As an openly gay therapist who specializes at the intersection of couples and sex therapy, a large number of the clients I see are also gay. And one of the dynamics I often bump up against with these clients in particular is the gap between sexual and relational compatibility . Meaning that while a person…
When your mother asks you to wear a matching dress with your younger sister, don’t fight her. When the girl who spends most of her time in school suspensions calls you a freak, just smile and shrug. When the boy who had sex with his family dog calls you a freak, remember to punch him…
Is masturbation cheating? It’s one of those little questions that shouldn’t matter, and it doesn’t, until it really does. Like, ‘do we have enough oxygen?’ or ‘what happens if you cross a cat with a T-Rex?’ Despite a growing amount of flexibility in our relationships, the majority of our relationships are largely monogamous , and…
Dear Younger Queer Self, By the time you hit 30, you still won’t have everything figured out, but that’s OK. It turns out nobody else has it figured out either. By the time you’re 30, you’re a well seasoned adult who is still none the wiser. Sexuality still isn’t black and white and, unfortunately, labels…
Dear younger self, If I could offer just one piece of advice to help you navigate the road ahead, it would be this… Fuck the box. That’s it. Just fuck the box. Fuck the labels and the dogmas and the -isms that goes with them. Do your best to be the best version of yourself…
While there are many theories about when and where No Panty Day originated, this act of liberation aims to break the taboos surrounding having to wear panties in public. Let’s be real, we’ll take any excuse to get naked , but this day reminds us that it’s for good reason. Here’s how and why you…
Sex is great for just about everything. It can even make your hair glossier. But it can be hard work, and good sex requires at least some level of physicality. Today, we look at five ways exercise can benefit your sex life. Get some. Positive Body Image That moment, when you catch a reflection of…
Being queer is not a choice, but it does involve many choices. Here’s how yours turned out… When you were 9 and demanded “a boy’s haircut”, and everyone made fun of you, including your teachers at school, and you decided not to care, you were right. You went home from a day of being ridiculed,…
The social pressure to conform to conventional standards, and the sense of being different from the rest of the multitude, are sources of considerable amounts of stress for many of us. Whether it’s ethnicity, gender, sexual identity, or any combination of these things, those of us who are categorized us ‘minorities’ often feel that pressure…
It had been weeks since she first told him that she wanted to try something new. Late one night, after having finished making love, she turned to him and asked what he would think of her if she wanted to be tied up. His arousal grew instantly in that moment. In the following weeks, as…
Ok, so you’ve decided to have a threesome. Cool. The first thing I’m going to say is this: your sex life does not define you. It says absolutely nothing about what kind of woman you are or about your values and beliefs. It took me a long time to really understand this, and when my…
There are a lot of questions that arise before thinking about coming out (a metaphor used by the LGBTQ+ community referring to revealing your sexual identity) to your friends, family, workplace, etc. How do I tell them? When? What will they say? Is it even worth it? It’s important to weigh the pros and cons…
Before I put another notch in my lipstick case You better make sure you put me in my place Pat Benatar, Hit Me with Your Best Shot Shawn sat at the faux oak boardroom table in the cool room, waiting for the meeting to start. Evelin sat down across from him. He looked up in…
Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) like Prozac, Zoloft, Lexapro, and many others, are antidepressants that can help treat depression and anxiety. That’s good. They’re used by millions around the world, and they wouldn’t be prescribed if their effects weren’t generally positive. What’s more, the more they are used, the more they are studied, and the…
When Harry and I first met his bicep was the size of my head, and his chest was a forest of black curls my fingers would traverse every night until my eyes turned from open to closed. The forest has thinned out within the last five years and no longer gets nightly visitors. Now my fingers are…
Let’s get straight to it… you should be enjoying (more) sex! Whether it’s for all of the added mental and physical health benefits , pleasure, or even to strengthen your relationship. But for couples who don’t instinctively ‘hop to it’ like rabbits every hour on the hour, (do these people even exist?!) intiating sex can…
May was, once again, Masturbation Month , a whole month of masturbatory glee invented in the 90s by an enviously forward-thinking sex toy store in New York. And yet, despite us having a month of open frivolity (and rampant sex toy marketing), the discussion of masturbation in public is still considered taboo. That’s frustrating for…
