The Foundation: Why Trust Makes or Breaks Relationships Trust is essential for any strong relationship. It’s not just a bonus; it’s the very core of lasting intimacy. Think of it like the foundation of a house. A solid foundation helps a house withstand storms, just as trust helps a relationship weather life’s inevitable challenges. Without…
The Real Meaning of Emotional Intimacy Today Emotional intimacy. We hear it everywhere, but what does it truly mean for relationships today? It’s the foundation of any fulfilling partnership, more than just a fleeting feeling. It’s about creating a safe space where both partners can authentically be themselves, imperfections and all. This connection goes deeper…
Why Learning About Sex Actually Matters Learning about sex goes far beyond the basic biology. It’s about developing healthier relationships, improving self-confidence, and promoting overall well-being. Understanding your body and desires is deeply connected to a positive self-image. This self-awareness helps you communicate your needs and make informed decisions about your sexual health. Understanding the…
The Truth About Mismatched Sex Drives in Relationships Let’s talk about something many couples struggle to discuss: differing sex drives. It’s surprisingly common, and acknowledging this is the first step toward a healthier relationship. This isn’t about assigning blame, it’s about understanding each other and strengthening your bond. Desire Fluctuations: A Normal Part of Relationships…
Understanding Your Performance Anxiety: Why Your Mind Rebels That familiar flutter in your stomach, the racing heart, the sudden blank mind – we all recognize the signs of performance anxiety. But why does our mind seem to betray us when we need it most? It comes down to a complex interaction between our psychology and…
The Science Behind Your Desire: What Drives Libido Your libido, or sex drive, isn’t static. It naturally changes throughout life, influenced by a combination of biological, psychological, and social elements. Understanding this complex interaction is the first step toward understanding how to boost your sex drive. The Hormonal Orchestra Hormones are at the core of…
Understanding the Science of Sexual Endurance Before exploring techniques to improve sexual stamina, it’s helpful to understand the science behind it. Sexual endurance isn’t just about physical strength; it’s a complex interplay of physical and psychological factors. Everything from your current arousal level to underlying anxieties and your body’s physical responses play a role. Understanding…
Why Modern Relationships Need Sexual Education Many assume sexual education is just for teenagers. However, many couples receive little guidance on how to build a fulfilling intimate life together. This lack of shared knowledge can significantly affect long-term relationship happiness. Differing expectations about intimacy, unspoken desires, and changing needs can create friction and misunderstandings. Couples…
The Psychology Behind Powerful Dirty Talk Verbal stimulation, often called dirty talk, plays a crucial role in intimacy. It goes beyond physical touch, activating multiple pleasure centers in the brain. This connection between language, emotion, and neurobiology explains the power of words in intimate moments. When we hear arousing words, our brains release dopamine, the…
The Truth About the G-Spot: Science Meets Sensation The G-spot remains a topic of fascination and sometimes confusion. This intriguing area, located on the anterior vaginal wall, is a source of immense pleasure for many. Understanding the science behind the sensation can help you explore your body with more confidence and understanding. Understanding the Anatomy…
The Science of Female Pleasure: What Actually Works Understanding female pleasure is a journey of discovery, exploring the intricate connections between mind, body, and emotions. It’s about moving beyond the purely physical to create truly fulfilling intimate experiences. This involves personalized attention and recognizing the unique needs of each individual. The Mind-Body Connection A woman’s…
Truthfully, there are a few ways you could answer this question. And that’s because in some cases, there’s a clear distinction between sex therapy and marriage counseling. However, in many situations, these two modalities are like songs that have found their way into a bangin’ mashup. Let’s first take a closer look at each specialty:…
So, everything’s moving along with the woman in your life. You’ve been together for a long time, and you know each other better than anyone else. You get how she deals with emotional issues, stress, illness, injury. And you know how to provide comfort to her during hard times. And then, out of the blue…something…
Sex is a natural, involuntary drive in most humans, so we usually don’t think we have to do anything about it. There’s a stimulus – a thought, a visual, or even a scent (the ones we can’t detect, like pheromones, and the ones we can, like perfume) – and then poof, here comes the horny.…
You know what’s universal? As in, common to literally everyone? Well, when it comes to our sexuality, the answer is: absolutely nothing. That said, there are 3 things all of us can do – at any time – that will improve our sex lives. #1: Address Your Stress If you thought I was going to…
Since time immemorial, the association between porn and men has been undeniable. Not all porn, and not all men, of course. But even individuals who frown upon it aren’t surprised by the connection. And since it’s more accessible and plentiful than ever before, it’s worth asking about both potential benefits and negative consequences. The right…
