Have you ever had one of those moments during sex in which you feel disconnected? When your mind wanders, and you find yourself observing the spectacle objectively? Sometimes it’s the feeling of having a really rational thought that seems out of place during sex. For example, you might be having sex, and suddenly find yourself…
Did you take part in our Orgasm Day 2017 survey ? We had over 2,200 respondents from 21 different countries share their most intimate secrets with us, and the results were surprising, even by our slightly jaded standards. Here’s a selection of the findings about our global orgasmic habits, just in time for World Orgasm Day on July 31st!…
*This contest is open to everyone, however, the submissions must be gay male themed. After we wrapped up our Virtual Pride Month celebrations and our “Dear Younger Queer Self ” contest, we realized that our gay male erotica category should use some beefing up to better represent our diversity. That’s where you beefcakes come in!…
For those who crave a full-body orgasm experience, SORAYA Wave was engineered to combine the strong vibrations of the original SORAYA with the wave technology that pinpoints your internal pleasure. The versatility of rabbit vibrators will keep you exploring your best sexual wellness. If you’re someone who knows you like stimulation on the place commonly…
You may believe that all orgasms are created equally. And in a perfect world, individuals of all genders and sexual orientations would be going around receiving orgasms on the regular. Unfortunately, this isn’t quite the reality. It appears as though, when it comes to women, lesbians are having way more fun than straights. Boo for…
Various reasons can make you feel anxious about your sexual performance but do not despair, these five simple hacks can help you quickly boost your lovemaking performance. 1. Be careful what you eat prior to sex Make sure to carefully monitor your food intake before sex because it can seriously damage your performance. On top…
The LELO UK office has conducted new research to find out with professions across the UK are having the most sex. The results? Farmers top the list of professions having the most sex in comparison to doctors, architects and hairdressers. Professions that have the most sex ranked in order: Farmers Architect Hairdresser Advertising Lawyer &…
Historically, All or Nothing Day (July 26) is a day dedicated to facing our fears, whether that be jumping out of a plane, kissing a girl you’ve liked for a long time or saying goodbye to the nightlight. But in true LELO fashion, we encourage you to use this holiday as an opportunity to ask…
Dirty boys and girls, we’ll always encourage you to use your toys for better sexual wellness, but more importantly, we’ll always encourage you to keep them clean! We don’t need to get into the nitty gritty of lingering bacteria and the not-so-sexy effects it can have on your genitals, so we’ll sum it up and…
Threesomes not only mix up the bedroom dynamic, they also open a whole new world of fun when it comes to finding positions that stimulate all partners simultaneously. Check out these sex positions specifically for female-female-male threesomes that can triple your pleasure ! The Watch & Learn How: The guy enters one of the women…
For many societies, countries, and cultures, a kiss entails locking lips either as a sign of love or friendship, or as a means to induce passion and arousal . So for a lot of us, this act of love, friendship, or passion, is seemingly normal. But why do so many people kiss… like they do?…
PSA: You’re never too old to figure out who you are. Whether you’re having doubts about your career choice, your current partner, or your sexual orientation, you have the power to change your circumstances and opinions. And quite honestly, I totally recommend that you do work on something that’s holding you back from living your…
This is a very hard time; our emotional health and physical well-being are being challenged in pandemic life. We are trying to figure out how to be safe, care for our children and for many, assure even basic survival needs are met like income to pay for food and shelter. Marriage and long term relationships…
The different ways in which a P can enter a V is seemingly endless. Yet millions of people worldwide consider missionary or doggy style to be their go-to move. That’s all good and well if it gets you off every single time, but aren’t you intrigued about other sex positions? Ones that arguably bring on…
Meditation is not woo-woo ultra-spiritual stuff. It’s simply the ability to focus your attention, your concentration, and your mind on whatever the chosen meditation object is. That’s all. And, it goes without saying, that object can be sex. Sexual meditation is a little different from mindfulness, which is very similar. Mindfulness is the use of…
LELO wouldn’t be able to make great sex toys if it weren’t for the information and feedback from our customers’ pleasure, which is why we recently launched an Orgasm Quiz so we could better understand what gets you off. We’re dedicating National Orgasm Day to bridging the orgasm gap , and the first step to…
