Psychologists are genuinely divided over the function and meaning of dreaming. Some psychologists think that dreams are nothing more than the result of random brain activity that occurs while we are sleeping, while others accept the perspective of people such as Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung that dreams can reveal a person’s deepest unconscious wishes…
Are you primarily attracted to men, women, both, or neither? Fascinating research shows that we may not consciously realize who attracts us. While straight and gay men seem to accurately detect their sexual attraction toward women and men, it appears that straight women and lesbians may not. Researchers Chivers et al. (2004) presented straight men…
One of the hardest aspects of ending a romantic relationship or marriage is listening to others tell you what you need to do. Many people don’t know what to say or how to comfort you, or they take on the responsibility of “fixing” you and your situation. In reality, all you really want (and need)…
Who in their right mind would take part in No Nut November? We’ll tell you. What is No Nut November? No, No Nut November is not to raise awareness for nut allergies. It’s a month-long celebration without “nutting”, or ejaculating in any form of way. Not only are you not allowed to ejaculate, you must…
While bartending one evening, HE walks in. You know the type. The confident, intimidating alpha male that demands the room acknowledges his presence. His slate eyes indicate he is secretive, the way he dresses indicates discretion, but that smile, well that smile indicates he wants me, which makes me nervous. Nervous and hard with desire,…
Far too often we talk about sex as simply a physical act. A way to scratch an itch, “get off,” or release some building sexual tension. But, of course, sex can be so much more than that. In the context of a consensual partnership, sex can be a way to experience closeness and connection, a…
The last of the boxes unpacked had Max officially moved into Henry’s condo. The two sat down on the couch together, Max passing him a cold beer, tapped the neck of his bottle to Henry’s, “Cheers! To officially moving in together.” “To us,” Henry replied before taking a sip. He let the cold lager slide…
Becoming a parent can add a lot of joy, love, and excitement to your life, but it’s not without some personal costs and challenges. As parents begin to shift their time and attention away from each other and toward their children, they often find it difficult to maintain a healthy intimate life. Indeed, research has…
We’ll skip the fluff. Sex therapist Casey Tanner joined us to answer the most frequently asked questions about rabbit vibrators. Discover how they work and if they’d be a great fit for you. Q: What are they, and how do they work? Rabbit vibrators get their name from their shape, as they typically have two…
The thought of crying after sex may seem daunting, embarassing, or just plain weird to a lot of folk. But in actuality, it’s more common than you may think! In fact, it’s perfectly natural to cry after sex… for a number of reasons! But before we dive into them, let’s discuss the ins and outs…
It seemed like they were trying to save him, but Radical Zombie Saviors are tricky that way; one moment they’re saving you from an all-out attack, the next minute your asshole’s impaled. I wasn’t sure Finn wanted to be saved, still, I stayed in the safety of the alcove – in the shadows – and…
What better way to get your sexual juices flowing than by writing out your wildest fantasy? Well, that’s exactly what LELO wanted our readers to do. We hosted a gay erotica contest to showcase what’s been cooking in your minds while we’ve had so much time to ourselves, and boy, the entries did not disappoint.…
Tim kept his hands in his pockets as he sauntered down the hall. He’d worried that finding Jonathan’s office would take time. But, with all the floor-to-ceiling glass, he’d see his face before a name plaque. A few passing suits shot him odd looks, but no one stopped him. He smiled at the one woman…
The olive-toned skin glistened with a light sheen of sweat and was stretched taut over lean muscles. There was a light dusting of dark hair that covered the chest, arms and legs. Those perfectly sculpted limbs, in his opinion, quaked with anticipation. He hummed softly, the sound loud in the otherwise silent room. The body…
If someone has an orgasm during consensual sex, people generally assume that the sex must have been good. However, in a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, researchers found that consensual sex can be bad even when orgasm occurs. They called these kinds of experiences “bad orgasm experiences.” More specifically, the study…
A third of Americans have lied to a significant other about their number of sexual partners, according to new research. A study of 2,000 Americans who’ve had sex revealed that of those who’ve fibbed their number (32%), 42% were men and 23% were women. Now that we know that a whopping third of us are…
When modern sex research began after World War II, many thought that “normal” sex was limited to married heterosexual vaginal intercourse—with everything else suspect or “perverted.” But over the past 70 years, as researchers have delved even deeper into sexuality, they’ve discovered that the loving, successful and mentally healthy population actually exhibits tremendous sexual diversity.…
