A recent survey showed that around two-thirds of women have faked an orgasm. I suspect the remaining third have faked an answer in a recent survey.
That’s not fair, I’m kidding. But it’s safe to say the majority of women have faked an orgasm at some point in their life – or at least given the impression that they’re enjoying sex more than they really are.
(Before anyone in the comments says ‘yeah well men do that too’, I know. This isn’t about them.)
Any sexologist worth their saltiness will explain in detail how and why faking it has a negative impact on sexual satisfaction. Especially in a long-term relationship, amplifying the amount of pleasure to make it seem more than it really is will only encourage the partner to continue, when instead some minor changes might enhance the experience for both of you.
So why do we do it? What compels us to pretend to be orgasmic when really, we’re… not?
There are three primary reasons:
- 57% of women who fake it do so because they want their partner to feel successful
- 44% just wanted it to end because they were bored or tired
- 37% didn’t want their partner to feel bad because they liked them
Ok, so those are the overarching reasons that women give for feigning climax. To understand these reasons, we need to look at the reasons behind the reasons. Sounds reasonable.
The team that conducted the study that produced the statistics above (their results can be found here ) have theories. Well, one theory, and it’s kind of obviously true. They believe that a lack of sexual communication is partially responsible for orgasm acting.
It makes perfect sense. If we don’t feel comfortable telling a partner how we want to be touched for whatever reason, or if they’re not willing to be receptive to it for whatever reason, then what chance do we have of our desires being satisfied?
On the other hand, if we’re comfortable to express what we want and how, and our partners are receptive to it, then the outcome can only be positive for both of us. So what’s stopping us?
In the study, the majority of women who said they regularly fake climax do so because they find talking explicitly about sex embarrassing. They said that the discomfort of talking about unsatisfying sex was more desirable than the unsatisfying sex itself. So they put up, and shut up. (Or should that be put out, and shout out?)
As you might expect, it was the youngest age bracket in the study, 18-24, who were far more reluctant to communicate what they really wanted . But of all the women who said that fake it frequently, 55% said that they wanted to talk about it, but decided not to out of a combination of the need to protect their partner’s feelings, discomfort going into sexual details, and straight-up embarrassment.
Now, how about this for a fun little bit of sex trivia? The authors of the study found that women who “strongly agreed” with the statement “I feel comfortable using the word clitoris” were significantly more likely to report higher levels of sexual satisfaction compared to those who “strongly disagreed” with the statement.
So go to the bathroom, look your reflection in the eye, and just repeat the word ‘clitoris’ over and over again. Just… make sure no one’s around, yeah?
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