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In my opinion, women can have it all — whatever they want to have, that is: a career, babies, no babies, friendships, marriage, polyamory in lieu of marriage, girls-only orgies, whatever. The one catch? When it comes to sex, when your schedule involves a 6:30 a.m. cycling class and concludes with 9 p.m. dinner reservations, finding the energy to have sex after a long day often seems harder than getting up after the third press of the snooze button.

You know the feeling: You’ve finally gotten home and flopped down on your bed, half-asleep, thinking “Yeah, I could have sex right now, but I don’t feel like

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When Lorelei Lee texted me days after the presidential election to ask if I would join a chartered bus to Washington D.C. to protest the inauguration of Donald J. Trump, I knew there was no better way for me to experience the sure-to-be-historic day. Lorelei and I have done sex work together for many years, tormenting the men who opened their wallets for us in East Bay dungeons and shoving vibrators on each other in San Francisco porno palaces. She’s the kind of adult film legend who mobilizes her fans to donate hundreds of dollars to

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Perfect=free of flaws, mistakes, and shortcomings; An ideal situation. Something perceived as perfect is relative and subject to the eye of the beholder. Therefore, what is perfect for me maybe not be perfect for you. Since something perfect is completely dependent on individual’s opinion, when used to describe a general standard for a relationship, it is completely irrational.

Now that the definition of perfect is established, allow me to reiterate that a perfect relationship does not exist. “Tell me something I don’t know,” you may s

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Let’s face it: Long-distance relationships can be rough.

If you’ve been there, you know it all too well. It’s difficult to balance your friendships and your career with any romantic relationship, let alone one in which you don’t get to see the other person whenever you want. Plus, while romantic relationships can be wonderfully fulfilling, they’re work as it is. Factor in time differences, busy schedules, and miles apart, and you could really start feeling the strain.

But, thanks to technology, maintaining a LDR these days is easier than ever. Though IRL face time is o

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Have you ever heard of the phrase “Whats yours is mine and whats mine is mine?”
This type of thinking is the stem of many financial problems in relationships. Many people in relationships adapt the idea “I work hard for my money so I do with it as I please.” However, not telling your partner what you do with your money is what I refer to as Financial Infidelity.

We are seriously living in a time when both men and women in relationships ar

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Social media is evolving and its obvious that it now has a strong impact on our romantic relationships. Whether it’s in a positive or negative way, the effects of social media has definitively changed the way we experience our romantic relationships. Social media has facilitated the intertwining of our past relationships with our current ones. You are probably wondering what I mean by that. I’m referring to the easy accessibility social media gives us to our EXs. With that being said, being friends with your EX is probably not the smartest thing to do especial

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In my post 10 Things That Love Is, I listed Honesty  as a representation of love. We all want to believe that the person we are in a romantic relationship with is completely honest with us. However, Mark L Knapp, a renown author and professor of Communications, states that it is not uncommon that people even in close relationships are likely to be in situations in which honesty will not be practiced. Believe it or not, deception plays a complex role in romantic relationships.

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When we are in a healthy relationship it feels like the best thing in the world. Having someone there that we can confide in, and share special memories with makes us feel like we’re on cloud nine. But, how healthy is the relationship? One thing I’ve noticed with relationships is one person tends to forget about him or herself. They get so caught up in making their partner happy, that they stop doing what makes them happy.

There is nothing wrong with putting your all into a relationship, but often we stop doing what made that person fa

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Science does not play a big role in the subject of love. Some researchers recognize love as a reality while others consider it to be a fantasized construct to give a meaningless life meaning. The renown Harvard sociologist, Pitirim Sorokin, in his book The Ways and Power of Love explains: “Sensate minds disbelieve in the power of love. It appears to us something illusionary. We call it self-deception, the opiate of people’s minds, idealistic bosh, unscientific delusion.”

