One of the most painful and confusing experiences in a relationship is wanting closeness with your partner and feeling met with distance instead. In these moments, it can be easy to assume something is wrong with the relationship, with them, or with yourself. Many people find themselves wondering, “Does my partner not care about being…
This article was written by a a licensed psychotherapist. When life feels heavy, it’s natural to seek something that helps us cope. Balancing work, relationships, and the constant sociopolitical tension can leave us carrying stress, grief, anger, and fatigue. Finding ways to cope isn’t just important, it’s essential for survival and for finding moments of…
Seduction is to sex what romance is to love. Seducing a woman is much, much more than getting her to sleep with you. Done right, seduction is about understanding the other person’s needs, feeling out her personal nuances, responding to what she’s putting out there. There’s a reason why they call seduction a dance –…
Take a moment and imagine a woman using a vibrator. What type of toy do you imagine her using? If you pictured a toy that stimulates the external genitals, you are in line with reality. In an informal survey I did with my Instagram followers, among those who used sex toys, 83% used one that…
Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship; think of it as the secret ingredient to being a happy and successful couple. This skill improves trust and emotional intimacy while helping you figure out how to solve conflicts proactively. A relationship can’t succeed without strong communication, and learning how sex toys improve communication in relationships…
Sex sells, and modern media is constantly selling us the dream that we’re all supposed to be having passionate, amazing sex, all the time. But then there’s reality. By the time you and your partner take care of business and settle in for bed, you’re either too tired or sex has become a chore for…
We live in a world where travel is increasingly part of our reality. Whether it’s for study or for work experience, being away from home, often very far away, is no longer an exception. But luckily, modern technologies that allow us to talk and see each other at practically zero cost have shortened distances and…
If you find yourself in a long-term relationship, you’ve probably experienced it: the routine of being together can be as threatening as it is great. The habits which comfort us also undermine our sense of adventure. This is especially true when it comes to intimacy and sometimes you want to discover something new. Couple sex…
Polyamory and ethical non-monogamy are often used interchangeably, but they are not the same thing. Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is an umbrella term for any type of relationship structure that leaves room for being romantically or sexually intimate with more than one person at a time. That can mean a lot of different things: Solo poly…
Even the best of relationships take work, but having the right tools makes it that much easier – and more rewarding. Couples therapy is one of the most valuable tools for working on relationships. There can be a lot of stigma around couples therapy and therapy in general that can keep people from seeking it out…
There are over 37 million single households in the United States, the highest number in history, and of those, Pew Research Center found that single Americans are split 50/50 between “looking” and “not looking” for a committed relationship. Some choose not to seek out romantic relationships whatsoever, while others are willing to stay single until they…
It’s always a good time to spice up your sex life, but it’s especially important if you are in a long-term relationship. You might have noticed that after being together with your partner for a long time, your sex drive is not as it used to be at the beginning of the relationship. The reason…
Be honest, how emotionally safe do you feel in your relationship? Many people tend to focus on whether their partner fits their standards if they are compatible, share the same values, and other things along those lines. While shared values and being compatible do matter in the relationship, the latest research in neurobiology shows that…
We all want to connect with others, and for many, that means exploring different romantic and sexual relationships, but meeting someone that you have a connection with can be easier said than done. That’s why it can be so exhilarating when you feel like you’re finally getting a hot dose of romance. Most of us…
Most of us are very familiar with the lure of breakup sex. To have such a strong connection with someone that you just want to experience it one more time before you call it quits. Even if you know it’s not in either of your best interests. So, why do we do it (literally)? A…
You’re in the first few months (or weeks) of dating someone. When you’re together, you can’t keep your hands off each other. When you’re not, you can’t stop thinking about them, fantasizing about them, talking about them. That’s what we call the honeymoon phase or NRE (new relationship energy) – the sexual and romantic excitement…