Gomenasai! R. and I were in all the same college classes and would drive home down the coast on weekends together. Mostly to see our families, but on a practical level, to pick up care packages and clean clothes that would see us through another week in school. The “studying”, while probably necessary if you’d…
By now you’ve realized that most mainstream lesbian erotic films are quite literally in the business of producing fantasy, not reality. Thus, many women who are interested in exploring same-sex attraction, may feel ill-prepared to actually pursue another woman for fear of ‘not knowing what to do’ in bed. Below, we take a look at…
The Queen was standing robed in the middle of the greatroom, her dark tendrils of hair loose and wild falling near her navel. Tonight was a bloodmoon, and the virgin sacrifice would be made. The virgin was beckoned to approach the Queen. Heart racing, she approached the Queen who smiled. “My child,” she crooned so…
The news was a distant murmur in the background as the coffee pot on the stove began to hiss and tremble as it filled the kitchen with the bitter sweet smell of forgotten escapes. Places visited many lifetimes ago when you could soak up the tastes and smells of exotic destinations which were now just…
When we hear the word introvert, most of us imagine a person with robot-like social skills. Such extremes, however, are relatively rare, which is exactly what makes them extreme. In reality, there’s a continuous scale between absolute introversion and extroversion and almost all of us fall somewhere in between. Nevertheless, the fact that we gravitate…
Let’s face it, that moment, the moment when he enters you and lets out that moan that you’ve been waiting for, that’s ecstasy. We’ve been toying around with eachother for days, getting on with odd jobs, barely having the time to pause and notice our own company. Except for the occasional tantilising glance or a…
A myth is a widely held but false belief. A vibrator is a motorised device used for sexual stimulation. Put them together, and you have a formula for trouble. Quite a lot of people believe some very strange things about sex toys, and when lots of people believe strange things, it rarely ends well. So…
Sabrina’s right hand hovered tentatively over her mouse, the cursor poised to click Broadcast. While she’d always found the idea of showing off for others a huge turn-on, she’d never dared to actually act on this fantasy. She’d come close a few times – and had even registered on an amateur cam site – but…
Why use weighted vaginal beads? As you move, LELO Beads Plus give off a gentle kinetic vibration that helps you gradually achieve stronger and longer orgasms. This set contains 6 different beads so that you can find the best combination for your pleasure, and increase it as you train. The extra soft silicone brings ultimate…
“Now. You’ll stay there until I decide otherwise.” The words echoed in her ears still. He’d sounded calm, almost bored, but she could hear the underlying irritation. She knew she shouldn’t have done it… They’d just been holed up in the house for so long! How could he expect her to behave when they were…
Looking to add something new to solo or partnered play? LYLA 2 and Hula Beads are remote-controlled vibrators by LELO that add a new dimension and internal stimulation to intimacy. How LYLA 2 and Hula Beads Work The LYLA 2 and Hula Beads are rechargeable devices that can be operated via easy-interface remotes. Take pleasure…
I live in a little, old two-story Dutch revival I bought with my boyfriend Chris three years ago. Expensive, so… two roommates. Marcus and Jason, great guys and friends of Chris’ from college. The house is adorable on a tree-lined street in a quiet little neighborhood. It’s super cozy and I love hanging out in…
As I walked up the front steps of our townhouse, my mind wandered to my wife to whom I had been married almost two months. We had avoided sex before getting married but had some very erotic make-out sessions that will stay with me forever. For a while at the beginning of our marriage, it…
Indulge with ultimate relaxation and stress removal with LELO’s newest body massager, Smart Wand 2 . Designed with the best technology and quality, it offers a steady handle with powerful vibrations that offer relieving and erotic pleasure. Smart Wand 2 Specifications Materials: Silicone, PC, ABS Size: 304 x 80 x 60 mm / 11.97 x…
The pressure of quarantine pushed people from their apartments. Aysa sat on her fire escape on the fifteenth floor of the old apartment building, soaking in the respite. But respite wasn’t the only reason she was there. Several stories below, on the top of the neighboring apartment building, was a secret garden. The garden was…
They don’t call it a triple threat for no reason. SORAYA Wave is a luxurious rabbit vibrator that moves in new waves. The “wave” means that aside from vibrating and offering a multitude of pleasure patterns, the toy also moves its two arms in a “come hither” motion to stimulate you into a dual orgasm…
