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Empower Your Life with Adult Sex Education

Beyond The Basics: What Adult Sex Education Really Means Let’s be honest: the sex education many of us received in school wasn’t always comprehensive. This section explores what adult sex education truly encompasses, going beyond the sometimes insufficient lessons from our younger years. It’s about understanding how adult-focused learning tackles age-specific topics that typical school…

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Learn About Sex: Proven Tips for Better Intimacy

Why Learning About Sex Actually Matters Learning about sex goes far beyond the basic biology. It’s about developing healthier relationships, improving self-confidence, and promoting overall well-being. Understanding your body and desires is deeply connected to a positive self-image. This self-awareness helps you communicate your needs and make informed decisions about your sexual health. Understanding the…

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Couple’s Guide to Mismatched Sex Drives

The Truth About Mismatched Sex Drives in Relationships Let’s talk about something many couples struggle to discuss: differing sex drives. It’s surprisingly common, and acknowledging this is the first step toward a healthier relationship. This isn’t about assigning blame, it’s about understanding each other and strengthening your bond. Desire Fluctuations: A Normal Part of Relationships…

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How to Last Longer in Bed: Expert Tips You Can Trust

Understanding the Science of Sexual Endurance Before exploring techniques to improve sexual stamina, it’s helpful to understand the science behind it. Sexual endurance isn’t just about physical strength; it’s a complex interplay of physical and psychological factors. Everything from your current arousal level to underlying anxieties and your body’s physical responses play a role. Understanding…

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Couples Sex Education: Enhance Your Connection

Why Modern Relationships Need Sexual Education Many assume sexual education is just for teenagers. However, many couples receive little guidance on how to build a fulfilling intimate life together. This lack of shared knowledge can significantly affect long-term relationship happiness. Differing expectations about intimacy, unspoken desires, and changing needs can create friction and misunderstandings. Couples…

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How to Talk Dirty: Expert Tips for Intimate Connection

The Psychology Behind Powerful Dirty Talk Verbal stimulation, often called dirty talk, plays a crucial role in intimacy. It goes beyond physical touch, activating multiple pleasure centers in the brain. This connection between language, emotion, and neurobiology explains the power of words in intimate moments. When we hear arousing words, our brains release dopamine, the…

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How to Pleasure a Woman: Expert Guide

The Science of Female Pleasure: What Actually Works Understanding female pleasure is a journey of discovery, exploring the intricate connections between mind, body, and emotions. It’s about moving beyond the purely physical to create truly fulfilling intimate experiences. This involves personalized attention and recognizing the unique needs of each individual. The Mind-Body Connection A woman’s…

Sex Therapy or Marriage Counseling: What’s the Difference?

Truthfully, there are a few ways you could answer this question. And that’s because in some cases, there’s a clear distinction between sex therapy and marriage counseling. However, in many situations, these two modalities are like songs that have found their way into a bangin’ mashup. Let’s first take a closer look at each specialty:…

What Women Need From their Partners During Perimenopause

So, everything’s moving along with the woman in your life. You’ve been together for a long time, and you know each other better than anyone else. You get how she deals with emotional issues, stress, illness, injury. And you know how to provide comfort to her during hard times. And then, out of the blue…something…

Want A Better Sex Life? Pay Attention to These Habits.

Sex is a natural, involuntary drive in most humans, so we usually don’t think we have to do anything about it. There’s a stimulus –  a thought, a visual, or even a scent (the ones we can’t detect, like pheromones, and the ones we can, like perfume) – and then poof, here comes the horny.…

3 Things You Can Do Today to Improve Your Sex Life

You know what’s universal? As in, common to literally everyone? Well, when it comes to our sexuality, the answer is: absolutely nothing. That said, there are 3 things all of us can do – at any time – that will improve our sex lives. #1: Address Your Stress If you thought I was going to…

Porn and Your Sex Life: Helpful or Harmful?

Since time immemorial, the association between porn and men has been undeniable. Not all porn, and not all men, of course. But even individuals who frown upon it aren’t surprised by the connection. And since it’s more accessible and plentiful than ever before, it’s worth asking about both potential benefits and negative consequences. The right…

Is Your Sex Life Merely Chug Chug Chugging Along?

Are you sex-stuck? Yup, I just made that up. But please, feel free – make it a hashtag. You know you wanna. Here’s what I’m really asking:   is your sex life yawn-inducing? Same ol’ same ol’? BOR-ING??!! Don’t worry – we’ve got you. If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, sex can be deprioritized for…

Foreplay: Who’s it for? Everyone.

