You’ve heard of sugar dating, and you’re curious. Do you really know what it takes to be successful? It’s time to learn the rules to being a sugar baby.

We’ve all had those moments when we thought, “screw it,” and went online to search about being a sugar baby. Of course, you stopped yourself, thinking that it’s too hard. Plus, you don’t want to sleep with just anyone to get the financial benefits.

Well, that’s the thing about being a sugar baby, you make the rules. All you need to do is find a sugar daddy that agrees to your rules and to meet your needs.

But first, let me give you a quick reminder of what sugar dating is. It’s when someone, typically older than you, supports you financially in exchange for either emotional or physical support. [Read: How to find yourself the perfect sugar daddy]

Successfully being a sugar baby

So, now that we have that covered, it’s time to get started. You’ve already made the decision that you want to become a sugar baby, but it just doesn’t end there. You want to be a successful sugar baby, one that gets what she wants.

You’re going to have to know the golden rules. Yes, there are rules. Do you have to follow them? No, but if you want this to go smoothly, then knowing the basics will help you immensely. Being a sugar baby is not as complicated as you think.

#1 Know what you want. Before you become a sugar baby, you need to be 100% honest with yourself, and ask yourself why you’re doing this and what you want out of it. If you don’t know the answer to either of the questions, don’t do it. You have to be clear with yourself because it will help you set your boundaries as well. [Read: How to start living life on your terms]

#2 Show your best assets. If you’re going to become a sugar baby, you’re here for the financial benefits, let’s not kid ourselves. Now, showing your assets doesn’t necessarily mean your boobs or butt, I’m talking about internal assets as well.

If you’re funny, show that off. Smart, show it off as well. These are all assets which showcase the best parts of you. They can be physical as well. The point is, you’ll attract sugar daddies attracted to those features. [Read: How to be sexy and own your own unique attractiveness]

#3 Be available. If you want to connect with sugar daddies, you need to be available. If you’re too busy, unless they really like you, it’s already too much of a hassle. Remember, they want a relationship that’s easy and smooth and works around their schedule, not the other way around.

#4 Set strict boundaries. You both need to know exactly what you are looking for out of this relationship. Once you have decided to date each other, this is when you settle the terms of the relationship. Here are some things you should have answered:

– How long you do feel the relationship will last?

– Will you only hang out alone or go out in public as well?

– Where will you meet?

– What time of the day and for how many hours?

– How many times a week or month will you see each other?

– When will you receive your payment, gifts, etc?

– How will you be financially supported?

#5 Don’t wait for them to come to you. This isn’t the same as other typical online dating sites. These sugar daddies aren’t trying to chase women playing hard to get. They’re financially investing into the relationship for a reason. Now, that means you shouldn’t just open your profile and let it sit online, waiting for sugar daddies to write you.

You need to be active. Write them first, go through profiles, be the one to make the first move. It may take a while until you meet someone that you connect with. [Read: A girl’s guide to snag a rich boyfriend or a sugar daddy]

#6 Don’t assume sugar daddies are rich. They are your sugar daddy but don’t assume they have boatloads of money. Many sugar daddies are middle-class men who are single and have the income to spend it on another person.

This doesn’t mean they’re rich. Now, this doesn’t mean you should lower your payment or gifts. However, you should aim for a sugar daddy that can fulfill your expectations with regards to payment.

#7 Handle your expectations. It’s normal to develop feelings for someone you’re dating, regardless if they’re your sugar daddy or not. But, for your own heart and to prevent getting hurt, remember that these relationships are usually short-lived. Keep your emotions in check and ask yourself how you’re feeling about the relationship and if your needs are being met. [Read: How to manage your expectations in a relationship]

#8 Don’t get too comfortable. Though this is a relationship, it’s not the kind where you can wear your stained sweatpants and hang out after not showering for a couple days. Remember, your sugar daddy is financially supporting you to get something in return. Your sugar daddy is looking for you to look and feel your best when you’re around them.

#9 Be discreet. No one wants their personal business aired out to dry. You need to talk to your sugar daddy and see how he feels with you posting photos online. If he wouldn’t like any photos taken of you two, respect that. Some sugar daddies are open while others are not, it simply depends on them.

#10 Stick to the agreement. You made an agreement together. In this case, you need to stick to it. If you agreed to meet up every Friday night, stick to that agreement. If you flake out or cancel too much, it’s not going to work for them. Be accommodating. However, when it comes to payment, it should not be stalled. If it is, that’s a red flag.

#11 Treat it like a relationship. Because at the end of the day, it is a relationship. Enjoy the time you’re spending with your sugar daddy because this is your own time that you’re using. This is why it’s so important that you have a connection with your sugar daddy. If not, you’ll hate every moment of it and they will too. [Read: How to find a rich sugar daddy and hook the rich guy of your dreams]

#12 Don’t depend on your sugar daddy completely. Sugar daddies come and go. They may only be looking for something short-term, or you know how life can be, things come up and they can no longer see you. The point is, don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

You should never fully depend on your sugar daddy to support you. If you’re desperate for money, this shouldn’t be your sole way of supporting yourself. [Read: How to not be overly clingy in a relationship]

#13 Be honest. These sugar daddies or mommies have chosen this form of relationship for a reason. They’re busy, they don’t have the time to emotionally invest in a relationship, and they’re choosing to be with someone who understands their limits and can work around them.

As they need to be completely honest with you and what they want, you’re going to need to be completely honest with them. Tell them how they can fulfill your needs in an honest manner.

[Read: Secrets to living the luxe life of a sugar baby]

Being a sugar baby can be a fun experience if you know how to do it right. Follow these golden rules, and you’ll be wondering why you didn’t become a sugar baby earlier!