When I was a grad student, longer ago than I can comfortably recall, I remember sitting in a lecture, at the back, diligently taking notes on modal verb morphology, and I happened to notice the guy sat in the row in front of me, and slightly below, was watching porn on his phone. It struck…
Our culture places huge importance on losing one’s virginity. For many, being a virgin is seen as being ‘uncool’ and this is a big reason why so many individuals feel the pressure, engage in sex for the first time, and sometimes regret it. But if we’ve caught you before you’ve officially swiped your v-card, that’s…
Heartbreak fucking sucks. It’s the worst. It feels like a sickness, like poison, like grief. Everything loses its importance, nothing matters anymore, it’s all pointless. We feel bad for feeling bad, and it doesn’t seem to end. Nothing about heartbreak is fair, we blame ourselves and those who hurt us, and everything is a cycle…
We have very complex mating strategies as a species. Research shows that a heterosexual woman will adapt their behavior and the way they dress depending on the kind of relationship they’re looking for. Whether it’s innate or it’s down to external, cultural pressures is an important consideration, but whatever the reason, straight women looking for…
In a previous article, we talked in general terms about the act and experience of sexual meditation , which is a key element of sexual mindfulness. In this article, we look in more detail at exactly how to do it, because once it’s learned, it can’t be unlearned, and it could will represent the gateway…
When we describe our sexual fantasies, we tend to share the details and dynamics, focusing on specific parts of the fantasy and using those to define them. When we explain a dream to someone, we do the same thing: we tell them the individual details of the dream, although that’s not really how we process…
Queer sex therapist Casey Tanner took over LELO’s Instagram live to offer some amazing feedback on all sorts of topics—communication, boundary setting, PTSD, fetishes and more. Check out what she had to say about your questions! How do our bodies’ physical responses to sex encourage and/or limit our verbal communication? Our bodies are constantly communicating…
Since the approval in 1998 of Viagra, you’d be forgiven for suspecting that erectile dysfunction is the most prevalent sexual issue for men. But that’s simply not the case. Premature ejaculation far outstrips erectile dysfunction as the most common problem for men, when it comes to sex. What Causes Premature Ejaculation? Premature ejaculation is here…
To the average person, at first glance a Ben Wa Ball or Kegel Ball may leave you with a lot of questions. There’s no need to scratch your head, the functionality and purpose of Ben Wa Balls is actually quite simple-they’re mini intimacy trainers . They can be used during foreplay, for orgasm strength training,…
Recently, the U.S. Supreme Court clarified that people can’t be fired for being gay or transgender according to the 1964 Civil Rights Act. It ruled that LGBT+ people are protected from employment discrimination in the US. To most of us, it is the craziness that this happened as late as 2020. While I guess this…
Women have had a hard time of things when it comes to cheating, culturally speaking. In most of the societies mentioned in the Old Testament, it is very literally carved in stone that a man can take many wives, but if any of them cheat on him, there is a list of punishments too horrendous…
Have you ever finished having sex and thought, “that wasn’t like the movies”? Movie sex is, of course, scripted. Those are actors. It’s rehearsed, and practiced, and staged, and orchestrated. Hollywood does a very poor job of portraying the reality of sex , and rarely feature the kind of everyday sexual mishaps we all experience,…
The Smithsonian is a fountainhead of fascination and wonder. But dig deep enough, and you’ll find that this venerable establishment is as obsessed with sex as the rest of us. Let’s take a look at some more things the Smithsonian taught me about sex in the natural world. Slug At First Sight The unassuming leopard…
According to a survey about sex toy ownership in the U.S., nearly 80% of women over the age of 18 own a sex toy. Vibrators are by far the most common toy to own (78%), followed by dildos (60%) and anal toys (16%). This guide will go over all of these categories for sex toys…
We make up all sorts of stuff about sex. Birds and bees, storks bringing babies, damn, sex is confusing as heck. Some of those little oddities hang around and gather lives of their own until it’s hard to remember a time when they didn’t exist. We’ve pulled together and debunked five of the stranger myths…
With nice weather always comes an opportunity for some wild mountain sex, so here is a little guide to safer and more enjoyable hiking sex. DO 1. Hit some less popular trails It goes without saying that less popular trails equal fewer distractions. The possibility of getting caught in the act can add a…
So many amazing, challenging and sometimes funny questions roll through our inbox each week, and whenever we pick up on a pattern, we know it’s time to write an article covering the recurring topic. Volonte was created in 2011 with the sole purpose of offering sexual wellness advice based on the interest of our readers.…
