Chances are you’ve experienced sexual performance anxiety at some point in your life. Anxiety disorders are the most common health issue in the United States after all, and sex, as wonderful as it is, can be pretty nerve-wrecking, especially when you’re inexperienced or with a new partner. The idea that sex is a “performance” is…
Have you ever thought about getting creative in the bedroom and making a sex painting? It’s an activity that’s more popular than you’d think, with many couples taking on the challenge of creating their one-of-a-kind piece of art. If you’re interested in exploring your artistic side and sex together, you might also be curious to…
Are you more sexually attracted to a stranger than a long-term partner? Well, you may just be fraysexual. It’s a little more complex than that of course, but generally speaking, fraysexuality is a sexual attraction toward someone you don’t know, or at least don’t know very well. For fraysexuals, the more they get to know…
Finally, the hygge season is back! With the days becoming shorter and the weather turning colder each day, it’s time to cuddle up and spend some good quality time inside with your partner. Now, staying home wrapped in sweaters doesn’t have to be boring. Sweater weather is the perfect time for cuddles and some uninterrupted…
Picture this: cold winds blowing outside the window and you’re wrapped in a blanket next to a fireplace with a cup of hot chocolate and a sexy book. To get this good thing going we prepared a list of hot classics to warm up this cold end of the year. Henry and June: From A…
Let me tell you a secret. I’ve had this fantasy for so many years. It all started when I was a fine arts student and I used to draw nudes in a life drawing class. I often fantasized that I was the model in the class. In real life, I’m much too shy to pose…
When the weather finally dips low enough that we well and truly can no longer pretend it’s still autumn, minds turn swiftly to winter vacations that will turn up the heat. We list below some of the best winter getaways for travelling as a couple, from the deeply romantic to the sultry and sexy. So…
“Go get ‘em, babe,” Tina’s husband said and patted her butt. Walking down the steps of the front porch, she glanced back over her shoulder. Doug stood in the doorway. His face was plastered with the grin of a boy who was promised ice cream. Yet a bit of concern was set deep in Tina’s…
A survey by LELO discovered that, contrary to common belief, men are rarely inclined to turn down sex to watch soccer… even in the dawn of the FIFA World Cup to be held in Qatar this winter. A poll of 11,000 supporters worldwide shows that only 20% will say ‘no’ to their other half so…
While sex is meant to be a pleasurable experience, there are some uncomfortable truths that need to be addressed. And while we won’t necessarily be touching on the subject of sex in all its amazing glory, but rather the tips on keeping safe and healthy, we want you to know one thing. That is, sex…
Sometimes, it can be hard to come up with good sexual ideas to make things more exciting for you and your partner. You both are busy with life, so it’s natural that being creative in the bedroom gets harder. If you’re looking for new ideas for experimentation with your partner, then we have a list…
Music is a powerful medium. And did you know that it has the ability to reduce anxiety, lower blood pressure, and improve one’s mood, sleep, mental alertness, and memory? It can also take us back to different moments in time, which is a great way to relieve memories. Today however, we’re going to be talking…
There were bulges as far as the eye could see. It was my first time in Puerto Vallarta, a hedonistic hub of homosexuality in Mexico, where BeefDip, a week-long event for muscular, heavy-set men and their admirers was taking place. The beach was filled with buff bodies, mango margaritas, and unceasing chimes from Grindr emitting…
Her black slacks tapered to her ankles, showing off her brown skin down to the top of her feet. Her rainbow-colored heels continued to accentuate her toenails painted red. These simplicities still made his heart tick faster and his breaths shorten. She was amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing. That word continued to pass through his mind.…
The scent of coconut sunscreen drifted on the air as warm puffs of the tropical breeze drifted over my skin intermittently. My white one shouldered swimming costume was sticking to my skin, beads of sweat dripping down my neck and body. I hid under a wide brimmed white straw hat and a pair of black…
Many individuals’ early experiences with sex ed were laughably bad—we’re talking Mean Girls’ “Don’t have sex, because you will get pregnant and die” bad. And while these instances may be fun to giggle at in hindsight or when played up in a comedy, the lasting impact of poor sex education is no laughing matter. To…
We like to celebrate sex in all its joyful glory. I rejoice at the very possibility that my articles might encourage someone to have better sex, but I’ll never claim that it’s a one-way road and that there isn’t a dark and sinister quality to sexuality. Sex is a risky game and some of its…