Sure, there are a handful of mainstream dating apps that are loaded with singles, but are those apps really geared towards single parents? By all means, there’s nothing wrong with using dating apps such as Tinder or Bumble! But, wouldn’t it be great to have a dating app that was specifically made for single parents?…
Just because moving in together doesn’t mean marriage, it’s still a pretty big decision to make. And many professionals admit that making that decision should be intentional and deliberate rather than simply deciding one day to take the plunge. But we get it: maybe you’ve been dating for a while and you already spend most…
Whether you are aware of your relationship attachment style or not, it plays an important role in your everyday life. It influences how you fall in love (and whether you do at all), how close you feel to people in your life, and how easy or hard it is for you to be vulnerable with…
Does this sound familiar? You’re in a relationship with someone who you feel connected to. They’re seemingly the perfect partner for you, and you love spending time with them. At the back of your mind though, you know that you have to walk on eggshells when you’re around them. If you utter one word or…
When we hear the word ‘anarchy’, we often think of disorder, chaos, and sometimes—even violence. But this is in no way similar to what relationship anarchy is. Why is the word ‘anarchy’ used, then? Well, relationship anarchy does have an element of anarchy to it. And that is the fact that it rejects the element…
Honeymoons are for relaxing in the sun, celebrating your new, official partnership, and of course – having passionate honeymoon sex. When Brides magazine conducted a survey and asked 138 newlyweds how often they have sex while on the honeymoon, 32% (the majority) said every day, while 28% said multiple times a day. If you’re one…
How we meet our sexual and romantic partners has changed drastically throughout generations. Recent studies show that more and more people turn to online dating to meet potential partners. These findings make sense when you take the rise of social media into account, with 76% of people spending more hours scrolling on their phones. We…
Let’s be honest – there are bad lovers who might make you regret inviting them over to your place, and then there are the good lovers, ones that are so good you get flashbacks from the time spent with them in the middle of your work… Being a good lover has nothing to do with…
If you’ve never heard of the 5 stages of a relationship then relationships and love might become more clear after reading this. You might find that falling in love is easy and romantic, but you notice that after a while, you stop being attracted to what you thought was your perfect partner. And then, the…
You’re really into a new romantic or sexual partner. They make you feel lit up, seen, supported, and you also happen to think they’re super cute. You start to kiss and it feels right, you feel arousal building, everything feels hot and sexy, but then you just seem to… tap out. You like them, you’re…
What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the term “sleep divorce”? Probably nothing good, right? The old-school way of living with your partner includes sleeping in the same room, same bed, and under the same duvet cover. Often, people still believe that not sharing a bed with your partner is…
Seeing an attractive woman with a below-average guy inevitably draws all sorts of conclusions (often unfair ones), such as: he’s probably rich, she might be insecure, he must be good in bed or especially well endowed below the waist… However, the truth might be much simpler than that – maybe he’s funny. Science increasingly shows…
When I moved to Copenhagen last year, my opinion of casual dating changed drastically. You see, here, casual dating (and sex) is the name of the game. And sometimes, people might ask your name only after you already had sex. Back in December, I was invited to a traditional Christmas lunch (called Julefrokost) and one…
If you ever wondered when does the honeymoon phase end in a relationship, the answer might surprise you. Researchers at New York University found that the honeymoon phase can last up to 30 months! That’s almost 2.5 years into a relationship, which is a long time to be walking around with butterflies in your stomach. …
It’s admittedly (almost) impossible to live without at least one source of social media today, especially for folks looking to network, job search, or maintain an online portfolio of their work. Social media keeps us all connected to our career worlds and opens doors to new opportunities. But there are no rules for how to…
Have you ever heard of a sex menu? Yes, just as you’d go to a restaurant and have a menu of food to choose from, you can have a similar menu for when it’s time to get frisky with your partner. If you want to learn more about what a sex menu is, why it’s…
Sometimes, it might be hard to get over your ex. Some people take a few months, while others require years. And if we look at the movie “Love in the Time of Cholera,” sometimes people might spend their whole life hung up on a long-lost lover. You can find a gazillion advice pieces online, from…
