One Sigh. She couldn’t rationalize it. She definitely couldn’t resist it. Sex and attraction is irrational—at least it was for her. She reminded herself of this whenever the urge became overpowering. Oh, she wanted to forget him more than anything. But the harder she fought it, the more it would swallow her. These are familiar…
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How to Heal (And Have Sex With) Anal Scarring
There are many reasons somebody may experience a mishap when engaging in receptive anal intercourse, all of which stem from a lack of education. Was anyone even told anal sex was a possibility in school? This then leads us to seek education in other places, like porn, where we rarely witness proper protocol because porn…
What in the World are “Skin” Orgasms?
Many of us know what a genital orgasm is, some may know more about other kinds of orgasms like tantric or energy orgasms, or even reaching climax without any stimulation at all. But have you ever heard of a skin orgasm? Interestingly, the chances of you experiencing a skin orgasm is high. There’s even a…
Vasectomy as Birth Control Method: Should Your Man Get a Vasectomy?
“I’ll get a vasectomy if needed.” Those words stunned me to silence for a moment after my new sexual partner said it to me. We were having a conversation about which form of birth control we want to use when we have sex. I’ve never been on hormonal contraceptives, and the idea of getting an…
A Storm’s Warning – An Erotic Story
On the nightstand, my phone vibrated, and the flashlight blinked twice. A text. I tried to ignore it. I had been attempting to put away my phone at 10:30 every night. I wanted better sleep, more sleep, and to feel great the next morning. I read about the benefits online, so it had to be…
Techniques to Stay Hard During Sex
Societal expectations and gender roles have done a pretty effective job at destroying our sexual confidence. The most common query I get in my DMs are tips for maintaining an erection during sex. I can’t say I’m surprised, considering men are often portrayed as sex-starved neaderthals with perpetually hard cocks who will stop at nothing…
Here are 10 Sex-Related Questions to Ask Your Partner
When you first start dating someone, there are many questions to ask your partner. What their favorite food is, how they grew up, where they see themselves in five years… You want to know it all. One thing most new couples avoid is having honest conversations about sex and asking questions about each other’s sexuality…
Why Do Some Trans People Decide to De-Transition?
If you’ve decided to read this article, the chances that you know what what the term ‘transgender’ is, are high. But just for good measure: Transgender is a general term that describes people whose gender identity (sense of themselves), or their internal sense of being male, female, or something else, does not match the sex…
Stay Wild – An Erotic Story
Jerry slowed the pickup truck on the unpaved road in the middle of nowhere and turned left. He drove into a cornfield that was recently harvested. The over-sized pickup bucked, like a bronco, over the rough ground and the chopped cornstalks. Both Jerry and Kitty tried to keep their seats as they coursed across the…
Marijuana and Sex: Does It Enhance Your Sexual Experience?
Countries throughout the world are slowly but surely legalising weed, be it for personal or medical use. And what was once considered a huge taboo, a bad drug that shouldn’t be used, is now seen as somewhat of a marvel in a multitude of areas. And while we love the fact that we have the…
Performance Anxiety is Not Just for Men!
