Everyone’s doing it. On TV, on billboards, in the pages of magazines and books, on social media, everyone is having sex, and loads of it. According to Planned Parenthood, the average age when people lose their virginity, aka have sex for the first time, is 18 years old. For most people, it happens when they’re…
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5 Hard Relationship Truths When it Comes to Sex
Will your sex life remain – or ever be – picture perfect? If the average answer was ‘yes,’ this sex advice blog – and likely the entirety of the sex toy business – wouldn’t need to exist. Sex is more complicated than we’d all like to admit, and the longer we stay in relationships, the…
Do Men Really Not Feel Anything During Cowgirl?
TikTok has a massive, active sex community that loves to share sex-positive content, teach other people how to be better in the bedroom, and reveal their deepest, darkest sex secrets. A while back, a trend was circling on the app, where guys and girls shared secrets regarding sex, intimacy, and other things. One video revealed…
Online Gaming Relationships: Can You Find Love While Gaming?
The old times when you would meet the love of your life in the library or your local shop while doing your weekly grocery shopping are gone. Instead, the younger generation is taking dating online, with recent studies revealing that finding your significant other on the internet completely replaced all the other ways of meeting…
Does Your Desire To Be Dominated in the Bedroom Make You a Bad Feminist?
“I am an independent, self-sufficient, and confident woman who is in control of her life and is a feminist. Yet I enjoy submissive sex with my partner. Can I really call myself a feminist?!” You might be one of the many women doubting your own choices and loyalty to being a proud feminist because you…
5 Reasons You’re Not Feeling Up for Sex (and Why There’s Nothing Wrong with You)
The de-stigmatizing and normalizing of all types of partner sex – from casual encounters to keeping the spark in monogamy – has led sex educators and sexuality writers into another conundrum. While we love to see all kinds of folks getting their unapologetic freak on, we’re now left to deal with an unintended consequence: the…
Barn Dominion – An Erotic Story
My drone touched down delicately in front of me with the red-light warning about low battery life. The drone had lifted off with a full charge an hour ago, and, after taking pictures and videos of the acreage, it returned exhausted. The drone had flown across the massive estate. The property was green with pastures…
ENIGMA Cruise: The New Dual Vibrator for A More Intense, Deeper Pleasure
Your favorite solo-sex toy has a sister. ENIGMA Cruise is the next-generation dual stimulator sonic massager that brings the same sexy shape yet double the pleasure. About ENIGMA Cruise ENIGMA Cruise is a dual sonic vibrator that’s designed to enhance your solo play with the dual stimulation of your clitoris and g-spot all at the…
The Fantasy Exchange Part Four – Lessons in Submission by Venus O’Hara
Being a good teacher means knowing your speciality subject very well indeed. You must also know how to present a topic clearly to an individual or a group so that they understand and learn something new. My passion for teaching went far beyond the classroom; I also loved playing the teacher in an intimate role-playing…
4 Reasons Why You Should be Watching Ethical Porn and Where to Find It
Finding good quality porn that goes well with your moral values and satisfies your sexual fantasies at the same time can be tough. Most mainstream porn is catered toward the male gaze, and from the stories of ex-porn stars like Mia Kalifa, we know that most mainstream porn is produced in a problematic and dangerous…
3 New Prostate Massagers – We Take Male Pleasure out of the Shadows
For too long, education around male pleasure in general and prostate massage, in particular, has been seriously neglected, at least relative to the amount of high-quality vulva and vagina-focused products available. For many, many months now, we’ve been working hard to bring the same kind of pleasure we’ve been offering to women to men, and…
What is Gaslighting? Are You a Victim of it?
Today, there are more ‘names’ for the kinds of things people have been experiencing for decades and decades. And this is actually a good thing. Way back when, people would experience all kinds of abuse… not as overtly as physical, but mental, psychological, and emotional. And these kinds of abuse are just as harmful (sometimes…
How Do You Define Infidelity in the Digital Age?