Do you believe in soulmates? You’re not alone if you answered “yes” to that question. According to the Marist poll, even 73% of Americans believe in soulmates. That’s a lot of people who believe in true love, yet the divorce rates are fairly high in developed countries around the world. Doesn’t make much sense now,…
We like to celebrate sex in all its joyful glory. I rejoice at the very possibility that my articles might encourage someone to have better sex, but I’ll never claim that it’s a one-way road and that there isn’t a dark and sinister quality to sexuality. Sex is a risky game and some of its…
Aren’t butterflies fantastical? In the literal sense of the word, sure, but figuratively… like when you see someone that makes you all giddy. That experience of joy, excitement, but also nervousness… wow! It truly can make you feel alive! So, imagine this scenario: you see someone you’re attracted to, or you look at your partner.…
Relationships are hard. There’s just no denying it. And anyone who is or has been in a long term relationship will surely tell you the same. Even so, while there are days that are dismal, annoying, and somewhat unbearable, relationships should have a fundamental feeling of contentment and happiness. So when is it that enough…
Did you know that there’s an actual term for on-again, off-again relationships? It’s called ‘relationship cycling’, and encompasses people who have broken up and gotten back together with their romantic partner one or more times. This kind of relationship behaviour however, does run the risk of bringing on psychological distress for both partners, such as…
It’s easy to go on a first date somewhere neutral… a place where someone can be the person that they want to be. Just like many of us only reveal the best parts of ourselves on social media, the same could be said for a first date. But when things get serious, or you decide…
Hold up that sex-positive train for just a minute, folks! While you absolutely deserve all the orgasms in the world, there are some exceptions to the otherwise awesome thread of sexual self-realization happening right now. Prioritizing your own pleasure, whether that means shamelessly enjoying your favorite vibrator while alone or during sex, or asking for…
Did Millennials kill the so-called ‘institute of marriage?’ Millennials have the lowest rate of marriage compared to our parents and grandparent’s generations. We’re doing things differently than the folks who came before us, like moving in with our partners and focusing on shared happiness over jumping into a wedding dress and tuxedo and immediately popping…
Sure, sex is amazing, incredible, wonderful, and sometimes firework-inducing. But there are things that you should and shouldn’t be doing afterwards. Don’t let this put you off however, it’s merely a way in which to always keep safe, and to feel your best as you bathe in your post-orgasmic bliss. Now’s the time to live…
Sex, nay, amazing sex, is something we all deserve. And if you’ve ever been in a relationship, you can probably attest to the fact that the first few months are pure bliss. That honeymoon phase where you just can’t keep your hands off of each other, and life is but a dream. But if said-relationship…
When it comes to men and what turns them on, there are a million blog posts and women’s magazine articles that will tell you how to flirt, what to say, what to wear, and how much eye contact to use. To be very honest, it can be very easy to turn a man on and…
The internet and dating apps are the most popular places to find love for the younger generations. And we have to admit – scrolling left and right looking for your Prince (or Princess) Charming while lounging comfortably on your sofa is convenient. But saying “we met on Tinder” when someone asks where you met your…
When you first start dating someone, there are many questions to ask your partner. What their favorite food is, how they grew up, where they see themselves in five years… You want to know it all. One thing most new couples avoid is having honest conversations about sex and asking questions about each other’s sexuality…
When you hear the term ‘performance anxiety’ your mind may immediately go to the inability for men to get an erection. It may even ponder about the inability for men to climax. In fact, society has made it such a ‘thing’ that some men tend to feel embarrassed or ashamed when they’re unable to get…
If you scroll long enough on TikTok, you’ll eventually stumble upon a friendly photographer offering free boudoir photography tips. Sending nudes has become controversial and understandably so. Nobody wants to receive an unsolicited dick pic (which is illegal in some countries!) or be forced into sending their nude pictures in a desperate try to keep a…
By definition, a narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest or admiration of themselves. It’s an extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them. Of course, all of us have the capacity to have certain narcissistic behavioural tendencies from time to time, but in…
What info should I tell someone about myself on a first date? So many people that I talk to believe that they have to go into the first date and give their entire personal resume – maybe including all of their exes, their STI status, when they got out of their last break up, all…