My post focuses on this

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I recently had an interesting conversation with a friend of mine who is having trouble keeping his ex at a distance. His ex doesn’t seem to understand the concept of breaking up and she has become a nuisance to him and his NEW relationship. She constantly calls to have small talk and to make matters worse, she revealed her goal of trying to mend things between the two to hopefully get him back. I understand she might be going through the painful and unpleasant stage of the breakup, but ce

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A controversial bill has been introduced in New Hampshire that would require sexual assault victims to corroborate their testimony if the accused had no prior convictions, ABC News reports. Those in support of the bill feel this will prevent wrongful convictions and false accusations, while those in opposition feel it’s tantamount to giving pedophiles and rapists a get out of ja

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Committing to a monogamous relationship means two partners have a mutual understanding that they won’t see other people. However, many of us can point to a time, either in our lives or someone else’s, when that trust was broken. That could mean we were cheated on, cheated with, or did the cheating ourselves (or witnessed any of the above happen to someone we knew).

If you’ve ever experienced cheating or seen it in TV and movies, the excuse is often the same: “It just…happened.” But what happened? And why? The details are frequently spared in an effor

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In the December 13 episode of Dan Savage’s podcast Savage Lovecast, one listener called in to report a very specific problem with her boyfriend. “Things are good, but one thing is that he constantly monitors what I eat,” the call begins. She goes on to detail some habits that are a bit concerning.

For instance, the caller describes herself as a healthy, active person, but her boyfriend frequently orders for her at resta

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Forget that hackneyed (and extremely dreary) single person’s Valentine’s Day “Survival Guide.” We’re breaking down six kickass ways to treat yourself and celebrate friendships in Cupid&#8217

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As anyone who’s been on a family vacation can tell you, if you spend a lot of time with a person, they’re bound to end up annoying you. Accepting the good and bad in someone is a big part of relationships, especially when the “bad” just ends up being kind of hilarious.

Sometimes the weirdest things bother you for absolutely no reason. I’ve snapped on people for cracking their knuckles, singing in the car, and talking when I can hear that they need to clear their throat. It’s irrational and ridiculous, but I can’t help it and neither can t

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On Tuesday, Bella Thorne retweeted a collection of nude photos, posted by anonymous Twitter user @comproimse, that were allegedly of her ex, Gregg Sulkin. There were three pictures: one of half of Sulkin’s face, one of a person’s chest, and one of a person’s penis. Provided the photos are of who the poster says they are, an

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Heartbreak doesn’t just hurt, it often feels impossible. So many questions come along with the pain: How can I move on? How do I get through this? Will it ever get better?

It will, promise. Anyone who’s come out the other side of a breakup knows that. But if you’re currently in the trenches of a potent heartbreak, that’s not exactly comforting. We won’t sugarcoat it: The unfortunate truth is that having a broken heart sucks and it’s going to continue to suck — until it doesn’t.

However, the good news

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Much like everyone’s “first time” story, women’s IUD experiences are often completely unique. Some insertions feel like just another annual exam. For other women, it’s the worst pain they’ve ever felt.

Granted, no one birth control is right for everyone, but the T-shaped IUD has certainly been gaining traction. According to Planned Parenthood, the number of patients using intrauterine devices has increased 91% since 2009. “It’s so effective and convenient,” Vanessa Cullins, MD, vice president of external medical affairs, says. “We quote less than a 1% failure rate for the IUD, whereas we usually quote a 5-7% failure rate for birth co

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If the new Republican administration’s plan to severely curtail reproductive rights scares you, Anu Valia’s poignant Shatterbox Anthology film “Lucia, Before and After” is the inspiration you need to get ready to fight back. A portrait of the struggles American women still face to exercise their right to choose, “Lucia, Before

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I began taking anti-anxiety medication my sophomore year of college. I was lucky enough to have found a type that worked for me immediately, and as far as I knew, I wasn’t experiencing any side effects. Then, I went through a breakup.

A few months after, I was ready to move on. Or so I thought. While theoretically I was interested in hooking up with new people, when I was presented with the opportunity, my body wanted nothing to do with it. I did some research and found out that my medication might have been responsible for this lo

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I’ve never had kids, but I have been one, and that alone has given me reason to believe it’s quite a lot of work. From what I’ve been told, I would start screaming the moment I woke up, spend the day chasing our cats and getting scratched, and refuse to eat anything other than chicken nuggets and ketchup. Honestly, not too much has changed, which is why I know I’m nowhere near ready to have children of my own.

Turns out, I’m not alone. Women are waiting until much later than ever to start having

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If you’re a master of foreplay, congratulations (to both you and your partner). But far too many of us fall into the other camp — we see foreplay as simply a thing to get through on our way to sex. And, according to a new episode of the video series sexplanations, one clear data point researchers have found across all genders is that pretty much all of us want to have more foreplay.