Infidelity is infidelity, right? Well, technically! But in this day and age, who’s to say what cheating really is? Before the invention of the Internet—heck, even before the telephone—cheating meant catching a partner nestled up close to someone else. Just like the movies, two people checking into a motel or hotel, having a cheeky kiss…
The Fantasy Exchange Part Three – Oral Passion by Venus O’Hara
“Do you want to go to a lesbian club tonight?” she asked me from the sofa as I was picking up my clothes that I had left on the living room floor the night before. I wondered if she had forgotten her promise to go down on me “as soon as we got home” after…
3 Awesome Positions (& Alternate Methods) for Masturbating with Your LELO
It’s easy to get stuck in a rut, even with something as pleasurable as masturbating. Many different parts come into play when it comes to self-love: we have our favorite types of porn, our favorite vibrator, and even our favorite time of day to do it. If you find yourself looking for ways to spice…
Does Our Parents’ Parenting Style Affect Our Sex Lives? Science Says Yes
You might not want to hear it, but your parents are responsible for the way you see and have sex. Well, at least partly. And there is so much more that comes to play than the dreaded sex talk we all had at one point or another. Before you go off gagging at two words,…
Choosing Your First Vibrator: A LELO Guide
If you’re just getting started on your jolly journey traversing the highways, byways, and back alleys of Vibrator Village, the shop windows and street corners will be filled with enticing options, each of which will no doubt be cooing a seductive siren song in your ear. Stay your wandering eyes, young… uh, wanderer! Before blindly…
The Intimate Power of Eye Contact
Did you know that you have a mere seven seconds to make a first impression? And while eye contact does play a positive role in how people perceive you upon first interaction, locking eyes has the power to enhance all kinds of interactions—be it in friendships, relationships, work connections, and more. Let’s take a little…
Office Romance Q&A with Dr. Zhana
For our April Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Office Romance. Is it possible to pursue a relationship in the business environment? Absolutely and a lot of people do. A recent (2022) survey of American workers found that a third have had or are currently having an office romance, a half have had…
How the BDSM Kink Community on TikTok is Teaching People Consent
In popular culture, the lines between consensual and non-consensual sex are blurred. The general message is that silence is consent, and movies and even popular books like 50 Shades of Gray reiterate the message that someone doesn’t know how bad they want it until you coerce or force them into sexual activity. A survey conducted…
How To Use LELO Tiani Duo to Experience Better Orgasms With Your Partner
Are you looking to enhance your partnered play and connect with your partner deeper in the bedroom? If the answer to that question is yes, then the new LELO Tiani Duo remote-controlled couples’ massager will be your new favorite sex toy. LELO Tiani Duo Tiani Duo is the newest remote-controlled couples’ massager from LELO that…
I Tried a CBD Sex Suppository, and it Was Nothing Like I Expected
If I had wanted to spend my Friday date night stoned out of my mind, craving junk food with a mad case of the munchies and lazily curled up on the couch with a movie, I could have spent 10 minutes inside any local, Los Angeles dispensary and walked away dazed and happy. But I…
Fast Food Sights – An Erotic Story
I had worked the drive-thru at the fast-food restaurant for a month and had already seen some awkward sights from customers. Old women with yapping dogs on their laps. Parents who had several kids barking through the window to get their burgers. Businessmen who swore when they spilled coffee on their designer shirts. Teenagers making…
Does Social Media Help Your Relationship or Ruin It?
