We might be familiar with whips, chains, and handcuffs, but bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism — also known as BDSM — is an erotic practice that goes well beyond what we might have read in Fifty Shades of Grey. First and foremost, safe BDSM involves a much more dynamic conversation around consent since power dynamics,…
Some people have the desire to tie up or be tied up, in some sort of restraint, to have a sensory experience and to marvel at the artistic expression. If you’re one of those people or someone who has your interest peaked, you may enjoy the art of rope play. This type of play falls…
If you’ve been thinking about introducing BDSM toys into your relationship, you may be feeling equal parts, intrigue, and nervousness. BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism, and masochism) allows you to not only experience more pleasure in your sex life but can also enhance intimacy and trust. There are a lot of stigma…
If you’re looking to rekindle the spark with your partner, new experiences can help, and role play is just the thing to add a sense of adventure and spontaneity into the mix. Role-playing involves trust between people. It’s a safe space to get creative and share your deepest fantasies and desires. Many people are curious…
Your sex life is a place where you can explore, get creative, and be playful in the pursuit of new levels of pleasure. For those who like to literally switch things up, role-playing can be an incredibly hot way to spice up your sex life. One survey in the U.S. found that up to 22%…
If you’re into some BDSM play, ball gags are a great way to start dipping your toes into some sadomasochism and power-dynamic play. They are sex toys that might look intimidating and a bit weird at first sight but are actually super fun and sexy. So, if you’re curious to learn how to use a…
Most of us have a specific preference when it comes to sexual arousal and being turned on. Whether it’s having a threesome, a spit kink, a foot fetish, or watching porn—we’re so wonderfully unique that the possibilities are endless. But there is a difference between a mere turn on, a kink, or a fetish. So…
You might not know what sensation play is, but we bet you have participated in activities (or fantasized about them) at least once or twice in your life. Some of the more common activities, like spanking your partner’s ass as you pass them in the kitchen or giving your partner a sensual massage, are actually…
If you’re ready to turn up the heat this summer, then wax play might be exactly what you need. It’s a kink that’s been gaining popularity in recent years, with more and more people curious to dabble in the world of kinks. For those curious to try new things, and excited about pleasurable pain, wax…
Saliva is kind of weird, right? A watery liquid secreted into the mouth by glands? But, of course, just like most things in the body, it serves a purpose. Saliva is important because it provides lubricant for chewing and swallowing, which aids in digestion. So, how in the world did saliva (or rather, spitting out…
The world of kink. A sensual playground. A vast land of possibilities to explore new sensations. A place to let your fantasies come to life and explore edges. BDSM and other kinks allow people to explore new frontiers, break down emotional walls, and feel incredible in their bodies. We’re not going to beat around the…
Sometimes, it can be hard to come up with good sexual ideas to make things more exciting for you and your partner. You both are busy with life, so it’s natural that being creative in the bedroom gets harder. If you’re looking for new ideas for experimentation with your partner, then we have a list…
Music is a powerful medium. And did you know that it has the ability to reduce anxiety, lower blood pressure, and improve one’s mood, sleep, mental alertness, and memory? It can also take us back to different moments in time, which is a great way to relieve memories. Today however, we’re going to be talking…
After downloading Tik Tok in an attempt to stay culturally relevant as a journalist and aging millennial, I was introduced to the concept of the soft top. As a sex educator and columnist, I will be boastful and admit that there’s rarely a sexual topic that I’m completely in the dark about, so I was…
Are you looking for BDSM for beginners guide that would help you navigate the world of BDSM when you have no experience but want to explore new, exciting things? Well, then, you’ve come to the right place! Let us guide you through all the BDSM basics, some beginner-friendly toys and accessories, and how to bring…
Ms. Dawn Davis ended the six months of negotiations with a new business trajectory. She and her team of company managers shook hands with a group of government officials. They had come to an agreement on a $20 million engineering contract that would conduct work across the eastern half of the United States. Her company…
He treated it as though it were a typical Saturday – woke up, served her breakfast in bed, then left for the gym and to run a few errands. He had no reason to approach it any differently. After all, she had talked all week about how excited she was to lie around and relax…