Sometimes, we are so turned on, so turned up, so tuned in that our bodies are not our own. We want be one with another (or, a good vibrator). The need to have sex – but mostly to get off – is primal, and occasionally a quickie is just what the hormones ordered. But please,…

Is Micro-Cheating a Thing?

Have you heard the term “micro-cheating”? Maybe you think it’s just the latest in a long line of fabricated TikTok hashtags designed for easy click bate. But actually, micro-cheating refers to real life behaviors that can wreak havoc on relationships. While there isn’t one reigning definition of micro-cheating, most experts agree with what Psychology Today…

How Does Affection Affect Long-Term Relationships?

When a relationship is new, it’s filled with excitement, warmth and goodwill. Most people – even those who aren’t touchy feely – enjoy some type of physical connection that isn’t necessarily sexual. Holding hands, arms around one another, hugs, playing footsie – all of these behaviors signal “hey – I really want you in my…

How to Arouse a Man with Low Testosterone

Low testosterone levels can cause a multitude of health problems; obesity, heart disease, osteoporosis, brain fog, lethargy, and even depression can all be traced to low testosterone levels . One aspect of this condition that is always challenging to treat, is the accompanying low libido that plagues many men. Some men simply lose their appetite…

Celebrating Pride & Diverse Relationships

Happy Pride! While I’m a firm believer in celebrating the LGBTQ2IA+ community each and every day of the year, I’ll gladly take a month of publicly acknowledging the contributions of queer individuals, of uplifting those who call for equality and kindness and love and for speaking out on behalf of those who can’t because their…

The New Menopause Movement

“Why is it so hard to find information about this?” my clients in peri/menopause ask me with earnest desperation. My usual retort?  “Well, consider the fact 100 years ago, the average life expectancy for women was 60. So, the minute someone started to complain of hot flashes or night sweats, funerals were planned”. It’s not…

Finally, an OTC Birth Control Pill

Something happened in March of this year that should have happened a long time ago. The very first over-the-counter birth control pill approved by the FDA was made available without a prescription in pharmacies all across America. “Opill ”, a progestin-only tablet, has been around for decades, but it’s manufacturer, Perrigo, says it took 9…

How Does Toxic Masculinity Harm Men?

What is toxic masculinity? Before we even define the term, we need to know more about the second word than the first, more incendiary one. Masculinity can have lots of different meanings across individuals, families, cultures and societies. Merriam Webster says that masculinity is “the quality or nature of the male sex : the quality, state, or…

Mindfulness Really Can Improve Your Sex Life

Many people are under the impression that mindfulness exercises should be practiced in total silence. And while, sure, that’s ideal in some instances, the beauty of mindfulness is that you can depend on it no matter your environmental circumstances. Any mindfulness instructor will tell you that sometimes it’s more important to be present and grounded…

Is HRT the End-All-Be-All?

Just a few short years ago, anyone with a uterus was hard-pressed to find accurate and evidence-based information on peri/menopause. And then, like pennies from heaven, it was all around us. Social media, talk shows, blogs, newspaper and magazine articles were finally giving us and our lived experiences the respect we deserved. While those of…

Spice It Up: It’s All About the Novelty

It’s inevitable – long-term partners are gonna get bored. Maybe it’s the conversation, your daily routine or the same old weekend plans. At some point, sex might also morph into a yawn-apalooza. Being with a long-term partner can mean a lifetime of love, connectedness, commitment and care. And contrary to popular belief, it can also…

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Clitoris VS G-Spot – Are they the same?

Ladies, let’s get real about the rockstars of your pleasure zones – the clitoris and the legendary G-spot . These two areas are absolute showstoppers when it comes to experiencing mind-blowing orgasms. Buckle up because this guide is about to blow your mind (and potentially other things!) First up, the clitoris. This pea-sized powerhouse is…

Does Stress Affect Fertility?

It’s generally accepted by the medical community that chronic stress can lead to wide-ranging physical and behavioral health issues. When we experience any kind of upset, our nervous systems trigger the “fight-flight-freeze” response. That’s a protective function. But when it happens too frequently, and if we aren’t able to manage symptoms, we’re at increased risk…

Erectile Dysfunction in Younger Men Is Common. But Why?