Men have been raised to be “strong” which, according to societal interpretation, means we should keep everything bottled up lest we communicate and be vulnerable. Since there is no physical act more vulnerable than sex, you can imagine how tight-lipped men become concerning their sexual insecurities. One of the many culprits for sexual insecurity is…
Aren’t butterflies fantastical? In the literal sense of the word, sure, but figuratively… like when you see someone that makes you all giddy. That experience of joy, excitement, but also nervousness… wow! It truly can make you feel alive! So, imagine this scenario: you see someone you’re attracted to, or you look at your partner.…
The assumption is employees hook up or, at least, get naughty at Christmas parties. But that isn’t the case in the real business world. Office parties are one evening with a few drinks. Then the employees go home alone. The real hookups happen where there are fewer eyes and longer nights. They happen at business…
With many choices on the market, shopping for a new vibrator can be overwhelming. This guide will cover our top 5 favorite LELO vibrators for women (so you can get to the fun stuff). How To Decide on a Vibrator So, you’ve decided to invest in a quality sex toy! The next step is to…
Richard Nicastro, PhD looks at why “intimacy is not for the faint of heart” and how a fear of intimacy can get in the way of the quality of the sexual relationship in your marriage. He poses questions for reflection for you and your partner to improve the connection. Emotional intimacy involves a connection that…
Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love. He highlights the conditions that either encourage or discourage trust in a committed relationship. When love becomes part of the relationship landscape, when the other starts to matter to you, then how they respond takes on a heightened importance. And once love…
Richard Nicastro, PhD takes a deeper look at married (or long-term relationship) sex and some of the unique reasons it can be so satisfying. He encourages couples to understand their ruts and look for opportunities for change. You might have read about—or personally experienced—the challenges some married couples (or couples in long-term relationships) face when it comes…
We can all see the logic of scheduling life maintenance tasks like medical appointments or our car’s oil change, or even social events, like lunch with a friend. But when we hear of the idea of penciling sex into our busy calendars, we tend to balk…after all, “Sex should be spontaneous (shouldn’t it?)”; “Scheduling intimate…
Richard Nicastro, PhD digs deeper into the important relationship dynamic of sexual interest. While acknowledging the normalcy of an imbalance, he suggests the shortest route to a solution that works for both couples is understanding and empathy for these differences. There are certain relationship dynamics that impact a couple’s sex life and certain relational dynamics…
“I’ve been married for over twenty years. I know I’m not perfect, but I can honestly say that I do my best to be a good husband…I care about what my wife thinks of me asa husband and father.” ~Sal “It scares me to admit this, but I’d be totally lost without my wife. She’s…
Relationships are hard. There’s just no denying it. And anyone who is or has been in a long term relationship will surely tell you the same. Even so, while there are days that are dismal, annoying, and somewhat unbearable, relationships should have a fundamental feeling of contentment and happiness. So when is it that enough…
Did you know that there’s an actual term for on-again, off-again relationships? It’s called ‘relationship cycling’, and encompasses people who have broken up and gotten back together with their romantic partner one or more times. This kind of relationship behaviour however, does run the risk of bringing on psychological distress for both partners, such as…
Exercise… for some it’s a form of therapy, a way in which to feel happy and confident, a release, or even just an excellent hobby. For others, it’s dreaded. The sweat, making time for it, the activity itself which may be mundane. But what about sex? Sex counts as exercise, right? We do burn calories…
The clitoris is the only organ in the human body that’s purpose is solely for pleasure, so it’s only right that you give it the luxury treatment as a much-warranted thank you for all the ecstasy it brings you. Not only is the clit a powerhouse of erotic delights, but it’s also a key component…
In the warm afternoon of mid-June, Julia’s face was bright and glowing in all her loveliness and uncontainable joy. Already, her face was sore because it would not stop grinning. She was the centerpiece of the day, the bride. She had never felt so beautiful and glorious, since in her childhood fantasies. Her new dress…
After downloading Tik Tok in an attempt to stay culturally relevant as a journalist and aging millennial, I was introduced to the concept of the soft top. As a sex educator and columnist, I will be boastful and admit that there’s rarely a sexual topic that I’m completely in the dark about, so I was…
Are you looking for BDSM for beginners guide that would help you navigate the world of BDSM when you have no experience but want to explore new, exciting things? Well, then, you’ve come to the right place! Let us guide you through all the BDSM basics, some beginner-friendly toys and accessories, and how to bring…
ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, affects 6 million children and 366 adults in the United States (or that we know of so far, at least with an official medical diagnosis). Whether you know it or not, you’ve probably befriended or dated someone with this neurological condition, which is thought to affect the brain’s levels…
It’s easy to go on a first date somewhere neutral… a place where someone can be the person that they want to be. Just like many of us only reveal the best parts of ourselves on social media, the same could be said for a first date. But when things get serious, or you decide…
For some, hugging is done out of habit. It’s a sign of affection, endearment, or even a greeting that’s easily practised without blinking an eye. For others, hugging can be quite intimidating. The feeling of two bodies pressing up against each other, after all, is quite an intimate act. To further prove this point, hugging,…
The company Christmas party was in full swing. Every year I went regrettably. Social things weren’t my gig. The theme was Fire and Ice. Every table was adorned with elaborate ice sculptures while fire breathing gymnasts tumbled across the dancefloor in skin tight crimson costumes, men gawking at them unashamedly. The room was abuzz with…
“It felt like someone shoved a corkscrew with spikes up my ass and mercilessly kept twisting,” River Mitchell, a 30-year-old OnlyFans creator from Texas, remembers of their agonizing 21 days with monkeypox. “The pain was excruciating, I’ll never forget it. There were days that I would just lay on the floor sobbing.” Mitchell suspects he…
What goes in must come out. It’s an adage that carries particular meaning regarding anal sex. No judgement, of course. One should know that if you’re playing with fire, you might get burned. Except in this case, we’re replacing “fire” with “ass” and “burned” with… you get the idea. While many of us are most…
Learning how to use a vibrator when you’re new to the world of sex toys can be overwhelming. There are so many different types of vibes, all made of various materials and offer multiple functions… Whether you’re looking to get your first vibrator to enhance solo play or you want to bring in something new…
Before we dive in, allow us to give you a brief definition of the word ‘sexism’. Sexism is a kind of predjudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex. For example, sexism is the belief that women are inherently inferior to men, should be subordinate to men, and belong in the…
It’s fairly obvious… dating today is nothing like it was 20-some years ago. Today, dating is predominantly done via technology, aka using dating apps. And even though there are a slew of Hollywood films that lead us to believe that online dating is an actual revenue in which to find love and companionship (think “You’ve…
We tend to actively keep only a tiny number of our sexual experiences in our memory, especially from long lasting relationships. But those we do remember are usually quite remarkable and I’ve noticed that some of the best ones I remember tended to come in the form of little bursts that stretch over long periods…
Monroe County Sheriff’s Department Inter-Office Memorandum To: Sheriff Richard Langford From: Drake Wilkerson, Inspector General CC: Gerald Newsome, Bureau Chief, Monroe County Sheriff’s Department; Office of Internal Affairs; Office of Human Resources Subject: Review of Employee Investigation On 21 April 2022, the Office of the Inspector General of the Monroe County Sheriff’s Department received a…
Hold up that sex-positive train for just a minute, folks! While you absolutely deserve all the orgasms in the world, there are some exceptions to the otherwise awesome thread of sexual self-realization happening right now. Prioritizing your own pleasure, whether that means shamelessly enjoying your favorite vibrator while alone or during sex, or asking for…
The baseball games that summer were a struggle to watch. They were ruined by the thudding music in the apartment below. As I had done all that summer, I had stomped my foot and banged my wooden Louisville Slugger on the floor. The pounding didn’t work, because the person below would not turn off that…
Did Millennials kill the so-called ‘institute of marriage?’ Millennials have the lowest rate of marriage compared to our parents and grandparent’s generations. We’re doing things differently than the folks who came before us, like moving in with our partners and focusing on shared happiness over jumping into a wedding dress and tuxedo and immediately popping…
The way in which we see our bodies can hugely affect a number of areas in our lives—especially our sex lives. In fact, having a negative body image is one of the biggest disrupters of sexual enjoyment, and can be detrimental to feelings of sexual desire and arousal. Quite honestly however, it is more so…
Emotional safety is one of the most important elements of any happy and healthy relationship. Yet there are so many ways it can be compromised. Sometimes it happens inadvertently and other times it’s a more direct assault on the foundation of the relationship. When a couple has a high level of emotional safety they usually…