The connection between social media and relationships has been the topic of conversations for years now. Multiple studies show that social media impacts our mental health and how we view ourselves, and our self-esteem. So it’s only natural to assume that it should also impact our romantic relationships, right? According to Pew Research Center, 45%…
Women’s Sexual Empowerment Q&A with Dr. Zhana
For our March Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about Women’s Sexual Empowerment. What does it mean to be sexually empowered? Being sexually empowered means owning your sexuality, being strong and powerful and confident in the desires that you have, in the kinds of stimulations that you like to have in your body, and…
The Fantasy Exchange Part Two – The Morning After by Venus O’Hara
Those moments when you first wake up in the morning can be confusing. In a matter of seconds, you go from a dream-like state to analysing where you are, who you are with (sometimes) and above all, how you got to bed the night before. It was Saturday morning and when I woke up and…
Spring Date Ideas 2022
Cold Netflix nights are played out. As nice as cozying up by the fire has been, you’re ready to do some adventuring – or at least step outside. The weather is warming up, the grass is looking lush and green, flowers are blooming, and love is in the air. After cozying up for the winter…
Balance Your Life for Better Sex
Our sex life is a canary in the coal mine of our well-being, so when things in our life slip out of control, the price for that will be paid in bed. Good thing is the system works in both directions, so if we get our act together, it will inevitably lead to more sexual…
Why it’s Okay Not to Like Anal Sex
Feeling bombarded by the current anal sex craze? It’s totally valid to NOT dig butt sex, and here’s why. As a sex toy company that champions exploring anal play, we love that so many people of all genders feel liberated to give butt play a chance. We’ll be the first to encourage anyone, anywhere and…
Sex Workers Enter the Coding World to Leave Behind Limiting Platforms
Sex work is arguably one of the oldest professions out there. Like everything in society, this industry has evolved greatly over time and continues to do so more and more. One of the biggest influences on the sex industry in recent years is thanks to technology and the rise of the internet. Online platforms have…
How You *Should* Navigate Dating Apps if You’re Looking for Something Serious
Everyone craves human connection. We’re hardwired for it. Our relationships, no matter how serious they are, give us the opportunity to reflect, to learn about ourselves and life, to experience pleasure, and to enjoy life! Dating apps are one of the most revolutionary tools out there when it comes to love, sex, and romance. They…
G Tries: SONA Cruise Clitoral Massager (Review + Video)
This week, I try SONA Cruise, the biggest step forward in pleasure technology in the past decade. Renowned for its ability to make you squirt and its ‘hands-free’ approach to intensity, this was the moment I have been waiting for… Finally, I have my hands on SONA Cruise from LELO. It sounds dramatic, but…
The Fantasy Exchange Part One – My First Time With A Woman by Venus O’Hara
There are days in your life that seem insignificant when you live them. It’s only with time that you come to understand their meaning. That’s how it was when I met her. It was a hot summer’s day in Madrid and I was working as an English teacher in a language academy. That day I…
Positive Words of Affirmation for Him
Everyone gives and receives love differently. This philosophy is the basis behind the Five Love Languages – a guidebook written by Dr. Gary Chapman over 30 years ago. Dr. Chapman used his background as a counselor to spread the knowledge of the love languages so that people could form meaningful and lasting relationships. If you’re…
Why Do Some Men Love Hearing About Their Partner’s Past Sexual Experiences?
There’s a lot to be said about double standards when it comes to sex and sexuality. You know, the whole ‘congratulating a man yet shaming a woman after sex’ thing? And with that, we know that there are many individuals who deem their or another’s virginity as a ‘prized possession’, with some even auctioning it…
Gyms are Getting Hot! Best Workouts to Improve Sexual Stamina and Flexibility
With spring just around the corner, it’s the perfect time to start working on spicing things up in the bedroom. And one of the best ways to do it is to improve your sexual stamina and flexibility with easy workouts you can do at the gym or home. Looking to increase penis stamina? LELO is…
Top 8 San Diego Date Ideas 2022
San Diego is one of the biggest hot spots in the United States. This coastal city has it all – sunny weather, beautiful beaches, amazing food, and endless amounts of fun things to do and see. Whether you’re exploring San Diego for the first time, or you’ve lived here your whole life, this is a…
Sex in the Office — Taboo or Totally Normal?