When you hear the term ‘performance anxiety’ your mind may immediately go to the inability for men to get an erection. It may even ponder about the inability for men to climax. In fact, society has made it such a ‘thing’ that some men tend to feel embarrassed or ashamed when they’re unable to get…
Boudoir Photography Tips: 5 Tips To Help You Take Better Nude Pictures
If you scroll long enough on TikTok, you’ll eventually stumble upon a friendly photographer offering free boudoir photography tips. Sending nudes has become controversial and understandably so. Nobody wants to receive an unsolicited dick pic (which is illegal in some countries!) or be forced into sending their nude pictures in a desperate try to keep a…
Sexy Date Ideas for Long Summer Nights (and Days)
If you’re looking for sexy and fun summer date ideas to help you and your partner get out of the rut, then look no further. There is no better time to slow down and find new ways to enjoy each other’s company than during long, hot summer days (and nights). And we have enough date…
Sex and Spinach – An Erotic Story by Venus O’Hara
“I need sex.’ I wrote in a text message to a former friend with benefits. We were so familiar with each other that I knew he would not be offended by the intentional omission of polite pleasantries in my message. I knew that my directness would turn him on. It was a summer afternoon years…
In the Driver’s Seat: 4 Sex Positions for High Sex Drive
For those who have a high sex drive, they may believe that there’s something ‘wrong’ with them. Why is there a need for sex or sexual stimulation so often? And how can they satisfy their insatiable lust for some seriously good sex? Well, firstly, there’s nothing wrong with someone who has a high sex drive…
Looking for Your Next App Controlled Vibrator? IDA Wave vs. TIANI Harmony
If you’ve been looking to get your hands on the newest and hottest app-controlled sex toy, you’re in luck! We have two dual stimulation vibrators that are designed to give you hands-free mind-blowing blended orgasms together during partnered sex or when you’re flying solo. IDA Wave Dual Stimulation Massager About IDA Wave IDA Wave dual…
New Research on the Female Orgasm
For vulva owners, it’s true that orgasms are harder to attain during partnered play than it is for penis owners. Hello orgasm gap! Now the thing about the orgasm gap is that people, companies, institutions, and professionals are continuously working hard to close it. Hence why there’s a huge popularity in sex toys. But wouldn’t…
Daddy Knows Best – An Erotic Story
Ms. Dawn Davis ended the six months of negotiations with a new business trajectory. She and her team of company managers shook hands with a group of government officials. They had come to an agreement on a $20 million engineering contract that would conduct work across the eastern half of the United States. Her company…
The True Cost of Loving a Narcissist
By definition, a narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest or admiration of themselves. It’s an extreme self-involvement to the degree that it makes a person ignore the needs of those around them. Of course, all of us have the capacity to have certain narcissistic behavioural tendencies from time to time, but in…
Sexual “Firsts” Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
What info should I tell someone about myself on a first date? So many people that I talk to believe that they have to go into the first date and give their entire personal resume – maybe including all of their exes, their STI status, when they got out of their last break up, all…
Sex and Smell: Things that Can Affect Your vagina’s Scent
When you combine two (or more) sweatin’ and gruntin’ people doing sexual things to each other, there is bound to be some funky smells filling up the room. HOWEVER, much of that smell is emanating from your genitals, because – while we are not saying that they stink – they most certainly do give off…
How to Talk to Your Children About Porn
If you grew up in the early 80’s or before, you’ll know how difficult it was to obtain any kind of racy material. Looking at lingerie ads, finding Playboy magazines on the shelf of your local store, or even hidden somewhere in your home. But since the invention of the Internet, there’s been a brand…
Signs You’re Taking Your Partner for Granted (And What to Do About It)
After a stretch of time with the same partner (we can’t say how long of course, as it varies from person to person, couple to couple), we will of course forget a little of what made them so special in the first place. The initial shimmer they once brought into our lives may have dulled…
Experimenting, Part II – An Erotica Story
He treated it as though it were a typical Saturday – woke up, served her breakfast in bed, then left for the gym and to run a few errands. He had no reason to approach it any differently. After all, she had talked all week about how excited she was to lie around and relax…
Being Empowered During Menopause
For many, menopause is a period of time that’s daunting, dreaded, and seen in a negative light. We’re bombarded with messages that lead us to believe that it’s a horrible phase filled with hot flashes, vaginal dryness, mood and bodily changes, as well as sleepless nights. And while yes, there are some negative side effects…
Why Can’t I Orgasm?
