One of the hardest aspects of ending a romantic relationship or marriage is listening to others tell you what you need to do. Many people don’t know what to say or how to comfort you, or they take on the responsibility of “fixing” you and your situation. In reality, all you really want (and need)…
Who in their right mind would take part in No Nut November? We’ll tell you. What is No Nut November? No, No Nut November is not to raise awareness for nut allergies. It’s a month-long celebration without “nutting”, or ejaculating in any form of way. Not only are you not allowed to ejaculate, you must…
While bartending one evening, HE walks in. You know the type. The confident, intimidating alpha male that demands the room acknowledges his presence. His slate eyes indicate he is secretive, the way he dresses indicates discretion, but that smile, well that smile indicates he wants me, which makes me nervous. Nervous and hard with desire,…
Far too often we talk about sex as simply a physical act. A way to scratch an itch, “get off,” or release some building sexual tension. But, of course, sex can be so much more than that. In the context of a consensual partnership, sex can be a way to experience closeness and connection, a…
The last of the boxes unpacked had Max officially moved into Henry’s condo. The two sat down on the couch together, Max passing him a cold beer, tapped the neck of his bottle to Henry’s, “Cheers! To officially moving in together.” “To us,” Henry replied before taking a sip. He let the cold lager slide…
Becoming a parent can add a lot of joy, love, and excitement to your life, but it’s not without some personal costs and challenges. As parents begin to shift their time and attention away from each other and toward their children, they often find it difficult to maintain a healthy intimate life. Indeed, research has…
We’ll skip the fluff. Sex therapist Casey Tanner joined us to answer the most frequently asked questions about rabbit vibrators. Discover how they work and if they’d be a great fit for you. Q: What are they, and how do they work? Rabbit vibrators get their name from their shape, as they typically have two…
The thought of crying after sex may seem daunting, embarassing, or just plain weird to a lot of folk. But in actuality, it’s more common than you may think! In fact, it’s perfectly natural to cry after sex… for a number of reasons! But before we dive into them, let’s discuss the ins and outs…
It seemed like they were trying to save him, but Radical Zombie Saviors are tricky that way; one moment they’re saving you from an all-out attack, the next minute your asshole’s impaled. I wasn’t sure Finn wanted to be saved, still, I stayed in the safety of the alcove – in the shadows – and…
What better way to get your sexual juices flowing than by writing out your wildest fantasy? Well, that’s exactly what LELO wanted our readers to do. We hosted a gay erotica contest to showcase what’s been cooking in your minds while we’ve had so much time to ourselves, and boy, the entries did not disappoint.…
Tim kept his hands in his pockets as he sauntered down the hall. He’d worried that finding Jonathan’s office would take time. But, with all the floor-to-ceiling glass, he’d see his face before a name plaque. A few passing suits shot him odd looks, but no one stopped him. He smiled at the one woman…
The olive-toned skin glistened with a light sheen of sweat and was stretched taut over lean muscles. There was a light dusting of dark hair that covered the chest, arms and legs. Those perfectly sculpted limbs, in his opinion, quaked with anticipation. He hummed softly, the sound loud in the otherwise silent room. The body…
If someone has an orgasm during consensual sex, people generally assume that the sex must have been good. However, in a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, researchers found that consensual sex can be bad even when orgasm occurs. They called these kinds of experiences “bad orgasm experiences.” More specifically, the study…
A third of Americans have lied to a significant other about their number of sexual partners, according to new research. A study of 2,000 Americans who’ve had sex revealed that of those who’ve fibbed their number (32%), 42% were men and 23% were women. Now that we know that a whopping third of us are…
When modern sex research began after World War II, many thought that “normal” sex was limited to married heterosexual vaginal intercourse—with everything else suspect or “perverted.” But over the past 70 years, as researchers have delved even deeper into sexuality, they’ve discovered that the loving, successful and mentally healthy population actually exhibits tremendous sexual diversity.…
Think about a time when you experienced a huge rush of positive and exciting emotions, like riding a roller coaster or finally standing up for yourself in an argument. These experiences often create an intense whirlwind of feelings that make us feel powerful, strong and almost invincible. But those feelings don’t last forever… Just like…
You know when you feel extremely close to your partner? Like after sex or whilst sharing a moment that enhances your bond and makes you feel even more in love or lust? Yeah, oxytocin plays a big role in facilitating that special bond. But its role doesn’t just stop there… What is Oxytocin? Oxytocin is…