We often joke that 90% of people masturbate and 10% are liars. But how true is that? Even in LELO’s own Global Sex Survey , the rate at which people claim to masturbate is often over 90%, or close to 100%. But that’s not really a fair assessment, since the people responding to our sex…
Afterglow. It’s that warm, contented feeling most of us experience after sex as we lie panting, and recovering our breath. It’s generally one of the best features of sex, promoting intimacy and strengthening romantic bonds. But not for everyone. For some, even after great sex, the post-sex glow is tainted with feelings of negativity, self-doubt…
Dearest Krisi, Images of Madonna filled your mind as you jerked it in high school, but you sincerely had no idea that you were a lesbian. Lesbian—it couldn’t possibly refer to you. Lesbian conjured images of unattractive women that looked nothing like me. Growing up in the 1980s, you assumed you were straight. You dated…
Jealousy is the common cold of relationships. Universally dreaded, it’s able to strike anyone at any time—usually unexpectedly, under the least convenient circumstances. And, much like the common cold, while anecdotal remedies abound, no single cure seems to work exactly as expected, every time. Worst of all, no type of person or partnership is immune…
We matched online during the lockdown, and since then we’ve had countless video calls, sending each other photos of our dinner, watching films together, virtually. Since we couldn’t progress things further in person, we’d been sharing one or two fantasies with each other, a late night steamy rendezvous with seductive pictures and dirty words. We…
Surrendering to the call of our innermost desires is the collective pulse of our humanity. Those moments when we lose ourselves in time with our partner’s tempo transports us beyond ourselves. But when penetration hurts, the transcendent potential of sex eludes you. In those moments, the body is a betrayal. Everyone else seems to lap…
While society dictates that we need to wear clothing when in public, there are a few tantalizing exceptions to that rule. And while it can be thrilling to buy a stylish, smart, or sexy outfit that looks absolutely fantastic on, sometimes all we need to do is wander around naked. Don’t fancy getting tan lines?…
We stand at the bar for 10 minutes with his hand holding my elbow as if I might run away if he lets go. We rehearse the obligatory small talk. “It’s been so long,” “god, we’re old (29 has never seen old),” “what do you do for work?” “surprise, surprise, like you were ever going…
According to the immortal bard Billy S., alcohol provokes the desire, but takes away the performance. Any guy reading this knows precisely what Shakespeare’s talking about – because we’ve all been there. Imbibing too much booze truly amps up your sexual desires, but when the time comes to do the deed, your overindulgence can leave…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Firstly, let me assure you that you will be okay. You have a bumpy journey ahead, but you will reach a place of peace and contentment and pride. So, hang on in there. I want you to know that there is no shame in desire. Whether that is desire for the…
Sex is hard to qualify. What makes it good? And what makes great sex better than good sex? How do we measure it? Is it the overall amount of pleasure? Or the level of physical excitement? Or is it the strength of the emotional connection? How about the intensity of the orgasm? Or the general…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Oh my darling, darling stubborn girl! Thank you for standing up for yourself even when you had doubts. For standing up for how you felt and for refusing to feel shame about it. Yes. Bisexual is absolutely a real thing. Yes. You are attracted THAT way to other girls and to…
Dear Younger Queer Self, I am sorry. You were but a child, praying to be seen, and yet you had to hide behind a mask of “normalcy”, a poorly painted smile on the outside, rough cuts around the eyes, thorns on the inside. I am sorry I convinced you it was dangerous to tell your…
Science is important. Sex is important. We gathered the most recent compilation of research on the compelling and magical topic of… orgasms. Orgasm Equality: Scientific Findings and Societal Implications Current Sexual Health Reports, January 2020 Findings Less than 20% of females can orgasm from vaginal penetration alone Factors that contribute to the orgasm gap include…
Hey girl. First off, slow the fuck down on the partying! You don’t need to do all your living before you hit 20! Also, I know about the cigarettes. Give them up while you still can! You’ll thank me later. Now let’s talk about you. We both know you’re not one to indulge in sentimentality.…
It’s no secret that when couples have been together for a certain amount of time , the sexual energy changes. And that’s not to say that amazing sex isn’t possible. In fact, the more emotionally invested you are, the better the sex could be. At the same time however, you may not be hopping to…
Dear Younger Queer Self, The world has lied to you all these years. They’ve coiled up the truth and twisted it into a mess of lies that makes it near impossible to find the start of it all. Let alone the truth. It’s a lie built on fear and misunderstanding. Much like many things in…