A loaded question, and one to which the answer can vary greatly from person to person. But, by looking at the various causes as to why one can’t orgasm, it may give them insight. In this way, we hope to shed light on the different reasons why some find it difficult to orgasm, the reasons…
Finding Sexual Fulfilment While Living with Depression
Luckily, we’re living in a time where mental illness is being recognised and treated more humanely. In fact, the earliest written accounts of depression was in the second millennium, and meant that one was possessed by demons and evil spirits. The treatment? Being Beaten, physically restrained, and/or starved in an attempt to drive the demons…
How To Use Sonic Wave Massager SILA Cruise as a Nipple Stimulator
SILA Cruise is one of our best-selling sex toys that women all around the world love. And for a good reason – the gentle sonic wave technology mimics the sensation of mouth over your clit perfectly, bringing mind-blowing orgasms without a partner. But did you know that SILA Cruise can also be used as a…
At the Mercy of a Man – Erotic Story by Venus O’Hara
“How much do you love me?” A former boyfriend asked me years ago. He was kneeling before me, on top of my bed, between my spread thighs as I lay down face up. Although it seemed to be the ideal position to receive oral sex, nothing could be further from the truth; I was about…
G Tries: ENIGMA Dual Massager (Review + Video)
This week G tries LELO’s Enigma… LELO’s powerhouse dual action sonic massager, which seeks to help you explore the entirety of your clitoris, using an external mouth and an internal arm to help access two types of climax. Basically it’s two for the price of one. A quick disclaimer, since recording this video, I have…
The Best Anal Sex Positions for Beginners
If you’re inexperienced or have never done it before, anal sex can seem daunting. It’s likely because you’ve heard: one, that you’ll poop, and two, that it’s painful. While both outcomes are possible, rest assured there are a number of things you can do to greatly limit or eliminate these exaggerated outcomes altogether. Preparing for…
Vulva & Clitoris Stimulation Techniques for Non-Penetrative Sex
Some folks might love sex, but just aren’t that into penetration. You might even dig it when properly aroused with a caring partner, but otherwise, it’s kinda ‘meh’ for you. Similarly, there are plenty of reasons you might feel horny, but not in the mood for a dick, dildo, or G-spot vibrator, like being on…
How Accurately Does Your Zodiac Sign Describe Your Sexuality?
Zodiac signs are often used to decipher the compatibility of friends and lovers, and it can be an incredible way to learn more about the world and find a way to understand it better. But how about zodiac signs and sex? Surely, our signs impact the way we have sex the same way it impacts…
My Petite Mort (My O Face) – An Erotic Story by Venus O’Hara
“Don’t move,” the photographer tells me. How could I even entertain the idea given the fact that I am lying face down in a X shape, tied to a bed? I’m completely naked except for a latex mask and the fact that he is fully clothed only makes me feel even more exposed and naked. …
Long-Distance Love, Lust and Making it Last
These days, opportunity and circumstance are taking us to farther flung-out places for education, employment, or what have you. Whatever the reason, there might come a time that you find yourself away from your partner for a stretch of time much longer than you’re comfortable with. Rather than letting the distance determine whether or not…
Scent as a Sense of Sexual Attraction
Your sense of smell is a very powerful emotional trigger. Think of how, upon entering, the smells of your childhood home can immediately affect you and send you back to the emotional state you were in as a child–for better or worse. This is because scent is tied very closely to memory, and specifically tied…
How to Use a GIGI 2 G-Spot Massager
There’s a reason GIGI 2 is one of our most popular products of all time – as one of the best G-spot vibrators ever made, it opened up a world of G-spot orgasms to many and looked great while doing it. If you’re wondering how to go about actually using GIGI 2, well, then you’re in…
The Opthalmologist – An Erotic Story
The ophthalmologist, Dr. Mahoney, welcomed the thin Michelle into his office. “How are you doing this afternoon?” With beautiful confidence and cropped platinum blonde curls, she answered simply, “I’m doing well.” He offered her the patient’s chair and turned off the lights. “Having any problems with your eyes?” “This is just a routine checkup.” She…
Is It Normal To Be a Virgin in Your 20s?
