When modern sex research began after World War II, many thought that “normal” sex was limited to married heterosexual vaginal intercourse—with everything else suspect or “perverted.” But over the past 70 years, as researchers have delved even deeper into sexuality, they’ve discovered that the loving, successful and mentally healthy population actually exhibits tremendous sexual diversity.…
Think about a time when you experienced a huge rush of positive and exciting emotions, like riding a roller coaster or finally standing up for yourself in an argument. These experiences often create an intense whirlwind of feelings that make us feel powerful, strong and almost invincible. But those feelings don’t last forever… Just like…
You know when you feel extremely close to your partner? Like after sex or whilst sharing a moment that enhances your bond and makes you feel even more in love or lust? Yeah, oxytocin plays a big role in facilitating that special bond. But its role doesn’t just stop there… What is Oxytocin? Oxytocin is…
Fact: A majority of those with vulvas and vaginas prefer clitoral stimulation. In fact, a recent LELO survey on what makes us come found that 70% of women reported orgasming through some form of clitoral stimulation, whether that be clitoral-only (43%) or a combination of clitoral and other (27%). Point in case: clitoral massagers are…
Halloween is upon us once again and it’s no secret that this is one of the best holidays for getting freaky. There’s a chill in the air that’s partially due to dropping weather, the excitement of fun-sized treats and, of course, seeing the most creative or sexiest costumes that allow people to walk on the…
As a tantra teacher, the most common question I’m asked is how to practice tantra if you are single. Tantra is often associated with relationships and sexuality in the West. Yet, tantra is much more than that. It is a spiritual and mystic practice that starts with the Self. That’s why you don’t need a…
If you’re a proud vulva owner, let me get a hallelujah! For starters, they’re freaking beautiful, aren’t they? And secondly, we’re continuously learning new ways to experience pleasure with this little sweet spot. Not only that, but having a vulva is basically a superpower on its own! Which is why LELO has revolutionized the game…
In the hustle bustle of modern life, it’s easy to feel exhausted, scattered, and unable to prioritize quality loving in a relationship. That’s where Tantric sensual practices and many of the useful accessories that have come to be associated with it come in. Enter the Tantra Chair, known also as the Tantra Sex Chair, the…
Many people had traumatic experiences around their sexuality. These experiences can leave the deepest imprint into the unconscious. When it is too much to process, we often suppress emotions and sensations. Practicing tantric techniques are effective in healing sexual trauma. Unresolved trauma seeks expression through physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels. This article introduces 5…
It’s not a particularly nice phrase, ‘erectile dysfunction’. And it’s not a particularly nice thing to experience, the struggle to maintain an erection during sexual activity. But hey, look, it’s going to happen to all of us at some point: one in 10 men under 40 experience some form of it, and that number goes…
If you’ve read one of my previous articles, you’ll know that a kink and a fetish are two different things . And today, we’ll be zoning in on the term: kink. First off… What Does ‘Kink’ Mean? A kink is something that someone finds arousing but that’s generally not considered mainstream sexual. It’s hard to…
The more you use a vibrator and the stronger, does it eventually desensitize you? Do vibrators desensitize the clit? If I stimulate my clit with my toy too much can it cause any damage? Can a sex toy harm your private parts (ex. intense hard vibration on [the] clitoris)? Can you get addicted to us[ing]…
The clitoris has been misunderstood for a long time. Forever, really. Recently, a lot of research has emerged that has helped to explain the structure, function, and evolution of the clitoris, but you’d be surprised how even authoritative voices on the subject can still get it wrong, or be working to outdated information. We’ve come…
There are hundreds of articles out there for having better sex. We’ve written plenty of our own. After all, at LELO, we tend to pride quality over quantity. But what if, just this once, it was quantity that was the issue, and not quality? What if the sex you’re having is fine, when it happens,…
An orgasm, when you boil it down, is nothing more than a few seconds of pelvic contractions followed by the delivery of some pleasure-triggering hormones and chemicals. It should be boring, like stubbing your toe or sneezing, but it isn’t. It’s the most riveting experience a human can have, and we spend a large chunk…
There’s a lot that’s strange and confusing about sex. When you boil human sexuality down and examine its constituent parts, none of it makes any sense and it’s a miracle any of us manage to do it at all. That’s because we’re complex psychological animals who have to, for the first time in known history,…