Got a dirty mind? Got sex on the brain? Good for you, Einstein, because new research indicates that frequent sex, and the desire for it, can have a significant influence on our cognitive ability. Over the last decade, a growing body of research into human and animal behavior has been published indicating that the more…
Erectile dysfunction affects around 20% of men over 20 years of age – that’s around 20 million people. But, in a recent survey of men suffering from ED, half of them couldn’t name a single risk factor that might potentially cause or contribute to it. Despite how common it is, we as a society have…
In reality, letting go of resentment or working on reconciling a relationship should happen as soon as the thought pops into your head, but maybe Kiss & Make Up Day on August 25 is just the reminder you needed. We’re going to cover what resentment is, acceptance of what happened, and letting go of it…
I remember a study in 2016 that implied that many young men, after a decade of high-speed internet access, were experiencing erectile dysfunction as a result of the overuse of pornography. The study was featured in Time magazine, which quoted a number of such young men who claimed they “quit pornography to have more sex”,…
We know what you think, but we’ll stop you right there – you’re only half correct. Let us show you how going topless this summer can do more for you than just get rid of your tan lines. Ah, cleavage – it brings us such joy… Most of the time. Aside from being a source…
Unfortunately, millions and millions of people worldwide are embarrassed, ashamed, or uneducated about the simple pleasures in life… i.e. masturbation, sex, foreplay, sexual kinks, and fetishes. But really, life’s too short not to enjoy, embrace, and take full advantage of one’s sexuality. A world full of orgasms and self-love is a whole lot better and…
Relationships with age differences have always existed. Many cultures consider it a central tenet, especially in cultures where multiple partners are tolerated. But usually, it seems to be a story of older men partnering with younger women. Recently, though, that dynamic has been challenged by the increasing frequency of romantic couples consisting of older women…
She opened the door to him and watched him as he looked down shyly. She smiled and realized he had found her note and wondered how he had felt reading it. Letting him in, she closed the door softly and followed him into the lounge where he took his jacket off and put his bag…
Americans are aging, fast. Older couples represent a larger slice of the population than ever, and the rate of sexual activity amongst older members of the community is on the rise too. Couples in their fifties, sixties, seventies, and beyond are remaining sexually active longer than ever, and are reporting higher levels of sexual satisfaction…
Finding yourself in a position of bedroom boredom? Or maybe just looking for a new sex position to cross off the bucket fuck-it list? These are the best sex positions that trade in the mundane to find the marvelous. *Although the following illustrations depict heterosexual couples, many of these positions can be pleasurable for non-heterosexual…
We’re not saying that these eight sex-themed ideas aren’t ideal for any day! But, if you and your partner or your friends with benefits are coming up on an anniversary of some sorts, these raunchy activities are not only unique and fun, but also super sexy. From staycations and seemingly innocent games turned dirty, to…
For many of you, throwing the words ‘happy’ ‘horny’ and ‘hogtied’ into the same sentence seems like a stretch. Sure, if you’re horny and you’re getting some, it seems fairly obvious that you’re going to feel happy. But hogtied? Now I know what you may be thinking: “You mean to tell me that someone who…
I think about him the entire twenty-minute journey home. A montage of moments of my selection from the night. The curl of his mouth as he laughed at something I said. My God, the draw of his delicious mouth. The image of his hand on my elbow and the flex of his forearm. The moment…
How to get laid: lie in bed, what two hours, become past tense. I used to date an English teacher, but they dumped me for improper use of the colon. Q: If a blackbird makes a baby blackbird, and a bluebird makes a baby bluebird, what kind of bird makes no baby? A: Swallow. My…
The LELO F1s SDK for developers can be found on GitHub . The SDK allows you to write your code and experiment with your F1s device, either for your own pleasure regime or to release an app for others to enjoy. However, before you start exploring the repository, there are a few things you should…
We all have different coping strategies when a relationship breaks down, and each of us reacts differently to finding ourselves alone after investing time and emotion into someone else. Some of us lose ourselves in work, others in sport and exercise. Some self-medicate with alcohol or drugs, a few jump feetfirst into their singledom through…
You swiped right. You matched. You want to have sex with this person. But what do you need to know up front? What insights can you glean from instant messaging that might be important? Below, we list five of what we think are important questions to ask before you hook up with a stranger to…