As the video explains, the average foreplay time is 13 min

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There are plenty of ways to shake up your sex life, whether it’s by trying out a new sex toy or consulting the Kama Sutra. But what if you’re in an especially playful mood? That’s where sex games come in. You’re probably familiar with some of them — sexy truth or dare, dirty dice — but have you ever given a sensory-play card game or a role-playing app a whirl?

Whether you’re looking to try something new with a long-term S.O. or getting adventurous with a ne

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Planned Parenthood has become a pillar of women’s health and reproductive rights and, especially since the recent election, its existence has never been more crucial. Its history, however, is less widely known. While it currently feels like women’s rights are up against

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Curious About Anal Beads? Here’s What You Need To Know — & Some Great Ones To Try

by Natasha on January 17, 2017

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When it comes to the wild world of anal play, anal beads are a great place to start. Many options are specifically designed for beginners, and they have the benefit of being relatively simple, but they deliver powerful results.

“You may ask how beads really work,” says Tino Dietrich, CEO and co-founder of Ella Paradis. “This very much depends on what you like.”

Chelsea McCain of Adult Empire explained that, while anal beads act as a massage when they’re in the body, their biggest benefit is the feeling of re

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In the best-case scenario, you go on a first date with someone, and you hit it off. The chemistry is off the charts, and you’re never at a loss for what to talk about.

Sometimes (okay, most of the time), though, first dates aren’t smooth sailing. That doesn’t always mean you’re incompatible — just that we are humans, and dating can be awkward. It can be hard to figure out what to ask without making it seem like you’re interrogating your date. After all, the key to a good date is relaxed conversation, and the last thing you want

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Pornhub’s 2016 Year In Review revealed the most popular genres and search terms behind the world’s sexual desires. And since more than 4.5 billion hours of porn were watched in 2016, that means that over 4.5 billion hours of hard work were put in by the professionals who make it. Porn performers are responsible for bringing many people’s deepest desires to life, thanks to the varied, unique spaces they take in the industry.

We took a look

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From Untouchable by Elizabeth SaFleur

Every candle in Carson’s room was lit, over two dozen pillars similar to the ones he’d used in a demonstration he’d given at Club Accendos months ago. The young girls giggled and screamed as their partners dripped hot wax on their bellies and breasts. No one got burned or hurt. The sensation play simply brought out their innate melodrama. He’d been bored to tears. Right now, nothing interested him more.

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It probably doesn’t come as a surprise that sexting can be great for your relationship. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a while or you’re just starting something new, sending flirty, dirty messages is a great way to spice things up and keep them fresh — especially if you and your partner are long-distance.

If you’re not sure how to start (or continue) a sexting session, though, it can be difficult to overcome the initial awkwardness. That’s wh

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Last month, a virtual reality dating game quietly made its way into the app store. On the surface, the program, called Dating Lessons, sounds innocent. “The first dating training in virtual reality,” the website boasts. “Learn how to boost your confidence and overcome shyness when meeting a woman.”

With apps like Tinder and the rise of virtual reality porn, it does seem now more than ever that datin

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On Tuesday evening, BuzzFeed published an extensive dossier compiled by a British intelligence official that goes into detail about president-elect Trump’s possible ties to Russia, including compromising information that may have served as blackmail in their relationship. The unverified document alleges that Trump hired the presidential suite of the Ritz Carlton Hotel and employed

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Vanessa Cuccia used to be a web order fulfillment clerk for a well-known sex toy shop, but she wasn’t satisfied with what was on the market. While these products provided physical pleasure, they didn’t address all the emotions people have around sexuality, like shame, trauma, and love.

Then, while studying with a spiritual teacher, Cuccia developed an interest in crystals. Their spiritual properties seemed to be what sex toys were lacking.

In 2011, Cuccia created Chakrubs — sex toys made of different stones for differen

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We already know that HIV can be transmitted through sexual activity or shared needles, but the bodily factors that put us at risk can be more muddled. According to a study published in the journal Immunity, vaginal bacteria could play a role in whether or not a woman gets HIV.

For the study, researchers worked with 900 healthy women in South Africa aged 18-23 and found that those with pro-inflammatory species