The Psychology Behind Sexual Initiation Initiating sex can feel vulnerable. It’s often accompanied by anxieties and uncertainties. Understanding the psychology behind initiating sex can empower you to navigate these complexities and build deeper intimacy with your partner. This involves recognizing a variety of factors, from personal insecurities to the influence of society, that shape our…
Everyone has varying levels of accessibility and ease when it comes to pleasure – which has also founds it way into topics surrounding sex and sex toys. Many people with physical disabilities or mobility issues aren’t able to use the average sex toys. That’s why more brands are creating inclusive sex toys that allow people…
The Psychology Behind Powerful Dirty Talk Dirty talk, using explicit language during intimate moments, can significantly heighten arousal and deepen connection. Its power isn’t just about the words themselves. It taps into deep psychological mechanisms that amplify desire and create a unique sense of intimacy. Understanding this psychology can unlock dirty talk’s full potential for…
Initially marketed in the 60s and 70s to massage sore muscles, the powerful “Magic Wand” massager soon developed a cult following as an vibrator for clitoral stimulation. Sex toy companies took note – today, many companies produce a variety of wand massagers specifically for pleasure. Offering intense stimulation, versatility, and deep relaxation, wand massagers are…
Sex toys are a fun way to elevate partnered play and your solo self-care routines. But just like anything that comes in close and intimate contact with your body, sex toys require regular upkeep. Sex toy hygiene isn’t just about cleanliness—it’s about health, safety, and longevity. You see, improper cleaning can lead to bacterial buildup,…
Sexual pleasure is a human right – it shouldn’t be a privilege reserved for able-bodied folk only. Yet, for far too long, the world of adult toys has often overlooked those with different bodies and abilities. The good news is that it’s rapidly changing. More and more companies are recognizing the importance of inclusive and…
Beyond Myths: Understanding What Women Actually Want Pleasuring a woman isn’t about checking off a list of techniques. It’s about truly understanding her, both emotionally and physically, and creating a connection that allows for genuine intimacy. This often involves letting go of societal myths and embracing open communication. True satisfaction often lies in the emotional…
The Truth About Sexual Confidence (And Why It Matters) Let’s be honest: true sexual confidence isn’t about perfect positions or countless orgasms. It’s not the polished, performative sexuality we often see in the media. Real confidence in the bedroom comes from something much deeper: self-acceptance. This means embracing your body, your desires, and anything you…
The Science Behind Squirting: What Researchers Actually Found For many, female squirting remains a mystery, clouded by misinformation. Let’s explore what science reveals about this intriguing aspect of female sexuality. Understanding the Skene’s glands, small structures situated on either side of the urethra, is key. These glands, also known as the female prostate, are central…
Just because it’s your time of the month doesn’t mean using your sex toys is taboo. In fact, masturbation can ease period cramps and improve sleep and stress, so by all means, use your toys for relief. Many people, on their periods, see an increase in libido and desire due to hormonal fluctuations. While we…
Technology is rapidly changing and holding. That’s certainly true in the world of sexual wellness and sex tech. Interactive sex toys are high-tech pleasure devices designed to connect with external controls. This is typically done via apps, Bluetooth, or WiFi, allowing them to be customized, synced, or even controlled remotely by another person. When people…
Knowing how to clean sex toys is an essential part of owning pleasure products. While it might not be the sexiest part of owning a vibrator, stroker, or butt plug, proper sex toy hygiene is necessary since these items come into direct contact with bodily fluids. And while you’ve probably been told that any soap…
This article was written by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist, researcher and award-winning educator. For more information: Website | Publications | Instagram A growing number of people appear to be exploring what sex toys can do for their intimate lives. Data from representative US surveys find that most women and nearly half of men have…
For those who don’t know, the prostate is a walnut-sized gland found in the reproductive system of penis-owners, below the bladder and surrounding the urethra. In other words, the way in which to find the prostate is through the anus. The main function of the prostate is to produce seminal fluid, which nourishes sperm and…
The Mind-Body Connection: Beyond Physical Touch When considering how to stimulate a woman, it’s important to remember that arousal isn’t just about physical touch. The mind plays a significant role, meaning true arousal often begins long before physical contact. It’s a complex interplay of mental and physical factors. The Importance of Emotional Intimacy Emotional intimacy…
This article was written by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist, researcher and award-winning educator. For more information: Website | Publications | Instagram Following trauma or surgery, it is common for people’s sexual confidence to take a hit. They may also find it difficult to relax during moments of intimacy, making it harder to access pleasure.…