Fact: A majority of those with vulvas and vaginas prefer clitoral stimulation. In fact, a recent LELO survey on what makes us come found that 70% of women reported orgasming through some form of clitoral stimulation, whether that be clitoral-only (43%) or a combination of clitoral and other (27%). Point in case: clitoral massagers are…
Halloween is upon us once again and it’s no secret that this is one of the best holidays for getting freaky. There’s a chill in the air that’s partially due to dropping weather, the excitement of fun-sized treats and, of course, seeing the most creative or sexiest costumes that allow people to walk on the…
As a tantra teacher, the most common question I’m asked is how to practice tantra if you are single. Tantra is often associated with relationships and sexuality in the West. Yet, tantra is much more than that. It is a spiritual and mystic practice that starts with the Self. That’s why you don’t need a…
If you’re a proud vulva owner, let me get a hallelujah! For starters, they’re freaking beautiful, aren’t they? And secondly, we’re continuously learning new ways to experience pleasure with this little sweet spot. Not only that, but having a vulva is basically a superpower on its own! Which is why LELO has revolutionized the game…
In the hustle bustle of modern life, it’s easy to feel exhausted, scattered, and unable to prioritize quality loving in a relationship. That’s where Tantric sensual practices and many of the useful accessories that have come to be associated with it come in. Enter the Tantra Chair, known also as the Tantra Sex Chair, the…
Many people had traumatic experiences around their sexuality. These experiences can leave the deepest imprint into the unconscious. When it is too much to process, we often suppress emotions and sensations. Practicing tantric techniques are effective in healing sexual trauma. Unresolved trauma seeks expression through physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels. This article introduces 5…
It’s not a particularly nice phrase, ‘erectile dysfunction’. And it’s not a particularly nice thing to experience, the struggle to maintain an erection during sexual activity. But hey, look, it’s going to happen to all of us at some point: one in 10 men under 40 experience some form of it, and that number goes…
If you’ve read one of my previous articles, you’ll know that a kink and a fetish are two different things . And today, we’ll be zoning in on the term: kink. First off… What Does ‘Kink’ Mean? A kink is something that someone finds arousing but that’s generally not considered mainstream sexual. It’s hard to…
The more you use a vibrator and the stronger, does it eventually desensitize you? Do vibrators desensitize the clit? If I stimulate my clit with my toy too much can it cause any damage? Can a sex toy harm your private parts (ex. intense hard vibration on [the] clitoris)? Can you get addicted to us[ing]…
The clitoris has been misunderstood for a long time. Forever, really. Recently, a lot of research has emerged that has helped to explain the structure, function, and evolution of the clitoris, but you’d be surprised how even authoritative voices on the subject can still get it wrong, or be working to outdated information. We’ve come…
There are hundreds of articles out there for having better sex. We’ve written plenty of our own. After all, at LELO, we tend to pride quality over quantity. But what if, just this once, it was quantity that was the issue, and not quality? What if the sex you’re having is fine, when it happens,…
An orgasm, when you boil it down, is nothing more than a few seconds of pelvic contractions followed by the delivery of some pleasure-triggering hormones and chemicals. It should be boring, like stubbing your toe or sneezing, but it isn’t. It’s the most riveting experience a human can have, and we spend a large chunk…
There’s a lot that’s strange and confusing about sex. When you boil human sexuality down and examine its constituent parts, none of it makes any sense and it’s a miracle any of us manage to do it at all. That’s because we’re complex psychological animals who have to, for the first time in known history,…
Every single relationship is unique – that’s what makes love so fantastic. Power dynamics, our little shared quirks, the way we approach our love – no two couples are identical when we slice apart how they function. Some love a balance in power, others like when the scales tip in one direction or the other…
Apparently, her best friend, Ruth, found churches sexually arousing. For Jules herself, it was hotels. More specifically, hotels whilst staying away on business. Her current husband (her second, as it happens), had started as an affair. They had worked for the same law practice and spent many nights away on business. It was only a…
PROS: Delivers otherworldly G-spot orgasms CONS: Not suitable for living with parents What makes it unique: Wave technology offers direct combination stimulation of clitoris and G-spot Details below! PROS This goes down in personal history for top 3 orgasms of all time. I was unfamiliar with the wave (pinching) technology of this toy and discovered…