What’s so great about an orgasm? If you said that “reaching the pinnacle of ecstasy” is pretty damned great (or some variation on the theme), you’d be correct. Honestly, what more can one ask for? That said, researchers have determined that orgasms are actually great for a bunch of other assorted reasons. According to the…
Are you sex-stuck? Yup, I just made that up. But please, feel free – make it a hashtag. You know you wanna. Here’s what I’m really asking: is your sex life yawn-inducing? Same ol’ same ol’? BOR-ING??!! Don’t worry – we’ve got you. If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, sex can be deprioritized for…
Sometimes, we are so turned on, so turned up, so tuned in that our bodies are not our own. We want be one with another (or, a good vibrator). The need to have sex – but mostly to get off – is primal, and occasionally a quickie is just what the hormones ordered. But please,…
Have you heard the term “micro-cheating”? Maybe you think it’s just the latest in a long line of fabricated TikTok hashtags designed for easy click bate. But actually, micro-cheating refers to real life behaviors that can wreak havoc on relationships. While there isn’t one reigning definition of micro-cheating, most experts agree with what Psychology Today…
When a relationship is new, it’s filled with excitement, warmth and goodwill. Most people – even those who aren’t touchy feely – enjoy some type of physical connection that isn’t necessarily sexual. Holding hands, arms around one another, hugs, playing footsie – all of these behaviors signal “hey – I really want you in my…
Low testosterone levels can cause a multitude of health problems; obesity, heart disease, osteoporosis, brain fog, lethargy, and even depression can all be traced to low testosterone levels . One aspect of this condition that is always challenging to treat, is the accompanying low libido that plagues many men. Some men simply lose their appetite…
Hey ladies! Let’s talk about something that’s bugging a lot of you – the big O. Yep, we’re diving into why you might be struggling to hit that high note in the bedroom. This is Gspot101 after all, and we want to help you become a master of your own orgasm. Picture this: You’re all…
Happy Pride! While I’m a firm believer in celebrating the LGBTQ2IA+ community each and every day of the year, I’ll gladly take a month of publicly acknowledging the contributions of queer individuals, of uplifting those who call for equality and kindness and love and for speaking out on behalf of those who can’t because their…
“Why is it so hard to find information about this?” my clients in peri/menopause ask me with earnest desperation. My usual retort? “Well, consider the fact 100 years ago, the average life expectancy for women was 60. So, the minute someone started to complain of hot flashes or night sweats, funerals were planned”. It’s not…
Something happened in March of this year that should have happened a long time ago. The very first over-the-counter birth control pill approved by the FDA was made available without a prescription in pharmacies all across America. “Opill ”, a progestin-only tablet, has been around for decades, but it’s manufacturer, Perrigo, says it took 9…
What is toxic masculinity? Before we even define the term, we need to know more about the second word than the first, more incendiary one. Masculinity can have lots of different meanings across individuals, families, cultures and societies. Merriam Webster says that masculinity is “the quality or nature of the male sex : the quality, state, or…
Many people are under the impression that mindfulness exercises should be practiced in total silence. And while, sure, that’s ideal in some instances, the beauty of mindfulness is that you can depend on it no matter your environmental circumstances. Any mindfulness instructor will tell you that sometimes it’s more important to be present and grounded…
Just a few short years ago, anyone with a uterus was hard-pressed to find accurate and evidence-based information on peri/menopause. And then, like pennies from heaven, it was all around us. Social media, talk shows, blogs, newspaper and magazine articles were finally giving us and our lived experiences the respect we deserved. While those of…
It’s inevitable – long-term partners are gonna get bored. Maybe it’s the conversation, your daily routine or the same old weekend plans. At some point, sex might also morph into a yawn-apalooza. Being with a long-term partner can mean a lifetime of love, connectedness, commitment and care. And contrary to popular belief, it can also…
Ladies, let’s get real about the rockstars of your pleasure zones – the clitoris and the legendary G-spot . These two areas are absolute showstoppers when it comes to experiencing mind-blowing orgasms. Buckle up because this guide is about to blow your mind (and potentially other things!) First up, the clitoris. This pea-sized powerhouse is…
It’s generally accepted by the medical community that chronic stress can lead to wide-ranging physical and behavioral health issues. When we experience any kind of upset, our nervous systems trigger the “fight-flight-freeze” response. That’s a protective function. But when it happens too frequently, and if we aren’t able to manage symptoms, we’re at increased risk…
Years ago, I was interviewed for an article on Erectile Dysfunction in young men. It was interesting to talk to a young female reporter who knew absolutely nothing about the subject. She sent me a long list of questions and we had several long discussions on the phone. I thought that this was a great…
