most frequently asked questions surrounding female pleasure. What would you like to know about female pleasure? Hi…
Let’s face it: if it’s not fully charged, a sputtering sex toy can take a pleasurable experience from ‘nearly there’ to ‘nowhere close’ real quick. If you’ve ever been in the unfortunate position of having a sex toy that doesn’t have enough juice with no way to charge it, then that’s probably why you’re here…
You may have been told that sex is ‘something a man and woman do when they love each other very much,’ but we’re guessing that somewhere in your teens you discovered that definition definitely doesn’t cover the width and breadth of sensual activity. Sex, for being such an (almost) universal experience, is something you’d…
The following question came to my attention recently. It takes a little deconstruction. I just moved into a new shared house on a six-month contract with another girl. On my first day, there was a sex toy on the coffee table in the living room. I don’t know her very well yet, but if I’m…
A question that LELO gets asked a LOT is this: If I use a sex toy before I have sex, am I still a virgin? Short answer: Yes you are. Go nuts. Happy fapping. Real answer: Have you lost your virginity if you’ve used a sex toy? No, you haven’t. But perhaps not for the…
Estimates vary from 3 to 7 inches, but vaginas are pretty tricky when it comes to nailing their size down exactly, simply because it changes so easily! Think of a vagina as an umbrella, rather than a tube. Normally ft it is folded in on itself, but has the ability to open up to accommodate…
It seems sometimes to me that as I get older, sex is just moving on without me. Every time I turn around, there’s a new fetish that I’m only just hearing about, or new and amazing sex toys that are just begging to be tried – and everyone knows about them but me. UNTIL NOW.…
If you’re reading this then you no doubt know how amazing a sex toy can be for solo use, and also how it can spice up couple’s play . However without the proper care being taken, a sex toy can get pretty un-amazing quite quickly. How un-amazing? Well on the low end, having a sex…