We’re just sliding into that late autumn/early winter colder months – you know the time: the air is crisp, the sleeves are long and the lattes are pumpkin spiced. But now that the sun is setting earlier and there’s enough of a nip in the air to make an excuse to skip after-work drinks, have…
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Ask a Therapist: Sex, Masturbation & Mental Health
Enjoy our Q&A with sex therapist, Casey Tanner. How can sex help our mental health? There is so much evidence that sex, masturbation, and orgasm can all have amazing benefits on your health and mental health. This is mainly because the same system that is responsible for sex and arousal is also connected to the…
Wild Sex Fantasies From Everyday People
Do you have a vivid imagination? Or in the words of the great Rihanna “Wild, wild thoughts”? You’re not alone. Sexual fantasies are completely normal. They’re the merging of the subconscious world of desire, your libido, and your imagination. You may have sexual fantasies that you have no intention of ever bringing to fruition, but…
How are Seniors Having Sex? An In-depth Senior Sex Study
There may be a good reason grandma and grandpa haven’t returned your phone call. A survey looked at how the sex habits of 2,000 people aged 50 and older changed and found that more than three-quarters have noticed significant changes to their sex life now compared to when they were younger (77%), with 45% saying…
The Evolution of Sex Toys: From Dried Camel Dung to AI Technology
When it comes to sex toys, human beings have always been inventive. Long before the emergence of climax machines like the famous ‘rabbit’ and smart luxury toys that can tell what you want before you want it, people had to make do with what nature had to offer. The oldest sex toy known to man…
LELO Podcast: Safety First, Beginners Guide To Sex Toys
In this week’s episode of the Volonté pleasure podcast, we are joined by a professor of psychology and licensed sex therapist, Dr. Laurie Mintz. We all know that pleasure can take many different forms. However, we’ll be focusing on self-pleasure in this episode. Many people have an aversion to using sex toys, resulting from a…
No Safety, No Pleasure: A Beginner’s Guide To Sex Toys That Won’t Scar You For Life
We already know that pleasure comes in all kinds of different forms. We also know that there is a sweet little thing called self-pleasure time; it can, and if you ask us, should include a special intensifier. Still, some have a particular aversion to using sex toys, perhaps a previous bad experience, a lack of…
Room No. 23, Paris – An Erotic Story
The wheels of the airliner screeched against the runway, bounced and then screeched again. The sudden pressure of the stop tightened the seatbelts against the waists of the travelers. Mrs. Mower startled awake in the cramped seat, her hips aching where the armrests had pressed into them throughout the flight. As the plane stopped at…
Sex Toy Columnist Uses Nothing but LELO’s Enigma for a Month Straight: Here are Her 5 Tips & Tricks
Dubbed the “the Tesla of sex toy companies” by Vice, our latest device has gained much attention, so here’s how to get freaky with it. Enigma launched, and five-star reviews came flying in, stating that it offered women pleasure that was “out of this world”. Giving you the option for both kinds of stimulation, our…
A Beginner’s Guide to Swinging
“I looked down at his penis, decided that he was big enough and then nodded to give my approval, before he started having sex with my partner for the night,” says veteran swinger, Mike. The 52-year-old ex-banker is well-versed in the UK’s sex scene; from Le Boudoir, the member’s club in London, to Vanilla Alternative,…
Stop Hating on Vanilla Sex
Isn’t it ironic how we live in a society that worked on its sex positivity by replacing it with “vanilla-shaming”? Kink-shaming is finally out of style and frowned upon. However, it appears vanilla-shaming has taken its place. After decades of feminists campaigning for equal rights for women, fictional characters such as Anastasia Grey (50 Shades…
SenSonic Technology Q&A: Dr. Zhana
For our October Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about the SenSonic technology. What is SenSonic technology? The SenSonic technology is technology that sends sonic wave pulses that radiate from the mouth of the toy and penetrate deep inside the body and internal portions of the clitoris. It’s like standing in front of…
