We all want to get laid… there’s no point denying it. And we all know about Tinder, but there’s a right way to get a Tinder hookup.

Tinder is a beautiful app. I mean, how can you hate an app that connects you to people within your vicinity? Exactly. I mean, it’s just so easy. Well, let me iron that out, at first it’s easy, however, if you’re trying to get yourself a Tinder hookup, that could be slightly more challenging. Why? Because now you actually have to communicate with that person and if you’re not somewhat skilled, your pretty face can’t even help you.

Listen, I want to help you achieve your Tinder goals. The world is hard enough, let’s not make getting laid a huge venture. But before you even think about the getting laid part, your job is to land yourself a Tinder date. So, here are some tips to help get you on your feet in the dating world.

11 Ways to get a Tinder hookup

Swiping is just the first step. There are a lot more things that need to happen if you are looking for a Tinder hookup. So let’s take a look at them.

#1 Don’t take Tinder seriously. It’s Tinder, man. Just swipe through the photos, chat with people you like, and see how it goes. People who are obsessed with Tinder never have that great of an experience. If someone unmatches you, whatever. [Read: 21 Tinder conversation starters that’ll intrigue anyone instantly]

#2 Don’t be so focused on getting laid. I know you’re on Tinder to get laid, but if you’re hunting like a madman, it’s going to be a stressful experience for you. Just relax – swipe through the photos and if you match, great. Also, if you match with a girl and right away talk about sex, you may get unmatched. We all want sex, it’s normal. However, women don’t want to be treated just as some sex toy.

#3 It’s all about the photos. It’s Tinder. So, the first thing women see are your photos. Make sure that have a clear picture of your face and body, as well as a picture of something you like to do. Maybe it’s a picture of you jet skiing or walking your dog. The point is, make yourself clear.

#4 Be clear about what you’re looking for. In your profile, make sure you’re clear about what you’re looking for. If you’re not clear, you’ll be wasting your time and their time. That being said, you don’t have to say “only looking to get laid” but you can say, “looking for fun.” That’s pretty clear that you’re not interested in anything serious. [Read: Good Tinder bios that get you laid – 12 tweaks for a perfect bio]

#5 Actually write them. I know it’s the 21^st century and women can be the ones to make the first move, but it’s still evident that many men have to make the first move. So, to not waste your time waiting for a woman to write you, just write her – and write her quickly. So, after you see that you two have matched, write her, don’t waste your time.

#6 Keep the conversation engaging. I know dating shouldn’t be about games, but it is. I’m sorry to tell you, but it’s all a game. You’re trying to impress the person you’re talking about and show them that you’re attractive. Because it’s Tinder, you’re going to need to impress her with your language, so keep the conversation interesting. [Read: How to start a Tinder conversation and snag a date every time]

#7 Know when to pull out. If she’s not writing you back or if she’s giving you one-worded answers, that’s your time to stop the conversation and unmatch her. She’s wasting your time, and honestly, you want someone you can communicate with, even if you’re only looking for a Tinder hookup.

#8 Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be some funny guy if you’re not. Some women appreciate a serious man, so you’ll find someone who does. If you’re not acting like yourself, you’ll end up going on a date with someone you actually don’t connect with. Now, that’s okay, but if you two end up having sex, it’s not going to be good.

#9 Get the conversation away from Tinder. Okay, so you both matched, you messaged her and the conversation is going well. You need to move the conversation from Tinder and get either her number or Facebook. If a guy’s chatting to me on Tinder for too long without making a move, I become disinterested. So, take my advice and get her number as soon as possible. [Read: How to get laid on Tinder – All the must-follow rules for a quick hookup]

#10 Meet her ASAP. Don’t wait a couple days or a week to see her. Unless you guys are really chatting up a storm, the longer you wait to see her, the less likely it is that you will actually see her. You know life happens, maybe she’s busy working or she met someone else in the meantime.

The point is, if you want her, you have to go for it. That being said, don’t be overly pushy and forceful when it comes to arranging a date – you may end up scaring her.

#11 Don’t jump into sex. So, you’re meeting her for a date. Sure, maybe you two only want something casual, but nobody wants to be treated like a piece of meat. Spend some time talking to her, laughing, relaxing the situation, and then you can make the next step. I know you want a Tinder hookup with her, but it’s going to happen, so you might as well enjoy the experience.

If you want a Tinder hookup, then don’t take it so seriously. If you play it cool, you’ll eventually end up matching with someone. It’ll take some time and some failed attempts, but that’s all a part of the learning game.