The Hidden Benefits Of Vaginal Massage You Should Know Vaginal massage goes beyond boosting pleasure; it also offers wellness perks that deserve more attention. By focusing on pelvic tension relief, you help muscles unwind and reduce discomfort in daily activities. Enhancing circulation to delicate tissues brings more oxygen and nutrients, supporting overall vaginal health. A…
Understanding What’s Really Blocking Your Connection Intimacy issues rarely develop overnight. They often arise from deeper psychological factors that gradually weaken the connection between partners. Recognizing these underlying causes is the first step toward rebuilding intimacy. This involves examining how past experiences, personal beliefs, and even subconscious behaviors affect your ability to connect. Taking the…
The Truth About Sexual Confidence (And Why It Matters) Let’s be honest: genuine sexual confidence isn’t about achieving some unrealistic ideal or performing perfectly. It’s about something much more profound and rewarding. It’s about feeling truly comfortable and secure with yourself, emotionally and physically, when sharing intimacy. This inner assurance strengthens your connection with your…
Beyond The Basics: What Adult Sex Education Really Means Let’s be honest: the sex education many of us received in school wasn’t always comprehensive. This section explores what adult sex education truly encompasses, going beyond the sometimes insufficient lessons from our younger years. It’s about understanding how adult-focused learning tackles age-specific topics that typical school…
We’ve all heard the stories: You give a new sex toy a spin, love it so much you never want to get off, and – oops! – find yourself a little too sore. Vibrator overstimulation, while rare, is certainly possible. While even the highest-intensity settings cannot permanently numb your clitoris, when used incorrectly, some people…
With so many options on the market, finding the best dildos to add to your sex toy collection can feel overwhelming. Realistic dildos, suction cup dildos, fantasy dildos, dildo vibrators… there are many types to choose from. Whether you’re flying solo or want something to enhance partnered play, a dildo can be a great way…
Vaginal dryness is more common than you’d think, and there are many reasons people of all ages might experience it. Dealing with this issue can make sex uncomfortable and can lead to sexual health issues like irritation and microtears. It also doesn’t help that there’s a stigma surrounding this topic. Fortunately, sex toys can help…
Are you interested in exploring anal play but don’t quite know where to start? Anal play can be incredibly exciting and fun, yet can also be a bit nervewracking – especially if you’re brand new to it. Yet it can be incredibly pleasurable as long as you take into account some basic tips and also…
Proper sex toy hygiene matters when it comes to cleaning sex toys. This means being knowledgeable about materials, irritants, and basic sanitation. Regular cleaning can prevent infections, maintain integrity, and extend the product’s lifespan. The consequences of sex toy cleaning mistakes—AKA incorrect cleaning—can lead to bacterial buildup, skin irritation, and toy degradation. Damage to your…
Why After Sex Care Matters More Than You Think Intimacy doesn’t end when the act of sex is over. The period following sex, known as after sex care, is equally important for both physical and emotional well-being. It’s a time to nurture the connection and build a stronger bond with your partner. Ignoring this crucial…
Why Romance Fades (And What You Can Do About It) Let’s face it, the initial excitement of a new relationship doesn’t last forever. This isn’t a sign that something is wrong, but a natural progression. Understanding the reasons behind this shift is the first step towards reigniting the flame. This involves examining both the biological…
The Foundation: Why Trust Makes or Breaks Relationships Trust is essential for any strong relationship. It’s not just a bonus; it’s the very core of lasting intimacy. Think of it like the foundation of a house. A solid foundation helps a house withstand storms, just as trust helps a relationship weather life’s inevitable challenges. Without…
Kegel balls are sexual health devices that strengthen the pelvic floor muscles and boost sexual pleasure by improving vaginal tone. Although pelvic floor exercises can be performed without these Kegel exercise tools, the benefits of Kegel balls can assist with pelvic floor exercises and provide better results in a shorter time frame. Maintaining pelvic floor…
The Real Meaning of Emotional Intimacy Today Emotional intimacy. We hear it everywhere, but what does it truly mean for relationships today? It’s the foundation of any fulfilling partnership, more than just a fleeting feeling. It’s about creating a safe space where both partners can authentically be themselves, imperfections and all. This connection goes deeper…
The SONA range includes five different iterations of a seemingly similar clitoral stimulator but each model differs for very small and super important details. The SONAs are considered air pulse toys (even though they apply a more complex technology) that can stimulate the clitoris even without direct contact. LELO’s offer for clitoral stimulators includes a…
Why Learning About Sex Actually Matters Learning about sex goes far beyond the basic biology. It’s about developing healthier relationships, improving self-confidence, and promoting overall well-being. Understanding your body and desires is deeply connected to a positive self-image. This self-awareness helps you communicate your needs and make informed decisions about your sexual health. Understanding the…
What’s the cutting edge of male pleasure today? The world of male sex toys has evolved from simple, traditional designs to high-tech interactive devices that revolutionize stimulation. Leading this innovation is the LELO F1S series, a premium lineup of smart masturbators designed for immersive, hands-free experiences. But does it deliver? In this in-depth review, we’ll…