The Rear Window – An Erotic Story
Ken sat in a wheelchair with his right leg encased in an unfriendly cast. The plaster stretched from his hip to his foot. Only his toes were visible. On the cast was written the immortal words: Here lie the broken bones of Ken. In this hindered state, he was stuck in his apartment, staring either…
Simply the Breast! Engaging in Safe and Erotic Breast Bondage
Did you know that the breasts, or more specifically, the nipples, are a huge erogenous zone? In fact, embracing the nipples activates the same part of the brain as when the vagina, clitoris, and cervix is stimulated. With this information, it’s no wonder that nipple play can be highly arousing, with breast bondage contributing to…
Doctor’s Edition: All the Awkward Things that Happen to Your Body During Sex Explained
Have you ever heard of the man who received oral sex from his partner and ended up with a rotting penis? While lovingly nibbling on his genitals, a woman accidentally made a tiny cut on the tip with her teeth. Unfortunately for the recipient, this wound soon became infected and eventually saw the skin go…
Beating Porn “Addiction”: How to Connect with Your Imagination for Mind-blowing Sexual Experiences
“Am I addicted to porn?” I Googled one evening as the masturbation session came to an end for the fourth time that day. The first thing that popped up of considerable interest was a study by the American Psychological Association (APA) stating that pornography addiction is not recognised or considered a mental health problem or…
Polishing Your Skills: Methods of Female Masturbation
This article was scientifically fact-checked by Human Sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz. After our article focusing on methods for masturbation involving a penis, we received a lot of feedback asking how to masturbate and about female masturbation in general. It’s great to explore what that “feel good” sensation solo, but sharing our tips can help…
The Best Pregnancy Sex Positions You Need To Try
It’s fairly normal for women to feel extremely horny during certain parts of their pregnancy. Of course, with changing body comes challenges that might deter couples from enjoying sex the same way they did before pregnancy. But pregnancy sex can be great, and today we have even six best pregnancy sex positions that offer a…
Friends First? Exploring Demiromantic Relationships
You may or may not have heard of the term ‘demisexual’. For reference, demisexual is when a person only experiences sexual attraction to another when they have a close emotional bond with them. This bond need not be romantic in nature however—it could even be a platonic friendship. Regardless, demisexuality isn’t actually about being sexually…
High Protocol, You Either Love it or You Don’t!
Are you a stickler for the rules? And when someone of authority commands something of you, what’s your reaction? Well, the answer to these two questions will essentially indicate whether you’re a fan of high protocol or not. Lost? Don’t be… it’ll all become clear in a minute! What Does High Protocol Mean in the…
How To Talk Dirty During Sex Even if You’re Shy
Sex columnist Dan Savage explained the art of talking dirty very simply: “Dirty talk for beginners: Tell ’em what you’re going to do, tell ’em what you’re doing, tell ’em what you did.” This formula sounds perfect, but what if you’re shy and struggle with articulating your thoughts? Not all people are comfortable with voicing…
Among the Stars – A Gay Erotic Story
“Oh come on! Knock it off!” The words were followed by a low, breathless chuckle as a calloused hand shoved at his abdomen. He grinned, nuzzling at the nape of the neck under his nose as he tightened his hold on the man in his arms. “But it’s true! You’ve got the most beautiful laugh.”…
Does SONA 2 Really Work? A Clinical Study by the University of Almería
The clinical trial was conducted by the University of Almería Center for Neuropsychological Evaluation and Rehabilitation (CERNEP) in correspondence with the bioethics committee. The device used was the SONA 2 clitoral massager by LELO, which uses patented SenSonic technology to stimulate more of the clitoris in comparison with traditional vibrators. Background Information Female pleasure has…