Hey all! It’s Dr. Zhana and I’m back to answer all your questions about *drumroll please*… orgasms ! Your questions were so good and so different from the questions I usually get, so I’m really excited about this. Most of your questions were actually really specific and physiological that I had to recruit two people…
It was high summer, and I was on one of my paid dates – with a woman you understand. She had hired me as a walker through my usual agency. If she had had any idea of my proclivities she didn’t mention that she knew. She was German, and younger than my normal clients ,…
There was a different world beyond the heavy velvet curtains. A long, high-ceilinged empty corridor. The age of the building was more obvious – heavy flagstones on the floor, dimpled from four hundred years of heavy riding boots – and a musty smell of leather and a faint taste of metal in my mouth and,…
At almost every conceivable cultural touchpoint, women are seen through a straight, white, male prism. Every influential piece of media is guided by a male perspective, even famously empowering ones. This isn’t even a controversial view; we all know it. Sex & The City was adapted from the books by a man. 50 Shades is…
The impact of anxiety on sexuality, and vice versa, is by far the most prevalent concern amongst my clients. Anxiety about sex is an experience that pervades individuals and relationships regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, or body type. Ironically, the relationship between stress and sexuality is a catch-22; research shows anxiety often interferes with…
Our first tantric sex position of this series is ‘The Karma Tidal Wave’. It’s one of the oldest and most authentic tantra sex techniques ever recorded and there’s a reason for that. This position can offer couples the most intense pleasure possible, since the female’s clitoris is stimulated by the top of the male pelvis…
The second tantric sex position I would like to talk about is ‘The Karma Tangle’. This position ensures deep penetration and offers a face to face intimacy that allows you to kiss and see eachother as you both climax intensely. Because you are so close, this position is perfect for intimate moments by kissing the…
Over the years of sexual counselling, I have helped many people suffering from IBD (inflammatory bowel disease) such as Crohn’s and Ulcerative Colitis to improve not only their sex lives, but also their general wellbeing through tantra. I’ve found that through tantra, especially through the breathing and relaxing yoga elements in the practice, my clients…
Tantric sex is probably the most well known and media covered aspects of Tantra today. Even though it is only a very small part of what Tantra offers as a methodology, the hot topic of sex has certainly elevated it to the most talked about aspect of Tantra. In this guide, I will explain exactly…
For anyone who loves the idea of exciting sexual experiences but is a little awkward when it comes to doing it IRL (*raises hand*), BDSM and roleplay fantasy sex can feel intimidating. What if you have no ideas? What if you feel… well, stupid? What if your partner laughs at you? Sidenote: if they do,…
Although many of us have heard of the yoni—the ancient Sanskrit term for vagina, far fewer have heard of the lingam, which translates to “wand of light” and refers to the penis. While there is nothing wrong with giving your man an incredible hand job, lingam massage holds other meaning: it’s about increasing intimacy without…
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be tied up and ravished? Do blindfolds give you a thrill? How about the thought of being spanked? If so, fear not. Like millions of people, you might be interested, or have already dabbled in the incredible art of BDSM. All around the world, millions…
Psst! You! Yes, you! Want to get in on a little secret? We thought so! Naturally, us human beings are all a little curious about knowing things that we shouldn’t. And when we have a dirty little secret that we wouldn’t dare share, we often bask in the pleasure with a smug look on our…
Masturbation is weird. There are a million reasons we do it, and then we do it for no reason at the same time. It’s just something we’re compelled to do, and the large majority of us have no problem giving in to that compulsion. But what if someone asks you why you do it? What…
Hi everyone! Dr. Zhana here for another monthly Q&A on LELO’s Instagram. Since it’s been hot lately, we’re gonna talk about self-pleasure in the heat, sex, vacation sex… and any seasonal sex-related things. Q: What is the difference between summer sex and other seasons? Excellent first question! The greatest difference, I think, is the fun…
As an ode to sexual wellness , LELO has created a new pleasure maker that’s dedicated to the journey. Orgasms aren’t about a race to the finish line, but enjoying your best pleasure on the journey. SILA is a clitoral massager that allows you to explore new ways to reach climax. It features a variety…
In 2020, the majority of Americans had to learn to live with a new reality… cannabis being legalised across the nation in waves. At the time of writing, in July 2020, it’s completely legal in 11 states and the District of Columbia, and legal for medical use in 28 more states. It seems pretty likely…