You might know that exercise enhances blood flow to keep your heart healthy and your muscles strong, but did you know that sex toys improve circulation as well? By increasing heart rate and blood flow, sexual activity has the same benefits as working out. When we get sexually aroused, blood flows not just to the…
The Truth About Mismatched Sex Drives in Relationships Let’s talk about something many couples struggle to discuss: differing sex drives. It’s surprisingly common, and acknowledging this is the first step toward a healthier relationship. This isn’t about assigning blame, it’s about understanding each other and strengthening your bond. Desire Fluctuations: A Normal Part of Relationships…
There’s a common Spanish saying: Amor de lejos, amor de pendejos. Essentially, it means that long distance relationships are for fools. There’s some truth to that – long-distance relationships come with their unique set of challenges that can strain even the strongest relationships. For one, you can’t touch each other. Intimate contact is a crucial…
Understanding Your Performance Anxiety: Why Your Mind Rebels That familiar flutter in your stomach, the racing heart, the sudden blank mind – we all recognize the signs of performance anxiety. But why does our mind seem to betray us when we need it most? It comes down to a complex interaction between our psychology and…
The LELO ENIGMA range is redefining the world of dual-stimulation vibrators (and even triple-stimulation for the most recent models), offering an advanced and luxurious approach to pleasure and orgasms. Designed to simultaneously stimulate the G-spot and the clitoris, these high-end devices use Sonic Wave Technology combined with deep vibrations for an intense, blended orgasm experience.…
The Science Behind Your Desire: What Drives Libido Your libido, or sex drive, isn’t static. It naturally changes throughout life, influenced by a combination of biological, psychological, and social elements. Understanding this complex interaction is the first step toward understanding how to boost your sex drive. The Hormonal Orchestra Hormones are at the core of…
Sex toys aren’t just for masturbation, they can also be an incredible way to bring you closer to your partner. And it’s not just a matter of bringing any old sex toy into the mix, there are a bunch of couples’ sex toys on the market that can be incredible for shared intimacy. Vibrators that…
So, you bought your first vibrator? Congratulations on making a big step into the world of self-pleasure. Whether masturbation is new to you or you just haven’t used a vibrator before, integrating one into self-pleasure practice can feel a little daunting at first. But as with anything, you have to start somewhere! Making mistakes with…
Anal play can be a bit intimidating when you’re first starting out, but it’s also the gateway to a whole bunch of untapped pleasure. It can also require a bit more strategy and preparation than what you may be used to – especially when using toys. That’s because there’s a bit more of an inherent…
Understanding the Science of Sexual Endurance Before exploring techniques to improve sexual stamina, it’s helpful to understand the science behind it. Sexual endurance isn’t just about physical strength; it’s a complex interplay of physical and psychological factors. Everything from your current arousal level to underlying anxieties and your body’s physical responses play a role. Understanding…
Are you the proud owner of a new sex toy? Is it your first, or perhaps your umpteenth? While this object will provide you with hours of pleasure, it requires some care to not only extend the longevity of your pleasure, but ensure your sexual health as well. Cleaning is essential for products that are…
We might be familiar with whips, chains, and handcuffs, but bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism — also known as BDSM — is an erotic practice that goes well beyond what we might have read in Fifty Shades of Grey. First and foremost, safe BDSM involves a much more dynamic conversation around consent since power dynamics,…
Why Modern Relationships Need Sexual Education Many assume sexual education is just for teenagers. However, many couples receive little guidance on how to build a fulfilling intimate life together. This lack of shared knowledge can significantly affect long-term relationship happiness. Differing expectations about intimacy, unspoken desires, and changing needs can create friction and misunderstandings. Couples…
In the United States, studies have found that 30 to 40% of men and women participate in anal intercourse. And anal play for couples is increasing in popularity, according to a Statista report. Anal play for partners can enhance pleasure, connection, and exploration. It has a laundry list of physical and emotional benefits, but learning…
Innovations in sex tech allow people to experience more pleasure and overcome hurdles that come up in their sex lives. Two such hurdles that can come up for people with penises are dealing with erectile dysfunction and wanting to enlarge their penis. One possible solution to both of these predicaments is using a vacuum pump,…
Some people have the desire to tie up or be tied up, in some sort of restraint, to have a sensory experience and to marvel at the artistic expression. If you’re one of those people or someone who has your interest peaked, you may enjoy the art of rope play. This type of play falls…
Are you completely new to the world of sex toys and are looking for a comprehensive beginner’s guide to vibrator play? Then you’ve come to the right place. Self-pleasure is a deeply personal journey that offers many benefits for your sexual wellness and overall wellbeing. Exploring your body in a safe, intentional way allows you…