Dear Younger Queer Self, Firstly, let me assure you that you will be okay. You have a bumpy journey ahead, but you will reach a place of peace and contentment and pride. So, hang on in there. I want you to know that there is no shame in desire. Whether that is desire for the…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Oh my darling, darling stubborn girl! Thank you for standing up for yourself even when you had doubts. For standing up for how you felt and for refusing to feel shame about it. Yes. Bisexual is absolutely a real thing. Yes. You are attracted THAT way to other girls and to…
Dear Younger Queer Self, I am sorry. You were but a child, praying to be seen, and yet you had to hide behind a mask of “normalcy”, a poorly painted smile on the outside, rough cuts around the eyes, thorns on the inside. I am sorry I convinced you it was dangerous to tell your…
Hey girl. First off, slow the fuck down on the partying! You don’t need to do all your living before you hit 20! Also, I know about the cigarettes. Give them up while you still can! You’ll thank me later. Now let’s talk about you. We both know you’re not one to indulge in sentimentality.…
Dear Younger Queer Self, The world has lied to you all these years. They’ve coiled up the truth and twisted it into a mess of lies that makes it near impossible to find the start of it all. Let alone the truth. It’s a lie built on fear and misunderstanding. Much like many things in…
You do not have to choose a side; this is not a game of badminton, even though hiding who you are feels like a sport right now. You have been stressed out lately and feeling like an outsider. Here’s a surprise, there are more people like you than you could ever imagine. With that being…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Your queerness will not look like it does on television shows. A group of giggly and charismatic celebrities are not about to arrive at your door and turn you into the person you long to be. You have to be your own Antoni. You have to cook yourself a nourishing meal.…
Dear Younger Queer Self, The ideals of what you considered an inconsequential youth will not be lost on this world. You will be celebrated for the beautiful and intelligent woman that you have always strived to be. You will not have to sacrifice your femininity and frailty or dignity and integrity to be accepted and…
There’s no how-to guide, no roadmap, no detailed manual. Everyone’s journey through discovering their sexuality looks a little bit different, but sharing our knowledge can help those who are starting their journey, especially when it comes to coming out (to themselves and their loved ones). To commemorate the power of community despite not being able…
As difficult as it may seem, you must love yourself and believe in your heart of hearts that there will be many others who love you, too. Being authentic to yourself will bring joy into your life. There will always be times when you feel like you want to give-up or give-in. When that happens,…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Queer looks different for everyone. Just because you don’t look a certain way, or act a certain way, doesn’t mean you’re any less queer than you feel. It’s difficult not to compare yourself to others, especially at such a raw young age, but I urge you to try your best to…
Oh Dear, You have done it again. You have went against the grain, against the narrative. You are fifteen and can’t stop wondering why you have to like a boy. Unless you want to be called a “dyke”- although you do go through your fair share of masc haircuts/styles LOL. Thank you high school for…
Dear Younger Queer Self, Dear little forest fae, dear big heart, dear chaos demon riddled with anxiety like the bark of a tree is riddled with insects, You know already, at 3, when you are tumbling through the woods and rivers like a little bear cub that your body is not what they say it…
Dear Younger Queer Self, One day, you won’t be afraid of people finding out who you are. One day, you’ll be proud of yourself and how far you’ve come. I know what you’re thinking when you look towards your future. You told everyone you didn’t want to get married or have kids, because you believed…
When your mother asks you to wear a matching dress with your younger sister, don’t fight her. When the girl who spends most of her time in school suspensions calls you a freak, just smile and shrug. When the boy who had sex with his family dog calls you a freak, remember to punch him…
Dear Younger Queer Self, By the time you hit 30, you still won’t have everything figured out, but that’s OK. It turns out nobody else has it figured out either. By the time you’re 30, you’re a well seasoned adult who is still none the wiser. Sexuality still isn’t black and white and, unfortunately, labels…
Dear younger self, If I could offer just one piece of advice to help you navigate the road ahead, it would be this… Fuck the box. That’s it. Just fuck the box. Fuck the labels and the dogmas and the -isms that goes with them. Do your best to be the best version of yourself…
While there are many theories about when and where No Panty Day originated, this act of liberation aims to break the taboos surrounding having to wear panties in public. Let’s be real, we’ll take any excuse to get naked , but this day reminds us that it’s for good reason. Here’s how and why you…
Being queer is not a choice, but it does involve many choices. Here’s how yours turned out… When you were 9 and demanded “a boy’s haircut”, and everyone made fun of you, including your teachers at school, and you decided not to care, you were right. You went home from a day of being ridiculed,…
LELO partnered up with Erika Lust, the increasingly popular and authentic erotic film director, to learn more about what fuels her passion in indie adult cinema. In honor of Masturbation Month, she even released a calendar full of masturbation inspiration , along with some awesome LELO toy giveaways! When you were a kid, what did…
When we saw in his bio that he was “Perpetuating 25,000 years of artistic obsession for butts!”, we knew that kink content creator, The Hedonistologist, would bring something new to the table. In his partnership with LELO, he created animations and illustrations that represented pleasure and lust as they should be, authentically and visually beautiful. …
While LELO usually encourages people to #ComeTogether physically, this June we want to celebrate Pride by Coming Together as a community to share from our past experiences. Coming out to yourself and your inner circles is never easy, but it is an incredibly important feat to freedom. It’s simple. We created the “Dear Younger Queer…
It’s kinda hard to #ComeTogether when we’re supposed to remain six feet apart. That’s why, this year, LELO is using Pride month to focus on the power of community! And, luckily for us, there are so many role models that have walked this path before us that we can learn from—regardless of our sexual orientation.…
Not only were we shocked at how many entries we received for our #StayHome Erotica Contest (a LELO personal record), we were also shocked at how many fantasies our participants shared! It seems like a lot of you are getting busy with the help of a buzzy little pleasure maker, and the rest of you…
Whether you follow the Chinese calendar, Gregorian calendar, or plan your entire year around summer vacation, we at LELO fittingly start the year off in Masturbation Month (aka May)! And if there’s anything this wild year has brought us, it’s a little too much time at home that has spurred some creative thinking. Our team…
LELO’s recent #StayHome campaign isn’t just about offering awesome discounts on pleasure makers that will keep you getting busy at home, it’s also about offering a chance to win epic free bundles through their latest erotica contest! Being cooped up inside can have us bottling up our sexual frustration, especially living with family or roommates,…