It’s generally accepted among medical providers that the more information a patient shares, the better the care they can provide. There are very strong arguments for accurately answering everything a doctor asks you about your medical history and your current health and well-being. But what if there are details you don’t want to share because…
(Trigger Warning: while the word “stalk” appears in the blog below, please note that it’s being used in the non-menacing vernacular (as a synonym for “search”). The origin of the word means something entirely different – “stalking” in its original form is of serious nature and potentially dangerous. If you believe you are the victim…
It used to be so simple. You went to see your gynecologist once per year. Your breasts would be checked, you’d have the dreaded pelvic exam that included STI testing and the pap, and then you’d be on your merry way. Phew, check that off the list until next year! But in recent years, things…
You probably think that hamburgers and ice cream are only bad for your waistline, right? But what if they could actually put your sexual health in jeopardy? Read on to discover the important links between cholesterol and sexual health that all men should know. High Cholesterol Can Cause Erectile Dysfunction Many people see erectile dysfunction…
Bet you couldn’t avoid “Best Of” lists last month as the year came to a close. Professional critics, influencers, and amateur bloggers alike love to get in on it, giving their seals of approval to a wide swath of items such as books, movies, sports highlights, gifts for hard-to-please Aunt Edna, sex toys (maybe Aunt…
If you’ve experienced trauma – whether as a child or an adult – and if you haven’t received the support you need in order to process it thoroughly, relationships can be tricky. Before we jump into the interpersonal, let’s get a sense of what trauma is. The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Administration (SAMHSA)…
You might think this British series is a spoof on other titles with similar names, but you would be wrong. “Naked Attraction ” is actually as literal as literal gets. Here’s the premise: a person looking for love (dressed – at least at first) gives the once-over to six fully nude people, each of whom…
If your sexual health isn’t what you’d like it to be, your daily habits could be to blame. Things like tobacco, alcohol, and obesity will all decrease your fertility and negatively affect your sexual functioning. Fortunately, there are many simple things you can add to your lifestyle that will get you back on track toward…
What is the female A-Spot meaning, you ask? Okay, gather around, folks, because we’re about to dive into the saucy secrets of the A-spot! That’s right, this isn’t your grandma’s talk about the birds and the bees. Forget about Atlantis, the real lost city of wonder is the A-spot, and it’s about time we put…
Let’s get right down to what you already know: the holiday season is upon us and that usually means a lot of added stress. The big headline? Stress and sex rarely mix. So, with all the travel and traffic and meal prep and gift lists and décor pressure and family pressure, etc., who can possibly…
It’s a common myth that men think about sex every seven seconds. However, a study conducted at Ohio State University suggests the real number is likely closer to 19 times a day. Regardless of the figure, you can guarantee most of those thoughts concern getting busy between the sheets, and not what happens in the body. A…
There are a lot of different types of meditations to choose from and one of them is Laughter Meditation. Laughing comes from deep inside us and there’s always a healthy supply. You may be self-conscious at first but laughing out loud, not texting it (lol), breaks up tension in the body as it relaxes the…
Parenting would be a lot easier if it were like baking – exact ingredients, precise directions, specific chocolate-to-dough ratio, and voila! The perfect chocolate chip cookie! (Um, I mean, kid). While there’s literally no one specific recipe for raising children, a lot of parents incorporate informed decision-making in their approach. Choosing if, how, and when…
Andropause is similar to its female counterpart, menopause , and refers to declining levels of testosterone in aging men. Often referred to as Low T, this condition isn’t as widely understood as menopause, making it difficult for both patients and physicians to recognize. Fortunately, diagnostic tools for measuring testosterone levels are improving, making it easier…
Last night, as I said goodnight to my almost-grown daughters, I noticed that each of their respective laptops rested directly on their respective laps. Hystero-Mamma kicked into high gear. “Girls – why aren’t you using pillows as a barrier between your computers and your ovaries? How many times do we have to review this? Don’t…
Search for a numbered list of menopause symptoms on the web and you’ll find that there’s no one definitive inventory. One site says there are 34, another one says 66 – the cataloging varies widely. Since menopause research is relatively new and medical training for treatment is practically non-existent – and because each woman’s experience…
The use of Clomid to increase testosterone levels has been in practice for many years. Clomid is the preferred treatment to increase testosterone levels in men who want to maintain fertility options because testosterone replacement products (Testim, Androgel, etc) can decrease sperm production. Over time, the use of testosterone can shut down sperm production by…