They say that there are three topics to never talk about in the office – religion, politics, and sex. According to some data, even 71% of people believe that sex is a no-go topic in a professional environment. So, we shouldn’t talk about sex in the office. But how about doing it instead of talking…
7 Ways To Spice Things Up in Your Relationship This Spring
With spring just around the corner, you might be looking for new ways to spice things up in your relationship. It’s natural that with nature waking up from the winter slumber and days getting longer, you want to find new and exciting ways to connect with your partner. So, if you’ve been wondering how to…
The Rise in Popularity of Alien Porn
Sexual fantasies… the majority of us have one or more. And some of these fantasies are so far removed from reality, making it even more appealing. In fact, some fantasies are ‘a fantasy’ because they’re so unrealistic. For example, in a study by Justin Lehmiller, more than half of those surveyed had fantasised about a…
Secret’s Out! LELO and Diesel are Making Fashionable Sex Toys
Bringing pleasure mainstream doesn’t mean that everyone has to be keen on casual sex, it just means that for most people sex and masturbation are a normal part of every day life even if we aren’t talking about it. LELO teamed up with Diesel to create custom sex toys to normalize conversations around sexuality to…
One Love: All About Serial Monogamy
It’s 2022 and in this day and age, people get to love who they want and however many people they want. They’ve broken the confines of what your stereotypical relationship should look like and have made their own rules. It seems like more and more people are leaning towards polyamory, or choosing to stay single…
G Tries: SILA Clitoral Massager (Review + Video)
This week I try SILA, LELO’s sonic clitoral massager which promises to help you reach the climax of your dreams, and let me tell you, she does not disappoint. SILA is inspired by LELO’s infamous SONA clitoral massager, however, SILA has an overall bigger mouth, ideal if it’s your first time exploring this type of…
What Do Women Really Think About During Sex?
There is no one gender that has a monopoly on not being in the moment during lovemaking. When it comes to a wandering mid-coitus mind, women are just as likely as anyone to be thinking of any number of things, other than what’s happening right there in front of them. IT should be no surprise…
What is Catfishing? And How to Spot an Online Catfish
In literal terms, a cat fish is a diverse ray-finned fish that has distinguishable barbels that look like a cat’s whiskers. But in the figurative world, a catfish is something completely different… and chances are, you’ve heard of this term before. Regardless of your views on the matter, being a catfish is devastatingly immoral, cruel,…
First Attempt – An Erotic Story
I was young once. Too afraid to give into my desires. Looking back now, I wonder how I resisted, but more interestingly, how I am so free to being face down, ass bare in the air, ready to take submissive orders today. We went to a place far enough from home to have all the…
SexTok: Does the Rise of the Sex Community on TikTok Do More Harm or Good in Our Lives?
Tiktok is one of the largest social media platforms with over 1 billion monthly users. The app’s popularity can be widely attributed to its unique algorithm that quickly picks up on what the users like and want to see on their For You pages. Due to TikTok’s algorithm being so accurate, it’s very easy for…
Why Do We Hate on Waiting Till Marriage? Maybe Virgins Have it All Figured Out
What’s your first reaction when someone says they “waited for marriage” or when someone mentions the concept of virginity? Do you cringe? Are you ambivalent? Does it resonate with you? Does it bring up some family and cultural baggage? Is it outside of your normal life but you’re curious? All or none of the above?…
Work Out & Get Off: What is a Coregasm?
Once upon a time, we revealed that the sexiest kind of exercise was of the kegel variety. You know, when you tighten your pelvic floor muscles (either manually or using Ben Wa Balls) in order to make them stronger, resulting in intense and more powerful orgasms? And while we still stand by this, coregasms are…
The First Profession in the World? The History of Prostitution!
The saying “Prostitution is the oldest profession in the world” is not just an aphorism. Although there’s some truth to that, it is a bit of a misconception. This phrase was coined in 1898 by Victorian writer Rudyard Kipling. In truth, there is no evidence of sex work amongst primitive societies, and it didn’t exist…