Every single relationship is unique – that’s what makes love so fantastic. Power dynamics, our little shared quirks, the way we approach our love – no two couples are identical when we slice apart how they function. Some love a balance in power, others like when the scales tip in one direction or the other…
Apparently, her best friend, Ruth, found churches sexually arousing. For Jules herself, it was hotels. More specifically, hotels whilst staying away on business. Her current husband (her second, as it happens), had started as an affair. They had worked for the same law practice and spent many nights away on business. It was only a…
PROS: Delivers otherworldly G-spot orgasms CONS: Not suitable for living with parents What makes it unique: Wave technology offers direct combination stimulation of clitoris and G-spot Details below! PROS This goes down in personal history for top 3 orgasms of all time. I was unfamiliar with the wave (pinching) technology of this toy and discovered…
Hey all! It’s Dr. Zhana and I’m back to answer all your questions about *drumroll please*… orgasms ! Your questions were so good and so different from the questions I usually get, so I’m really excited about this. Most of your questions were actually really specific and physiological that I had to recruit two people…
It was high summer, and I was on one of my paid dates – with a woman you understand. She had hired me as a walker through my usual agency. If she had had any idea of my proclivities she didn’t mention that she knew. She was German, and younger than my normal clients ,…
There was a different world beyond the heavy velvet curtains. A long, high-ceilinged empty corridor. The age of the building was more obvious – heavy flagstones on the floor, dimpled from four hundred years of heavy riding boots – and a musty smell of leather and a faint taste of metal in my mouth and,…
At almost every conceivable cultural touchpoint, women are seen through a straight, white, male prism. Every influential piece of media is guided by a male perspective, even famously empowering ones. This isn’t even a controversial view; we all know it. Sex & The City was adapted from the books by a man. 50 Shades is…
The impact of anxiety on sexuality, and vice versa, is by far the most prevalent concern amongst my clients. Anxiety about sex is an experience that pervades individuals and relationships regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, or body type. Ironically, the relationship between stress and sexuality is a catch-22; research shows anxiety often interferes with…
Our first tantric sex position of this series is ‘The Karma Tidal Wave’. It’s one of the oldest and most authentic tantra sex techniques ever recorded and there’s a reason for that. This position can offer couples the most intense pleasure possible, since the female’s clitoris is stimulated by the top of the male pelvis…
The second tantric sex position I would like to talk about is ‘The Karma Tangle’. This position ensures deep penetration and offers a face to face intimacy that allows you to kiss and see eachother as you both climax intensely. Because you are so close, this position is perfect for intimate moments by kissing the…
Over the years of sexual counselling, I have helped many people suffering from IBD (inflammatory bowel disease) such as Crohn’s and Ulcerative Colitis to improve not only their sex lives, but also their general wellbeing through tantra. I’ve found that through tantra, especially through the breathing and relaxing yoga elements in the practice, my clients…
Tantric sex is probably the most well known and media covered aspects of Tantra today. Even though it is only a very small part of what Tantra offers as a methodology, the hot topic of sex has certainly elevated it to the most talked about aspect of Tantra. In this guide, I will explain exactly…
For anyone who loves the idea of exciting sexual experiences but is a little awkward when it comes to doing it IRL (*raises hand*), BDSM and roleplay fantasy sex can feel intimidating. What if you have no ideas? What if you feel… well, stupid? What if your partner laughs at you? Sidenote: if they do,…
Although many of us have heard of the yoni—the ancient Sanskrit term for vagina, far fewer have heard of the lingam, which translates to “wand of light” and refers to the penis. While there is nothing wrong with giving your man an incredible hand job, lingam massage holds other meaning: it’s about increasing intimacy without…
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be tied up and ravished? Do blindfolds give you a thrill? How about the thought of being spanked? If so, fear not. Like millions of people, you might be interested, or have already dabbled in the incredible art of BDSM. All around the world, millions…
Psst! You! Yes, you! Want to get in on a little secret? We thought so! Naturally, us human beings are all a little curious about knowing things that we shouldn’t. And when we have a dirty little secret that we wouldn’t dare share, we often bask in the pleasure with a smug look on our…
Masturbation is weird. There are a million reasons we do it, and then we do it for no reason at the same time. It’s just something we’re compelled to do, and the large majority of us have no problem giving in to that compulsion. But what if someone asks you why you do it? What…
