This article was medically reviewed by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist, researcher and award-winning educator. For more information: Website | Publications | Instagram To count the number of emotional and physical feelings we experience within a day would be merely impossible. We can go from happy to anxious, horny to angry, and sleepy to…
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Arousal Non-Concordance, Explained
The human sexual response cycle is a complex phenomenon and is often more complicated than people make it out to be. It’s normal to think that certain signals mean someone is turned on, like men getting erections or women getting wet. That’s not always the case. You may have even experienced this yourself – have…
How Does Sexual Arousal Change Across the Menstrual Cycle?
The menstrual cycle is divided into four phases—each of which are distinctly different. And during each phase, there are a lot of hormonal ups and downs, especially with the hormones estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. Now these changes in hormones can bring about all sorts of moods, behaviors, cravings, energy or lack thereof, motivation, and more. …
Top 5 Foods for Men’s Peak Sexual Health
If your sexual health isn’t what you’d like it to be, your daily habits could be to blame. Things like tobacco, alcohol, and obesity will all decrease your fertility and negatively affect your sexual functioning. Fortunately, there are many simple things you can add to your lifestyle that will get you back on track toward…
Are You Really More Horny on Your Period?
Do you ever find yourself extremely horny while on your period? If the answer is yes, know that you are definitely not the only one. And there are reasons why you might be feeling this way. Our sex drives are ever-changing and fluctuating, and there are a plethora of reasons, external and internal, that can…
Do You Have Post-Pandemic Libido Loss? You’re Not the Only One
Two years on, from the COVID-19 global pandemic, and so much of our lives have changed. Even the things that haven’t changed are charged—charged with feelings of danger, or the feeling that the veneer of ‘normal’ has been cracked (what even was normal, anyway?). As much as we pretend otherwise, things are definitely not the…
Why Am I So Horny? The Science Behind High Libido and How to Manage It
“Why am I so horny recently?” You might be asking yourself that if it’s been five days in a row of having sex with your partner, and yet, on the sixth day, you still wake up ready for another round. Different people have different sex drives, and they can vary depending on various things happening…
Ask a Therapist: Desire Discrepancy Q&A with Casey Tanner
What are things you can do to increase sexual desire with a partner To begin, it’s helpful to understand what kind of desire you and your partner have. There are at least two kinds of desire that we know of: spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Those with spontaneous desire might have the experience of feeling…
How to Think Differently about Low Libido in Lockdown
It’s been a tough year for everyone, and as lockdown measures look set to continue for the next few weeks at least, people are feeling the strain. The stress of living through a global pandemic has also been having a knock-on effect on people’s sex lives. In the early days of the pandemic, it seemed…
Optimize Your Sexy Time: The Best Day and Time to Have Sex & Go On a First Date, Revealed
Ever heard the expression: ‘There’s a place and time for everything’? As cheesy as it may seem, it’s actually shockingly accurate… even when it comes to having sex! So, while you may appear to be more aroused on a Saturday night, or find yourself feeling frisky on a Monday afternoon, we’re here to shatter that…
Dealing with Mismatched Libidos
There are some people who need no prompting in order to ramp up their sexual desires, who either want sex or are receptive to it at all times. Then, there are others who take a little more coaxing or warming up before they get in the mood. Sometimes – read: more often than you think…