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Articles  9 Women On What Getting An IUD Is Really Like

9 Women On What Getting An IUD Is Really Like

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Much like everyone’s “first time” story, women’s IUD experiences are often completely unique. Some insertions feel like just another annual exam. For other women, it’s the worst pain they’ve ever felt.

Granted, no one birth control is right for everyone, but the T-shaped IUD has certainly been gaining traction. According to Planned Parenthood, the number of patients using intrauterine devices has increased 91% since 2009. “It’s so effective and convenient,” Vanessa Cullins, MD, vice president of external medical affairs, says. “We quote less than a 1% failure rate for the IUD, whereas we usually quote a 5-7% failure rate for birth co

Articles  This Film Captures The Struggle For Abortion Access In Rural America

This Film Captures The Struggle For Abortion Access In Rural America

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"Lucia, Before and After" Trailer (60 Seconds)

If the new Republican administration’s plan to severely curtail reproductive rights scares you, Anu Valia’s poignant Shatterbox Anthology film “Lucia, Before and After” is the inspiration you need to get ready to fight back. A portrait of the struggles American women still face to exercise their right to choose, “Lucia, Before

Articles  Do You Have To Choose Between Mental Health And Your Sex Drive?

Do You Have To Choose Between Mental Health And Your Sex Drive?

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I began taking anti-anxiety medication my sophomore year of college. I was lucky enough to have found a type that worked for me immediately, and as far as I knew, I wasn’t experiencing any side effects. Then, I went through a breakup.

A few months after, I was ready to move on. Or so I thought. While theoretically I was interested in hooking up with new people, when I was presented with the opportunity, my body wanted nothing to do with it. I did some research and found out that my medication might have been responsible for this lo

Articles  15 Things On People’s Pre-Parent Bucket Lists

15 Things On People’s Pre-Parent Bucket Lists

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I’ve never had kids, but I have been one, and that alone has given me reason to believe it’s quite a lot of work. From what I’ve been told, I would start screaming the moment I woke up, spend the day chasing our cats and getting scratched, and refuse to eat anything other than chicken nuggets and ketchup. Honestly, not too much has changed, which is why I know I’m nowhere near ready to have children of my own.

Turns out, I’m not alone. Women are waiting until much later than ever to start having

Articles  Here's What Science Has To Say About The Perfect Foreplay

Here’s What Science Has To Say About The Perfect Foreplay

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Photographed by Natalia Mantini.

If you’re a master of foreplay, congratulations (to both you and your partner). But far too many of us fall into the other camp — we see foreplay as simply a thing to get through on our way to sex. And, according to a new episode of the video series sexplanations, one clear data point researchers have found across all genders is that pretty much all of us want to have more foreplay.

As the video explains, the average foreplay time is 13 min

Articles  29 Steamy Sex Games For Very Playful Nights

29 Steamy Sex Games For Very Playful Nights

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There are plenty of ways to shake up your sex life, whether it’s by trying out a new sex toy or consulting the Kama Sutra. But what if you’re in an especially playful mood? That’s where sex games come in. You’re probably familiar with some of them — sexy truth or dare, dirty dice — but have you ever given a sensory-play card game or a role-playing app a whirl?

Whether you’re looking to try something new with a long-term S.O. or getting adventurous with a ne

Articles  Lena Dunham, Mindy Kaling, & More Explain The History Of Planned Parenthood In This Important Video

Lena Dunham, Mindy Kaling, & More Explain The History Of Planned Parenthood In This Important Video

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Planned Parenthood has become a pillar of women’s health and reproductive rights and, especially since the recent election, its existence has never been more crucial. Its history, however, is less widely known. While it currently feels like women’s rights are up against Articles  Curious About Anal Beads? Here’s What You Need To Know — & Some Great Ones To Try

Curious About Anal Beads? Here’s What You Need To Know — & Some Great Ones To Try

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When it comes to the wild world of anal play, anal beads are a great place to start. Many options are specifically designed for beginners, and they have the benefit of being relatively simple, but they deliver powerful results.

“You may ask how beads really work,” says Tino Dietrich, CEO and co-founder of Ella Paradis. “This very much depends on what you like.”

Chelsea McCain of Adult Empire explained that, while anal beads act as a massage when they’re in the body, their biggest benefit is the feeling of re

Articles  26 Perfect Conversation Starters For Your Next First Date

26 Perfect Conversation Starters For Your Next First Date

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Illustrated by: Abbie Winters

In the best-case scenario, you go on a first date with someone, and you hit it off. The chemistry is off the charts, and you’re never at a loss for what to talk about.