“I am an independent, self-sufficient, and confident woman who is in control of her life and is a feminist. Yet I enjoy submissive sex with my partner. Can I really call myself a feminist?!” You might be one of the many women doubting your own choices and loyalty to being a proud feminist because you…
We know what you may be thinking… “Why would I want to make a man cry in the bedroom?”. Well, firstly, we don’t judge! There are many facets to sexuality, and how one experiences arousal and pleasure is not linear nor predictable. Whether you’re wanting to make a man cry in the bedroom in the…
Everyone has at least one kink, however mild it might be. Whether you’re into praising, spanking, or some BDSM role-playing, everything is healthy when practiced safely. But there are some weird kinks out there that you might not be familiar with. So, let’s explore some of the weirdest kinks people have. Sex as a Woman…
While browsing your front page of your most-trusted porn site like XVideos or Pornhub, you’re opening yourself up to a lot of questions. As you become exposed to more and more different sexual proclivities by way of titled thumbnails, you might ask yourself things like “does everyone suddenly want to have sex with their stepmom?”…
With unwavering trust, those who are in a BDSM relationship are able to have a physical and emotional connection that is arguably stronger than any other kind of partnership. That’s because this kind of dynamic requires an immense amount of faith, respect, and vulnerability. Having said that, partners in a BDSM relationship also have a…
Bringing some actual fire into your bedroom can really turn up the heat between the sheets. And yup, after reading what I just wrote, I know this text is going to require a serious safety disclaimer. But brace yourself – we are seriously going to discuss including open flames into your sex life. Fire is…
Sure as there are billions of people on the planet, there are billions of kinks and preferences that turn them on. Admit it: Even you likely have a kink that is a little outside of the norms of what is generally considered ‘normal’ society. Perhaps you’ve got a bit of a penchant for Paraphilic Infantilism,…
We love learning about and seeing people engage in acts that make them feel good, great, and absolutely fantastic! So when we hear of male-indentifying submissives living their best lives with their dominants during a scene of forced feminization, it’s like music to our ears. Now some of you may not have heard of the…
So you’re somewhat of a bondage enthusiast, are you? All things that pertain to binding/being bound, tied up, and restrained piques your interest! On the hunt for new and exhilarating ways to practice bondage? Great! We’re here to tell you all about mummification bondage. Heard of it? Even if you’re a newbie to the world…
There are more than a handful of articles on Volonté regarding different aspects of BDSM. But before you start reading about whips and chains, perhaps a little crash course is in order? You know, for those who don’t really understand everything that it entails, and who are curious about the meaning of BDSM in all…
In this episode, we are going deep into a powerful conversation about bedroom habits from the other side of the fence. We’ll discuss topics such as kink, BDSM, and how to find your place in all of it. Joining us in the studio is Viktor Zahtila, a BDSM practitioner, and on video we have Colette…
Did you know that the breasts, or more specifically, the nipples, are a huge erogenous zone? In fact, embracing the nipples activates the same part of the brain as when the vagina, clitoris, and cervix is stimulated. With this information, it’s no wonder that nipple play can be highly arousing, with breast bondage contributing to…
Are you a stickler for the rules? And when someone of authority commands something of you, what’s your reaction? Well, the answer to these two questions will essentially indicate whether you’re a fan of high protocol or not. Lost? Don’t be… it’ll all become clear in a minute! What Does High Protocol Mean in the…
For some, giving up all control sounds like a nightmare. For others, it’s the ultimate form of freedom. So when two people in the BDSM community pair together, each holding one of these notions, the basic premise for a total power exchange (TPE) relationship has the potential to blossom. What is Total Power Exchange (TPE)?…
The majority of us have grown up in a world with imposed rules and regulations. And by following said-rules, we’re being respectful towards authoritative figures, institutions, and each other. The term ‘Mistress’ in the BDSM community is oddly similar… but in the intimate relationship that exists between a dominant and a submissive or a Master/Mistress…
As a reader of this blog and someone who is obviously curious about the world of sex beyond just what is presented to them in mass media, you’re no doubt familiar with Shibari, even if you don’t know it by name. Shibari, which simply enough means ‘tying’ in Japanese, is a contemporary style of rope…