Think about a time when you experienced a huge rush of positive and exciting emotions, like riding a roller coaster or finally standing up for yourself in an argument. These experiences often create an intense whirlwind of feelings that make us feel powerful, strong and almost invincible. But those feelings don’t last forever… Just like…
You know when you feel extremely close to your partner? Like after sex or whilst sharing a moment that enhances your bond and makes you feel even more in love or lust? Yeah, oxytocin plays a big role in facilitating that special bond. But its role doesn’t just stop there… What is Oxytocin? Oxytocin is…
Fact: A majority of those with vulvas and vaginas prefer clitoral stimulation. In fact, a recent LELO survey on what makes us come found that 70% of women reported orgasming through some form of clitoral stimulation, whether that be clitoral-only (43%) or a combination of clitoral and other (27%). Point in case: clitoral massagers are…
Halloween is upon us once again and it’s no secret that this is one of the best holidays for getting freaky. There’s a chill in the air that’s partially due to dropping weather, the excitement of fun-sized treats and, of course, seeing the most creative or sexiest costumes that allow people to walk on the…
If you’re a proud vulva owner, let me get a hallelujah! For starters, they’re freaking beautiful, aren’t they? And secondly, we’re continuously learning new ways to experience pleasure with this little sweet spot. Not only that, but having a vulva is basically a superpower on its own! Which is why LELO has revolutionized the game…
If you’ve read one of my previous articles, you’ll know that a kink and a fetish are two different things . And today, we’ll be zoning in on the term: kink. First off… What Does ‘Kink’ Mean? A kink is something that someone finds arousing but that’s generally not considered mainstream sexual. It’s hard to…
The more you use a vibrator and the stronger, does it eventually desensitize you? Do vibrators desensitize the clit? If I stimulate my clit with my toy too much can it cause any damage? Can a sex toy harm your private parts (ex. intense hard vibration on [the] clitoris)? Can you get addicted to us[ing]…
The clitoris has been misunderstood for a long time. Forever, really. Recently, a lot of research has emerged that has helped to explain the structure, function, and evolution of the clitoris, but you’d be surprised how even authoritative voices on the subject can still get it wrong, or be working to outdated information. We’ve come…
There are hundreds of articles out there for having better sex. We’ve written plenty of our own. After all, at LELO, we tend to pride quality over quantity. But what if, just this once, it was quantity that was the issue, and not quality? What if the sex you’re having is fine, when it happens,…
An orgasm, when you boil it down, is nothing more than a few seconds of pelvic contractions followed by the delivery of some pleasure-triggering hormones and chemicals. It should be boring, like stubbing your toe or sneezing, but it isn’t. It’s the most riveting experience a human can have, and we spend a large chunk…
There’s a lot that’s strange and confusing about sex. When you boil human sexuality down and examine its constituent parts, none of it makes any sense and it’s a miracle any of us manage to do it at all. That’s because we’re complex psychological animals who have to, for the first time in known history,…
Every single relationship is unique – that’s what makes love so fantastic. Power dynamics, our little shared quirks, the way we approach our love – no two couples are identical when we slice apart how they function. Some love a balance in power, others like when the scales tip in one direction or the other…
Apparently, her best friend, Ruth, found churches sexually arousing. For Jules herself, it was hotels. More specifically, hotels whilst staying away on business. Her current husband (her second, as it happens), had started as an affair. They had worked for the same law practice and spent many nights away on business. It was only a…
PROS: Delivers otherworldly G-spot orgasms CONS: Not suitable for living with parents What makes it unique: Wave technology offers direct combination stimulation of clitoris and G-spot Details below! PROS This goes down in personal history for top 3 orgasms of all time. I was unfamiliar with the wave (pinching) technology of this toy and discovered…
Hey all! It’s Dr. Zhana and I’m back to answer all your questions about *drumroll please*… orgasms ! Your questions were so good and so different from the questions I usually get, so I’m really excited about this. Most of your questions were actually really specific and physiological that I had to recruit two people…
It was high summer, and I was on one of my paid dates – with a woman you understand. She had hired me as a walker through my usual agency. If she had had any idea of my proclivities she didn’t mention that she knew. She was German, and younger than my normal clients ,…