Everyone’s doing it. On TV, on billboards, in the pages of magazines and books, on social media, everyone is having sex, and loads of it. According to Planned Parenthood, the average age when people lose their virginity, aka have sex for the first time, is 18 years old. For most people, it happens when they’re…
5 Hard Relationship Truths When it Comes to Sex
Will your sex life remain – or ever be – picture perfect? If the average answer was ‘yes,’ this sex advice blog – and likely the entirety of the sex toy business – wouldn’t need to exist. Sex is more complicated than we’d all like to admit, and the longer we stay in relationships, the…
Do Men Really Not Feel Anything During Cowgirl?
TikTok has a massive, active sex community that loves to share sex-positive content, teach other people how to be better in the bedroom, and reveal their deepest, darkest sex secrets. A while back, a trend was circling on the app, where guys and girls shared secrets regarding sex, intimacy, and other things. One video revealed…
Online Gaming Relationships: Can You Find Love While Gaming?
The old times when you would meet the love of your life in the library or your local shop while doing your weekly grocery shopping are gone. Instead, the younger generation is taking dating online, with recent studies revealing that finding your significant other on the internet completely replaced all the other ways of meeting…
Does Your Desire To Be Dominated in the Bedroom Make You a Bad Feminist?
“I am an independent, self-sufficient, and confident woman who is in control of her life and is a feminist. Yet I enjoy submissive sex with my partner. Can I really call myself a feminist?!” You might be one of the many women doubting your own choices and loyalty to being a proud feminist because you…
5 Reasons You’re Not Feeling Up for Sex (and Why There’s Nothing Wrong with You)
The de-stigmatizing and normalizing of all types of partner sex – from casual encounters to keeping the spark in monogamy – has led sex educators and sexuality writers into another conundrum. While we love to see all kinds of folks getting their unapologetic freak on, we’re now left to deal with an unintended consequence: the…
Barn Dominion – An Erotic Story
My drone touched down delicately in front of me with the red-light warning about low battery life. The drone had lifted off with a full charge an hour ago, and, after taking pictures and videos of the acreage, it returned exhausted. The drone had flown across the massive estate. The property was green with pastures…
The Fantasy Exchange Part Four – Lessons in Submission by Venus O’Hara
Being a good teacher means knowing your speciality subject very well indeed. You must also know how to present a topic clearly to an individual or a group so that they understand and learn something new. My passion for teaching went far beyond the classroom; I also loved playing the teacher in an intimate role-playing…
ENIGMA Cruise: The New Dual Vibrator for A More Intense, Deeper Pleasure
Your favorite solo-sex toy has a sister. ENIGMA Cruise is the next-generation dual stimulator sonic massager that brings the same sexy shape yet double the pleasure. About ENIGMA Cruise ENIGMA Cruise is a dual sonic vibrator that’s designed to enhance your solo play with the dual stimulation of your clitoris and g-spot all at the…
4 Reasons Why You Should be Watching Ethical Porn and Where to Find It
Finding good quality porn that goes well with your moral values and satisfies your sexual fantasies at the same time can be tough. Most mainstream porn is catered toward the male gaze, and from the stories of ex-porn stars like Mia Kalifa, we know that most mainstream porn is produced in a problematic and dangerous…
3 New Prostate Massagers – We Take Male Pleasure out of the Shadows
For too long, education around male pleasure in general and prostate massage, in particular, has been seriously neglected, at least relative to the amount of high-quality vulva and vagina-focused products available. For many, many months now, we’ve been working hard to bring the same kind of pleasure we’ve been offering to women to men, and…
What is Gaslighting? Are You a Victim of it?
Today, there are more ‘names’ for the kinds of things people have been experiencing for decades and decades. And this is actually a good thing. Way back when, people would experience all kinds of abuse… not as overtly as physical, but mental, psychological, and emotional. And these kinds of abuse are just as harmful (sometimes…