You’re picturing the ‘Red Room’ from 50 Shades of Grey, aren’t you? And essentially, that is what a BDSM dungeon is… But of course, this book/film series fails to really get into the nitty gritty of what a BDSM dungeon actually is, what to expect in one, do’s and don’ts, and so on. Which is…
So you’re on a journey, learning the BDSM lingo and educating yourself about the different aspects of BDSM life. How fun! We love teaching and empowering our gorgeous readers so that they can live their best and most authentic sex life. And today’s little sex ed lesson is all about BDSM scenes! You may be…
International Kinky Day comes once a year (September 21), but keeps you coming all year round. It’s a day where all kinky-minded people come together to share and act out their desires for 24-hours. This year, we’re dedicating it to the praise kink and answering all your questions about incorporating some non-traditional sex acts into…
There are a number of different things that can float one’s boat. We may not always find it arousing ourselves, but as long as it’s safe, sane, and consensual, hey… you do you! And so, we present to you: the neck fetish. A seemingly innocent part of the body that can really get one’s motor…
The BDSM scene has been growing for a number of years. Thanks to the internet, there are now so many more resources and articles out there can help direct people through new possibilities and experiences for their sex or masturbation. But there are ways to explore BDSM without even leaving your bedroom; thanks to the…
Forget everything you may believe about domination and BDSM in the context of humiliation, discipline and pain. Sensual domination is nothing of the sort. What it is however, is something that’s so erotically delightful that pleasure is amplified for both the dominant and the submissive. What is Sensual Domination? Sensual domination is a kind of…
The notion itself: Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM), doesn’t exactly seem like anything special, does it? Picture a Sunday morning where a female partner is in her pyjamas and her male partner is naked. They’re just hanging out, chatting, making breakfast, or maybe he’s just about to hop into the shower. Now this would be…
Most of us don’t particularly like to be forced into doing things. But when it comes to forced masturbation, there’s actually a kinky appeal to it. It’s kind of like the exception to the rule. For those who enjoy it, that is. So whether the idea intrigues you or not, you know you simply cannot…
We’re all familiar with the term ‘brat’, right? And often it comes with negative connotations. But in a twist, there’s actually a world where being a brat is a desirable trait… that is, in the BDSM community. Well, this is not to say that all those who live the BDSM lifestyle find a brat appealing!…
Perhaps the sassiest queen there is, being a cuckqueen can be entirely erotic… for those who get a thrill out of seeing their partner with someone else. You see, in a world where societal norms dictate how we’re ‘supposed’ to live our lives (you know, get married, have babies, work a boring office job, etc.…
Sure, the word ‘torture’ doesn’t really seem all that appealing, especially for those who aren’t in the BDSM community. But don’t let that turn you off! You see, the practice of post-orgasm torture is not only something enjoyed between two consenting adults who trust and respect one another, but it’s also something that’s arousing and…
Sex is such a dang joy. When we’re deep in the moment with a partner and things round the corner from hot to sizzling, sometimes it can feel like we’re a deep sea diver, heading straight down, down, down to the final prize all the way at the bottom. In those moments, pleasure is a…
It may sound like a nightmare, but actually, engaging in orgasm denial (otherwise known as erotic sexual denial) is one of the sexiest ways to build and maintain arousal! And when one finally does climax, well… it’s definitely something you’ll continue to crave. It’s a practice that can be done solo or with a partner,…
In sex and in life, there are those who seek pain or self-denial as a means for pleasure. On the sexual side of things, masochism can be healthy when explored via BDSM play. However when this spills over into your day to day life things can become complicated. Today we are going to contrast the…
If you’re familiar with the world of BDSM, then you’ve probably seen the community of BDSM practitioners who love to tie each other with elaborate rope knots and hang in the air. This BDSM practice is called shibari, and it originated in Japan and has been growing in popularity throughout the years in the western…
We could spend all day wondering what singular moment in our lives sparked our fantasies of rods and canes. Maybe it was the time we spent in Catholic school taught by nuns, or the way we played with the popular, mean girls as children. Whatever brought you to this moment, your interest in caning has…
To be primal is connected to primal urges, such as protecting oneself or others from harm. It’s often used as a means to talk about animals during hunting or evolutionary development. In Latin, the word ‘primus’ is used which essentially means ‘first’. In this way, it refers to someone seeing themselves or others as the…