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The Ultimate Guide to Giving a Mindblowing Lingam Massage

If you’re looking for a way to surprise your partner, lingam massage might be a great option. It’s a practice that’s created with all the penis owners in mind. It guarantees a good time and a great way to connect with your partner.  What Is Lingam Massage? Lingam massage is one of the tantric sex…

Monogamous Relationships & Their Benefits

While polygamy is rife in many societies, monogamy still seems like the most mainstream way in which to have a relationship.  We’re often bombarded with images, influences, and expectations to get married, have that white picket fence, three children, and a dog, then live happily ever after.  But because we’re more open-minded today in exploring…

Ask a Therapist: Desire Discrepancy Q&A with Casey Tanner

What are things you can do to increase sexual desire with a partner To begin, it’s helpful to understand what kind of desire you and your partner have. There are at least two kinds of desire that we know of: spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Those with spontaneous desire might have the experience of feeling…

Beginners & Experienced Players: 6 Fun Sex Toys for Couples

We’re lucky enough to live in a time where sex toys are rife! Every day, sex toy companies are working hard with designers, sexual wellness experts, and other professionals to outbeat themselves and their competition, only to bring you even more pleasure! Well, not just you… you and your partner! You see, while there are…

Friends First? Exploring Demiromantic Relationships

You may or may not have heard of the term ‘demisexual’. For reference, demisexual is when a person only experiences sexual attraction to another when they have a close emotional bond with them. This bond need not be romantic in nature however—it could even be a platonic friendship. Regardless, demisexuality isn’t actually about being sexually…

How To Talk Dirty During Sex Even if You’re Shy

Sex columnist Dan Savage explained the art of talking dirty very simply: “Dirty talk for beginners: Tell ’em what you’re going to do, tell ’em what you’re doing, tell ’em what you did.” This formula sounds perfect, but what if you’re shy and struggle with articulating your thoughts?  Not all people are comfortable with voicing…

Ask Dr. Zhana: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Relationships (DADT)

For our September Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about DADT: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell types of relationships.  What’s DADT? Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is a type of relationship where the partners agree that they’re going to have other partners, but that they’re not going to talk about it. They don’t want to know…

LELO Podcast: Love Revolution During the Pandemic

The second episode of our pleasure podcasts takes around the globe to discuss the effects of the ongoing pandemic of human relationships. How has the prolonged time spent together influenced couples? How has the dating scene changed? Or how to deal with the psychological impacts of lockdown? These and many more questions form the basis…

Sex After Kids: How To Rekindle the Flame in the Bedroom After Kids

Many couples suffer from having less sex after having kids. One of the latest Netflix shows, Sex/life, explores the life of a woman who had lost part of herself after getting married and having children and whose husband doesn’t seem to see her as a sexual being anymore.  Our heroine, Billie, used to lead a…

Compersion: The #1 Way to Succeed in Polyamory

Polyamory has as many perks as a garden’s got roses, and smells just as sweet. All that community, camaraderie, and abundant communication, plus a whole spate of sweet humans in your life who love you – and not to mention that ever-evolving sex life. Is there anything better? Looking at it from the outside, opening…

Aftercare for Vanilla Sex: Why It’s Important and How To Do It Right

Anyone who had dabbled in some BDSM play knows the term “aftercare” well. It’s always repeated over and over again whenever you’re looking for tips on how to start with BDSM. Somehow, people often think that aftercare after vanilla sex, when no whips and chains were involved, is not needed. Like, if you’re having sex…

The Science Behind Infidelity and Why People Cheat

Almost half of couples have dealt with or experienced infidelity in marriage. In the US, infidelity is the second leading cause of many divorces.  What’s also interesting is that the majority of people, even those who cheat on their significant others, tend to believe that infidelity is wrong. Yet people don’t seem to be having…

Five Different Love Languages, Five Different Ways To Please Your Partner

When Dr. Gary Chapman wrote his book The Five Love Languages over 30 years ago, he probably didn’t think it will become an essential part of every couple’s life.  Truly, learning your and your partner’s love languages is the best way to find common ground and communicate your needs within the relationship.  Gary Chapman described…

Sexual Compatibility: It’s Not About Instant Attraction

Sexual compatibility is one of the most important aspects of every relationship. Whenever we meet a new partner, we’re always eager to find out whether we’re compatible in the sheets.  We’re looking for that spark, that instant attraction to another person, where you can’t seem to get enough of each other and where you don’t…

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How To Love Unconditionally: A Global Love Day Lesson

Unconditional love is hard to explain. Applying it to ourselves is sometimes even more difficult. That’s why this Global Love Day is inspired by the phrase “Love begins with me.” Our self-love is often buried beneath layers of trauma, guilt and pain, which makes it easy to overlook the fact that love is always present.…

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How To Get a Hard-On After 65

This article was written by Dr. Justin Lehmiller. Penises don’t always work the way we want them to. Over the course of a man’s life, he will occasionally experience erections at inconvenient or undesirable times, and he will occasionally be unable to get an erection when he wants one.  This is all perfectly normal.  However,…