As Celest writhed under the blankets, her body swaddled within the sheets, dampness seeped from her pussy, activating a deep throbbing inside. Within their spoon she could feel his swollen member against her arse, teasing her anus with the tip of his well lubed cock. She pressed herself into him, willing him to slide into…
We get a lot of feedback from our wonderful readers, and as June is Pride month, we are going to be tackling some of the questions we’ve received from our LELO fans in the LGBTQ community. Q: Dear LELO, I’ve been a big fan of your products and blog for a few years, but I…
Isolation, day 32… It was time to put her plan into action, after all it was her turn now… Starting with her outfit, Sarah dressed in a leather bustier with a handy side zipper for easy removal when the time came and a pair of knee-high stiletto leather boots completed it, panties she decided weren’t…
You are either about to become “someone’s penis forever” or just locked down one of your own, congrats! Now it’s time to gather the boys and show them you care about their pleasure, too. Check out the sexiest bachelor party gift ideas that will be sure to make your future husband or groomsmem blush on…
Humans aren’t good at interpreting big numbers and large datasets. Our minds don’t compute large, diverse data sets on an individual basis. What we do, with everything, is group them together, and segment things, to make them easier to process on larger scales. We do it all the time, it’s how we’ve evolved to be…
The television hums— “…The number of confirmed cases has surpassed 985,000…” My eyes glaze over as the reporter drones on. I’ve heard it all before, and it just gets worse each day. This shit’s inescapable. As frightening as it is, who knew the end of the world would be so… fucking dull? Stay the fuck inside. That’s…
One month since the beginning of confinement. My boyfriend is spending his days in endless phone calls and zoom meetings while I stay parked in the bedroom, not allowed to show my face. As a freelance journalist, I am used to staying at home. Unfortunately, I am facing my worst case of writer’s block and…
Meet your new favorite personal trainers. The LELO Smart Bead and Hula Beads are devices designed to help you enjoy longer, stronger, and more regular orgasms. How LELO Smart Bead and Hula Beads Work Wearable vibrators, pelvic floor trainers, vibrating eggs. You probably have some sort of idea, but the LELO Smart Bead and Hula…
Maybe it’s all the time I spend starring at these four damn walls all day but… “One more minute,” she shouts through the door. …that minute seemed like a lot to ask of me right now. Especially with a necktie on. Dress up for date night, sure, I can appreciate that. But please, don’t make…
Sexual relationships and intimacy are complicated. And when identity and sexual politics gets thrown into the mix, this can create an even more complex situation. Being communicative about a range of issues including sexual limits, identity politics, your STI and HIV status, and more can help create a safer and better sexual experience for all…
There are many perks to masturbation. One, you can do it anywhere and at any time (within reason, of course), and also… you know your body better than anyone else. So why limit yourself to masturbating in bed when you could enjoy other fun and fantastic ways to engage in self-pleasure? Today, we’ll be looking…
Lascivious ravagement She strode down the long hallway enjoying the pleasurable experience of the fine silk fabric against her nipples. Her négligé barely covered the curve of her behind and the darkness at her front. She felt freedom as a gentle bouncing followed the rhythm of her walk. Usually this solitude was her most prized…
“Do not criticize autosexuality, it’s making love with someone you like,” Woody Allen (Annie Hall) Autosexual, in a nutshell, is when someone has sex with, and is sexually attracted, towards oneself. It’s a complex term, prompting a fair amount of questions and curiosities. For example: Does it entail a person thinking of themselves during self-love? …
Day 1 of Isolation My relationship had always been pretty vanilla. The sex was always great, but we never really pushed any boundaries. It never felt lacking, but we were both busy people. Experimentation wasn’t really a priority. You could probably blame this on the boredom. Being at home together was great, but doing nothing…
Remember in school, when your trigonometry teacher would threaten you with, “Pay attention! You’re going to need this one day…”? Most of us never ended up dreading the day in our adult lives when trigonometry would pop out from behind some tree that was perfectly perpendicular to the ground. In fact, the only knowledge from…
It was my birthday, and he’d so far ignored me all day, despite my efforts to look extra special today. I’m not annoyed with him, I just hoped for something special, since it was my first birthday with him. I was in our kitchen cooking my own birthday meal, my favourite spaghetti pomodoro, while I…
There’s a lot to look forward to with the ELISE 2 and MONA 2 vibrators by LELO. They’re sleek, sophisticated, and mindfully crafted as a tool to help you achieve your best solo or partnered sex. Vibrators are a wonderful and versatile toy for beginners and pros alike to step-up their play time and explore…