There was a different world beyond the heavy velvet curtains. A long, high-ceilinged empty corridor. The age of the building was more obvious – heavy flagstones on the floor, dimpled from four hundred years of heavy riding boots – and a musty smell of leather and a faint taste of metal in my mouth and,…
At almost every conceivable cultural touchpoint, women are seen through a straight, white, male prism. Every influential piece of media is guided by a male perspective, even famously empowering ones. This isn’t even a controversial view; we all know it. Sex & The City was adapted from the books by a man. 50 Shades is…
The impact of anxiety on sexuality, and vice versa, is by far the most prevalent concern amongst my clients. Anxiety about sex is an experience that pervades individuals and relationships regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, or body type. Ironically, the relationship between stress and sexuality is a catch-22; research shows anxiety often interferes with…
Psst! You! Yes, you! Want to get in on a little secret? We thought so! Naturally, us human beings are all a little curious about knowing things that we shouldn’t. And when we have a dirty little secret that we wouldn’t dare share, we often bask in the pleasure with a smug look on our…
Masturbation is weird. There are a million reasons we do it, and then we do it for no reason at the same time. It’s just something we’re compelled to do, and the large majority of us have no problem giving in to that compulsion. But what if someone asks you why you do it? What…
Hi everyone! Dr. Zhana here for another monthly Q&A on LELO’s Instagram. Since it’s been hot lately, we’re gonna talk about self-pleasure in the heat, sex, vacation sex… and any seasonal sex-related things. Q: What is the difference between summer sex and other seasons? Excellent first question! The greatest difference, I think, is the fun…
As an ode to sexual wellness , LELO has created a new pleasure maker that’s dedicated to the journey. Orgasms aren’t about a race to the finish line, but enjoying your best pleasure on the journey. SILA is a clitoral massager that allows you to explore new ways to reach climax. It features a variety…
In 2020, the majority of Americans had to learn to live with a new reality… cannabis being legalised across the nation in waves. At the time of writing, in July 2020, it’s completely legal in 11 states and the District of Columbia, and legal for medical use in 28 more states. It seems pretty likely…
While no two couples are the same, there are a few tips and tricks that can definitely make a difference when it comes to having a stronger relationship. And according to Gary Chapman, a doctor of philosophy, counselor, and author, the key to having a lasting relationship is to know, and make use of, the…
Pleasure and luxury go hand in hand at LELO. It’s difficult, then, trying to convince people that pleasure is itself not a luxury. It’s essential. It’s painful, then, to see the results of the Today show in July which said that 46% of American women consider themselves sexually unsatisfied. It should be no real surprise.…
Mindfulness is the state of being conscious or aware of something. It’s the ability to actively live in the present moment, being able to accept and acknowledge one’s own feelings, thoughts, and body in such a way that it induces relaxation and creates awareness without being overwhelmed. And while this therapeutic technique is self-focused, it…
A smaller hand. My pupils dilated in a shot – and there she was in the candlelight. Smiling at me – a rather similar lop-sided grin to the one that he had given me in the office. Maybe he’d borrowed it off her. Her hand stroked down my chest and, without a how-do-you-do, made…
Love is a notoriously difficult concept to pin down. What is it? Is it real? Is it measurable? How do we express it? How does it manifest itself? Why does it hurt sometimes? At LELO, we think we have a pretty good grip on what love is, and how it feels. But there have been…
The Correspondent magazine ran an interesting story about asexuality the other day. It’s interesting because it exists. It does more than simply state that asexuality exists, but goes on to talk a little about what it’s actually like to live with. This is good, because it displays progress – albeit very small and slow progress…
I hadn’t expected her to be there. He didn’t mention it. When he invited me back for dinner, I saw the expression around his mouth – his full mouth – the half smile, the glance up and down my body, resting in a very obvious way on the front of my jeans, the way he…
Living a kinky life comes with some drawbacks. To understand the mentality of those of us who engage in BDSM or any other kind of fetishism , it’s important to consider the deeply rooted stigma and stereotypes that revolve around our sex lives. There’s a longstanding attitude that sex should never be pursued only for…
It’s time to diversify our masturbation and try something new—we hear you! Now, you can listen to us. Literally. Volonte now offers a collection of our best audio erotica and audio sex stories. What’s even better? All the stories were contributed from our readers. Grab your headphones, perhaps your favorite LELO toy, and read along…