Experience pain during sex regularly can be a major obstacle to the happy development of a relationship. The anxiety of chronic pain can trigger avoidance behaviour, leading us to dodge activity that might lead to sex, like kissing, touching, or intimacy in general. Even going to bed at the same time can fall away due…
You do not have to choose a side; this is not a game of badminton, even though hiding who you are feels like a sport right now. You have been stressed out lately and feeling like an outsider. Here’s a surprise, there are more people like you than you could ever imagine. With that being…
If you follow this blog, you likely have already seen the wonderful pieces on the vagina vs. the vulva and/or on the clitoris . But I want to talk more about female genital anatomy, or the whole hooha in the all-together – clitoris, vulva, vagina, and linked uterus -, and about how that anatomy corresponds…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Your queerness will not look like it does on television shows. A group of giggly and charismatic celebrities are not about to arrive at your door and turn you into the person you long to be. You have to be your own Antoni. You have to cook yourself a nourishing meal.…
You know that feeling when you get fanny flutters and there’s just no getting past it until you rub one out? Yeah, that’s definitely not just a ‘single’ thing. Women, regardless of sexual orientation and relationship status , are masturbating . If they say they’re not, they’re either lying or they just haven’t discovered the…
Dear Younger Queer Self, The ideals of what you considered an inconsequential youth will not be lost on this world. You will be celebrated for the beautiful and intelligent woman that you have always strived to be. You will not have to sacrifice your femininity and frailty or dignity and integrity to be accepted and…
It had been a warm Summer night when we first met (isn’t it always?!). I remember the skin on my nose feeling tight from the day’s sun. My freckles were out in force. I had one of those soft grins going on that only comes with a day of drinking beers from the bottle in…
There’s no how-to guide, no roadmap, no detailed manual. Everyone’s journey through discovering their sexuality looks a little bit different, but sharing our knowledge can help those who are starting their journey, especially when it comes to coming out (to themselves and their loved ones). To commemorate the power of community despite not being able…
As difficult as it may seem, you must love yourself and believe in your heart of hearts that there will be many others who love you, too. Being authentic to yourself will bring joy into your life. There will always be times when you feel like you want to give-up or give-in. When that happens,…
Your mind and body will tell you exactly what they need. All you have to do is listen. This Orgasm Month, LELO is taking a holistic approach to orgasming in order to fight the dreaded Orgasm Gap . It’s about time we start thinking about our sexual wellness as part of our overall health and…
I shouldn’t be here. To tell the truth, I don’t know how I got here. I always found it an unnerving thing – to arrive at a destination without witnessing the journey. Tonight is different though. Anxiety fizzes beneath the surface but it isn’t the same kind. There is no heavy ball in my stomach.…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Queer looks different for everyone. Just because you don’t look a certain way, or act a certain way, doesn’t mean you’re any less queer than you feel. It’s difficult not to compare yourself to others, especially at such a raw young age, but I urge you to try your best to…
Sex is complicated. I often wonder if we knew that there were consequences up front, would we ever even bother with it at all? Some consequences are obvious: pregnancy, STIs, that kind of thing. But there’s a larger group of less commonly discussed after-effects that can undermine our sexual wellness, and because we don’t discuss…
Oh Dear, You have done it again. You have went against the grain, against the narrative. You are fifteen and can’t stop wondering why you have to like a boy. Unless you want to be called a “dyke”- although you do go through your fair share of masc haircuts/styles LOL. Thank you high school for…
Ah the Smithsonian, that age-old institution of science and reason. With an untouchable reputation for knowledge on all things natural, it’s only to be expected that within the pages of its publications you can discover anything you need to know about the natural world. As it happens, what we want to know today, is this:…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Dear little forest fae, dear big heart, dear chaos demon riddled with anxiety like the bark of a tree is riddled with insects, You know already, at 3, when you are tumbling through the woods and rivers like a little bear cub that your body is not what they say it…
Someone once told me that, after a breakup, your heart should only hurt for half the amount of time the relationship lasted. So, a two-year relationship would equal a year of mourning, and a ten-year relationship will hurt for five years. Bullshit. I had relationships which lasted months but hurt for years. There’s a girl…