Years ago, I was interviewed for an article on Erectile Dysfunction in young men. It was interesting to talk to a young female reporter who knew absolutely nothing about the subject. She sent me a long list of questions and we had several long discussions on the phone. I thought that this was a great…

How Open Should I Be with my Doctor?  

It’s generally accepted among medical providers that the more information a patient shares, the better the care they can provide. There are very strong arguments for accurately answering everything a doctor asks you about your medical history and your current health and well-being.  But what if there are details you don’t want to share because…

Should You Stalk Your Ex and Why is it So Addictive? 

(Trigger Warning: while the word “stalk” appears in the blog below, please note that it’s being used in the non-menacing vernacular (as a synonym for “search”). The origin of the word means something entirely different – “stalking” in its original form is of serious nature and potentially dangerous. If you believe you are the victim…

So, When Do I Get My Pap Now?

It used to be so simple. You went to see your gynecologist once per year. Your breasts would be checked, you’d have the dreaded pelvic exam that included STI testing and the pap, and then you’d be on your merry way. Phew, check that off the list until next year! But in recent years, things…

What Does Cholesterol Have to do with Sexual Health?

You probably think that hamburgers and ice cream are only bad for your waistline, right? But what if they could actually put your sexual health in jeopardy? Read on to discover the important links between cholesterol and sexual health that all men should know. High Cholesterol Can Cause Erectile Dysfunction Many people see erectile dysfunction…

Authentic- The Word of the Year

Bet you couldn’t avoid “Best Of” lists last month as the year came to a close. Professional critics, influencers, and amateur bloggers alike love to get in on it, giving their seals of approval to a wide swath of items such as books, movies, sports highlights, gifts for hard-to-please Aunt Edna, sex toys (maybe Aunt…

How Trauma Can Affect Your Relationship 

If you’ve experienced trauma – whether as a child or an adult – and if you haven’t received the support you need in order to process it thoroughly, relationships can be tricky.   Before we jump into the interpersonal, let’s get a sense of what trauma is. The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Administration (SAMHSA)…

Sex in the Media: Explore or Ignore – “Naked Attraction” 

You might think this British series is a spoof on other titles with similar names, but you would be wrong. “Naked Attraction ” is actually as literal as literal gets.  Here’s the premise: a person looking for love (dressed – at least at first) gives the once-over to six fully nude people, each of whom…

Top 5 Foods for Men’s Peak Sexual Health

If your sexual health isn’t what you’d like it to be, your daily habits could be to blame. Things like tobacco, alcohol, and obesity will all decrease your fertility and negatively affect your sexual functioning. Fortunately, there are many simple things you can add to your lifestyle that will get you back on track toward…

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Female A-Spot Meaning

What is the female A-Spot meaning, you ask? Okay, gather around, folks, because we’re about to dive into the saucy secrets of the A-spot! That’s right, this isn’t your grandma’s talk about the birds and the bees. Forget about Atlantis, the real lost city of wonder is the A-spot, and it’s about time we put…

Reduce Stress and Have Sex This Holiday Season  

Let’s get right down to what you already know: the holiday season is upon us and that usually means a lot of added stress. The big headline? Stress and sex rarely mix. So, with all the travel and traffic and meal prep and gift lists and décor pressure and family pressure, etc., who can possibly…

Male Anatomy Explained

It’s a common myth that men think about sex every seven seconds. However, a study conducted at Ohio State University  suggests the real number is likely closer to 19 times a day. Regardless of the figure, you can guarantee most of those thoughts concern getting busy between the sheets, and not what happens in the body. A…

I Love to Laugh: A Meditation Guide

There are a lot of different types of meditations to choose from and one of them is Laughter Meditation. Laughing comes from deep inside us and there’s always a healthy supply. You may be self-conscious at first but laughing out loud, not texting it (lol), breaks up tension in the body as it relaxes the…

Why Children Need Sex Ed 

Parenting would be a lot easier if it were like baking – exact ingredients, precise directions, specific chocolate-to-dough ratio, and voila! The perfect chocolate chip cookie! (Um, I mean, kid).  While there’s literally no one specific recipe for raising children, a lot of parents incorporate informed decision-making in their approach. Choosing if, how, and when…

How is Andropause Diagnosed?

Andropause is similar to its female counterpart, menopause , and refers to declining levels of testosterone in aging men. Often referred to as Low T, this condition isn’t as widely understood as menopause, making it difficult for both patients and physicians to recognize. Fortunately, diagnostic tools for measuring testosterone levels are improving, making it easier…

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