The World of Smart Sperm
Growing technical advances and societal views have made it possible for many people to reproduce, who might not have been able to otherwise. Although there are certainly financial barriers that keep people from accessing reproductive technologies like in-vitro fertilization (IVF) and intrauterine insemination (IUI), it certainly does level the playing field a bit. With more…
Succumbing to the Lifestyle of Total Power Exchange (TPE)
For some, giving up all control sounds like a nightmare. For others, it’s the ultimate form of freedom. So when two people in the BDSM community pair together, each holding one of these notions, the basic premise for a total power exchange (TPE) relationship has the potential to blossom. What is Total Power Exchange (TPE)?…
Ask Dr. Zhana: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Relationships (DADT)
For our September Q&A with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we’re talking about DADT: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell types of relationships. What’s DADT? Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is a type of relationship where the partners agree that they’re going to have other partners, but that they’re not going to talk about it. They don’t want to know…
The Best Sex Positions That Help Burn Calories
Healthcare specialists advise that adults need 150 minutes of physical activity each week to maintain a healthy body. That roughly translates into 30 minutes 5 times a week, and what better way to get in some physical activity than with sex? If you’re looking to get the best results out of using sex as your…
How To Use INA Wave 2 and Why It’s the Best Choice Rabbit Vibrator
Rabbit vibrators have been the go-to sex toy for many women since the 90s’ when the vibrator first appeared on Sex and the City. While, for the most part, the design of this iconic toy has stayed fairly unchanged throughout the years, the functionality of this sex toy has improved tremendously. Our new Ina Wave…
Train – An Erotic Story
Sitting in the observation car on the Winnipeg-Churchill train, Derrick watched the stunted coniferous trees and muskeg quickly pass by as the train headed north through Canada. He relaxed, lounging in his seat, arms behind his head. A vent below his seat blew warm air against his feet and a steaming cup of almond-flavored coffee…
LELO Podcast: Sex Education in the 21st Century
In this episode, we are taking you back to school, particularly to the classroom of sexual education! As important as this topic is, it seems as though many countries are still lagging in implementing a nationwide SexEd curriculum. What are the reasons behind this? Is SexEd even a teachable science? At would age should we…
Let’s Have a SenSonic Celebration: How SenSonic Technology Works
SONA may have pioneered LELO’s patented SenSonic technology, but now there’s a whole range of diverse sex toys that offer this amazing feature AND they’re on sale for a limited time. What is SenSonic technology? SenSonic technology works on the concept of waves that are sent deep into the body. These sex toys contain small…
“Yes, Mistress!” The Mistress-Slave Relationship, Explained
The majority of us have grown up in a world with imposed rules and regulations. And by following said-rules, we’re being respectful towards authoritative figures, institutions, and each other. The term ‘Mistress’ in the BDSM community is oddly similar… but in the intimate relationship that exists between a dominant and a submissive or a Master/Mistress…
Exploring Platonic Romance
We put a lot of emphasis on our romantic relationships, and for good reason. Romance lights us up, inspires us, and helps us feel that fiery rush of what it means to be alive. Romance, however, isn’t always easy to find, especially amidst a pandemic with off-and-on lockdowns. Even dating apps can be a tricky…
A Closer Look at Shibari, or Japanese Rope Bondage
As a reader of this blog and someone who is obviously curious about the world of sex beyond just what is presented to them in mass media, you’re no doubt familiar with Shibari, even if you don’t know it by name. Shibari, which simply enough means ‘tying’ in Japanese, is a contemporary style of rope…
Is My Penis Normal?