Sometimes (okay, most of the time), though, first dates aren’t smooth sailing. That doesn’t always mean you’re incompatible — just that we are humans, and dating can be awkward. It can be hard to figure out what to ask without making it seem like you’re interrogating your date. After all, the key to a good date is relaxed conversation, and the last thing you want

Articles  The 20 Most Popular Porn Performers of 2016

The 20 Most Popular Porn Performers of 2016

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Pornhub’s 2016 Year In Review revealed the most popular genres and search terms behind the world’s sexual desires. And since more than 4.5 billion hours of porn were watched in 2016, that means that over 4.5 billion hours of hard work were put in by the professionals who make it. Porn performers are responsible for bringing many people’s deepest desires to life, thanks to the varied, unique spaces they take in the industry.

We took a look

Articles  Untouchable

Untouchable

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From Untouchable by Elizabeth SaFleur

Every candle in Carson’s room was lit, over two dozen pillars similar to the ones he’d used in a demonstration he’d given at Club Accendos months ago. The young girls giggled and screamed as their partners dripped hot wax on their bellies and breasts. No one got burned or hurt. The sensation play simply brought out their innate melodrama. He’d been bored to tears. Right now, nothing interested him more.

Articles  23 Sexts To Send To Your Partner Now

23 Sexts To Send To Your Partner Now

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It probably doesn’t come as a surprise that sexting can be great for your relationship. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for a while or you’re just starting something new, sending flirty, dirty messages is a great way to spice things up and keep them fresh — especially if you and your partner are long-distance.

If you’re not sure how to start (or continue) a sexting session, though, it can be difficult to overcome the initial awkwardness. That’s wh

Articles  This Gross Virtual Reality Dating Game Refers To Women As "Targets"

This Gross Virtual Reality Dating Game Refers To Women As “Targets”

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Last month, a virtual reality dating game quietly made its way into the app store. On the surface, the program, called Dating Lessons, sounds innocent. “The first dating training in virtual reality,” the website boasts. “Learn how to boost your confidence and overcome shyness when meeting a woman.”

With apps like Tinder and the rise of virtual reality porn, it does seem now more than ever that datin

Articles  What Is A Golden Shower?

What Is A Golden Shower?

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On Tuesday evening, BuzzFeed published an extensive dossier compiled by a British intelligence official that goes into detail about president-elect Trump’s possible ties to Russia, including compromising information that may have served as blackmail in their relationship. The unverified document alleges that Trump hired the presidential suite of the Ritz Carlton Hotel and employed

Articles  These Crystal Sex Toys Could Make Your Next Masturbation Sesh A Spiritual Experience

These Crystal Sex Toys Could Make Your Next Masturbation Sesh A Spiritual Experience

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Vanessa Cuccia used to be a web order fulfillment clerk for a well-known sex toy shop, but she wasn’t satisfied with what was on the market. While these products provided physical pleasure, they didn’t address all the emotions people have around sexuality, like shame, trauma, and love.

Then, while studying with a spiritual teacher, Cuccia developed an interest in crystals. Their spiritual properties seemed to be what sex toys were lacking.

In 2011, Cuccia created Chakrubs — sex toys made of different stones for differen

Articles  This Is What Might Influence Your Risk For HIV

This Is What Might Influence Your Risk For HIV

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We already know that HIV can be transmitted through sexual activity or shared needles, but the bodily factors that put us at risk can be more muddled. According to a study published in the journal Immunity, vaginal bacteria could play a role in whether or not a woman gets HIV.

For the study, researchers worked with 900 healthy women in South Africa aged 18-23 and found that those with pro-inflammatory species

Articles  Here Are The Best Sex Shops In NYC

Here Are The Best Sex Shops In NYC

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Along with its iconic skyscrapers and impressive selection of pizza locations, NYC is home to a true diversity of sex shops. Are you surprised? The city that never sleeps needs something to do all night. With so much choice, you might never run out of options and surprises for bringing something extra to the bedroom (or wherever).

The city’s sex shops cater to a variety of needs. There’s a store for the bargain hunter, the indie enthusiast, the timid first-timer, and bonafide sex toy veterans. Spend a day browsing a giant superstore of sex items, or find the store that caters to your