The majority of people meet their partners through friends, family, work, or social groups. But increasingly, we’re meeting our partners online, due to having access to a high volume of people, being able to organise them easily, and communicate with them safely, at our own leisure. Dating apps like Tinder have simplified the process even…
Over time, our enthusiasm for sex can begin to wane, and many find themselves in a position where they’re simply not having as much sex as they used to, or they don’t find it as pleasurable as they used to. Considered on a society-wide basis, we’re all experiencing less pleasure than we used to. Dr.…
Many of us worry about the way our sexual desire fades as a relationship progresses. We’re usually aware of the honeymoon effect, and we expect that the beginning of a new relationship will be sexier and more passionate than the later stages, but regardless, we still wonder if the dip in sex drive is normal.…
Tickle, tease, pleasure and please! The Indulge Me Pleasure Set has everything you need to turn up the heat on a special night with your lover. It contains the NOA couples massager, a silk blindfold and tantra feather teaser. This box is a celebration of taking pleasure to new heights by exploring new sensations. WOMAN…
Stop the presses. Turns out, after thousands of years of searching, there really is one simple thing we can all do to enhance the pleasure and satisfaction of sex. And it’s something we all do all the time without even thinking about. It’s so easy that you’ve already done it several times while reading this.…
The fact that our libidos ebb and flow is the topic of dozens of articles on this blog, and millions worldwide. It’s an established fact and something that we all deal with and process differently. There are too many causes to count – it can be down to external or internal forces, or physiological or…
Have you ever had one of those moments during sex in which you feel disconnected? When your mind wanders, and you find yourself observing the spectacle objectively? Sometimes it’s the feeling of having a really rational thought that seems out of place during sex. For example, you might be having sex, and suddenly find yourself…
Did you take part in our Orgasm Day 2017 survey ? We had over 2,200 respondents from 21 different countries share their most intimate secrets with us, and the results were surprising, even by our slightly jaded standards. Here’s a selection of the findings about our global orgasmic habits, just in time for World Orgasm Day on July 31st!…
*This contest is open to everyone, however, the submissions must be gay male themed. After we wrapped up our Virtual Pride Month celebrations and our “Dear Younger Queer Self ” contest, we realized that our gay male erotica category should use some beefing up to better represent our diversity. That’s where you beefcakes come in!…
For those who crave a full-body orgasm experience, SORAYA Wave was engineered to combine the strong vibrations of the original SORAYA with the wave technology that pinpoints your internal pleasure. The versatility of rabbit vibrators will keep you exploring your best sexual wellness. If you’re someone who knows you like stimulation on the place commonly…
You may believe that all orgasms are created equally. And in a perfect world, individuals of all genders and sexual orientations would be going around receiving orgasms on the regular. Unfortunately, this isn’t quite the reality. It appears as though, when it comes to women, lesbians are having way more fun than straights. Boo for…
Various reasons can make you feel anxious about your sexual performance but do not despair, these five simple hacks can help you quickly boost your lovemaking performance. 1. Be careful what you eat prior to sex Make sure to carefully monitor your food intake before sex because it can seriously damage your performance. On top…
The LELO UK office has conducted new research to find out with professions across the UK are having the most sex. The results? Farmers top the list of professions having the most sex in comparison to doctors, architects and hairdressers. Professions that have the most sex ranked in order: Farmers Architect Hairdresser Advertising Lawyer &…
Historically, All or Nothing Day (July 26) is a day dedicated to facing our fears, whether that be jumping out of a plane, kissing a girl you’ve liked for a long time or saying goodbye to the nightlight. But in true LELO fashion, we encourage you to use this holiday as an opportunity to ask…
Dirty boys and girls, we’ll always encourage you to use your toys for better sexual wellness, but more importantly, we’ll always encourage you to keep them clean! We don’t need to get into the nitty gritty of lingering bacteria and the not-so-sexy effects it can have on your genitals, so we’ll sum it up and…
Threesomes not only mix up the bedroom dynamic, they also open a whole new world of fun when it comes to finding positions that stimulate all partners simultaneously. Check out these sex positions specifically for female-female-male threesomes that can triple your pleasure ! The Watch & Learn How: The guy enters one of the women…