Lads, when was the last time you looked down in the shower? In those first few minutes of the day as your mental modem starts pinging to life and a more dreamlike state affects all you see and perceive, your eyes may just travel all the way down to alight on your dick. Your dick.…
That Time in a Sex Shop – An Erotic Story
I was looking for a way to spice things up in the bedroom when I walked into that sex shop. But I never expected to find what I did. Her plush rosy lips curled into a smile, long blond hair falling down her arched back as she turned her head to me and asked, “How…
A Friend Indeed – A Gay Erotic Story
Spence had worked for A Friend Indeed for nearly three years and, as he was now the employee with the most seniority, he was offered the new clients first. “What do you think?” Gretchen, his boss, asked. “You want this one?” Spence thought it over. “Yeah, I’ll take it, help get it all set up.”…
Frottage Core: Your Guide to Dry Humping
From gardening to baking to knitting, cottage core has been all the rage in recent years. Just ask Pinterest. As lovely as all those things are, we’re not here to talk about cottage core, we’re to talk about frottage core. Say what?! According to the Oxford Dictionary, frottage is “the practice of touching or rubbing…
Sex Toys For Trans-Masc People
Sex toys are for everyone. From traditional ones to newer, innovative toys, these gadgets and devices give people the opportunity to explore and get creative with their pleasure. Many people want to use sex toys, but it can be frustrating or cause gender dysphoria when the toys you’re looking at aren’t represented by people who…
Home Delivery – An Erotic Story
The Friday night drinks party at work was over. I’d been standing around for hours and my new three-inch heels were killing me. I just wanted to go home, treat myself to a nightcap and something to eat, before pulling on one of the old T-shirts my ex had left behind when he had taken…
Private & Professional BDSM Dungeons for Limitless Lust
You’re picturing the ‘Red Room’ from 50 Shades of Grey, aren’t you? And essentially, that is what a BDSM dungeon is… But of course, this book/film series fails to really get into the nitty gritty of what a BDSM dungeon actually is, what to expect in one, do’s and don’ts, and so on. Which is…
LELO Podcast: Love Revolution During the Pandemic
The second episode of our pleasure podcasts takes around the globe to discuss the effects of the ongoing pandemic of human relationships. How has the prolonged time spent together influenced couples? How has the dating scene changed? Or how to deal with the psychological impacts of lockdown? These and many more questions form the basis…
A Starter Guide: What is a BDSM Scene?
So you’re on a journey, learning the BDSM lingo and educating yourself about the different aspects of BDSM life. How fun! We love teaching and empowering our gorgeous readers so that they can live their best and most authentic sex life. And today’s little sex ed lesson is all about BDSM scenes! You may be…
All About International Kinky Day and the Praise Kink
International Kinky Day comes once a year (September 21), but keeps you coming all year round. It’s a day where all kinky-minded people come together to share and act out their desires for 24-hours. This year, we’re dedicating it to the praise kink and answering all your questions about incorporating some non-traditional sex acts into…
How Sex Toys Can Help You in Birth
People don’t often associate birth with sensuality or sex, but the majority of the time – that’s how the person became pregnant in the first place. Many of the sensations and hormones that help aid with arousal, also support people during birth. Believe it or not, sex toys can actually be used during labor! So…
Breathing Down Someone’s Neck… in a Good Way! The Neck Fetish, Explained
There are a number of different things that can float one’s boat. We may not always find it arousing ourselves, but as long as it’s safe, sane, and consensual, hey… you do you! And so, we present to you: the neck fetish. A seemingly innocent part of the body that can really get one’s motor…
Stamina Training with LELO’s F1 V2
LELO’s F1S V2 is your new excuse to spend more time pleasuring yourself. And with good reason! Did you know that masturbation can actually help improve your capacity for longer sex sessions? Yes, that’s right. By pleasuring yourself more, you can do the same to others too. This article goes over the basics of stamina…
The INA Wave 2 Vibrator Will Make You Come Back for More
The recent launch of LELO’s newest WaveMotion technology INA Wave 2 vibrator summons the perfect storm for multiple orgasms. How does it work? Let’s find out. What is WaveMotion technology? The best way to describe WaveMotion technology is picturing a finger making a “come hither” motion. The INA Wave 2 is designed with a feature…
Getting Started with Penis Vibrators and Other Sex Toys for Men
When it comes to shopping around for vibrators, it’s easy to be a little envious of the ladies, who have literally a billion different kinds of vibe to choose from. For every pleasure imaginable, there’s a female sex toy to serve that need–and for curious women, there are a ton of buyer’s guides out there…
Greek Sex: Just an Exotic Euphamism!
Perhaps everything sounds a bit more exotic when you think of Greece. Envision a picturesque island, spending time with friends, lovers, or even yourself, sipping cocktails and having some incredible Greek cuisine. And, well, the same goes for greek sex… it’s kind of just an exotic term for something you already know… What is Greek…