Hi everyone! Dr. Zhana here for another monthly Q&A on LELO’s Instagram. Since it’s been hot lately, we’re gonna talk about self-pleasure in the heat, sex, vacation sex… and any seasonal sex-related things. Q: What is the difference between summer sex and other seasons? Excellent first question! The greatest difference, I think, is the fun…
As an ode to sexual wellness , LELO has created a new pleasure maker that’s dedicated to the journey. Orgasms aren’t about a race to the finish line, but enjoying your best pleasure on the journey. SILA is a clitoral massager that allows you to explore new ways to reach climax. It features a variety…
In 2020, the majority of Americans had to learn to live with a new reality… cannabis being legalised across the nation in waves. At the time of writing, in July 2020, it’s completely legal in 11 states and the District of Columbia, and legal for medical use in 28 more states. It seems pretty likely…
While no two couples are the same, there are a few tips and tricks that can definitely make a difference when it comes to having a stronger relationship. And according to Gary Chapman, a doctor of philosophy, counselor, and author, the key to having a lasting relationship is to know, and make use of, the…
Pleasure and luxury go hand in hand at LELO. It’s difficult, then, trying to convince people that pleasure is itself not a luxury. It’s essential. It’s painful, then, to see the results of the Today show in July which said that 46% of American women consider themselves sexually unsatisfied. It should be no real surprise.…
Mindfulness is the state of being conscious or aware of something. It’s the ability to actively live in the present moment, being able to accept and acknowledge one’s own feelings, thoughts, and body in such a way that it induces relaxation and creates awareness without being overwhelmed. And while this therapeutic technique is self-focused, it…
A smaller hand. My pupils dilated in a shot – and there she was in the candlelight. Smiling at me – a rather similar lop-sided grin to the one that he had given me in the office. Maybe he’d borrowed it off her. Her hand stroked down my chest and, without a how-do-you-do, made…
Love is a notoriously difficult concept to pin down. What is it? Is it real? Is it measurable? How do we express it? How does it manifest itself? Why does it hurt sometimes? At LELO, we think we have a pretty good grip on what love is, and how it feels. But there have been…
The Correspondent magazine ran an interesting story about asexuality the other day. It’s interesting because it exists. It does more than simply state that asexuality exists, but goes on to talk a little about what it’s actually like to live with. This is good, because it displays progress – albeit very small and slow progress…
I hadn’t expected her to be there. He didn’t mention it. When he invited me back for dinner, I saw the expression around his mouth – his full mouth – the half smile, the glance up and down my body, resting in a very obvious way on the front of my jeans, the way he…
Living a kinky life comes with some drawbacks. To understand the mentality of those of us who engage in BDSM or any other kind of fetishism , it’s important to consider the deeply rooted stigma and stereotypes that revolve around our sex lives. There’s a longstanding attitude that sex should never be pursued only for…
It’s time to diversify our masturbation and try something new—we hear you! Now, you can listen to us. Literally. Volonte now offers a collection of our best audio erotica and audio sex stories. What’s even better? All the stories were contributed from our readers. Grab your headphones, perhaps your favorite LELO toy, and read along…
Masturbation is the best thing we ever invented, and then we invented sex toys to make it even better. You’re welcome. Today, though, we’re going back to basics, and looking at a few things you can explore to make your masturbation even better than the best thing ever. Which is what it was before you…
It feels like something we knew already, doesn’t it? Like, it shouldn’t take a study for it to be confirmed. We all know. But anyway, as if we needed to be told, a new study indicates that lesbians have more orgasms than straight women. (But not as much as straight men. Obviously.) The study into…
Best known for her comedic sketches on YouTube and Facebook, writer and actress Laura Clery gave us the tea on her professional and personal journey to success. She discusses relatable stories that remind us that our most uncensored moments are part of remaining our authentic selves. Q: What’s your favorite social media platform and why?…
The last ten years has seen a significant spike in public interest in domination, submission, and BDSM . Most of our favorite TV Breakfast shows have featured bondage gear for chrissakes, so it’s safe to say our secret is out. However, while there may be a spike in folks suddenly interested in buying fluffy handcuffs…
The Devirs are ultimate #couplegoals. Maya and Yehuda are content creators who have found success through protraying relatable moments of partnership and parenthood in their comics. We sat down with them to talk business and business in the bedroom. Check out the behind-the-scenes video on the comic they did about their favorite LELO sex toy…