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What Does it Mean to be Panromantic

LGBT. LGBTQ. LGBTQI. LGBTQIA+. As an out and proud member of the queer community, I relish each letter our little web of support brings to the table. Under such a big, welcoming archway of possibility, there are few things more beautiful than queers and our ability to meet one another exactly where we’re at. Most…

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How To Compliment a Girl Through Text in 4 Different Ways

Is your partner’s love language verbal affirmation? If so, you should definitely take advantage of World Compliment Day to show them some love. Words are one of the most powerful tools of communication and making your crush, girlfriend, wife, or life partner feel butterflies can start with a simple text.  What is World Compliment Day…

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How To Use Clit Sucker SILA with Your Partner

Below is your guide for incorporating sex toys, and clit suckers in particular, into partnered sex. Check out our product recommendations, sex positions, and some interesting stats! Having sex with toys Introducing sex toys into a relationship can be intimidating, especially towards male partners who can feel threatened by the idea. The truth is that…

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Using Sex Toys During Partnered Sex—Q&A with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner

Introducing anything new into the bedroom (or wherever you’re getting it on) can be nerve-racking as it is, especially when it comes to the stigmas so closely tied to sex toys. We’re here to clear the air and offer some tips for communicating new desires with a partner who may not recognize the potential to…

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Can You be Addicted to Love?

Romantic love has often been considered a type of addiction or even sickness. There is no doubt that love involves constant thinking about, and activities with, one’s beloved. But is such persistent preoccupation with one person always detrimental? Should it be regarded as a type of addiction, or might it actually be beneficial to the…

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Did You Know? Pillow Talk Promotes Sexual and Relationship Satisfaction

For some people, sex and intimacy is a way in which to get rid of any dating jitters or awkwardness. And while it may seem kind of like putting the cart before the horse, the act of sex and engaging in pillow talk could actually create a meaningful emotional bond between two people.  This is…

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Four Ways to Maintain a Healthy Sex Life as a Parent

Becoming a parent can add a lot of joy, love, and excitement to your life, but it’s not without some personal costs and challenges. As parents begin to shift their time and attention away from each other and toward their children, they often find it difficult to maintain a healthy intimate life. Indeed, research has…

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Is a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) Right for You?

Every single relationship is unique – that’s what makes love so fantastic. Power dynamics, our little shared quirks, the way we approach our love – no two couples are identical when we slice apart how they function. Some love a balance in power, others like when the scales tip in one direction or the other…

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Strengthen Your Relationship with These 5 Love Languages

While no two couples are the same, there are a few tips and tricks that can definitely make a difference when it comes to having a stronger relationship.  And according to Gary Chapman, a doctor of philosophy, counselor, and author, the key to having a lasting relationship is to know, and make use of, the…

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Using Mindfulness to Strengthen Your Relationship

Mindfulness is the state of being conscious or aware of something. It’s the ability to actively live in the present moment, being able to accept and acknowledge one’s own feelings, thoughts, and body in such a way that it induces relaxation and creates awareness without being overwhelmed.  And while this therapeutic technique is self-focused, it…

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8 Sex-Themed Anniversary Ideas for Raunchy Couples

We’re not saying that these eight sex-themed ideas aren’t ideal for any day! But, if you and your partner or your friends with benefits are coming up on an anniversary of some sorts, these raunchy activities are not only unique and fun, but also super sexy.  From staycations and seemingly innocent games turned dirty, to…

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Does my Low Sex Drive Mean Something’s Wrong With My Relationship?

Many of us worry about the way our sexual desire fades as a relationship progresses. We’re usually aware of the honeymoon effect, and we expect that the beginning of a new relationship will be sexier and more passionate than the later stages, but regardless, we still wonder if the dip in sex drive is normal.…

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Study Reveals that Farmers Have the Most Sex

The LELO UK office has conducted new research to find out with professions across the UK are having the most sex. The results? Farmers top the list of professions having the most sex in comparison to doctors, architects and hairdressers. Professions that have the most sex ranked in order: Farmers Architect Hairdresser Advertising Lawyer &…

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How to Soothe a Jealous Partner (And Is It Your Job?)

Jealousy is the common cold of relationships. Universally dreaded, it’s able to strike anyone at any time—usually unexpectedly, under the least convenient circumstances. And, much like the common cold, while anecdotal remedies abound, no single cure seems to work exactly as expected, every time.  Worst of all, no type of person or partnership is immune…

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The Most Common Issues Faced by Gay Couples – Guest Post by Michael Moran

As an openly gay therapist who specializes at the intersection of couples and sex therapy,  a large number of the clients I see are also gay. And one of the dynamics I often bump up against with these clients in particular is the gap between sexual and relational compatibility . Meaning that while a person…

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The Ethics of Masturbating In A Relationship

Is masturbation cheating? It’s one of those little questions that shouldn’t matter, and it doesn’t, until it really does. Like, ‘do we have enough oxygen?’ or ‘what happens if you cross a cat with a T-Rex?’ Despite a growing amount of flexibility in our relationships, the majority of our relationships are largely monogamous , and…

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